I am lucky to be in a relationship with a photographer who shoots nudes. We both see nudes as artful and perfectly acceptable.
In the past I did date someone who was not especially supportive. Honestly, I was willing to give up modeling because my relationship was more important. I stuck to my guns that what I did was artistic, but his opinion was apparently that since I was not a career fashion model, that what I was doing was not a significant part of my life. Art nude modeling was the only art form I had and I did not want to give it up. We ended up separating for other reasons, but I was so happy to find someone afterwards who does support what I do.
And I think that is the first thing you need to figure out. What is more important to you? Your relationship or modeling nude? Yes, it would be great if your SO supported you and you can have both. But if not you will end up having to choose in the end. If you can do so up front, you can save yourself some issue and back and forth.
Jeska Renee wrote: What's it like modeling nude when you have a significant other? Do they dislike it or are not fond of it because they're not the only ones seeing your body? Seeing as how its a career, does your man/woman have to put up with it or do they see as it as just a career? I feel like the only reason I wouldn't nude model is because I'd feel like my boyfriend wouldn't be too fond of it and it could cause some serious hate in our relationship. Implied modeling is different.. I'm sure I'd have no problem doing that because my body is still covered, or the areas that my boyfriend should only see.
How do some of you models deal with it or go about nude modeling when you're dating someone/in a committed relationship?
I've admittedly had issues in the past. The choice of what to do about it really depended on the depth of the relationship and how much he meant to me vs. how much my career meant for me. This time around, I made sure that my boyfriend is comfortable with my work before we started getting serious.
Have you talked to your boyfriend about it, or are you guessing that he'd be upset about it? If you haven't talked to him, I'd suggest doing so. Once the topic is on the table and everyone's feelings are out in the open, you can work together to find a limit that works for both of you.
I have met 2 boyfriends of models who were supportive of what they do. One dropped off the model at the hotel. Another picked up the model after a shoot in northern Michigan.
I don't get why your partner would be the only one entiteled to see your body.
I love my boyfriend, and I owe him loyalty, fidelity and respect amongst others, I don't owe him my body. There is nothing sexual about a naked body per definition, it's just that, a naked body. I can use it to create art and images, without that causing any problems to the fundaments of my relationship with him.
Also, he's a photographer and shoots naked ladies all the time, that too ^^.
Stay honest with yourself and in good communication with your partner regarding decisions of this type. Obviously there would need to be some change from your current view that only the bf should see your nude body as a tenet of a committed relationship. The decision changes things as you will not be able to assign proprietary rights to views of your nude body to partners as a symbol of commitment and intimacy. Many prosper and grow in relationships without this, you'll have to decide if you can.
I'm not interested in changing your mind or your perspective about anything but I will offer that if you are worried about nude modeling because of your boyfriend then you are either not ready to do nude modeling or not ready to be in an adult relationship.
If he will have a problem with your decision to model nude then you will need to choose between the two, but understand that if he has a problem with this choice of your career path, he will have problems with other choices you make. You'll want to know where his lines are drawn early so you know what he'll allow you to do and what he won't.
Matty272
Posts: 216
Dunfermline, Scotland, United Kingdom
If you've got a partner already, discuss any desire to model nude with them.
If you're thinking of doing it, but don't currently have a partner and are worried about what they will think when you meet someone. Just be open about what you (desire to) do when you first meet them. If they are of the "only I shall see you nude" mentality, you'll know it straight away and can choose to ditch them or go ahead with the relationship and suffer a load of shit from them. If they tell you it's fine but it isn't, you can justifiably push them away due to their dishonesty and not have to put up with the shit.
I very rarely shoot nudes (not from any kind of philosophical viewpoint, just because of the cost to hire a good nude model). My partner is happy with it when I do shoot them, though. Knows it's about making the best images I can (taking into account my experience and position on the learning curve).
i was talking to a model about this issue yesterday. her hubby assumed the worst about what happens between models and photographers on nude shoots. maybe if he sat in on one and saw what it's really like (photographer frowning and trying to figure out where that awkward shadow is coming from) he'd be more down with it. but some guys aren't going to want to share. and the reality is some photographers and models do wind up dating (but they have to both be open to that). i guess you have to decide what's more important. your man or hanging out with a bunch of photographers and making pictures. ideally you could have both but not always. maybe train up your man to be a photographer?
The original post in question wasn't offensive... I'm glad some people quoted it so I could see it's entirety.
I just have to say that posing nude is a very personal choice.
My ex-wife got me into nude photography... she enjoys it very much.. the beautiful shadows and lines that one can create that clothed modeling will never be able to touch or even get close to touching was a great motivator for her.
I supported that, the fact we are devoiced has nothing to do with her nude modeling.
The important thing is to know the difference between nudity and sex..
Depending on your structure of your relationship, maybe your boyfriend doesn't trust you and thinks because you would be naked, that sex would be involved too?
Some relationships involve swinging (swapping sexual partners).. some involve "nudity for the SO's eyes only"... all in all.. Any relationship I involve myself with, will be based on trust... and if she doesn't trust me, I will have to look for someone who does.
Oriental Silk
Posts: 535
London, England, United Kingdom
Jeska Renee wrote: What's it like modeling nude when you have a significant other? Do they dislike it or are not fond of it because they're not the only ones seeing your body? Seeing as how its a career, does your man/woman have to put up with it or do they see as it as just a career? I feel like the only reason I wouldn't nude model is because I'd feel like my boyfriend wouldn't be too fond of it and it could cause some serious hate in our relationship. Implied modeling is different.. I'm sure I'd have no problem doing that because my body is still covered, or the areas that my boyfriend should only see.
How do some of you models deal with it or go about nude modeling when you're dating someone/in a committed relationship?
It may seem callous to say so, but boyfriends, even husbands, come and go, but pictures live on forever. If you like them and are proud to be identified as the model, then that is the standard against other people's opinions should be measured.
As it happens, my ex-husband was supportive of my modelling. My consideration, other than the quality of the images, was whether nude images of me would have a negative impact on my other career as a teacher and lecturer. There was an occasion on which I lost a professional teaching opportunity because of prudery on the one hand and the spiteful actions of gossips on the other; however, on most other instances where "worlds collided" it was positive.
Art related lecturing has never seemed to be a clash with modelling, to the extent that I have taught naked before now. On other occasions, the fact that audience members or course organisers for my cultural activities have knowledge of what is under my kimono has not created any negativity, although there has been some curiosity ;-)
I suppose another relevant issue is whether the men you know and like are arty, secure and supportive. If they are not, then it might create a problem for them. That only becomes a problem for you if their opinion matters to you.
Nudity in art is a long tradition, not a modern phenomena. Go to any gallery and you'll see many painted or sculptured nudes. I have a deep appreciation for art and love to feel that I am part of something that is intelligently beautiful, perhaps stimulating the viewer to think and/or be moved.
Jay Farrell
Posts: 12,522
Nashville, Tennessee, US
V Laroche wrote: I've never asked how they feel about it since I don't care.
This may sound callous, but lots of truth here. THEY don't get to decide who you are or what you do, they do have a choice whether what you do and who you are would be compatible with them.
Mini_ wrote: I don't get why your partner would be the only one entitled to see your body.
I love my boyfriend, and I owe him loyalty, fidelity and respect amongst others, I don't owe him my body. There is nothing sexual about a naked body per definition, it's just that, a naked body. I can use it to create art and images, without that causing any problems to the fundaments of my relationship with him.
Mini_ wrote: I don't get why your partner would be the only one entiteled to see your body.
I love my boyfriend, and I owe him loyalty, fidelity and respect amongst others, I don't owe him my body. There is nothing sexual about a naked body per definition, it's just that, a naked body. I can use it to create art and images, without that causing any problems to the fundaments of my relationship with him.
Also, he's a photographer and shoots naked ladies all the time, that too ^^.
Some people feel different about nudity and like to reserve getting naked for their partner. There's nothing wrong with that. Other people are more open about nudity and there is nothing wrong with that either. However it is a problem if both people are not on the same page.
Some people feel different about nudity and like to reserve getting naked for their partner. There's nothing wrong with that. Other people are more open about nudity and there is nothing wrong with that either. However it is a problem if both people are not on the same page.
If you read closely, you saw I worded everything in the "I"-perspective.
Laura UnBound
Posts: 24,724
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
I could never date someone who thought or felt like they owned me and that my body somehow belonged to only them. Im sorry, uh, no, its MINE and I do with it what I want. Including show it to other people on the internet.
Ive never been with someone who didnt support my modelling. Id refuse to, its what I like doing. If my boyfriend hated that I like to cook or sew I wouldnt quit doing that because of him, why quit my other hobbies?
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