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Photographer

SensualThemes

Posts: 3042

Swoyersville, Pennsylvania, US

IrisSwope wrote:
Everyone has to learn how to use facebook to keep things they don't like from their timeline. She figured it out....

Do you really care if your husband's mother's sister thinks your pictures are too sexy? Do you really care if she chooses not to see them?
Do you need her support?

The husband might

But, the first part i agree

Mar 25 13 05:05 am Link

Photographer

SensualThemes

Posts: 3042

Swoyersville, Pennsylvania, US

Damianne wrote:
I stop talking to them.

Sounds like your relative already handled it for you.

I might respond with "oh, I see! Well I'm glad you took care of that for us, have a great life" because fuck her, but probably not.

So if someone disagrees with something you do, you end all relationship with them?  Wow.  Way to reduce the xmas card list

Mar 25 13 05:09 am Link

Photographer

JohnEnger

Posts: 783

Jessheim, Akershus, Norway

Steve Franco Media wrote:

So if someone disagrees with something you do, you end all relationship with them?  Wow.  Way to reduce the xmas card list

Realized I have to ask just about everyone to sod off. Hey where did all my friends and family go???

Lol

Mar 25 13 05:26 am Link

Photographer

JohnEnger

Posts: 783

Jessheim, Akershus, Norway

MrsNikki H wrote:
I most recently received a text message from my husband's aunt who pointed out to me that she unfriended me from facebook because she's constantly embarrassed and offended by my pictures.  I had a portfolio album on my facebook,  but don't feel anything was embarrassing or offending. I am very proud of my portfolio, but i do admit some pictures are sexy, but they are tasteful imo.  My own family is extremely supportive. 
I am not sure what to say or how to deal.  I haven't responded.  I thought I should ask how any of you have dealt with similar situations.
Nicole

Doing what you do is always going to offend someone or make some uncomfortable. Just tell them that you feel it's ok for you, and go about your business. UNLESS there are kids involved. Nices, nephews, other close relatives that may be teased or picked on because of your activities. Then you may need to think through what you publish where. At least if it's not a living...

J.

Mar 25 13 05:30 am Link

Photographer

Michael Fryd

Posts: 3882

Miami Beach, Florida, US

MrsNikki H wrote:
I most recently received a text message from my husband's aunt who pointed out to me that she unfriended me from facebook because she's constantly embarrassed and offended by my pictures.  I had a portfolio album on my facebook,  but don't feel anything was embarrassing or offending. I am very proud of my portfolio, but i do admit some pictures are sexy, but they are tasteful imo.  My own family is extremely supportive. 
I am not sure what to say or how to deal.  I haven't responded.  I thought I should ask how any of you have dealt with similar situations.
Nicole

I would respond with "No problem.  Sorry you feel that way."

No need to say anything else.


Why try to pick a fight, or worry about someone like this?  It doesn't matter what you do, you won't change her mind.  Let her live her life. 

We all need to choose our path in the world.  No matter what path you choose, there are always people who will disagree with your choice. 

You shouldn't worry that she doesn't approve of your choice.  There is no need to stoop to her level and tell her you don't approve of her choices.   If she's offended by certain images, who are you to tell her to change?  She should be allowed the choice not to look.

Mar 25 13 08:01 am Link

Digital Artist

Angrand Dezigns

Posts: 65

Raleigh, North Carolina, US

I don't think you need to take it personally. I feel that the only way his aunt will get over it, is if you stop Modeling. That's how some people are, they want YOU to fit into their mold.

She was probably on Facebook just to spy on you and keep track of you (and what you're uploading). Her unfriending you did you a favor.

Lastly, you can't please everyone.

Mar 27 13 06:27 am Link

Photographer

Harold Rose

Posts: 2925

Calhoun, Georgia, US

MrsNikki H wrote:
I most recently received a text message from my husband's aunt who pointed out to me that she unfriended me from facebook because she's constantly embarrassed and offended by my pictures.  I had a portfolio album on my facebook,  but don't feel anything was embarrassing or offending. I am very proud of my portfolio, but i do admit some pictures are sexy, but they are tasteful imo.  My own family is extremely supportive. 
I am not sure what to say or how to deal.  I haven't responded.  I thought I should ask how any of you have dealt with similar situations.
Nicole

Early days of my time here,  I got a negative feedback for  group of portfolio pictures..    Was my younger sister,  who had a full grasp on my work,,  She suggested that I put  my calendar work in a seprrate portfolio..  It was not a negative comment,  it was just a seperate  catagories of work.

Mar 27 13 06:34 am Link

Artist/Painter

Two Pears Studio

Posts: 3398

Wilmington, Delaware, US

Unless she is paying your bills... who cares? Really?

There will always be people who would rather concentrate on other people's stuff than their own. She must not have a lot going on in her life that what you do matters.

It is facebook for God's sake.... I'd tell her that she is intitled to her opinion and that you are okay with her feelings.

Mar 27 13 06:47 am Link

Photographer

JAE

Posts: 2142

West Chester, Pennsylvania, US

I created a list that left out broadcasting stuff to family/coworkers.  Eventually I just created a separate account for photography.

I like what I do and see nothing "wrong" with it, but I realize the rest of the world isn't always going to follow me in that belief.  Better to just advertise to the people that want to see it.

Mar 27 13 07:01 am Link

Photographer

Carl Blum Photography

Posts: 544

Las Vegas, Nevada, US

I must admit, My Faceybook is NOT for my Family, as I have more NUDEs on my Facebook than anywhere.

When I find someone who is offended by Anything I write, post or share on the Faceybook, I simply Block them, not jut unfriend them, but Block them because their morbid curiosity will bring them back to viewing your stuff, just so they can talk behind your back...

Mar 27 13 07:05 am Link

Photographer

Marin Photography NYC

Posts: 7248

New York, New York, US

She fixed the problem already. Just don't respond. Don't feed trolls.

Mar 27 13 07:23 am Link

Model

Alixx Rose

Posts: 225

Atlanta, Georgia, US

Michael Pandolfo wrote:
Soooo....exactly how many pounds overweight is your husband's aunt?

hahahahahahaha and ugly

Mar 27 13 09:37 am Link

Artist/Painter

sdgillis

Posts: 2444

Portland, Oregon, US

my usual response to people who get offended by things they see online:
"Welcome to the internet."

Mar 27 13 10:01 am Link