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tiga1969

Posts: 1

New Port Richey, Florida, US

I want to know from other models how did they convince people your doing nothing wrong modeling ,

Feb 02 13 11:50 am Link

Photographer

Good Egg Productions

Posts: 16256

Orlando, Florida, US

You're 44. Isn't that a little old to be caring what other people think?

Explain what you do and what you don't do. If they can't handle that, it's a THEM problem, not a YOU problem.

Feb 02 13 11:54 am Link

Model

Raven-Lily

Posts: 77

Eastbourne, England, United Kingdom

IMO you cant convince anyone, all you can do is show the photos you produce and let them have their own opinion

Feb 02 13 11:54 am Link

Photographer

ontherocks

Posts: 23086

Salem, Oregon, US

you do nudes. you're going to burn in hell. me, too, since i shoot them. lol. my family thinks i shoot porn.

honestly i don't think you can change anyone's opinion. just try to reassure them that you are taking precautions to stay safe and haven't turned into a hooker.

and the whole art thing sometimes seems like people trying too hard to convince others that what they are doing is acceptable. anyway art is in the eye of the beholder, not the person who made the work. one mans' porn is another man's art. and there can be porny art and artsy porn. and just plain tacky sh*t that can be a lot of fun to shoot!

Feb 02 13 11:54 am Link

Photographer

Ken Marcus Studios

Posts: 8640

Los Angeles, California, US

What did your daughter say to you when she started modeling ?

Feb 02 13 11:55 am Link

Photographer

Photography of Eddie

Posts: 39

Antioch, California, US

twoharts wrote:
you do nudes. you're going to burn in hell. me, too, since i shoot them. lol. my family thinks i shoot porn.

honestly i don't think you can change anyone's opinion. just try to reassure them that you are taking precautions to stay safe and haven't turned into a hooker.

and the whole art thing sometimes seems like people trying too hard to convince others that what they are doing is acceptable. anyway art is in the eye of the beholder, not the person who made the work. one mans' porn is another man's art. and there can be porny art and artsy porn. and just plain tacky sh*t that can be a lot of fun to shoot!

+1 and just learn to embrace how it makes you feel. At the end of the day and this lifetime that's all that matters. For the haters just tell them "there's nothing wrong with being beautiful and proud, after all mother nature doesn't wear clothes either!" ...then look at the stunned looks on their faces, smile and carry on! Have fun and good luck!

Feb 02 13 12:32 pm Link

Photographer

B R U N E S C I

Posts: 25319

Bath, England, United Kingdom

The definitive thread on this subject:-

http://www.modelmayhem.com/po.php?thread_id=229525





Just my $0.02

Ciao
Stefano
www.stefanobrunesci.com

Feb 02 13 12:44 pm Link

Photographer

Garry k

Posts: 27873

Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada

-B-R-U-N-E-S-C-I- wrote:
The definitive thread on this subject:-

http://www.modelmayhem.com/po.php?thread_id=229525





Just my $0.02

Ciao
Stefano
www.stefanobrunesci.com

true

Feb 02 13 12:45 pm Link

Photographer

Marc Damon

Posts: 6562

Biloxi, Mississippi, US

Ken Marcus Studios wrote:
What did your daughter say to you when she started modeling ?

lol
Amen.

Feb 02 13 08:43 pm Link

Photographer

Decay of Memory

Posts: 627

Asheville, North Carolina, US

"I'm doing some art modelling."

I know the above statement is simple but just practice your delivery until you can say it in a clear and authoritative manner.

Feb 03 13 05:52 am Link

Photographer

PDF IMAGES PHOTOGRAPHY

Posts: 4604

Jacksonville, Florida, US

Raven-Lily wrote:
IMO you cant convince anyone, all you can do is show the photos you produce and let them have their own opinion

pretty much this !, not everyone will agree with your life's choices, good luck smile

Feb 03 13 06:03 am Link

Photographer

SG-4 Photography

Posts: 127

Washington, District of Columbia, US

You are beautiful.  If you choose to model the only validation you need is from you. If they don't understand than that's their right, and their fallacy.  Just you be true to you and those who truly love you will continue to.

And keep taking those amazing photos!

Feb 03 13 10:50 am Link

Model

Ronit Zeller

Posts: 9

New York, New York, US

It's very simple.  Get a large picture of yourself posing naked and hang it in your family's living room. 

I am sure they will appreciate fine art.

Feb 03 13 11:01 am Link

Photographer

John M Hoyt

Posts: 347

Greenville, South Carolina, US

tiga1969 wrote:
I want to know from other models how did they convince people your doing nothing wrong modeling ,

Tell them that I said it was okay.

Feb 03 13 07:28 pm Link

Photographer

Abbitt Photography

Posts: 11970

Oakland Acres, Iowa, US

dp

Feb 03 13 07:31 pm Link

Photographer

Abbitt Photography

Posts: 11970

Oakland Acres, Iowa, US

Make sure they don't see anything you've done that they will feel isn't artistic.

Feb 03 13 07:32 pm Link

Photographer

Aaron Lewis Photography

Posts: 5083

Catskill, New York, US

I think it's all been said. Your certainly old enough that you shouldn't have to prove anything to anyone. Why do you care what people think about your work?

Feb 03 13 08:00 pm Link

Photographer

Eternal Captures

Posts: 23

Palm Bay, Florida, US

This one is tough... I don't think the answer is to not show your work, because simply put its what makes you happy. To not show your work is accepting the idea that you care what others think, and i know for me personally i have an uphill battle with this one as do im sure many other photographers and models alike. If we don't strive to push boundaries and show images that are unconventional it becomes difficult to be noticed. To the OP i would say that you do what makes you happy, your family should be more understanding of this or they do not deserve the "family" title. No one says they have to like your work, but being respectful to your ideas and interests is nothing short of what im sure they would request from you.

Feb 03 13 08:16 pm Link

Model

Caitin Bre

Posts: 2248

Naperville, Illinois, US

Change the subject as soon as its brought up. smile

Feb 04 13 01:06 pm Link

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Photographer

Rays Fine Art

Posts: 6664

New Orleans, Louisiana, US

Photographers often have a similar problem.  I simply drafted my wife as my assistant.  By the third or fourth shoot, she was so bored with the whole thing that I couldn't pay her to come into the studio when I'm shooting.  She does keep the rest of the family off my back though.

Feb 04 13 02:13 pm Link

Photographer

nyk fury

Posts: 2918

Port Townsend, Washington, US

simple. disown anybody who gives you sh*t.

Feb 04 13 02:19 pm Link

Photographer

DAN CRUIKSHANK

Posts: 1786

Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada

nyk fury wrote:
simple. disown anybody who gives you sh*t.

Yup.

Feb 04 13 02:24 pm Link

Photographer

Chasing Shadows

Posts: 302

Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada

Have everyone make up a detailed list of what they think you shouldn't do, then burn all the lists in front of them.

Feb 04 13 02:32 pm Link

Photographer

HO Photo

Posts: 522

Los Angeles, California, US

Two steps:

1) I don't show my mom EVERYTHING
2) I don't apologize for ANYTHING

Feb 05 13 05:20 pm Link