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macshot20 photography

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Stockton, California, US

yea, im kinda scared cuz  we are ok friends and i think has a crush on me but i dont see her like that, she says she trusts me and wants to get it over with so should i be the one to do it or should i not?. obviously im not one of those kinda guys if im asking strangers if i should do it sooooo what should i do? lmfao

Sep 19 12 05:55 pm Link

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MCastle

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Virginia Beach, Virginia, US

You just said it yourself, if your not that kind of guy, then your not. If she's a friend of yours, she should know this or atleast respect it when you tell her as such. You should feel pretty good that someone would trust you enough to ask something like that of you, but don't do something like that if you don't want to, Especially if you believe she has a crush on you. 

Just my two cents.

To me, 'just to get it over with' isn't a very good reason to do something like this either.. neutral

Hope you get some good advice and stay safe either way.

Sep 19 12 06:03 pm Link

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John Photography

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Adelaide, South Australia, Australia

Hmmmmmmmmm not sure if this is genuine or a joke thread yet hmm but this always bugs me.

Why the hell is losing one's virginity such a big fucking deal?

Seriously I don't get that what's the big fascination here?

Been there done that wasn't all that exciting.... So what's the big deal here people?

Sep 19 12 06:04 pm Link

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T Brown

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Traverse City, Michigan, US

its a big deal to some people...because it means something personal to them.

Sep 19 12 06:08 pm Link

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GoldRoseMedia

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NORTH BRUNSWICK, New Jersey, US

Either you are being played for a fool, or you are playing all of us for fools. We'll see which one it is as this thread unfolds.

Sep 19 12 06:11 pm Link

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John Photography

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Adelaide, South Australia, Australia

T Brown wrote:
its a big deal to some people...because it means something personal to them.

True but it seems everyone fixates on this "ooh tonights the night" I'm going to lose my virginity thing ..... Even when I was a teen that was the big fixation..  I just never saw it that way. It's just an act two people do...

Sep 19 12 06:12 pm Link

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Eleanor Rose

Posts: 2287

Santa Rosa, California, US

AdelaideJohn1967 wrote:

True but it seems everyone fixates on this "ooh tonights the night" I'm going to lose my virginity thing ..... Even when I was a teen that was the big fixation..  I just never saw it that way. It's just an act two people do...

Some people find firsts important: first day of school, first communion, first job... It might not be a big deal to you, but it obviously is to them, so why dump on it by trying to convince them it's not important?

Sep 19 12 06:29 pm Link

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Laurence Moan

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Huntington Beach, California, US

So... you're gonna marry her first, right?

Sep 19 12 06:29 pm Link

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Through Elizabeths Eyes

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Yelm, Washington, US

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Sep 19 12 06:32 pm Link

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Giacomo Cirrincioni

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New York, New York, US

I did that once.  A girl I knew joined a convent but before she took her final vows the sisters convinced her that perhaps that life wasn't for her and she left.  She had decided to go away to university but didn't want to go there a virgin, so she asked me to help take care of that (we had dated a bit on and off).

I did.

It was not a pleasant experience and not one I ever wish to repeat.

Sep 19 12 06:35 pm Link

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rfordphotos

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Antioch, California, US

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you already know you arent "that guy".....tell your friend the truth....

Sep 19 12 06:36 pm Link

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Lynn Elizabeth

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Coral Springs, Florida, US

I wouldn't. The first time is a time that is special and remembered forever. I know that my first time I would never take back. I was in love, as what I thought love was at the time, and committed to who I was with. Even though we had a horrible break up and we don't talk to eachother anymore I know that when that time happened it was special. The first time is not just a "get it over with" thing. It's a memory that lasts a lifetime.

Sep 19 12 06:38 pm Link

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What Fun Productions

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Phoenix, Arizona, US

Some advice... put down a towel.

Sep 19 12 06:43 pm Link

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macshot20 photography

Posts: 291

Stockton, California, US

Too all*

Yea this is a real thing, no joke. She actually messages me right b4 I posted this thread. I understand it is something special and she's getting tired of waiting, she actually got attacked once b4 and got away, and if that was gunna be her first time , that would have traumatized her for life. So there's other reasons why she wants to lose it other then "just to lose it" and she trust me to be her first. So I dunno, we are good friends but not like best friends so I guess I just have to think about it and ask her again if she's postive instead of not trying to ruin my chance to get laid, lol Im aware of her feelings so we will see.. Thanks guys for the input

Sep 19 12 06:46 pm Link

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ELiffmann

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Baton Rouge, Louisiana, US

got a pic?

Sep 19 12 06:47 pm Link

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Good Egg Productions

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Orlando, Florida, US

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The best case scenario, you both fall madly in love with each other, get married, have lots of fat little children and live happily ever after.  Odds: 1:3279883425020402

The worst case scenario, she falls in love with you.  You have to "let her down easy".  She murders you.  Odds: 1:5

Most likely scenario, you do this, your friendship ends, she forever is angry she wasted this on someone like you.  Odds: 1:1.3

Sep 19 12 06:47 pm Link

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macshot20 photography

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Stockton, California, US

Paramour Productions wrote:
I did that once.  A girl I knew joined a convent but before she took her final vows the sisters convinced her that perhaps that life wasn't for her and she left.  She had decided to go away to university but didn't want to go there a virgin, so she asked me to help take care of that (we had dated a bit on and off).

I did.

It was not a pleasant experience and not one I ever wish to repeat.

Ok yea see she was thinking of doing the same thing , so you wouldn't do it again if u had a chance?

Sep 19 12 06:48 pm Link

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macshot20 photography

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Stockton, California, US

What Fun Productions wrote:
Some advice... put down a towel.

Lmfao nice yea that would b a must lol

Sep 19 12 06:49 pm Link

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macshot20 photography

Posts: 291

Stockton, California, US

ELiffmann wrote:
got a pic?

No I'm not gunna put her on blast like that. This is bad enough already haha

Sep 19 12 06:49 pm Link

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macshot20 photography

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Stockton, California, US

Good Egg Productions wrote:
http://spamusers.com/Wiki/images/c/c7/Itsatrap.jpg

The best case scenario, you both fall madly in love with each other, get married, have lots of fat little children and live happily ever after.  Odds: 1:3279883425020402

The worst case scenario, she falls in love with you.  You have to "let her down easy".  She murders you.  Odds: 1:5

Most likely scenario, you do this, your friendship ends, she forever is angry she wasted this on someone like you.  Odds: 1:1.3

Lmao nice and yes all that has ran threw my mind lol

Sep 19 12 06:50 pm Link

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TAFL

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Kansas City, Kansas, US

Were it me, I'd have to consider whether I think she'd get all clingy and hung up on it afterward. If so, I wouldn't touch her with somebody else's penis.

If I thought she wouldn't have a lingering issue with it after, I'd be flattered and offer service.

If you do it, don't expect the sex to be very good.

Sep 19 12 06:54 pm Link

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Morphine Dream

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Toronto, Ontario, Canada

One of the dumbest http://lh5.googleusercontent.com/-iw5TaUpM1OI/AAAAAAAAAAI/AAAAAAAAABg/oWjr6XtVW8o/s120-c/photo.jpg threads ever.
Yeah dude is gonna post on MM that some chick wants him to pop her cherry.
Lame.

Sep 19 12 06:55 pm Link

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MMR Digital

Posts: 1716

Doylestown, Pennsylvania, US

You realize that you can't give it back to her?

And do you plan to tell all? (for us)

Bad form. We'll never get the truth- I'm pretty much thinking.

A photoshoot is never a dating opportunity.

Sep 19 12 06:56 pm Link

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macshot20 photography

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Stockton, California, US

TAFL wrote:
Were it me, I'd have to consider whether I think she'd get all clingy and hung up on it afterward. If so, I wouldn't touch her with somebody else's penis.

If I thought she wouldn't have a lingering issue with it after, I'd be flattered and offer service.

If you do it, don't expect the sex to be very good.

Yea at first I thought she would be but since we haven't talked for a min and her dating a douch for two months, I think she won't be clingy and more just "let's do this " kinda thing. But ya know things could change.
And yea I'm assuming it wount be to crazy since she's never did anything nor watch a porno hahahaha. But it be interesting non the less. It would be my first with a virgen so yea haha

Sep 19 12 06:58 pm Link

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Farenell Photography

Posts: 18124

Albany, New York, US

Crack open a bottle of wine as buds to loosen you both up (& helps you stop overthinking things), watch a movie (can't go wrong w/ Casablanca), & if it happens - it happens, if it doesn't - it doesn't.

Sep 19 12 06:58 pm Link

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hygvhgvkhy

Posts: 2092

Chicago, Illinois, US

NOOOOO!

God No..

Jesus. Just no. Haha what good could come out of this? you get laid, once.
& Bad? shit thats endless..... &almost inevitable.

Just tell her youre "not that guy" &let her figure it out on her own.

Sep 19 12 06:59 pm Link

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Bella la Bell

Posts: 4451

Kansas City, Missouri, US

Um. Have fun with that one.

Sep 19 12 06:59 pm Link

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macshot20 photography

Posts: 291

Stockton, California, US

MMR Digital wrote:
You realize that you can't give it back to her?

And you plan to tell all?

Bad form.

Make notes.

Really????? Like I can't return it if I don't like it????? Wow that sucks, I wonder why??? Lmfao I know that... And tell all? Like the results after its done?

Sep 19 12 07:01 pm Link

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T Brown

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Traverse City, Michigan, US

macshot20 photography wrote:
yea, im kinda scared cuz  we are ok friends and i think has a crush on me but i dont see her like that, she says she trusts me and wants to get it over with so should i be the one to do it or should i not?. obviously im not one of those kinda guys if im asking strangers if i should do it sooooo what should i do? lmfao

just my opinion, you've stated you don't feel about her the same way you think she feels about you. if you really are a friend then let her first time be with someone who does feel that way about her that way.

appearently its important enough to her to want to be with someone she likes, I think it would be misleading and wrong to take advantage of those feelings.

I don't know about you but I wouldn't want to maintain a friendship with someone who couldn't be upfront and honest with me.

again my personal point of view.

Sep 19 12 07:03 pm Link

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macshot20 photography

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Stockton, California, US

Farenell Photography wrote:
Crack open a bottle of wine as buds to loosen you both up (& helps you stop overthinking things), watch a movie (can't go wrong w/ Casablanca), & if it happens - it happens, if it doesn't - it doesn't.

Yea that's a good idea, I usually do the massage thing and warm the girl up b4 anything , but even that is gunna be her first so some wine and a good movie would be a good way to relax her. Thanks

Sep 19 12 07:03 pm Link

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MMR Digital

Posts: 1716

Doylestown, Pennsylvania, US

Uhmm, how do you return virginity?

Sep 19 12 07:04 pm Link

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Orca Bay Images

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Lodi, California, US

Good luck if she ever finds out you posted a thread about this.

Sep 19 12 07:05 pm Link

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modeled

Posts: 9334

San Diego, California, US

If you have to ask the answer is probably "no."

Sep 19 12 07:06 pm Link

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macshot20 photography

Posts: 291

Stockton, California, US

Presley ONeil wrote:
NOOOOO!

God No..

Jesus. Just no. Haha what good could come out of this? you get laid, once.
& Bad? shit thats endless..... &almost inevitable.

Just tell her youre "not that guy" &let her figure it out on her own.

Well I dunno if u read my other part but I think the feeling for her would be more comforting to know her first would be with a person she trusts and not a random person trying to rape her. So yea there's alil depth to this then just popping her cherry and moving on. That's why it's a difficult unique opportunity  to satisfy all comforts to being her first

Sep 19 12 07:07 pm Link

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-Koa-

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Castaner, Puerto Rico, US

Like, you really don't have any close friends you can ask so instead you bring this to a public forum?

I say, "do it".

You are both perfect for each other.

-Koa-
www.borikenwarrior.com
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Sep 19 12 07:12 pm Link

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hygvhgvkhy

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Chicago, Illinois, US

macshot20 photography wrote:

Well I dunno if u read my other part but I think the feeling for her would be more comforting to know her first would be with a person she trusts and not a random person trying to rape her. So yea there's alil depth to this then just popping her cherry and moving on. That's why it's a difficult unique opportunity  to satisfy all comforts to being her first

&the odds of that happening again are??

Still, you said you think she feels more for you than you do her. &doing this would simply be taking advantage of those feelings. It Will also ruin your friendship eventually i can almost promise. Does not sound smart at all.

Please just tell her to wait-.-
Damn Women!

Sep 19 12 07:12 pm Link

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hygvhgvkhy

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Chicago, Illinois, US

macshot20 photography wrote:
Well I dunno if u read my other part but I think the feeling for her would be more comforting to know her first would be with a person she trusts and not a random person trying to rape her. So yea there's alil depth to this then just popping her cherry and moving on. That's why it's a difficult unique opportunity  to satisfy all comforts to being her first

Dp

Sep 19 12 07:12 pm Link

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macshot20 photography

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Stockton, California, US

-Koa- wrote:
Like, you really don't have any close friends you can ask so instead you bring this to a public forum?

I say, "do it".

You are both perfect for each other.

-Koa-
www.borikenwarrior.com
www.facebook.com/borikenwarriorstudiosmodels

Lmao I do, I just wanted "the worlds" point of view.

Sep 19 12 07:18 pm Link

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macshot20 photography

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Stockton, California, US

Presley ONeil wrote:

&the odds of that happening again are??

Still, you said you think she feels more for you than you do her. &doing this would simply be taking advantage of those feelings. It Will also ruin your friendship eventually i can almost promise. Does not sound smart at all.

Please just tell her to wait-.-
Damn Women!

It's more of the fear of know it could happen anywhere anytime. I mean if you where still a virgin and almost got raped, wouldn't that be on your mind to be like " omg being raped by two men would have been my first and probably would have had one of their child" wouldn't that be on ur mind all the time? I dunno , this is a fucked up situation I'm in hahaha

Sep 19 12 07:21 pm Link

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Chuckarelei

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Seattle, Washington, US

macshot20 photography wrote:
25yr old girl wants me to take her virginity

I'm a 50 year old man, and I want you to take my virginity too.

Sep 19 12 07:26 pm Link