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S W I N S K E Y
Posts: 24376
Saint Petersburg, Florida, US
every relationship i have ever been in, they found me. ![https://i.imgur.com/m8TQi.png]()
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Light Writer
Posts: 18391
Phoenix, Arizona, US
-JAY- wrote:
I met my wife on a website called Model Mayhem. [Monty Python voice]
You lucky, luck basterd.
LOL
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JAE
Posts: 2207
West Chester, Pennsylvania, US
I used to meet people all the time when I was constantly going out and doing stuff. Could be going out and doing anything really. I don't meet people as often anymore since I don't really go out as much. It's been cold and I'm more of a warm weather, outdoor person. So as long as you are around people there is a chance to meet people. Simple 
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Llobet Photography
Posts: 4915
Fort Lauderdale, Florida, US
I have no friends and I don't go out. I have no partners.
Do the opposite of what I do and I'm sure you'll find someone.
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Jules NYC
Posts: 21617
New York, New York, US
Light Writer wrote:
Friends, and friends of friends.
In places you like to be
you'll find those like you
but not through poems,
poems suck as pickup lines
not even noticed
or the internet
which seems to work for volume-
quality unsure
LOL Not true!
Writers are more attractive than anyone that owns the best of physical beauty.
I know because the most attractive man I ever seen I dated already.
I would love to meet a poet!
Poets write poems because they're writers, not pickup artists:)
You know I am soooooo glad I read these threads.
Just last week I was telling myself how beautiful this guitarist wrote this song. It was so beautiful, the words and the music I told myself his girlfriend is so lucky.
I already met his parents who greeted me with open arms (I am his writing partner) and we already get along awesome.
He just broke up with his girlfriend and is sweet, kind and is super talented. He already flirted with me.
Doesn't hurt that he's young and good looking too.
I don't want to mess up our working arrangement but if enough time passes and he's over his girlfriend and still wants to keep me warm, I'm not going to think twice.
PS, this gentleman sitting next to me waiting at the auto store has a killer English accent and is most likely older than me.
Lol
In my teenage or early 20's the thought of going out with someone twice my age wasn't even a thought. In fact, I'd go as far as to say it would be disgusting.
Since High School, I never dated anyone older than me.
Why?
Bitter, bitching, tired people:)
That look busted too.
All I have to say is David Gilmour is still handsome.
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Light Writer
Posts: 18391
Phoenix, Arizona, US
Jules NYC wrote:
Not true!
Writers are more attractive than anyone that owns the best of physical beauty.
I know because the most attractive man I ever seen I dated already.
I would love to meet a poet!
Poets write poems because they're writers, not pickup artists:)
You know I am soooooo glad I read these threads.
Just last week I was telling myself how beautiful this guitarist wrote this song. It was so beautiful, the words and the music I told myself his girlfriend is so lucky.
I already met his parents who greeted me with open arms (I am his writing partner) and we already get along awesome.
He just broke up with his girlfriend and is sweet, kind and is super talented. He already flirted with me.
Doesn't hurt that he's young and good looking too.
I don't want to mess up our working arrangement but if enough time passes and he's over his girlfriend and still wants to keep me warm, I'm not going to think twice.
PS, this gentleman sitting next to me waiting at the auto store has a killer English accent and is most likely older than me.
Lol
In my teenage or early 20's the thought of going out with someone twice my age wasn't even a thought. In fact, I'd go as far as to say it would be disgusting.
Since High School, I never dated anyone older than me.
Why?
Bitter, bitching, tired people:)
That look busted too.
All I have to say is David Gilmour is still handsome. https://www.modelmayhem.com/po.php?thread_id=875843
Over the last six years I've written about 500 of those.
2500 lines, I do it because I love to do it,
but poetry don't pay the rent, or help you meet girls
time to rethink my strategy...
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Jules NYC
Posts: 21617
New York, New York, US
Light Writer wrote:
https://www.modelmayhem.com/po.php?thread_id=875843
Over the last six years I've written about 500 of those.
2500 lines, I do it because I love to do it,
but poetry don't pay the rent, or help you meet girls
time to rethink my strategy... Ooooo
Too bad I live in CT.
I write poetry because I love it too.
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Light Writer
Posts: 18391
Phoenix, Arizona, US
![https://photos.modelmayhem.com/photos/110303/19/4d705fd303109_m.jpg]() I don't look much better in focus, either.
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Jules NYC
Posts: 21617
New York, New York, US
Light Writer wrote:
![https://photos.modelmayhem.com/photos/110303/19/4d705fd303109_m.jpg]()
I don't look much better in focus, either.
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Jules NYC
Posts: 21617
New York, New York, US
Truth be told, it is not hard for me to find dates. Young, older... whatever.
The hard part is finding someone compatible with me.
I am not weirdly particular but I adore beautiful hearts and people with class.
The combination is rare.
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Caradoc
Posts: 19900
Scottsdale, Arizona, US
EvaScarlet wrote:
After the dissolution of my last relationship, I am starting to wonder where, exactly, people typically meet other people that they end up dating... Don't go places expecting to find someone to be in a relationship/dating.
Go places where you enjoy yourself. You'll more than likely find someone there who enjoys the same things, and that's where you start...
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Cherrystone
Posts: 37171
Columbus, Ohio, US
S W I N S K E Y wrote:
[tough love] If you think one your friends is going to offer you up, a 20 year old glamour model, you'll be waiting a long time...
here's the deal Chris, you are going to be alone, as long as you continue to think that women, anywhere near your own age, are cougars. you discount/ignore real live, attractive/intelligent women, in favor of being strung along (led on), by girls that don't have a bit of concern for you, except as a revenue stream.
you continue to do the same thing over and over, yet expect a different result.
as a friend, its hard to watch. do something different![/tough love] +1
Golden words Mr Swinskey.
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Jules NYC
Posts: 21617
New York, New York, US
Small Fruit Pits wrote:
+1
Golden words Mr Swinskey. I agree.
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Chris Rifkin
Posts: 25581
Tampa, Florida, US
My point was completely missed so let me try stating this another way
forget what my tastes are in women for now....
Where does a guy who's occupation and what he does for fun the rare times he goes out has himself around 90% dudes,and the few women he comes into are for the most part undesireable..
I don't enjoy bars/clubs and I have been there/done that with dating sites....
I'm not into the whole volunteering thing(some always suggest that,not my thing)
This is the dilema
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S W I N S K E Y
Posts: 24376
Saint Petersburg, Florida, US
Chris Rifkin wrote:
My point was completely missed so let me try stating this another way forget what my tastes are in women for now....
Where does a guy who's occupation and what he does for fun the rare times he goes out has himself around 90% dudes,and the few women he comes into are for the most part undesireable.. don't enjoy bars/clubs and I have been there/done that with dating sites....I'm not into the whole volunteering thing(some always suggest that,not my thing) This is the dilema wanna tell him again Jules?
![https://i.imgur.com/m8TQi.png]()
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Lightcraft Studio
Posts: 13682
Las Vegas, Nevada, US
Chris Rifkin wrote:
My point was completely missed so let me try stating this another way
forget what my tastes are in women for now....
Where does a guy who's occupation and what he does for fun the rare times he goes out has himself around 90% dudes,and the few women he comes into are for the most part undesireable..
I don't enjoy bars/clubs and I have been there/done that with dating sites....
I'm not into the whole volunteering thing(some always suggest that,not my thing)
This is the dilema When you're not looking for someone is when you'll probably find that someone.
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Cherrystone
Posts: 37171
Columbus, Ohio, US
Chris Rifkin wrote:
My point was completely missed so let me try stating this another way
forget what my tastes are in women for now....
Where does a guy who's occupation and what he does for fun the rare times he goes out has himself around 90% dudes,and the few women he comes into are for the most part undesireable..
I don't enjoy bars/clubs and I have been there/done that with dating sites....
I'm not into the whole volunteering thing(some always suggest that,not my thing)
This is the dilema The point missed wasn't yours.
The dilema is of your own mind.....the tale it has spun that keeps you trapped
There is a verse in the Eagles song, Already Gone......very appropo to this.
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Chris Rifkin
Posts: 25581
Tampa, Florida, US
Lightcraft Studio wrote:
When you're not looking for someone is when you'll probably find that someone. I actually haven't been looking since my fiance left me because of the above situation,and because she put me in a financial and credit situation that made me even more undesireable at the time...Things might be mostly cleared up by the end of this year...but still...the woman has always made the move on me...but if there is no water you can't have fish,no?
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Jules NYC
Posts: 21617
New York, New York, US
S W I N S K E Y wrote:
wanna tell him again Jules? Chris, the ease of finding someone and letting that person into your heart is up to you.
Don't overthink it, you make it so hard on yourself.
No, you don't have to settle, but try to see people with greater perspective.
Not everyone fits in this specific box nor does anyone want to feel less than this idealized person you've created in your mind.
There are gorgeous women in your age range... jeez, even I can see that looking at profiles here:)
Just be you and live life.
Young or older, there are so many lovely, beautiful people in the world.
What I will say again, is letting go of grief, not a memory to allow yourself to love again.
Two people need to allow their hearts to be open to love each other.
Free some grief and sadness.
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Ash Photographic
Posts: 378
Cirencester, England, United Kingdom
I don't, but I live in hope nevertheless.
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Chris Rifkin
Posts: 25581
Tampa, Florida, US
Jules NYC wrote:
Chris, the ease of finding someone and letting that person into your heart is up to you.
Don't overthink it, you make it so hard on yourself.
No, you don't have to settle, but try to see people with greater perspective.
Not everyone fits in this specific box nor does anyone want to feel less than this idealized person you've created in your mind.
There are gorgeous women in your age range... jeez, even I can see that looking at profiles here:)
Just be you and live life.
Young or older, there are so many lovely, beautiful people in the world.
What I will say again, is letting go of grief, not a memory to allow yourself to love again.
Two people need to allow their hearts to be open to love each other.
Free some grief and sadness.
erm...the only reason I brought up my ex was because I was agreeing with the person that said school was one of the best places to hook up and I told of my example.....
and
yes,she set some standards that will be hard to top,but its not like I haven't tried to(hell,I got engaged,even though that was a diaster,its proof I moved on)
And FYI Oksana was one person who way surpassed my ex....
My whole point is....
you,Doug,a few others,you are talking about unicorns...
there are rumors of their existance....
until proven otherwise they are rumors....
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ontherocks
Posts: 23575
Salem, Oregon, US
we just finished a photo shoot for a lady to use on an online dating site (she didn't say which one). my stepsister met her current husband through one.
one of our wedding couples rekindled an old friendship via facebook. actually we had another couple that rekindled as well.
i think it's like anything else. you have to get your name out there. cast your net wide and see what happens.
i've also read that sometimes your next mate is actually someone that you already know but might have overlooked previously. or maybe they just suddenly become available and you can pounce on them.
i've always thought group activities were good. you can meet people without the pressure of a solo date. i find solo dates where you don't already know someone very stressful.
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Lightcraft Studio
Posts: 13682
Las Vegas, Nevada, US
Chris Rifkin wrote:
I actually haven't been looking since my fiance left me because of the above situation,and because she put me in a financial and credit situation that made me even more undesireable at the time...Things might be mostly cleared up by the end of this year...but still...the woman has always made the move on me...but if there is no water you can't have fish,no? I'm no expert, since I' m still married to my first wife. We were both perfectly happy being single when we first met, and living on opposite sides of the country. Things happen when you least expect it.
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Chris Rifkin
Posts: 25581
Tampa, Florida, US
twoharts wrote:
i've always thought group activities were good. you can meet people without the pressure of a solo date. i find solo dates where you don't already know someone very stressful. That is how (sorry Jules)me and my first hooked up,group trip to the Catskills...
Being with a group of fun people and having fun also works(not nessesarily for me but I have seen a few of my other perpetually single dudes meet their sig others in this way,including the waitress)
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ontherocks
Posts: 23575
Salem, Oregon, US
i've always thought that love finds you when you're ready for it to find you. it's like you're in a good place and putting out a vibe that says "love me". but yeah you meet someone one day and there's a spark and you think "this is interesting". Lightcraft Studio wrote:
Things happen when you least expect it.
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ontherocks
Posts: 23575
Salem, Oregon, US
group ski trips were how i managed to get laid in college. nothing else worked but group ski trips were practically a sure thing. Chris Rifkin wrote:
That is how (sorry Jules)me and my first hooked up,group trip to the Catskills...
Being with a group of fun people and having fun also works(not nessesarily for me but I have seen a few of my other perpetually single dudes meet their sig others in this way,including the waitress)
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Chris Rifkin
Posts: 25581
Tampa, Florida, US
Lightcraft Studio wrote:
I'm no expert, since I' m still married to my first wife. We were both perfectly happy being single when we first met, and living on opposite sides of the country. Things happen when you least expect it. well...just about totally given up would be least expecting it then I guess
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Jules NYC
Posts: 21617
New York, New York, US
Chris Rifkin wrote:
erm...the only reason I brought up my ex was because I was agreeing with the person that said school was one of the best places to hook up and I told of my example.....
and
yes,she set some standards that will be hard to top,but its not like I haven't tried to(hell,I got engaged,even though that was a diaster,its proof I moved on)
And FYI Oksana was one person who way surpassed my ex....
My whole point is....
you,Doug,a few others,you are talking about unicorns...
there are rumors of their existance....
until proven otherwise they are rumors.... I hear you.
I mean damn, the guy I speak of that I dated from September to December was a 'Unicorn' as you call it.
If he ditched the 'friend' he couldn't let go of and apologized to me, I'd consider trying again.
That I highly doubt would happen.
All I know is this:
I don't start relationships that are unrealistic due to circumstance and proximity.
If two people want it to work, it just does.
I certainly would start anew and all past unicorns stay exactly there, in the past.
Who knows, maybe I'll find someone that will blow my mind on all points.
Until and if then, I keep smiling and living:)
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Jules NYC
Posts: 21617
New York, New York, US
Chris Rifkin wrote:
That is how (sorry Jules)me and my first hooked up,group trip to the Catskills...
Being with a group of fun people and having fun also works(not nessesarily for me but I have seen a few of my other perpetually single dudes meet their sig others in this way,including the waitress) You don't have to apologize to me!
I am trying to help you:)
Just know that each person and relationship manifests differently.
If you think of dating anyone from this community, they'll just keep hearing over and over about your exes.
Something to think about.
Living up to or surpassing a prior relationship is the last thing you or a potential love interest should keep making mental notes about. No one likes to be compared to anyone.
The premise is to just 'be' and feel magic if it presents itself.
Then the 'best' and the 'one and only' theories become reality.
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Jerry Nemeth
Posts: 33355
Dearborn, Michigan, US
-JAY- wrote:
I met my wife on a website called Model Mayhem. Model Mayhem is not supposed to be a dating site! 
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Jules NYC
Posts: 21617
New York, New York, US
Jerry Nemeth wrote:
Model Mayhem is not supposed to be a dating site! Some people use Bandmix
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Paolo D Photography
Posts: 11502
San Francisco, California, US
Jerry Nemeth wrote:
Model Mayhem is not supposed to be a dating site! They're not dating, they're married.
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DougBPhoto
Posts: 39248
Portland, Oregon, US
JaneyGarnet wrote:
I found an awesome boyfriend on okcupid. He even buys me glass! Who wouldn't love a guy that buys them glass !!
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Two Pears Studio
Posts: 3632
Wilmington, Delaware, US
Take on a problem worthy of your life... one where you have no idea how or if it will ever be solved. Enroll others in the opportunity... and you will find a partner worthy of your life...
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KonstantKarma
Posts: 2513
Campobello, South Carolina, US
Jerry Nemeth wrote:
Model Mayhem is not supposed to be a dating site! We can't help it when we invite the models over for a shoot and they won't leave!
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Solas
Posts: 10390
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
-JAY- wrote:
I met my wife on a website called Model Mayhem. /thread
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S W I N S K E Y
Posts: 24376
Saint Petersburg, Florida, US
Jules NYC wrote:
I am not weirdly particular but I adore beautiful hearts and people with class. ok, so im @50% right now....so there's room to improve...
![https://i.imgur.com/m8TQi.png]()
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Llobet Photography
Posts: 4915
Fort Lauderdale, Florida, US
Jules NYC wrote:
I am not weirdly particular but I adore beautiful hearts and people with class. I've got no class, and I've got no principals.
'Cause school's out!
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