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Verco Handel
Posts: 291
Hong Kong, Hong Kong, China


i am jelaous type. I will never let my beautiful girlfriend (if she is a model) doing modeling.
Oct 25 13 12:30 am  Link  Quote 
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Skyler Bleu
Posts: 377
Albany, Oregon, US


My boyfriend LOVES it~! I think he's more into my modeling than I am lol.
Oct 25 13 10:52 am  Link  Quote 
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Meghana Lynn
Posts: 58
Kent, Ohio, US


This is actually a HUGE issue for me. Extreme jealousy. I can't share my work with my significant other because he doesn't want to see any of it, and that upsets me.
Oct 25 13 03:58 pm  Link  Quote 
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Beth Chambers
Posts: 444
London, England, United Kingdom


This has never been an issue for me, my ex boyfriend was the one who actually encouraged me into modelling and he came to all of my shoots for the first few months. I've been with my current boyfriend for over a year and he has never been worried about me modelling, and is proud of what I do.
Oct 25 13 04:19 pm  Link  Quote 
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MB Jen B
Posts: 2,433
Anchorage, Alaska, US


Miss AY wrote:
Never an issue for me. My boyfriend (turned fiance, turned husband) never had a problem with my modeling, be it clothed or nude.

non issue...

I am currently boyfriendless but let them know after the first couple of dates to see how they handle it.

Jen

Oct 26 13 06:49 am  Link  Quote 
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Alessandro Bernardo
Posts: 37
Melbourne, Victoria, Australia


a figure on it based on actual experiences;

80+ percent (give or take) of models i've shot with have a partner who has a problem with it.
I'd be really interested to explore further if it's an gender/age demographic that primarily drives. A couple of female photographer's i know don't seem to notice it anywhere near as much.
Oct 28 13 04:39 am  Link  Quote 
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Jolly Rauncher
Posts: 1,515
Seattle, Washington, US


I just lost a two-year relationship partially due to my modeling. Apparently sharing my photos with friends makes me a huge (fill-in-the-blank) and I only shoot nudes because I have no self-esteem.

Well, thanks for the psychology review buddy, seeya later.
Oct 28 13 10:59 am  Link  Quote 
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Eye of the World
Posts: 706
Corvallis, Oregon, US


Wonder why it took it that long for him to communicate that he didn't like it.
Oct 29 13 01:14 pm  Link  Quote 
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T Pike
Posts: 33
Macomb, Illinois, US


I stay single so I don't have to bother with the drama...
Oct 29 13 02:42 pm  Link  Quote 
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Alabaster Crowley
Posts: 4,564
Tucson, Arizona, US


Extrosy wrote:
as a llama

http://www.lolwut.com/layout/lolwut.jpg

Oct 29 13 09:36 pm  Link  Quote 
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BarryH
Posts: 823
Taipei City, Taipei City, Taiwan


My wife is fine with my photographing nude women. My ex-wife was not.
Oct 30 13 07:49 am  Link  Quote 
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MB Jen B
Posts: 2,433
Anchorage, Alaska, US


Extrosy wrote:
I'm just curious, as a llama how often or big of an issue is it for you?

It is not an issue for me. I tell them sooner than later. If they act weird about it then we do not continue dating.
Jen
ha! apparently I stutter!!!

Oct 30 13 09:48 am  Link  Quote 
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MB Jen B
Posts: 2,433
Anchorage, Alaska, US


Meghana Lynn wrote:
This is actually a HUGE issue for me. Extreme jealousy. I can't share my work with my significant other because he doesn't want to see any of it, and that upsets me.

That is a shame I think, I am so sorry for you. You are beautiful and the work is amazing, gorgeous and a creative expression.

I think its lovely.
Jen

Oct 30 13 09:49 am  Link  Quote 
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Dekilah
Posts: 4,785
Detroit, Michigan, US


I am lucky in that my husband is a photographer (who does conceptual art nudes) and that the majority of my friends are models, photographers, MUAs, and/or artists, or patrons of the arts.

However, I have dated two of the less lovely boyfriend types when it comes to modeling:

1. When I first started my boyfriend was really supportive, and then it got to the point that he was bragging too much and getting too involved. He wanted to assist with shoots, wanted to be friends with photographers, etc. There were shoots where he and the photographer (who invited him to stay) would go outside to smoke and leave me inside sometimes for quite a while. At first I thought I was lucky to have a guy who all the photographers seemed to like, but once he became an obvious distraction for me and I had one little minor complaint that he talked too much, I no longer let him stay at all (though he rarely did anyway at that point).

2. I also dated a professional type (lawyer) who was totally indifferent and seemed to think modeling was a phase I was going though, despite the fact I had been doing it for almost two years. He did not seem bothered by the nudes, but he knew "real" models and kind of seemed to look at what I did as just an amateur hobby. We ended things mutually because it was just not working out, so thankfully the issue never really got any bigger.

My husband is super supportive. When I have a concept I cannot shoot myself, he shoots me in it. He lets me use his camera and all of his photography "stuff." But he is also not at all jealous. He runs a group shoot and I regularly shoot there. Apparently if someone approaches him trying to feel out if he is going to be "concerned" about a concept, he just tells them he is not the one to worry about if they get out of line, I am (always said in a joking manner, but oh so very true ^_~).
Oct 30 13 12:14 pm  Link  Quote 
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Jolly Rauncher
Posts: 1,515
Seattle, Washington, US


Eye of the World wrote:
Wonder why it took it that long for him to communicate that he didn't like it.

It's been a constant battle, actually. I take photos, he hates them. I try something else, he doesn't like that a photographer was male. I show friends the work that I am proud to be a part of creating, and I'm a fill-in-the-blank. Dude has some major insecurities than I am no longer choosing to be a part of.
It's that whole, possessive "your body is for me only" type. I have no problem sharing my body with only one person, but being nude for a photo and being intimate are two separate things. A concept he has yet to figure out.
What blows my mind is that it's not like I didn't tell him what I did when we started dating, I think he thought I would stop once we were together.

Oct 30 13 07:45 pm  Link  Quote 
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Danielle Reid
Posts: 2,983
Little Rock, Arkansas, US


My fiance's only problem is that I'm not getting paid for EVERY shoot I do. He says I'm too beautiful to do "pro-bono" shoots for photographers.
Oct 30 13 07:52 pm  Link  Quote 
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mophotoart
Posts: 360
Wichita, Kansas, US


had 2 instances where I was contacted by a client requesting that I ignore the release form and delete the pictures she posed for because new boyfriend/husband was upset with her because she had posed for pictures he felt were unacceptable...on the other side, got a thank you from one who said her boyfriend loved the pictures, and 6 months later, they had me do their wedding...
Oct 30 13 08:23 pm  Link  Quote 
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Cree Synster
Posts: 207
Milledgeville, Georgia, US


My current boyfriend is totally cool with whatever I photoshoot. He's seen me nude anyway XD He's said so himself, so there's no "grey area" with what we're comfortable with
Oct 30 13 09:22 pm  Link  Quote 
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R Byron Johnson
Posts: 767
Norman, Oklahoma, US


I had one bad experience with a model who was dumb enough to bring her ex-boyfriend to a shoot, though by "bad" I just mean he was an annoying pest.  The other shoots I've done where the model brought her boyfriend turned out just fine.  In fact, with one shoot the model's boyfriend actually talked her into doing implied nudes.
Oct 31 13 06:52 pm  Link  Quote 
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R Byron Johnson
Posts: 767
Norman, Oklahoma, US


mophotoart wrote:
had 2 instances where I was contacted by a client requesting that I ignore the release form and delete the pictures she posed for because new boyfriend/husband was upset with her because she had posed for pictures he felt were unacceptable...on the other side, got a thank you from one who said her boyfriend loved the pictures, and 6 months later, they had me do their wedding...

I had one model threaten to sue me if I didn't stop using the photos I took of her.  If she had just politely asked me to stop using them because she regretted it, I would have.  But because she decided to be such a dick about it, I didn't.  That was about 6 months ago and I have yet to be sued.

Oct 31 13 06:56 pm  Link  Quote 
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calliecalypso
Posts: 35
Fort Worth, Texas, US


For the most part my fiance is supportive. Sometimes he gets jealous - but not of the photographers or content of the shoot, but the fact I'm getting work in my field of choice. (He's an actor so his jobs aren't always consistent.) It doesn't cause fights or anything, but sometimes he makes comments like "I wish I were a hot girl then I'd probably be in Hollywood by now." It's not really spiteful, just a little bit of jealousy.

But he's always nice to photographers and other models. If something seems fishy he talks to a person politely to try to establish clear communication. He loves me and doesn't want anything bad to happen. He does escort me to "sexy" style shoots but stays way out of the way of the photographer. It's just for peace of mind.

Plus we're broke with one car between us at the moment, so if he weren't supportive I'd be SOL with getting to shoots! smile I feel bad for those whose modeling actually causes fights. It's a valid career path and/or hobby like anything else.
Nov 02 13 07:30 am  Link  Quote 
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R Byron Johnson
Posts: 767
Norman, Oklahoma, US


The only time it bothers me is when a boyfriend/husband is acting as the model's "agent" or "manager".  First of all, this is always fishy to me because I've actually had men try to use me to get their girlfriends/wives to pose nude without their consent.  And secondly, when planning a shoot, I want to to talk to the model, not her fucking boyfriend or husband.  That always just makes the model either look like a chickenshit or a spoiled brat.
Nov 02 13 08:33 pm  Link  Quote 
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R Byron Johnson
Posts: 767
Norman, Oklahoma, US


Oh, and this isn't just a problem for models but photographers as well.  It took several long conversations with my girlfriend to talk her into being okay with me photographing female models.  And it took a few months of me actually doing it before she became comfortable with it.  Now she doesn't mind at all and actually likes looking through the photos that I take.
Nov 02 13 08:38 pm  Link  Quote 
Clothing Designer
GRMACK
Posts: 1,300
Bakersfield, California, US


The OP forgot to add "Fathers" too into the equation.

I've had a few of those too.  One was a local artist so he "Enjoyed watching another artist work" (me!).  The other was just a stand-around and snoop dad who made comments about her cellulite, and "Which side of the family did your cellulite come  from?"

The worst was what I suspect was a cop's daughter and I cancelled the shoot as he grilled me on "How much is this gonna cost me?" way too much (It was "free" then as I knew her.).  It was for her port and she wanted to be a model and asked me, but he got too heavy into it on the phone about "Nothing is for free!  What do you want?" so I told her "We better not else your dad will go nuts!"  So much for her modeling career.
Nov 02 13 09:20 pm  Link  Quote 
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