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D E L I C I A E

Posts: 394

Gallatin, Tennessee, US

BIG EDIT: After much careful thought, and time with myself, I have decided to hold off on nude work for a while. This way I do not have to deal with my own conscious when it comes to lying to my parents, nor do I have to deal with the unwanted depression this whole situation has brought on. When I am out of the house (hopefully soon) and free of their judgment, I may try again. Anyone interested in seeing this, please add me. I am sorry to all of the people looking forward to seeing the work I did with Chris Hollo. You should check out his port: MM #30320. He is an amazing photographer and I will be continuing to work with him. Thank you to everyone for your support, advice, and kind words. I am very sorry for changing my mind on the alt. port I'd originally said I was going to put up, but I feel it would be best to keep things toned down until my life settles. thanks again.


Yep.

FINALLY had one of my own experiences with this. (No pictures to show for it yet. ;])

Basically, I had my second nude shoot today. The first one was just a ten minute test and I didn't like any of them too much because I look awkward and uncomfortable. But today, I found it was almost easier to pose with no clothing than it was to pose WITH clothing (haha, should I be worried?). Almost every single one of the images came out close to amazing and I left the shoot super stoked about the whole thing.

I'd already planned to create a separate port not connected to this one and not put my real name on it so that I wouldn't have to worry about google searches, etc. However, being nineteen and still living at home and TRYING to do the right thing, I told my parents.
My mother seemed ok at first. We got off the phone and she didn't sound upset.


Hahaaaaaa. Yeah right.

We go to get dinner, and they pulled me into the car. I heard all manner of things.

1. It starts at this, then you're doing porn.
2. What if they crop your head off and put it on a porn model!?!?!
3. This could affect our jobs, too. You should have thought about your family.
4. You'll never get to be president now (wtf?)
5. What if Church found out?
6. No one will want to marry you. ( ;(! )
7. You're an adulteress. If a married male sees your picture and gets off to it, he's committing adultery and its your fault.
8. You're not right with God now. You need to pray.
9. You're going to end up on a porn site.
10. What if your little cousin picks up Playboy and you're in it? (Because artistic nudes are the same thing as a Playboy submission set, didn't you know?)

I'm sure I'm forgetting some.
Basically, I was in tears. Its pretty shitty when your PARENTS tell you that you're a whore.
That is what being honest gets you, folks.

I'm sure plenty of other models have gone through this same thing. How do you cope with it? Any tips or suggestions?

Edit: I forgot the "You're lucky your boyfriend didn't break up with you. I would."

Mar 10 09 07:25 pm Link

Model

D E L I C I A E

Posts: 394

Gallatin, Tennessee, US

I know people have experienced this before. Come on, girls (or guys.... )

Mar 10 09 07:38 pm Link

Photographer

Yves Duchamp - Femme

Posts: 24436

Virginia Beach, Virginia, US

D E L I C I A E wrote:
5. What if Church found out?

Ok, THAT is scary. I mean, not "the" Church, or "the people at Church".

Just Church. Like, wtf?

Anyway, my advice is to keep doing what you love. Your parents could eventually come around. Or maybe they won't, either way, you grown.

Mar 10 09 07:40 pm Link

Model

D E L I C I A E

Posts: 394

Gallatin, Tennessee, US

Shon D.- Femme wrote:

Ok, THAT is scary. I mean, not "the" Church, or "the people at Church".

Just Church. Like, wtf?

LOL. They asked me what I would do if someone put a picture of my nude modeling into a slide show on accident and it got displayed for everyone to see at service.

My first thought (NOT the first thing I said) was "why do they have it saved on the Church computer anyways?"

Mar 10 09 07:42 pm Link

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Ash3

Posts: 5911

Hamilton, Ontario, Canada

Read this:

https://www.modelmayhem.com/po.php?thread_id=229525

It might make you feel better. smile

Mar 10 09 07:45 pm Link

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Lumigraphics

Posts: 32780

Detroit, Michigan, US

D E L I C I A E wrote:
Yep.

FINALLY had one of my own experiences with this. (No pictures to show for it yet. ;])

Basically, I had my second nude shoot today. The first one was just a ten minute test and I didn't like any of them too much because I look awkward and uncomfortable. But today, I found it was almost easier to pose with no clothing than it was to pose WITH clothing (haha, should I be worried?). Almost every single one of the images came out close to amazing and I left the shoot super stoked about the whole thing.

I'd already planned to create a separate port not connected to this one and not put my real name on it so that I wouldn't have to worry about google searches, etc. However, being nineteen and still living at home and TRYING to do the right thing, I told my parents.
My mother seemed ok at first. We got off the phone and she didn't sound upset.


Hahaaaaaa. Yeah right.

We go to get dinner, and they pulled me into the car. I heard all manner of things.

1. It starts at this, then you're doing porn.
2. What if they crop your head off and put it on a porn model!?!?!
3. This could affect our jobs, too. You should have thought about your family.
4. You'll never get to be president now (wtf?)
5. What if Church found out?
6. No one will want to marry you. ( ;(! )
7. You're an adulteress. If a married male sees your picture and gets off to it, he's committing adultery and its your fault.
8. You're not right with God now. You need to pray.
9. You're going to end up on a porn site.
10. What if your little cousin picks up Playboy and you're in it? (Because artistic nudes are the same thing as a Playboy submission set, didn't you know?)

I'm sure I'm forgetting some.
Basically, I was in tears. Its pretty shitty when your PARENTS tell you that you're a whore.
That is what being honest gets you, folks.

I'm sure plenty of other models have gone through this same thing. How do you cope with it? Any tips or suggestions?

https://www.modelmayhem.com/po.php?thread_id=229525

Go read that thread.

YOU are not letting them down, THEY are letting you down by being judgmental and negative and unsupportive.

There is nothing wrong with you making an adult choice to pose nude and you sure didn't hurt anyone, religious foolishness notwithstanding.

Be proud of your choices. Tell your mom that her reaction is disappointing and that you expected better of her. If she loves you she'll be supportive.

Mar 10 09 07:46 pm Link

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La Kajira

Posts: 279

London, Arkansas, US

D E L I C I A E wrote:

LOL. They asked me what I would do if someone put a picture of my nude modeling into a slide show on accident and it got displayed for everyone to see at service.

My first thought (NOT the first thing I said) was "why do they have it saved on the Church computer anyways?"

I'm pretty sure they'd have a bigger problem with you going all Emily Rose on them...

https://modelmayhm-9.vo.llnwd.net/d1/photos/090228/20/49aa14234005f.jpg

Mar 10 09 07:47 pm Link

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D E L I C I A E

Posts: 394

Gallatin, Tennessee, US

Ash Turner wrote:
Read this:

https://www.modelmayhem.com/po.php?thread_id=229525

It might make you feel better. smile

Lumigraphics wrote:

Both of you: thanks. I've seen that around before, but when I tried that on my father, he told me not to turn it around because he hadn't packed bags for a guilt trip.
I politely told him that I hadn't, either.




La Kajira wrote:
I'm pretty sure they'd have a bigger problem with you going all Emily Rose on them...

Oh, they didn't like that one, either.

Mar 10 09 07:51 pm Link

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immateria

Posts: 15446

Brooklyn, New York, US

Ash Turner wrote:
Read this:

https://www.modelmayhem.com/po.php?thread_id=229525

It might make you feel better. smile

Best thread ever.

I'm incredibly lucky with my parents. They don't really care what I do, see all my pictures, and always support me.

If they didn't, I'd probably be more disappointed in them, then they would be in me.

Mar 10 09 07:53 pm Link

Photographer

c_d_s

Posts: 7771

Lubbock, Texas, US

I'd have to see the nude photos to offer the proper suggestions.

Mar 10 09 07:55 pm Link

Model

D E L I C I A E

Posts: 394

Gallatin, Tennessee, US

c_d_s wrote:
I'd have to see the nude photos to offer the proper suggestions.

I don't have them yet.

On an off note, that was a 'tits or gtfo' post, wasn't it?

Mar 10 09 07:57 pm Link

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La Kajira

Posts: 279

London, Arkansas, US

Sounds like your parents are hardcore Christians.

Mar 10 09 07:58 pm Link

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Sophie Nova

Posts: 2105

Los Angeles, California, US

D E L I C I A E wrote:
Yep.

FINALLY had one of my own experiences with this. (No pictures to show for it yet. ;])

Basically, I had my second nude shoot today. The first one was just a ten minute test and I didn't like any of them too much because I look awkward and uncomfortable. But today, I found it was almost easier to pose with no clothing than it was to pose WITH clothing (haha, should I be worried?). Almost every single one of the images came out close to amazing and I left the shoot super stoked about the whole thing.

I'd already planned to create a separate port not connected to this one and not put my real name on it so that I wouldn't have to worry about google searches, etc. However, being nineteen and still living at home and TRYING to do the right thing, I told my parents.
My mother seemed ok at first. We got off the phone and she didn't sound upset.


Hahaaaaaa. Yeah right.

We go to get dinner, and they pulled me into the car. I heard all manner of things.

1. It starts at this, then you're doing porn.
2. What if they crop your head off and put it on a porn model!?!?!
3. This could affect our jobs, too. You should have thought about your family.
4. You'll never get to be president now (wtf?)
5. What if Church found out?
6. No one will want to marry you. ( ;(! )
7. You're an adulteress. If a married male sees your picture and gets off to it, he's committing adultery and its your fault.
8. You're not right with God now. You need to pray.
9. You're going to end up on a porn site.
10. What if your little cousin picks up Playboy and you're in it? (Because artistic nudes are the same thing as a Playboy submission set, didn't you know?)

I'm sure I'm forgetting some.
Basically, I was in tears. Its pretty shitty when your PARENTS tell you that you're a whore.
That is what being honest gets you, folks.

I'm sure plenty of other models have gone through this same thing. How do you cope with it? Any tips or suggestions?

1. Porn pays really well big_smile
2. See above. You might get paid for the part of your body you donated to the overall image!
3. My mum is a health visitor for children. The other healthvisitors in her office know, and think I rock
4. lol.
5. God created man and woman to be naked without shame. You're enlightened smile
6. More people will want to marry you, guys love nakie women
7. If they are, you better set up a pay site
8. See 5
9. See 1,2 and 7. Ask your parents to come up with some new material
10. WHO IS GIVING YOUR LITTLE COUSIN PLAYBOY?!?!


Seriously though, if you can keep going with your head held high and you know you made the right choices for yourself and for your body, you are the only one you have to answer to.
Cheer up lovely, set the example smile

Mar 10 09 07:59 pm Link

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4C 41 42

Posts: 11093

Nashville, Tennessee, US

D E L I C I A E wrote:
Oh, they didn't like that one, either.

Unfortunately, they're not going to like much of anything you have to say about it.  The only answer they're looking for is "You're right, it was silly of me to even consider it, thank you for setting me straight." 

Anything else isn't going to be acceptable.

I don't have any real good answers for you.  You're living in their house and are probably at least somewhat dependent on them.  Gives them a little more power over you than you'd like.

This is why I have a hard time finding nude models around here.  :-P

Mar 10 09 07:59 pm Link

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D E L I C I A E

Posts: 394

Gallatin, Tennessee, US

La Kajira wrote:
Sounds like your parents are hardcore Christians.

I live in Tennessee. That should explain enough.
They've been very unsupportive in general lately. On the five newest photos in my port (with the brown hair), their comments went as such:

On photo number 1: I don't like that one at all.
On photo number 5: That's horrible.
On photo number 3: What are you WEARING? Where did you get that?!
On photo number 4: Are you naked in that picture?

No compliments. Nothing.
Its getting really frustrating. I'm to the point where I'd rather not show them anything at all.

Mar 10 09 08:01 pm Link

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Jessi J

Posts: 182

Hightstown, New Jersey, US

Well, let me start with this.  You are 19, legally an adult and you can do what you want.  Nudes will always bring associated with porn, no matter how obviously not connected they are.  So get used to it.  If it's something you like to do and it's not harmful, then go ahead and do it.  Be prepared to defend yourself over and over again.  But it's still your life.

And if you want to address their arguments one by one, here's my suggestions for answers.

1. Posing nude is not heroine (although sometimes it does give you a rush)... you won't get addicted and need more risky shoots as time goes by.  Most people don't go into porn just cause they pose nude.
2. If they think your body is worthy enough to get a porn star's head put onto it, then consider it a compliment... it means you have an awesome body.
3. How will it affect their jobs?  Unless they like putting up pictures of your work at their workplace, then it won't.  If someone they know sees the photos, then I highly doubt they would mention it.  If they do, then I would pay to hear that conversation.  "uhhh, yeah, I just saw a nude picture of your daughter... she's grown up!"
4. The country could use a nude president.  I'm just sayin'... maybe it would de-demonize it.
5. How will Church find out?  Is Church a member of MM?  Or is Church a photographer?  Wouldn't they be more concerned when they find out Church was looking for nude girls?  And if by Church they mean someone from church, then re-read that last sentence and replace Church with their name.
6. Ummm.. yeah, nude model and happily married, right here.  Thanks.
7. Adultery isn't as bad as everyone makes it out to be.  If someone in the relationship needs to find something outside of their relationship, then obviously they aren't happy with what they got.  And life is about being happy.  So it's their job to change it.  And jerking off is considered adultery?  Then almost everyone has committed adultery; surprise!
8. I'm sure if God saw the pictures, he would be proud that you are showing His work off in such a beautiful way.  Not that I think God exists, but if He didn't want people to see us naked, we would be born with clothes on.  Or with fur.
9. RE: #2 and #7
10. Yes, every photographer who takes a naked photo of a girl gets it printed in a major magazine... oh, and those girls are completely suffering for their choices to be in Playboy.  Right up until they cash that massive check.

Mar 10 09 08:04 pm Link

Model

Jessi J

Posts: 182

Hightstown, New Jersey, US

La Kajira wrote:

I'm pretty sure they'd have a bigger problem with you going all Emily Rose on them...

https://modelmayhm-9.vo.llnwd.net/d1/photos/090228/20/49aa14234005f.jpg

HAHAHA, seriously!  Nice.

Mar 10 09 08:05 pm Link

Photographer

Chris Hollo

Posts: 26

Nashville, Tennessee, US

Kris,

I just uploaded the web galleries.  Let me know what you think and if you need to bury the shoot, for whatever reason, I will.  I just hate to see you in trouble with your family. 

Stay strong,

CH

Mar 10 09 08:06 pm Link

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4C 41 42

Posts: 11093

Nashville, Tennessee, US

D E L I C I A E wrote:
On photo number 4: Are you naked in that picture?

This one?

https://modelmayhm-9.vo.llnwd.net/d1/photos/090228/10/49a987f1f3de9_m.jpg

Oh, we need to hook your parents up with my in-laws.  They'd love each other!  They could have a judging party!

If my in-laws knew I shoot nudes, I'm sure they would be sitting on my wife to leave me.  They should see the pics I've taken of her though.  tongue

(I know, I'm not helping.)

Mar 10 09 08:06 pm Link

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BANIS Photography

Posts: 1

Dallas, Texas, US

Just get even with art. Do a shot that does each topic they complained about. A shot in church with a couple making out(1), a groom up front looking at you instead of his bride (7) and other twisted ways to let out the anger. Put it in your private space where only you can laugh at it.

Mar 10 09 08:10 pm Link

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L57

Posts: 10908

Victoria, British Columbia, Canada

give them time and be strong.

Someone doesn't need a nude shot if they're going to crop your head to put on porn shots tongue

They're just grabbing at straws.  If you want to go the god route just point out that no good god would be fussed about being naked.  Nakedness wasn't a sin last time I checked, if it is, they need a new religeon tongue

If you don't want to go the god route, just say, you don't want to contribute to the idea that nude=sex, so you want to show your support by action that nudity is ok and nothing to be ashamed of and if they (your family) would contribute, that would be appreciated.  If they don't then you don't need the burden of hearing about their closed minded opinions.  You at least, have your mind out of the gutter, expect the same from your family and tell them.

tongue

and give them time to digest it.

Mar 10 09 08:10 pm Link

Photographer

Gibson Photo Art

Posts: 7990

Phoenix, Arizona, US

Why even bother trying to get their support? This is your thing.

Mar 10 09 08:11 pm Link

Photographer

Luminos

Posts: 6065

Columbia, Maryland, US

D E L I C I A E wrote:
Yep.

FINALLY had one of my own experiences with this. (No pictures to show for it yet. ;])

Basically, I had my second nude shoot today. The first one was just a ten minute test and I didn't like any of them too much because I look awkward and uncomfortable. But today, I found it was almost easier to pose with no clothing than it was to pose WITH clothing (haha, should I be worried?). Almost every single one of the images came out close to amazing and I left the shoot super stoked about the whole thing.

I'd already planned to create a separate port not connected to this one and not put my real name on it so that I wouldn't have to worry about google searches, etc. However, being nineteen and still living at home and TRYING to do the right thing, I told my parents.
My mother seemed ok at first. We got off the phone and she didn't sound upset.


Hahaaaaaa. Yeah right.

We go to get dinner, and they pulled me into the car. I heard all manner of things.

1. It starts at this, then you're doing porn.
2. What if they crop your head off and put it on a porn model!?!?!
3. This could affect our jobs, too. You should have thought about your family.
4. You'll never get to be president now (wtf?)
5. What if Church found out?
6. No one will want to marry you. ( ;(! )
7. You're an adulteress. If a married male sees your picture and gets off to it, he's committing adultery and its your fault.
8. You're not right with God now. You need to pray.
9. You're going to end up on a porn site.
10. What if your little cousin picks up Playboy and you're in it? (Because artistic nudes are the same thing as a Playboy submission set, didn't you know?)

I'm sure I'm forgetting some.
Basically, I was in tears. Its pretty shitty when your PARENTS tell you that you're a whore.
That is what being honest gets you, folks.

I'm sure plenty of other models have gone through this same thing. How do you cope with it? Any tips or suggestions?

Edit: I forgot the "You're lucky your boyfriend didn't break up with you. I would."

There is no right answer for this.   You have to follow what's right for you.  If you value your family's approval, and they will withold it if you don't cave in, then you need to reconsider.

If however you feel that this is only one of many controlling things they will do, and to give in here is to face future emotional blackmail, then you may want to move ahead - effectively drawing the line where you want it, not them.

But the truth usually lies in the middle.

Mar 10 09 08:11 pm Link

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DonW Photography

Posts: 167

Nashua, New Hampshire, US

Siam wrote:
3. My mum is a health visitor for children. The other health visitors in her office know, and think I rock

I looked at your port.  You definitely rock.

Mar 10 09 08:11 pm Link

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Christopher Hall

Posts: 1169

Fort Lauderdale, Florida, US

consider the source & just laugh it off. i mean, they suggested prayer! it seems like they might be stuck in leave it to beaver-land.

Mar 10 09 08:12 pm Link

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Jay Farrell

Posts: 13408

Nashville, Tennessee, US

If the world was as black and white as many church people make it out to be, life and creativity would be dull, and dead as we know it. You have to do what is right for you, and if you enjoy it, and are proud of your work, then who is anyone to point fingers at you? Like I have told many models about this issue, if your nude work is discovered, and you are proud of your work, then it's right for you.........if you feel ashamed because of a judger or are doing it only for the money, it's probably a mistake.

In life, and in careers, sometimes you must take chances and make some waves. How fucking boring would it be to fit into a mold shaped by other people? Anyone who truly LOVES you would support you, even if your decision isn't the same as theirs. I'm sure your family does love you, and their reaction was knee jerk......my point is they'll get over it smile  Your decisions don't always have to involve your family. If it's something you continue doing, I just wouldn't discuss it with them anymore, since you tried taking the high road at the beginning and their response wasn't supportive.

Mar 10 09 08:12 pm Link

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Stephoto Photography

Posts: 20158

Amherst, Massachusetts, US

The joy of parents- don't take it to heart and do what you love! don't let your parents' opinions affect you/hold you back. If you need to, just stop sharing it with them or keep it in their faces, they're eventually going to either give in and leave you alone, or they'll go nuts.

Mar 10 09 08:12 pm Link

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B R U N E S C I

Posts: 25319

Bath, England, United Kingdom

D E L I C I A E wrote:
Its getting really frustrating. I'm to the point where I'd rather not show them anything at all.

OK, so I'm assuming the nudes are what you might call 'tastefully done'?

If so, offer to show them to your mom. Don't force them down her throat but just offer. If she refuses, offer to show them to somebody else she would trust - eg. your sister if you have one or a female friend or aunt etc..

My point is that as parents they are naturally worried that you are getting yourself into something 'unsavoury' or dangerous. If you can persuade them that a) you are not and b) you're not ashamed of the pictures and neither should they be, then you will be on the right track to reaching an accommodation with them.

A few models I know who do nudes and live at home have an agreement that they will allow their mom to see everything they shoot. One of them actually shows both her parents everything, but others just have this an an open invitation so that the parents feel nothing is being hidden from them.

If my daughter wanted to start modelling nude at 19 I'd prefer her to be doing work she would be happy to show her mother. Personally, I wouldn't want to see them, but that's just me, although I suspect your father will probably feel the same.

Hope that helps smile

Ciao
Stefano

www.stefanobrunesci.com

Mar 10 09 08:13 pm Link

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Sophie Nova

Posts: 2105

Los Angeles, California, US

DonW Photography wrote:

I looked at your port.  You definitely rock.

Cheers big_smile

Mar 10 09 08:16 pm Link

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Christine Eadie

Posts: 2614

Charleston, South Carolina, US

They're just afraid of what they don't understand...
I think it was a mistake to tell them to be quite honest.

Mar 10 09 08:16 pm Link

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D E L I C I A E

Posts: 394

Gallatin, Tennessee, US

To everyone posting:

Thank you all for your support and your suggestions. I can't keep up with everything!

I'm planning on showing the images to my mother if she wants to see them. I'm sure it'll just make her angry again, but that is how life goes. At least she'll know what is being seen. My father has already made it clear that he doesn't want any part in any of it. He doesn't want to see them at all.

Welp, I'm about to go show these to my mother. Wish me luck. D: And life, and the ability to live through this, etc, etc.

Mar 10 09 08:17 pm Link

Model

La Kajira

Posts: 279

London, Arkansas, US

I think the mom should do a nude shoot to, so they're on even grounds.

Mar 10 09 08:19 pm Link

Photographer

4C 41 42

Posts: 11093

Nashville, Tennessee, US

D E L I C I A E wrote:
Welp, I'm about to go show these to my mother. Wish me luck. D: And life, and the ability to live through this, etc, etc.

Good luck.

If this is the "worst" thing you ever do, they'll be very lucky parents.

They may not see it that way though.

Mar 10 09 08:20 pm Link

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Jay Farrell

Posts: 13408

Nashville, Tennessee, US

D E L I C I A E wrote:
To everyone posting:

Thank you all for your support and your suggestions. I can't keep up with everything!

I'm planning on showing the images to my mother if she wants to see them. I'm sure it'll just make her angry again, but that is how life goes. At least she'll know what is being seen. My father has already made it clear that he doesn't want any part in any of it. He doesn't want to see them at all.

Welp, I'm about to go show these to my mother. Wish me luck. D: And life, and the ability to live through this, etc, etc.

Good luck, but remember this.......even for non nude photos.......many people outside the artistic circle don't understand the vision of anything created within. You certainly are brave to show your mom, but in the future you aren't obligated to do so, especially if she doesn't share your enthusiasm.

And of course your dad would not want to see them, this is actually comforting to hear smile Understandable. Best of luck to you smile

Mar 10 09 08:20 pm Link

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Farenell Photography

Posts: 18832

Albany, New York, US

These won't help you but my responses are in bold.

D E L I C I A E wrote:
We go to get dinner, and they pulled me into the car. I heard all manner of things.

1. It starts at this, then you're doing porn. What makes you think they don't ALREADY do that w/ clothed shots?
2. What if they crop your head off and put it on a porn model!?!?! I'm not that famous.
3. This could affect our jobs, too. You should have thought about your family. "We could never keep clothes on that damn kid."
4. You'll never get to be president now (wtf?) Works for me. I always believed that honesty is the best policy.
5. What if Church found out? The Church believes that glorifying the body is glorifying the beauty of God (that's actually not BS, I minored in Art History).
6. No one will want to marry you. ( ;(! ) Fine w/ me. I would want someone who love ALL of me, not their narrow perception of me.
7. You're an adulteress. If a married male sees your picture and gets off to it, he's committing adultery and its your fault. He's never heard of self-control?
8. You're not right with God now. You need to pray. What do you think confession is for? Go in, confess my sins, say a couple Hail Marys, in their eyes I'm clean.
9. You're going to end up on a porn site. Considering image theft is illegal, I take pleasure in getting their service provider terms revoked.
10. What if your little cousin picks up Playboy and you're in it? (Because artistic nudes are the same thing as a Playboy submission set, didn't you know?) Are you kidding, he'd be the most popular kid in school?

D E L I C I A E wrote:
Basically, I was in tears. Its pretty shitty when your PARENTS tell you that you're a whore.
That is what being honest gets you, folks.

I'm sure plenty of other models have gone through this same thing. How do you cope with it? Any tips or suggestions?

Tip 1: Not everyone in you know NEEDS to know every single solitary detail.

Tip 2: (Won't help you much now) Wait to tell someone AFTER you've received the pictures. Some people automatically think the worst & when stuff is done tastefully, it softens, but not always, the shock.

Mar 10 09 08:21 pm Link

Model

La Kajira

Posts: 279

London, Arkansas, US

D E L I C I A E wrote:
To everyone posting:

Thank you all for your support and your suggestions. I can't keep up with everything!

I'm planning on showing the images to my mother if she wants to see them. I'm sure it'll just make her angry again, but that is how life goes. At least she'll know what is being seen. My father has already made it clear that he doesn't want any part in any of it. He doesn't want to see them at all.

Welp, I'm about to go show these to my mother. Wish me luck. D: And life, and the ability to live through this, etc, etc.

I'm sure your parents have seen you naked before, they'll live.
Good luck!

Mar 10 09 08:23 pm Link

Photographer

John Edward

Posts: 2462

Dallas, Texas, US

Considering where you live, and the general mindset.

You have a decent port, and you're working with a talented, artist, for a photographer.

I have no advice, only support.

Best of luck

Mar 10 09 08:25 pm Link

Model

Nikki Bee 1

Posts: 321

Houston, Texas, US

D E L I C I A E wrote:
2. What if they crop your head off and put it on a porn model!?!?!

My momma said that to me and I told her that was the dumbest thing I have every heard on Earth. I'm surprised I'm still here! But seriously even if they put someone elses head on my body, how will anyone know it's my body? If they put my head on someone else's body I probably still wouldn't care.

My boyfriend did break up with me though. But that's what I get for dating a prude.

Mar 10 09 08:26 pm Link

Photographer

P E Perceptions

Posts: 394

Tulsa, Oklahoma, US

D E L I C I A E wrote:
To everyone posting:

Thank you all for your support and your suggestions. I can't keep up with everything!

I'm planning on showing the images to my mother if she wants to see them. I'm sure it'll just make her angry again, but that is how life goes. At least she'll know what is being seen. My father has already made it clear that he doesn't want any part in any of it. He doesn't want to see them at all.

Welp, I'm about to go show these to my mother. Wish me luck. D: And life, and the ability to live through this, etc, etc.

Cheers ... I know exactly where you are coming from. My parents are Pastors and would freak if they saw some of the images me and models produce. I have no doubt I would be disowned ... haha

Hope everything goes well and hope to see the images sometime soon smile

Mar 10 09 08:26 pm Link

Photographer

JenniferMaria

Posts: 1780

Miami Beach, Florida, US

I'd say to just stay strong, realize that they grew up in a different society and no matter how oppressive it gets, you can think whatever you want and it is your life.

As far as talking to them again, I'd approach whoever you were closest to first- wait until they are in a better mood and just take it very slowly.  This could take years.

It just sounds like they are scared. Fear of the unknown- ignorance.  Unfortunately they took it out on you.

Mar 10 09 08:32 pm Link