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Is it offensive.....
....to list what nationalities you AREN'T interested in on a dating profile? I was having this conversation with a girlfriend a few days ago. She was saying there were a few nationalities that she simply isn't attracted to and she wanted to mention it on her profile because she was contacted by this particular nationality fairly often and felt that it was better to be honest and not waste their time or hers. I don't feel like there's a good or inoffensive way to say that; regardless of how 'true' it might be. What do you guys think? Sep 24 16 03:49 am Link I assume by "nationalities" you mean 'ethnicity' ? As long as there's no racial stereotype given as the reason why; I don't think it's offensive to simply list a type that one would not consider dating. In my opinion it's no different than listing any other physical trait that you're not attracted to. Your friend is just trying to be efficient and not waste anyone's time. nothing wrong with that. Sep 24 16 04:25 am Link Kelly Kooper wrote: I think political correctness and the fear of offending someone has run amock. I blame the sorry state of our education systems for creating this whole issue. And guess what the world is just as brutish and mean as it always was. Sep 24 16 05:14 am Link Kelly Kooper wrote: Like this:? Sep 24 16 05:16 am Link I guess the reality is no matter what you do, SOMEONE is bound to be offended. So it's probably more about making sure you're comfortable with whatever you do and then just knowing that if it's even remotely controversial, someone is going to get upset. I haven't seen how she phrased it but Udor, I sure hope it wasn't like that  Sep 24 16 05:30 am Link Only to those it offends. And if it does, so what? It's not against the law to have a preference on who you date. Unlike applying for a job or buying something, you can choose to date whoever you want for any reason you want. Some people don't date people based on their weight or their looks or their financial status. As shallow as any of those reason are, as is racial "profiling" (see what I did there?), Put down any preference you want. I'd rather have someone be upfront and honest about it. Sep 24 16 06:20 am Link udor wrote: Australians: HELL YES! Sep 24 16 07:43 am Link 
Photographer Posts: 4288 Amundsen-Scott - permanent station of the US, Unclaimed Sector, Antarctica I once posted a thread asking questions about the porn industry (the business side of it). My thread was immediately locked for reasons that the site doesn't have anything to do with the adult industry. As MM isn't a dating site, I would imagine that this thread shouldn't be here either. Of course, I'm a cranky old white Italian male. As this was a thread started by a model, I'm sure it's in no danger of being locked. Sep 24 16 08:10 am Link Kelly Kooper wrote: I am with you. I don't think there is any nice way to say something like that. Sep 24 16 08:17 am Link Yes. It is offensive, but primarily to people who find racist values offensive. The upside is that everyone knows whoever posts 'not interested in Hispanics' is racist, and can avoid them. It's nice to have a warning sign. Racist values are a total deal breaker for me, so I really appreciate knowing up front that someone has that character trait. So yes, it's offensive; but it's also very helpful in avoiding further problems or wasted time. Sep 24 16 08:33 am Link
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Reason: violates rules Comments: Soapbox is closed Sep 24 16 09:30 am Link Not offensive. Though, it's possible the ones your friend is trying to attract may find it offensive and snobbish and not bother contacting her for it. Or, I could be just assuming too much. BTW, what does she look like.  Sep 24 16 09:50 am Link
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Reason: violates rules Comments: Soapbox is closed Sep 24 16 10:32 am Link If you are not attracted to a certain type of person regardless of what trait it is, you have the right to say so. If they are offended, too bad. I don't like dating non-white guys. I'm just not physically attracted to anything else. It has nothing to do with racism. I don't dislike those people altogether or think there is something wrong with them, they just don't turn me on. It's like having a man be offended by a lesbian not being interested in men (actually, that does happen but its just as stupid). I'm as liberal as they come but this PC thing has gone a little too far. Do you have a dating profile and don't get turned on by black women? Say so. There is nothing wrong with that. Don't like asian men? Make sure they know not to waste their time. It's completely acceptable IMO. Sep 24 16 11:51 am Link Nah, being a Reptilian I only like other Saurian shape shifters. Not much into grey aliens. Although Nordic aliens look cool. Sep 24 16 11:59 am Link
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Reason: violates rules Comments: Soapbox is closed Sep 24 16 12:55 pm Link 27255 wrote: A pool in US had sign barring blacks Last Year I believe Sep 24 16 01:03 pm Link Brooklyn Bridge Images wrote: OK! Sep 24 16 01:10 pm Link Posting that you prefer interracial dating, on OKCupid, was the absolute best way I found to weed out racist people. Even if you actually don't care one way or the other. The people you do NOT want in your life will suddenly make themselves completely obvious. Sep 24 16 04:02 pm Link As is demonstrably true with just about everything, it sounds, on a very superficial level, like a good idea: why not save time and hassle announcing who you don't want to interact with? But the problem is that doing so excludes the possibility that a particular nationality could include the guy/girl of her dreams. I'm being totally serious... you just never know. I'd suggest that she not limit herself that way. She may not be attracted to most people of a particular nationality, but there could be that one guy/girl from that particular nationality that not only invalidates all her previous assumptions, but in fact makes her realize a dating site facilitated a connection that would have otherwise been pretty much impossible IRL I'm just saying, never close yourself off totally to the world on any given criteria, especially when the practical exclusion process amounts to merely swiping left. Sep 24 16 04:12 pm Link No you don't do that!!! LMAO!! How mean! Just don't respond. It's not difficult to ignore someone, and you aren't HELPING them any by hurting their feelings. Don't be a butthole. Sep 25 16 09:21 pm Link |
