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Ms Eryka

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Inwood, New York, US

so I'm guilty.

I'm on okcupid and i havent met a lot of guys because they either flake or just disappear ..


anyone else on okcupid?

how are your experiences??


p.s. okcupid put out a study that black women get the least amount of replies from white men (which are the preferred mating choice by women overall on the site) and black men.


:-(

sad


but the study is old. like 2009 i believe

Feb 07 13 06:58 pm Link

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R A V E N D R I V E

Posts: 15867

New York, New York, US

Ms Eryka wrote:
so I'm guilty.

I'm on okcupid and i havent met a lot of guys because they either flake or just disappear ..


anyone else on okcupid?

how are your experiences??


p.s. okcupid put out a study that black women get the least amount of replies from white men (which are the preferred mating choice by women overall on the site) and black men.


:-(

sad


but the study is old. like 2009 i believe

I saw that study, I dicked around on okcupid for two weeks. Had some funny conversations but the no reply thing did not accurately reflect my real life encounters with an equally random set of people, so it was annoying

The study, and general coldness that it reinforced, was discouraging.

I signed up because I heard these once-ostracized dating sites were becoming casual hangouts like other social networks.

And because my friend found a way to "beat the system" and told me how but it was netting him chicks far outside his ideal.

Feb 07 13 07:45 pm Link

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fine art nudes by paul

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Berkeley, California, US

I 'think' I have "might" have an account, but I don't remember...

Feb 07 13 07:45 pm Link

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Chris Rifkin

Posts: 24877

Tampa, Florida, US

Dating sites are an excersise in how far one is willing to lower their standards for the most part IMO..though there is the rare exception where a near perfect match leads to the desired results(long term relationship,marriage,ect).

Not to mention quite a few of the profiles are quite misleading(especially photos,ect,nothing like talking to someone you think is 29 and cute but is 41 and 90 lbs or more heavier because she has the same pics up that she had up in 2001)

I'd rather have friends hook me up IMO as I have had horror stories from dating sites

Feb 07 13 07:57 pm Link

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fine art nudes by paul

Posts: 3287

Berkeley, California, US

hot dog, it only took me 15 minutes to figure out how to log in.  lol.  didn't know what email I used, or the username, or the password.  But yes, it seems like I do have an account...

Now, ravendrive, how was it that your friend beat the system?

Feb 07 13 08:02 pm Link

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Jules NYC

Posts: 17188

New York, New York, US

Not anymore.

I was never afraid to meet people through the net.
I will say that dating sites are not my bag.

I'd never join one again.

Feb 07 13 08:11 pm Link

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R A V E N D R I V E

Posts: 15867

New York, New York, US

Chris Rifkin wrote:
though there is the rare exception where a near perfect match leads to the desired results(long term relationship,marriage,ect).

your desired result smile not my particular friend's

Feb 07 13 08:14 pm Link

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R A V E N D R I V E

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New York, New York, US

double negative wrote:
hot dog, it only took me 15 minutes to figure out how to log in.  lol.  didn't know what email I used, or the username, or the password.  But yes, it seems like I do have an account...

Now, ravendrive, how was it that your friend beat the system?

:X can't say, sworn to secrecy

Feb 07 13 08:15 pm Link

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Connor Photography

Posts: 6822

Newark, Delaware, US

Ms Eryka wrote:
so I'm guilty.

I'm on okcupid and i havent met a lot of guys because they either flake or just disappear ..


anyone else on okcupid?

how are your experiences??


p.s. okcupid put out a study that black women get the least amount of replies from white men (which are the preferred mating choice by women overall on the site) and black men.


:-(

sad


but the study is old. like 2009 i believe

Why don't you just date anyone of us?  smile

Feb 07 13 08:16 pm Link

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Damon Banner

Posts: 85307

Hayward, California, US

yeah, I'm on it.  Had a few first dates.  no seconds.

Ms Eryka wrote:
p.s. okcupid put out a study that black women get the least amount of replies from white men (which are the preferred mating choice by women overall on the site) and black men.

A black woman in my area had that on her profile as a way to prompt discussion.  I emailed her about it (plus she was cute).  She didn't respond.  I hardly ever get black women to respond to me.  White women love me.

Feb 07 13 08:21 pm Link

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Ms Eryka

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Inwood, New York, US

Feb 07 13 09:14 pm Link

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Ms Eryka

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Inwood, New York, US

Connor Photography wrote:

Why don't you just date anyone of us?  smile

I KNOW I SHOULD!

Feb 07 13 09:14 pm Link

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Ms Eryka

Posts: 3923

Inwood, New York, US

nothing but white boys hit me up anyway lol

Feb 07 13 09:15 pm Link

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Ms Eryka

Posts: 3923

Inwood, New York, US

did you make them suck your toes?


Damon Banner wrote:
yeah, I'm on it.  Had a few first dates.  no seconds.


A black woman in my area had that on her profile as a way to prompt discussion.  I emailed her about it (plus she was cute).  She didn't respond.  I hardly ever get black women to respond to me.  White women love me.

Feb 07 13 09:15 pm Link

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Ms Eryka

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Inwood, New York, US

everybody should post their profiles to see if we match ;p

Feb 07 13 09:16 pm Link

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SensualThemes

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Swoyersville, Pennsylvania, US

I would....but wife would object

Feb 07 13 09:28 pm Link

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Ms Eryka

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Inwood, New York, US

Pinups4 wrote:
I would....but wife would object

lmao

Feb 07 13 09:30 pm Link

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Michael Broughton

Posts: 2258

Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada

there was a thread on here a while back about a website showcasing the most horrific okcupid profiles. that convinced me to sign up. so far it's only lead to me being used for sex.

Feb 07 13 09:39 pm Link

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Ms Eryka

Posts: 3923

Inwood, New York, US

ok which one of you guys sent me a message on okcupid lol

don't troll me lol

Feb 07 13 09:43 pm Link

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Paige Morgan

Posts: 4058

New York, New York, US

I always had good luck there. Dated one person for about a year, another for 4 years.

Feb 07 13 09:44 pm Link

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Ms Eryka

Posts: 3923

Inwood, New York, US

Paige Morgan wrote:
I always had good luck there. Dated one person for about a year, another for 4 years.

really??? that's so cool

Feb 07 13 09:46 pm Link

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Laura UnBound

Posts: 27515

Toronto, Ontario, Canada

Within a week of me signing up I had a date. She never picked a day for a second date and I never reminded her, I guess maybe I should have checked in or something but in my world if you went out with someone and actually want a second date, you don't forget YOU told them "yes I'd like to do it again, and soon"...-shrug- hmm

I might have another date or two when I get back in the country, depending on how long their attention spans last.

I don't just chat with people for weeks before meeting them, I go straight for "let's continue this conversation over drinks" and they're either gonna meet me or they won't. Someone who won't meet up with me wasnt someone who was EVER going to get out from behind the computer screen so it's just time I didn't waste, and that's fine by me.

Feb 07 13 09:50 pm Link

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Paige Morgan

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New York, New York, US

Ms Eryka wrote:
really??? that's so cool

Really. Every other site? Rude asshats.

OKCupid? Lovely people.

I'm not sure why, but it was the only site that ever worked for me.

Feb 07 13 09:51 pm Link

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Ms Eryka

Posts: 3923

Inwood, New York, US

+1

Laura UnBound wrote:
Within a week of me signing up I had a date. She never picked a day for a second date and I never reminded her, I guess maybe I should have checked in or something but in my world if you went out with someone and actually want a second date, you don't forget YOU told them "yes I'd like to do it again, and soon"...-shrug- hmm

I might have another date or two when I get back in the country, depending on how long their attention spans last.

I don't just chat with people for weeks before meeting them, I go straight for "let's continue this conversation over drinks" and they're either gonna meet me or they won't. Someone who won't meet up with me wasnt someone who was EVER going to get out from behind the computer screen so it's just time I didn't waste, and that's fine by me.

Feb 07 13 10:00 pm Link

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Little Ginger Lamb

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Atlanta, Georgia, US

I did manage to find one acceptable dude, my ex, through OKC. I increased my search parameters to 100 miles (no way on earth I was going to find someone in my old hometown that I didn't go to middle or high school with), and just randomly started a conversation with him. He looked like Ewan McGregor, so why not? We broke up because he was sort of boring. He's a good guy. I don't know if he still has an OKC profile.

Aside from the ex, there were a lot of TERRIBLE people who would message me. Mostly guys that were like "YOU LIKE WATCHMEN? DID YOU KNOW IT WAS A COMIC FIRST?" I... It's not like I listed legit comic book titles in my profile under favorite books or anything. I had a lot of comic book pissing matches on my OKC account. One even said something to the effect of, "YOU'RE NOT A COMIC BOOK FAN. PRETTY GIRLS AREN'T COMIC BOOK FANS. You HAVE to be a ringer created by OKCupid because comic book fangirls are never single." Sigh.

My friends have had less than stellar experiences. Two of my close friends both got blindsided with the dreaded Penis Pics after an evening on OKC. What makes anyone think that's acceptable upon first message!?

Feb 07 13 10:29 pm Link

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Connor Photography

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Paige Morgan wrote:
I always had good luck there. Dated one person for about a year, another for 4 years.

Fu@k, who doesn't want to date you?  I am just sayin'  smile

Feb 07 13 10:36 pm Link

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Ms Eryka

Posts: 3923

Inwood, New York, US

smh.. i get random old white guys asking me my bra size


Little Ginger Lamb wrote:
I did manage to find one acceptable dude, my ex, through OKC. I increased my search parameters to 100 miles (no way on earth I was going to find someone in my old hometown that I didn't go to middle or high school with), and just randomly started a conversation with him. He looked like Ewan McGregor, so why not? We broke up because he was sort of boring. He's a good guy. I don't know if he still has an OKC profile.

Aside from the ex, there were a lot of TERRIBLE people who would message me. Mostly guys that were like "YOU LIKE WATCHMEN? DID YOU KNOW IT WAS A COMIC FIRST?" I... It's not like I listed legit comic book titles in my profile under favorite books or anything. I had a lot of comic book pissing matches on my OKC account. One even said something to the effect of, "YOU'RE NOT A COMIC BOOK FAN. PRETTY GIRLS AREN'T COMIC BOOK FANS. You HAVE to be a ringer created by OKCupid because comic book fangirls are never single." Sigh.

My friends have had less than stellar experiences. Two of my close friends both got blindsided with the dreaded Penis Pics after an evening on OKC. What makes anyone think that's acceptable upon first message!?

Feb 07 13 11:19 pm Link

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Laura UnBound

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Toronto, Ontario, Canada

Ms Eryka wrote:
smh.. i get random old white guys asking me my bra size



Surprisingly, while I get a lot of male visitors, none of them have contacted me besides one "I know you're going to ignore me just wanted to say you're pretty, have a good day" and two who contacted me as couples


Though my profile specifically says I'm not interested in dudes. I expected them to ignore that far more often.

If I could get photographers to not message me for stupid shit my profile clearly states not to message me about as often as I can get single dudes to not message me for dates....I'd be set.

Feb 07 13 11:26 pm Link

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SayCheeZ!

Posts: 18294

Las Vegas, Nevada, US

I have very little, if anything, in common with the few ladies that contacted me.
I haven't contacted very many women, but of the few that I did send a message to (and I'm not talkin' physically attractive model types... I'm talkin' some of these girls would be lucky to be contacted by anybody), only two or three responded.

The two or three that I actually met were nutjobs.  I've never asked any of them for a second date.

I did meet a wonderful Thai woman on another website that's actually coming to Las Vegas next month and staying throughout the summer.  She's pretty successful and hasn't hit me up for any money (most of the foreign women from certain countries contact American or European men to either get a green card, money, or both).

Feb 08 13 12:40 am Link

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Ms Eryka

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Inwood, New York, US

what site if you dont mind?

SayCheeZ!  wrote:
I have very little, if anything, in common with the few ladies that contacted me.
I haven't contacted very man women, but of the few that I did send a message to (and I'm not talkin' physically attractive model types... I'm talkin' some of these girls would be lucky to be contacted by anybody), only two or three responded.

The two or three that I actually met were nutjobs.  I've never asked any of them for a second date.

I did meet a wonderful Thai woman on another website that's actually coming to Las Vegas next month and staying throughout the summer.  She's pretty successful and hasn't hit me up for any money (most of the foreign women from certain countries contact American or European men to either get a green card, money, or both).

Feb 08 13 10:15 am Link

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Andialu

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San Pedro, California, US

I prefer Christian Mingle.

Feb 08 13 10:23 am Link

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Christopher Hartman

Posts: 54153

Buena Park, California, US

Used it, never met anyone.

Feb 08 13 10:33 am Link

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Envy

Posts: 11189

Nashville, Tennessee, US

I was guilty. I met my adorable husband on of all places... Plenty of Fish, the cesspool of dating sites. Neither of us were looking for a relationship, just friends.

http://i67.photobucket.com/albums/h284/boogersaregross/839DC507-49D9-4362-AE0F-DEA6EBD438C8-4940-000004B5D769ADC2_zps0fb76387.jpg

http://i67.photobucket.com/albums/h284/boogersaregross/DSCF0015_zpsfae87a4f.jpg

Feb 08 13 10:43 am Link

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Chris Rifkin

Posts: 24877

Tampa, Florida, US

I think a few of us should be trolls and sign up on one of those Millionaire.com dating sites
big_smile

Feb 08 13 10:50 am Link

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Paige Morgan

Posts: 4058

New York, New York, US

Connor Photography wrote:

Fu@k, who doesn't want to date you?  I am just sayin'  smile

Lots of folks have no desire to date me big_smile . I've had a lot of issues with people I date complaining about how much I work, and that I give them way too much space.

Ambitious type A personalities are not tolerable for everyone.

Feb 08 13 10:52 am Link

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Ms Eryka

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Inwood, New York, US

is it good? i feel like i'm too much of a heathen to use it

Andialu wrote:
I prefer Christian Mingle.

Feb 08 13 10:53 am Link

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Ms Eryka

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Inwood, New York, US

adorable! yeah i had plenty of fish for like 2 days. lol

Envy wrote:
I was guilty. I met my adorable husband on of all places... Plenty of Fish, the cesspool of dating sites. Neither of us were looking for a relationship, just friends.

http://i67.photobucket.com/albums/h284/boogersaregross/839DC507-49D9-4362-AE0F-DEA6EBD438C8-4940-000004B5D769ADC2_zps0fb76387.jpg

http://i67.photobucket.com/albums/h284/boogersaregross/DSCF0015_zpsfae87a4f.jpg

Feb 08 13 10:54 am Link

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Damon Banner

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Hayward, California, US

Ms Eryka wrote:
did you make them suck your toes?

Yes.  I make every woman I meet, ever, suck on my toes.  http://i39.tinypic.com/f23ptl.jpg

Feb 08 13 11:11 am Link

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Envy

Posts: 11189

Nashville, Tennessee, US

Ms Eryka wrote:
adorable! yeah i had plenty of fish for like 2 days. lol

POF is massively hit and miss, mostly guys/girls looking for a bootie call. I made some platonic buddies, but never expected to find anyone worth dating. I found just meeting as friends without expectations didn't put any pressure on either of us.

Feb 08 13 11:12 am Link

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Connor Photography

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Newark, Delaware, US

Paige Morgan wrote:

Lots of folks have no desire to date me big_smile . I've had a lot of issues with people I date complaining about how much I work, and that I give them way too much space.

Ambitious type A personalities are not tolerable for everyone.

Haha.... soooo it is not the others; it is YOU with a high bar. tongue

May be you haven't bumped into the ones whom you are willing to become a princess.  I am sure the day will come.  Keep flirting. 

smile

Feb 08 13 11:13 am Link