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dealing with unaccepting relatives
I most recently received a text message from my husband's aunt who pointed out to me that she unfriended me from facebook because she's constantly embarrassed and offended by my pictures. I had a portfolio album on my facebook, but don't feel anything was embarrassing or offending. I am very proud of my portfolio, but i do admit some pictures are sexy, but they are tasteful imo. My own family is extremely supportive. I am not sure what to say or how to deal. I haven't responded. I thought I should ask how any of you have dealt with similar situations. Nicole Mar 24 13 04:13 pm Link It's your Husband's Aunt ... She's not really Family, I wouldn't worry about it. Mar 24 13 04:15 pm Link Ask him if he considers her family. Or is concerned, my aunt is my family. Dearly I created a 2nd fb for this specific reason. Mar 24 13 04:16 pm Link Everyone has to learn how to use facebook to keep things they don't like from their timeline. She figured it out.... Do you really care if your husband's mother's sister thinks your pictures are too sexy? Do you really care if she chooses not to see them? Do you need her support? Mar 24 13 04:18 pm Link MrsNikki H wrote: Yup. In spades. My husband and myself just excluded them from our lives. Mar 24 13 04:18 pm Link Let him deal with her. She's not your family. Mar 24 13 04:18 pm Link Don't reply. It's not worth it. Not to mention it's non of her business... If you are happy with what you are doing and you have a man that supports you thats all that matters. Just ignore her  Mar 24 13 04:26 pm Link Soooo....exactly how many pounds overweight is your husband's aunt? Mar 24 13 04:30 pm Link MrsNikki H wrote: If her only interest was unfriending you she would have done it without a word. The fact that she announced it to you means she wants an angry, defensive response so she can get into it with you. It would be satisfying to respond, "well, the photos you post of your hideous children embarrass me but I can rise above it and just look away..." but it's not worth it to say that lol. Mar 24 13 04:32 pm Link Michael Pandolfo wrote:
Mar 24 13 04:33 pm Link Michael Pandolfo wrote: It's not the overweight thing, it's those long hairs growing out of that great big, dark mole on left jaw that's truly bothersome. Mar 24 13 04:36 pm Link MrsNikki H wrote: seems to be a FB problem.....All Families have one or two or three nuts in them...nothing new...move along...it aint a biggie. Mar 24 13 04:37 pm Link JOEL McDONALD wrote: oh my Mar 24 13 04:41 pm Link Colorado Model Amber wrote: She doesn't need people like that in her life. Mar 24 13 04:41 pm Link Thanks for the feedback (and laughs) everyone. I don't plan on responding at all. Not gonna let her discourage me. Mar 24 13 04:47 pm Link It is not your problem it is hers. I once had Cardinal Bernadine see one of my photos. He thought it was art and showed off one of gods great works (the girl of course). I have had others look at it and say a good christian would not look a photos like that. I asked the Cardinal about that. He said that if someone looks at a piece of art like this (looking at my photo) and see something wrong then it is that person who has a problem not the artist. Or in your case the subject. Mar 24 13 04:48 pm Link MrsNikki H wrote: Dealing with relatives being embarrassed by me when I've done nothing wrong at all plagued me probably until my 30s started six years ago. I honestly learned to stop caring about what other people think about me. My great wife taught me how to do it. I have tattoos and that is highly frowned upon in my family and there are other things too. Im in a mixed race marriage, i'm into artistic things instead of being a lawyer or professor. I even had to censor things I said on Facebook. I really think you've just got to let go and not even respond. No one should be embarrassed for you being yourself and that's honestly a problem of theirs. Just my two cents. I'm no expert but I know all about relatives claiming to be embarrassed by me. When I let this bother me in the least, I just start looking up Frank Zappa quotes. Mar 24 13 04:49 pm Link i've seen models post stuff on facebook i thought maybe shouldn't be on Facebook. it's not mayhem. i've also known of models who've had their photos take down or accounts shut down. i'd just tell her you're sorry if you offended her and didn't mean any harm but that it's an important part of your life and you're going to keep on doing it. if facebook allows you to post those images then you aren't breaking any rules. some models have two accounts. one for family and one for modeling. one of my models has run into a similar issue where she was getting asked to stop modeling once she married into the family. her response was "over my dead body" lol Mar 24 13 05:46 pm Link Family support? Haven't had it the past 45 years or so. They wanted me to be a physicist. Anything less was failure. There's no way to please everybody. You got to please yourself. (Loosely taken from Ricky Nelson.) Mar 24 13 05:52 pm Link It's your life, not her's. You are only young once so do what you want. If you are proud of your images be proud. Don't let anyone try to bring you down. No matter what you do in life someone will always try to discourage you. Be strong and proud! If it doesn't bother you or your husband than who cares what anyone else thinks. Mar 24 13 06:25 pm Link Why do you have "to deal"? Why is her approval necessary at all? Mar 24 13 06:31 pm Link Well, let's put this into perspective. If she has an issue with your pictures, whether for herself or for them being visible to the rest of her network, that's her prerogative. But Facebook isn't the issue, your actual relationship with her is. If you care about your relationship with her, then find out if your pictures have any other effect on that and then you can figure it out from there. If it's simply an issue of visibility on Facebook, then don't interact with her on Facebook, simple as that. It's just a website. If you don't care about your relationship with her, then there's really no issue at all, is there? Mar 24 13 07:27 pm Link I have this issue with my mom and my brother mostly. They have no idea why I model and just assume that I am infatuated with pictures of myself. My mom often assumes I am doing something "slutty" if she doesn't see all my photos that I hide her from on facebook. She also thinks I need an llama herder even when working multiple times with the same person. I know she's not going to change, so I simply do not tell her when I don't bring an llama herder and I do not talk about or share any photos with her I think she will have an issue with. Mar 24 13 08:23 pm Link lol. makes me think of a parrot looking in the mirror to check himself out. my family thinks i shoot porn. i guess they haven't ever been to pornhub. Valerie Kelly wrote: Mar 24 13 08:27 pm Link I stop talking to them. Sounds like your relative already handled it for you. I might respond with "oh, I see! Well I'm glad you took care of that for us, have a great life" because fuck her, but probably not. Mar 24 13 08:28 pm Link Mar 24 13 08:28 pm Link MrsNikki H wrote: Hi, Mar 24 13 10:11 pm Link Michael Pandolfo wrote: this ++ Mar 24 13 10:14 pm Link MrsNikki H wrote: good deal. Your portfolio is tame by a long shot from some out there. haha She is just most likely very old school and unhappy with her own life which is why she has to troll on others. good luck with your modeling! Mar 24 13 10:22 pm Link A maternal aunt has had a problem in the past with my images showing up on Facebook. She contacted my parents, thinking that I hadn't told them what I was doing; they told her they are proud of me! She posts TONS of 'sexy facebook' photos, which I find just appalling. Mar 24 13 10:23 pm Link Mar 24 13 10:40 pm Link Michael Pandolfo wrote: ROFL! My first thought too! Mar 24 13 10:42 pm Link Valerie Kelly wrote: Interesting that you are not the only model I'm working with that has a problematic mom! It's a little different though. I've been a friend of this young lady's family for a long time, and had photographed her mom years ago. Now I'm working with the daughter, helping her out, but the mom is pissed! After she saw the images of her daughter, she called me up several times to cuss me out " ... for taking such beautiful pictures" of her daughter! Mar 25 13 12:36 am Link MrsNikki H wrote: I have 2 facebook profiles. Mar 25 13 01:02 am Link The more I read these posts on family the more I'm disgusted at the thought of being with anyone. Mar 25 13 04:22 am Link Michael Pandolfo wrote: This is, I believe, what they call on MM a 'Quote for Truth'. Mar 25 13 04:34 am Link Michael Pandolfo wrote: hahaha! Mar 25 13 04:41 am Link Forget her bitter ass. Mar 25 13 04:53 am Link Is Facebook reality? Mar 25 13 05:00 am Link my grandmother told me she was offended by some of my photos on facebook. of course i was hurt, but i love her and wanted to respect her so i just block her from the albums that i know she won't want to view. a few people i talked to about it were all like "screw her! if she don't like it that's her problem!" but i feel like my family is important enough to make a few simple facebook changes for. Mar 25 13 05:04 am Link |
