51 Imaging wrote:
...practice, lot's of practice.

+1

sospix wrote:
Go through each page, and with great energy and exuberance, practice every position and nuance with your chosen partner until you've both reached Nirvana, or complete exhaustion  .  .  .



.  .  .  oh, and look, this edition has "pop-ups"  .  .  .  hmmmmmm, wonder if that's a secret code  .  .  . 

SOS

Laura UnBound wrote:
good sex has a lot less to do with silly positions and rituals, more to do with good communication of your wants, needs, and the way your body operates, and understanding of your own body (and they theirs).

+1

Still clothed, Laura?

Samantha Liana wrote:
Lol, let's talk about sex baby!

I'm looking for any type of recommendations in terms of... Kamasutra, Trantra, Sexual Meditation etc... Books? Classes? Try-At-Homes?

Sexual enhancement is the goal!

I've never had sex with a book or a class. It is possible I have not gone to the most appropriate classes for the subject at hand but I was unaware of this sort of academic availability. My high school teacher is another matter, we were not in class.

That is all I have to say on this matter at this time.

Koryn wrote:
When I first met my significant other, almost a year ago, I took him home on the first date and the weeks after that were filled with lots of most excellent sex.

These days, he often complains he's too tired and mostly just wants to be cuddled. He falls asleep in like .045 seconds after lying down. No matter how tired I've been, I've really never been too tired to have sex - at least not that I can recall.

I find this extremely frustrating, as sex has been an important part of my relationships, for my entire adult life. I don't think I've ever been in a relationship where sex wasn't a big focal point of that connection. I recently expressed how impatient I was becoming with lack of consistent sex, but my partner isn't one to discuss things candidly and doesn't have a lot to say about much of anything. I never really know what he's thinking, and asking directly tends to elicit a one or two sentence response that fails to thoroughly answer my inquiries. He just says, "I don't want you to feel that way, but I'm just so tired when I see you."

It makes me feel generally undesirable. I also HATE initiating sex (which I generally have to do now), and prefer that it be always initiated by the other person. Knowing that I am providing for THEIR needs is what leads to satisfaction for me. When I have to ask for it, then it seems like I'm the one who's being provided for sexually, and that is a tremendous turn-off to me. I like to be wanted, and "taken" whenever the other person pleases. I know that sounds repulsive to some people, but I find it exciting when I feel like sex is a decision my partner makes for me. Entering a sexual relationship, to me, is an act of surrendering myself to someone else, who will do with my body as they choose. My current partner is so not like that, that I don't even know how to comprehend his sexuality. It's very...passive.

That being said, it is the best emotional relationship I have ever had. And I've never met anyone so genuinely kind or supportive in my entire life. Someone who is so totally free of judgement and jadedness. I've also never dated anyone who is so calm, collected, mature and easy going. That element never ceases to amaze me, and is why I have thus far been able to overlook the gradual decrease in sex.

With not even a year in to the relationship, you might want to find a new partner. Not meant to be harsh but I've been where you are. Sexual incompatibility is a real issue and your are so young ..you need to decide if this is the way you want to grow old or try for something more fulfilling. I've had similar partners where my sex drive was more active than theirs. It got to the point where I had to cut bait.

Sex was more important to me than it was to the other person. I'm not talking daily sex but at least once a week. There were times where we went a month or 2 without anything more than a kiss. I realized that things were not going to change and that this would be the way life would continue and in my heart of hearts, I found that unacceptable. I need more from my partner physically. When most couples, who have been together for a while, reach the sexless stage in their relationship, they don't have many options. I'm not one for affairs and after having worked in the porn industry for several years (not as a performer), once you see how the sausage is made, it looses it's taste. I decided to end things and to find another partner. I'm so glad that I did. Things are so much better now and we are definitely more in sync than I ever was or could have been in my previous relationship.

Laura UnBound wrote:
good sex has a lot less to do with silly positions and rituals, more to do with good communication of your wants, needs, and the way your body operates, and understanding of your own body (and they theirs).

Take note people, this one knows.   

FilmmakerDC wrote:

With not even a year in to the relationship, you might want to find a new partner. Not meant to be harsh but I've been where you are. Sexual incompatibility is a real issue and your are so young ..you need to decide if this is the way you want to grow old or try for something more fulfilling. I've had similar partners where my sex drive was more active than theirs. It got to the point where I had to cut bait.

Sex was more important to me than it was to the other person. I'm not talking daily sex but at least once a week. There were times where we went a month or 2 without anything more than a kiss. I realized that things were not going to change and that this would be the way life would continue and in my heart of hearts, I found that unacceptable. I need more from my partner physically. When most couples, who have been together for a while, reach the sexless stage in their relationship, they don't have many options. I'm not one for affairs and after having worked in the porn industry for several years (not as a performer), once you see how the sausage is made, it looses it's taste. I decided to end things and to find another partner. I'm so glad that I did. Things are so much better now and we are definitely more in sync than I ever was or could have been in my previous relationship.

For me, it's been a trade off. While I always had great sex in past relationships, those generally lacked genuine emotional/psychological intimacy. I'm 33, have had 2 live-in relationships, and one (failed, obviously) marriage. I've dated a TON of people. I often had a great sex life, but felt lonely and unable to connect with my partners. This is the first time I've felt honestly connected and supported by a partner. I've always felt like I was just out there on my own, even during the two years I was married. I don't feel that way anymore, I feel like I actually have a partner and a supportive person who cares about me in a bigger picture sort of way.

Over the last few years, I came to feel like love isn't so much what you "feel" as what you "do." It's a choice to love someone, because it is a choice to engage in loving, committed behaviors. Finding someone who is on the same page with me in terms of emotional commitment and staying true to your word, is nearly impossible. I don't "fall in love." I choose to love. I don't want someone who is "in love" with me, because that is superficial, I want someone who wakes up in the morning and makes the decision that their daily actions will display love.

I certainly don't feel young anymore, at least not in terms of dating and romance. I was finally ready for a life partner around the time I turned 30, had another relationship fail at 31 and met my current partner at 32. It has taken me so long, and so much exhaustive searching just to locate a good emotional match for me, that I realize if I let it go, I'd likely never replace that. Most people my age are settled down and raising several kids, or even have teenaged kids. I also don't want to be with a person who has children from a previous relationship, wants kids (I don't want them), or has a lot of "baby mama drama." There's A LOT of baby mama drama among people who're not settled down in their 30s. My current partner has no kids, wants no kids, and is - in some regards - the ONLY person with whom I've had a strong, sincere emotional connection.

It is, in so many ways, the relationship I've waited my whole life for, but I see there are some sexual things that are not ideal. Still, after 13 years of trying to find someone I can feel real emotional closeness with, it's a small price to pay.

Samantha Liana wrote:
Hasn't anyone ever heard of Paul Finch? From American Pie? LOL.

He know's what I'm talkin about.

So does Steve Stifler's Mom...

Samantha Liana wrote:
Lol, let's talk about sex baby!

I'm looking for any type of recommendations in terms of... Kamasutra, Trantra, Sexual Meditation etc... Books? Classes? Try-At-Homes?

Sexual enhancement is the goal!

But, I'm a virgin

Eros Fine Art Photo wrote:
As Laura said; great sex is not like following the steps in a dance routine.  It's about trust, intimacy, love, respect, adoration, and uninhibited desire.  When you find someone who can connect with you on that deep a level, you'll have the best sex of your life.

I said the first part, but certainly not the second.

Excellent sex is not universally mutually exclusive to love, intimacy, or connection

salvatori. wrote:
For me, sex is best when a model shows up, poses for my camera, then demands to have intercourse.

Unfortunately, it is oftentimes intercourse with someone else once she leaves.

Nice reply !  Been there !

Laura UnBound wrote:

I said the first part, but certainly not the second.

Excellent sex is not universally mutually exclusive to love, intimacy, or connection

I guess I should clarify that the second part is just my opinion on it.  I'm sure you (generally speaking) can have highly erotic and firing hot sex with a stranger, or someone you just met (or even a group of people).  I'm sure you even have great sex with someone you're dating, but aren't interested in delving deeper into a more committed relationship.  I'm just saying that in my experiences, the MOST satisfying and fulfilling sex I ever had was with someone who I also experienced/felt the love, trust, and adoration for.

Samantha Liana wrote:
Lol, let's talk about sex baby!

I'm looking for any type of recommendations in terms of... Try-At-Homes?

Sexual enhancement is the goal!

look no further..