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Patrick Walberg

Posts: 45196

San Juan Bautista, California, US

J Henry wrote:
Surviving anxiety and depression myself, it's so good to see a thread like this!

Good for you!  It means that not only are you a survivor, but an inspiration for others by posting here.

Oct 14 08 11:27 pm Link

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Star Child

Posts: 39289

Nashville, Tennessee, US

this is no surprise

Oct 15 08 07:49 pm Link

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Natasha240

Posts: 6438

Cassina de' Pecchi, Lombardy, Italy

All I can add is I have also been dealing with this for many many years. I ended up in the ICU last year. It is a very dark and lonely place, if anyone needs to talk to someone who can relate, I'm here.

Oct 15 08 08:37 pm Link

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Star Child

Posts: 39289

Nashville, Tennessee, US

Natasha240 wrote:
All I can add is I have also been dealing with this for many many years. I ended up in the ICU last year. It is a very dark and lonely place, if anyone needs to talk to someone who can relate, I'm here.

yeah. that place kind of sucks.

Oct 15 08 08:47 pm Link

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Natasha240

Posts: 6438

Cassina de' Pecchi, Lombardy, Italy

Indeed it does. It was a close call. But I've been doin ok so far, it comes and goes, ya know?

Oct 15 08 08:55 pm Link

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Star Child

Posts: 39289

Nashville, Tennessee, US

Natasha240 wrote:
Indeed it does. It was a close call. But I've been doin ok so far, it comes and goes, ya know?

yes I do.
What kind of game plan are you on now to win your battle?

Oct 15 08 08:56 pm Link

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September Sui

Posts: 840

Riverside, California, US

Depression runs in my family - I have my super-low periods too. I've definitely been to that point. Helping others with similar problems is near and dear to me.

Recently, I took a course in suicide intervention. Best money I ever spent.

To all considering suicide, you are not alone. Feel free to PM me if you ever need someone to talk to - sometimes the act of talking helps, and my ear is always open.

Oct 15 08 09:11 pm Link

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September Sui

Posts: 840

Riverside, California, US

Stop Abuse For Everyone (SAFE); covering even those normally not mentioned when we think of "domestic violence" (e.g. men, lesbian, gays, etc.):
http://www.safe4all.org/

Their resource list, specifically:
http://www.safe4all.org/resource-list/


Not specifically domestic violence, but related nonetheless...

National Sexual Violence Resource Center:
http://www.nsvrc.org/

NYC Alliance Against Sexual Assault:
http://www.nycagainstrape.org/

Oct 15 08 09:19 pm Link

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J Henry

Posts: 8772

Silver Spring, Maryland, US

Patrick Walberg wrote:

Good for you!  It means that not only are you a survivor, but an inspiration for others by posting here.

Inspiration?  Probably not.  It's tough, and I'm not sure it's ever going to be easy.  But yeah, it's not unbeatable.  It's important to remember that.

Oct 15 08 10:10 pm Link

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Natasha240

Posts: 6438

Cassina de' Pecchi, Lombardy, Italy

Kayelless wrote:
yes I do.
What kind of game plan are you on now to win your battle?

Sheeesh. My newest "cocktail" was effexor, seroquel, lamictal and gamapentin. I was also on Lithium (I got lithium poisoning) and buspar. Also therapy, lots and lots of it. But it occured to me that all of the side effects of all the drugs were making me feel worse. I am 1 month off of all of my meds, and I feel better. I have been eating right, making sure I exercise, and doing this technique one of my therapists taught me (based on accupressure/meditation)and I feel pretty good.

For me, it's always a cycle. When I start a downward spiral again, I'll need the meds to stabilize me. But being on them long term seems to hurt more than help, at least for me. I have been diagnosed witha  long laundry list of emotional/psychological problems since I've been 13 or so. I guess that I am still here must mean something.

Keep on the fight, ya'll

Edit:  If anyone wants any info on the technique I mentioned, PM me. Anyone can do it. My therapist suggested it to me because at one point I was so depressed I couldnt shower, eat, barely get out of bed. You can do it while you are laying there. It also works for physical symptoms as well.

Oct 15 08 10:20 pm Link

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MYS Britt

Posts: 10720

San Diego, California, US

This might be  a good place to note the accupressure
and affirmation or relaxation that you do?

Seeing it, might help someone

Oct 16 08 05:01 am Link

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Natasha240

Posts: 6438

Cassina de' Pecchi, Lombardy, Italy

You are right, it helps me!

http://www.alternativedepressiontherapy … ssion.html

give it a try, it can't hurt!

Oct 16 08 10:26 am Link

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Star Child

Posts: 39289

Nashville, Tennessee, US

Shiggily Weebonk McGee wrote:
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Suicide
http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/
http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
http://www.suicide.org/
This is the West Australian branch,
http://www.thesamaritans.org.au/
US Branch
http://www.thesamaritans.org

hotlines
US- http://suicidehotlines.com/ or http://suicidehotlines.net/
World- http://suicidehotlines.com/international.html

survivor support groups, suicide support groups and family support groups
http://www.survivorsofsuicide.com/
http://www.afsp.org/index.cfm?fuseactio … 3261B4378D
http://www.suicidology.org/
http://www.parentsofsuicide.com/

Domestic Violence
National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network:
rainn.org; 1.800.656.HOPE

smile

Oct 16 08 07:10 pm Link

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dpretty

Posts: 8108

Ashland, Alabama, US

https://secure.modelmayhem.com/po.php?thread_id=359907

Music is good. Remember to love yourself...love, love, love...write it all over your body if you have to smile Like in "What the bleep do we know?"

Oct 16 08 07:46 pm Link

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Natasha240

Posts: 6438

Cassina de' Pecchi, Lombardy, Italy

Bumping a good thread off page 2

Oct 17 08 11:47 pm Link

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AimeeElizabeth

Posts: 316

Erie, Colorado, US

This thread is such a good idea....

Just giving it a needed bump.

Oct 23 08 02:23 pm Link

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NaturalLightPhoto

Posts: 603

Salt Lake City, Utah, US

A good book for understanding suicide:

Night Falls Fast: http://www.nytimes.com/books/first/j/jamison-night.html

Oct 24 08 01:56 am Link

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Photons 2 Pixels Images

Posts: 17011

Berwick, Pennsylvania, US

I'm feeling really down today. More so than normal. I can't stop crying. It hurts.

I'm not looking for pity or anything like that. Maybe some reassurance. Or peace.

Most of all, I just wanted to move this thread back up in case anyone else was feeling down. Just to let others know they aren't alone.

Thank you.

Oct 27 08 11:15 am Link

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J Henry

Posts: 8772

Silver Spring, Maryland, US

Photons 2 Pixels Images wrote:
I'm feeling really down today. More so than normal. I can't stop crying. It hurts.

I'm not looking for pity or anything like that. Maybe some reassurance. Or peace.

Most of all, I just wanted to move this thread back up in case anyone else was feeling down. Just to let others know they aren't alone.

Thank you.

This trick usually helps me:  break up your routine.  Get away from the computer, get away from where you usually are this time of day.  Be sure that by the end of the day you do at least one thing that is entirely and exclusively just for you.  100% pure indulgence.  Something where you get to treat yourself like you want to be treated.  It's not a gimmick, it's not a short term fix.  It's taking time out to remember that you can still be a priority to yourself. 

Or if you just need to talk, PM me.  I'm here 3 more hours, and then most of the evening. 

-J

Oct 27 08 01:28 pm Link

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Photons 2 Pixels Images

Posts: 17011

Berwick, Pennsylvania, US

J Henry wrote:

This trick usually helps me:  break up your routine.  Get away from the computer, get away from where you usually are this time of day.  Be sure that by the end of the day you do at least one thing that is entirely and exclusively just for you.  100% pure indulgence.  Something where you get to treat yourself like you want to be treated.  It's not a gimmick, it's not a short term fix.  It's taking time out to remember that you can still be a priority to yourself. 

Or if you just need to talk, PM me.  I'm here 3 more hours, and then most of the evening. 

-J

Thank you. The only thing that gives me any pleasure anymore is photography. Anything else costs too much.

I'll try. Thanks.

Oct 27 08 02:24 pm Link

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J Henry

Posts: 8772

Silver Spring, Maryland, US

Photons 2 Pixels Images wrote:
Thank you. The only thing that gives me any pleasure anymore is photography. Anything else costs too much.

I'll try. Thanks.

I'm chained to a desk for most of the day, and taking my camera to work would be kinda illegal.  I keep a folder online of pics that cheer me up, some of it's my stuff sometimes it's whatever inspires me. Helps scratch the itch when I can't do anything else.  Not sure if that'd work for everyone, but it's a great escape that only requires an internet connection.

Oct 27 08 02:33 pm Link

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Candy Poses

Posts: 3380

Seattle, Washington, US

bump.

Oct 28 08 04:45 am Link

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Natasha240

Posts: 6438

Cassina de' Pecchi, Lombardy, Italy

Photons, PM Sent!

Oct 28 08 07:25 am Link

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Natasha240

Posts: 6438

Cassina de' Pecchi, Lombardy, Italy

I too have been really down lately, I can barely leave my house. Just remember you are not alone, that is why this thread is here. Let's try to keep it on the first page, ok?

Keep fighting all

Oct 28 08 07:27 am Link

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Photons 2 Pixels Images

Posts: 17011

Berwick, Pennsylvania, US

Natasha240 wrote:
I too have been really down lately, I can barely leave my house. Just remember you are not alone, that is why this thread is here. Let's try to keep it on the first page, ok?

Keep fighting all

Thank you Natasha. And yes, you are not alone. Definitely, let's keep this thread on the first page and let people know they have a place to come if they're feeling down.

Oct 28 08 08:08 pm Link

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eliza montgomery

Posts: 454

Denver, Colorado, US

There is an awesome organization called"To Write Love on her Arms" Merchandise for it is sold at Hot Topic and a portion of the proceeds go to building places where teens can go for free into a safe place and get help while they are fighting depression and thoughts of suiced or are even just in abusive relationships. It was started by a couple bands who knew teens that were lost to suicide and now bands like Fall Out Boy and Evanescence can be seen in concert or magazines wearing the charity shirts. Its very awesome and I suggest looking it up or buying a shirt to support it.

Oct 28 08 08:26 pm Link

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Photons 2 Pixels Images

Posts: 17011

Berwick, Pennsylvania, US

I hope everyone is doing well today. If not, you have people here who will listen if you need to talk something out. The OP has listed hotlines if you feel you can't handle things on your own anymore.

Keep your chins up and keep moving forward. You have a whole community here behind you.

Peace to all.

Oct 30 08 08:47 pm Link

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Caity B

Posts: 2977

Bangor, Maine, US

Thank you.

Oct 30 08 08:50 pm Link

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nothing

Posts: 9229

Okinawa, Okinawa, Japan

OP is edited with new links.

Oct 30 08 09:40 pm Link

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Nolan Dean Photography

Posts: 91

San Diego, California, US

been down lately, thought about it again tonight. . . didn't have the strenght to follow through. . .

Oct 31 08 04:12 am Link

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Photons 2 Pixels Images

Posts: 17011

Berwick, Pennsylvania, US

Nolan Dean Photography wrote:
been down lately, thought about it again tonight. . . didn't have the strenght to follow through. . .

Things seem tough now. They will improve. Problems can be solved. Don't try to go it alone. If you need help, call someone. Anyone. Don't give up.

This is the time of year in the Northern Hemisphere where depression sets in harder because of less daylight. Try to spend time outside in the sun. Keep bright lights on inside if possible after the sun goes down.

Oct 31 08 07:39 am Link

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LeDeux Art

Posts: 50123

San Ramon, California, US

gosh you are beauitiful, what a great thread, depression is indeed a mother fucker

Oct 31 08 07:53 am Link

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Star Child

Posts: 39289

Nashville, Tennessee, US

I'm gonna admit I got a little disgusted because after about 3 days the initial novelty of this thread seemed to wane and not many cared to keep it alive.  Good to see it back up here.
smile

Oct 31 08 08:40 am Link

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J Henry

Posts: 8772

Silver Spring, Maryland, US

Kayelless wrote:
I'm gonna admit I got a little disgusted because after about 3 days the initial novelty of this thread seemed to wane and not many cared to keep it alive.  Good to see it back up here.
smile

This thread is part of my morning routine, I always check it.  I don't always have something to say, but I still drop in to listen.  Heh, hard to convey that on a message board, I guess.

Oct 31 08 11:16 am Link

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Photons 2 Pixels Images

Posts: 17011

Berwick, Pennsylvania, US

J Henry wrote:

This thread is part of my morning routine, I always check it.  I don't always have something to say, but I still drop in to listen.  Heh, hard to convey that on a message board, I guess.

I try to come up with something relevant. Not always easy. If all else fails "bump" will work fine I guess.

Oct 31 08 02:14 pm Link

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Karl Blessing

Posts: 30911

Caledonia, Michigan, US

Topless New York wrote:
Sorry, not to rain on a pretty good idea, but shouldn't this really be in Off-Topic?

Would be kind of judgmental to stick this in only say... the model thread.

Oct 31 08 02:23 pm Link

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Patrick Walberg

Posts: 45196

San Juan Bautista, California, US

I had started a thread like this last year.  This is the season when depression kicks in hard ... Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays are hard on many!

Oct 31 08 02:25 pm Link

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J Henry

Posts: 8772

Silver Spring, Maryland, US

Patrick Walberg wrote:
I had started a thread like this last year.  This is the season when depression kicks in hard ... Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays are hard on many!

Nooooooo kidding.  My grandmother died Christmas Eve about 50 years ago.  Family has been a complete mess ever since.  Every holiday is a rollercoaster of anger and depression and insecurities.  It's hard to love everyone else when nobody in the room likes themselves.

Oct 31 08 02:36 pm Link

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Natasha240

Posts: 6438

Cassina de' Pecchi, Lombardy, Italy

Just bumping.....I'm having a really bad time lately, I read this thread almost every day

Nov 01 08 01:03 am Link

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J Moon

Posts: 1447

Lake Forest, California, US

9-1-1

You can't sit around and wonder whether you are gonna call this number or that number or call any help hotline at all. You need to take action NOW and that action should be those three digits. The longer you wait the less likely it is that you'll get yourself help.

Nov 01 08 02:20 am Link