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Your experience with on-line dating?
Got any on-line dating stories, tips, site recommendations, warnings, cautions, etc.? Please share! (Sorry -- I have no such experience, but I'd be curious about what others have done). Jan 12 17 07:56 am Link Pretty sure I only met one serious partner in the real world over the past decade. Two were from dating sites, but most were from communities where we shared a common interest. Meetup is great for this. Edit: Like SayCheeZ! says, though, I'm not talking about dating meetups. In spite of the common advice that Model Mayhem is not a dating site, this is where I met my fiance. We would drive around looking for locations to shoot. Eventually, we stopped bothering to shoot half the time. She accused me of kidnapping her, but I suppose Stockholm Syndrome had already set in. Didn't go out looking for this, but hey, sometimes it happens. Jan 12 17 09:23 am Link Roy Hubbard wrote: The online dating sites are horrible, most members are socially challenged and think they can just input their info and immediately find the person of their dreams. Everyone says they're honest, sincere, fun, loyal, and all those other kind of things but in reality only TIME can prove those things. Jan 12 17 09:41 am Link Do women take an escort when meeting on-line dates? Jan 12 17 10:07 am Link Mark Salo wrote: Actually, sometimes they do. If you set up a date with a woman who needs to meet at a specific bar or coffee shop at a specific time and just about nothing else will work for her, it's a near certainty that one or more of her friends will be sitting there too. It's happened a few times that my dating site date has just happened to run into her dearest friend at the venue she chose. Jan 12 17 11:28 am Link I'm REALLY good at figuring people out very quickly so I do well on these sites. I also know EXACTLY what I want and I'm not co-dependent so I don't need to date. But when I do, I've figured the person out already so meeting is just putting mannerisms together and how they treat other people etc. I'm on my third relationship from dating online in the past 10 years. I'm pretty sure I'm going to marry the fuck out of this one....and I never thought about marriage. He's just amazing. Basically, don't go on these sites expecting much. If you know what you want, you're good at figuring people out, and you arent a jaded sack of sob stories, I say go for it. It's pretty fun to sift through the profiles. In fact, in the early dating stages of my boyfriend I was using Game of Thrones lines to send to the assholes who were messaging me. Douchebag: Hey sexy! Want to chat sometime? Me: silence Douchebag (3 weeks later): Hey sexy you can at least say hi. Me: WHERE ARE MY DRAGONS?!!! Douche: I'm not sure ma’am.  Jan 12 17 01:58 pm Link Model Sarah wrote: Today is "literal day" for me -- isn't "marry the fuck out of" someone a bad thing? Don't you want to marry & fuck forever? Jan 12 17 02:08 pm Link I've had only slightly worse success meeting online than in person. I think. Hard to say, since most of my online dating happened around the same time period, and I'm almost certain the problem was me. I screwed up a lot of dates around then. For what it's worth, I've had the best luck when I got set up by a friend. Two out of four ended up being actual relationships, and I enjoyed myself on every date - even the time when it was clear early on that there would be no second date. Just goes to show that your friends probably know you better than you know yourself. Jan 12 17 05:34 pm Link my wife and I met on matchmaker.com 14 years ago and have been married for 10 years as of Nov. 2016. Jan 13 17 07:56 am Link Online dating is work and requires vigilance. Just like anything else, you get out of it what you put in. Jan 13 17 10:20 am Link Dating sites are data mining just like almost every other site online. Maybe more abusive of our personal privacy than many other sites. Do we really want to broadcast that part of our personal lives to anyone else who wants to invade our privacy digging for personal information? .... Busybodies? Nosy neighbors? Jealous BF/GF's who are being replaced? Prospective employers? Coworkers? Tenant screeners? Anyone digging for dirt, or even circumstantial allegations to leverage against us? Divorce attorneys? Child Protective Services? So-called journalists? Ad infinitum. Anywho, opportunities are were we find them. Best wishes to all. It's a jungle out there. Internet is forever. Jan 13 17 10:26 am Link My wife and I met online 8 years ago. We've been married for 2.5 years. We didn't technically meet on a "dating" site however.... Jan 13 17 01:13 pm Link Model Sarah wrote: Sounds like a match made in Heaven. It's probably better than the other way around. Jan 13 17 06:40 pm Link I almost meet all my new friends online now but never dating sites, those who are the most desperate are the most crazy (borderline) Jan 13 17 06:43 pm Link I met my partner on Okcupid about two years ago. We will be looking to buy a home together later this year. He is an amazing human being, and the person I am supposed to be with - whatever that means. It took me 32 years to find that person and it happened to be online that I found them. Jan 14 17 03:30 pm Link Mark Salo wrote: Srs? Jan 14 17 03:31 pm Link Looknsee Photography wrote: Use to carry the girl next door's books to school for her... Yep, years later we married and have an amazing son... Sometimes the least obvious route works... Besides we both the seriously enjoyed the camaraderie of sharing our daily journeys together... Jan 14 17 04:04 pm Link Online dating is typically easier for women than it is for men, and easier still if they're looking for other women. A couple years ago when I briefly thought I had the time and the stability to date someone else I had an okcupid profile. I got a ton of hits and could have had a lot of dates if I'd been less picky. As it turns out I only went on one and we didn't hit it off but I could have had lots more if I'd decided I was in a place to stick with it. Regardless of who you are or who you're looking for though, you get what you put into it usually. If your profile is blank people aren't going to reach out. If all you send to someone is "hi." people aren't going to respond to you. If you try to message people the sites matching system says you DONT match well with they probably wont answer you because you're going against the whole purpose of finding someone who is sort of LIKE you and thats a bit absurd. If you post a bunch of group shots and nobody knows which one is you, they wont talk to you. If you sound weird or misleading or cagey in your wording, if you're all "I give details to people I actually meet" or you're obviously dishonest you sound like a scammer. Be "normal" and be genuinely curious of the other person. Be worth writing back. Instead of writing "hi I like that movie too haha" write "I see ___ is your favourite movie. I enjoyed it as well, do you have a favourite scene?/I really loved the part where____/Im always using the line _____/____ was probably my favourite character, I loved how they _____/etc" The answer to the first line is "ok. Thats nice." The answer to any of the other lines opens an actual dialogue where you're getting to know something about each other...even if its just your thoughts on a movie you have in common, you have a place to go from there. Jan 15 17 11:08 am Link ...... Nothing constructive to add. Jan 15 17 11:27 am Link Back in the day, alt.com was a fun place to meet people to have fun with. I met two of my ex-wives on match.com. Jan 16 17 06:22 pm Link one experience, years ago, and i had to eventually get the cops involved. it learnt me early to shy away from such things. i would assume that your chances of meeting a compatible mate are not greatly enhanced by adding an anonymous media as a filter. or at least that's how it played out for me. no gracias. be safe out there, kids.  Jan 16 17 08:32 pm Link |
