Forums > Model Colloquy > How bad is it for newbies (Inappropriate offers)?

Photographer

1873 Images

Posts: 383

Binghamton, New York, US

ShivaKitty wrote:

I actually think the reverse it true. As years have gone by, and I've gotten older, I've gotten MORE requests for hard content.

I think the general mentality is that women over 25 or 27 start getting "desperate" for work, and are more likely to shoot explicit material. Obviously, I don't think age has anything to do with what we choose to shoot, one way or another, but I did notice that when the rates I could get for basic girly-erotic work started to decline (when I was about 28 or so), the offers for hard content started to increase, on other sites, around that same time.

Never would have guessed this.

Sep 18 12 07:08 pm Link

Photographer

Image K

Posts: 23400

Las Vegas, Nevada, US

MilliNY wrote:

ever hear of ambien?

No...but obviously you are familiar with it.

lol

Sep 19 12 12:34 am Link

Photographer

Image K

Posts: 23400

Las Vegas, Nevada, US

1873 Images wrote:
I don't think I stated that I strongly believe newbies leave the site because of this.

Really?

Re-read your OP:

1873 Images wrote:
I suspect that many of them leave MM quickly becuase they conclude that is what MM is all about.

Sounds like you said it.

1873 Images wrote:
Newbies leaving was the seed crystal that got me wondering if this was a frequent occurrence.  Everyone was a newbie once and would have experience (possibly) with getting inappropriate offers.

No one knows definitively why newbies leave the site. Many of us suspect that they leave primarily because they are just not serious enough about modeling, and didn't know how hard it was...but that is as speculative as your theory.

Models rarely let it be known why they are leaving. They just leave.

Honestly, I'm not sure why you would directly equate models leaving with inappropriate offers.

Sep 19 12 12:40 am Link

Photographer

D-Light

Posts: 629

Newcastle, Limerick, Ireland

I think there's many new 'models' here who just want to be able to say that they are models. Having a profile on MM or a similar site allows them to tell their friends that they're part time models and maybe even impress a few guys.

When they start getting mails about work they panic and pull their profile. Most of them never intended posing or even discussing a shoot.

I was on another site and about 50% of model profiles had no pics and no personal details, it's not like that here at least.

Sep 19 12 05:57 am Link

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Christopher Meadows

Posts: 147

Lynchburg, Virginia, US

I wouldn't say it was "bad." It was plentiful. I had tons of porn offers within a few days of putting up my profile. Plenty of money offered. All you have to do is say, "no thanks." After it got to be annoying to reject offers every day, putting a simple disclaimer in my bio about not being interested in adult work, it stopped immediately...can't say that about the scams though. They're he bigger problem.

Sep 19 12 07:58 am Link

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hbutz New York

Posts: 3923

Ronkonkoma, New York, US

Shawn Meadows wrote:
I wouldn't say it was "bad." It was plentiful. I had tons of porn offers within a few days of putting up my profile. Plenty of money offered. All you have to do is say, "no thanks." After it got to be annoying to reject offers every day, putting a simple disclaimer in my bio about not being interested in adult work, it stopped immediately...can't say that about the scams though. They're he bigger problem.

You shouldn't be receiving *any* offers for adult work on Model Mayhem.  This is not permitted.  To report the offender, visit http://www.ripoffreport.com

Sep 19 12 09:01 am Link

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Park Avenue Pin-ups

Posts: 654

Waverly, New York, US

Image K wrote:
Honestly, I'm not sure why you would directly equate models leaving with inappropriate offers.

The question is how big a problem is this?  Read the last sentence of the OP.

Sep 19 12 07:01 pm Link

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Babalon Salome

Posts: 3499

Hamburg, Hamburg, Germany

Jordan Bunniie wrote:
Yes. Its pretty common on this site. Youre a new female model, you will get 100s of offers for porn, webcams, escort services, hell even screwing the emailer for $ cos thats all they think of models on here. That dies down but never stops entirely.

This.


twoharts wrote:
can't you CAM these folks and get them kicked off? or do they just pop up under a new name? kind of like whack-a-mole. just seems like you shouldn't be able to cast here for things that aren't allowed here.

These guys target new profiles - members that might not yet have found out that you even can CAM messages/other members or might not know what is considered a CAMable offense.

Sep 20 12 08:54 am Link

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ontherocks

Posts: 23575

Salem, Oregon, US

i think mayhem should make CAM part of the main navigation and also get that in front of newbie models somehow (maybe in an introductory email). models shouldn't have to put up with that here. even CL got rid of the adult section (although i guess that stuff just filtered into the regular part).

Babalon Salome wrote:
These guys target new profiles - members that might not yet have found out that you even can CAM messages/other members or might not know what is considered a CAMable offense.

Sep 20 12 09:14 am Link

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Halley Mae Davies

Posts: 5

Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada

I got offers for porn when I first joined, and offers where I slowly realized that the photographer was looking for more than just "art nudes", and offers to go the the beach for picnics!. I think the most difficult part was learning to navigate seemingly legit offers and scope out what the actual concept was before agreeing to anything. And I didn't know you could report people, that would have been helpful.

I think most people get offers when they first join - I've friends who're also on MM who've mentioned it. That's probably a factor in people realizing modelling is not for them but can't be the whole story.

Sep 21 12 12:04 am Link

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george_j

Posts: 93

Indianapolis, Indiana, US

Rollo David Snook wrote:
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An agency would be in consternation about this story, if one of their models turned down a paid job by refusing to wear the outfit and then simply ignored the client.

(snip)

If you're paying agency rates, I'd be as annoyed as you!

Also... remember this is MM.

Sep 21 12 12:09 am Link

Photographer

Igmar Photography

Posts: 42

New York, New York, US

Rollo David Snook wrote:
If anything, I find it's models not willing to shoot nudes that are disappearing on me.

After talking shop with someone over a few days, I offered a paid job to them, wearing leggings and a vest top and I got back a pm asking me if it was ok to wear denim hotpants and a T-shirt. She presumably didn't feel comfortable wearing leggings. I wrote back explaining why denim hotpants would not work and then the trail went dead. Wasn't even swimwear or lingerie, only bare arms, but this was beyond her level. I try to be understanding, but I'm sitting here thinking "not model".

An agency would be in consternation about this story, if one of their models turned down a paid job by refusing to wear the outfit and then simply ignored the client. But this is MM, where you can do one thing, say another, post another entirely.

Probably yes, a lot of models are getting offers for erotic and adult work and it disgusts them. Also people seem to be ramming the point home that nude is a moneymaker.

Agreed.

Sep 21 12 04:30 am Link

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Tilishia

Posts: 38

Brisbane, Queensland, Australia

I'm a newbie and I'm not sure what exactly I should be looking out for. The obvious ones I can pick of course, but I'm still so weary even with photographers who do TFP..

Sep 21 12 04:50 am Link

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umami___

Posts: 1528

Tacoma, Washington, US

1873 Images wrote:

I am lead to believe that this problem is rampant.  I would like to validate that with evidence from models who have or have not experineced this personally.

When I first joined MM a few years ago I received a slew of offers for work that, at the time, I didn't do (nudes) and work that I would never consider even still (porn, webcam gigs, escorts etc.)
I didn't let that bother me though. I was determined to get my modeling career started and either politely declined those who were genuinely kind and curious as to what I'd be willing to do, and simply ignored the ones who were blatantly offering me something not good, legally or to my own moral standard.

Sep 21 12 07:51 am Link

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Neil Snape

Posts: 9474

Paris, Île-de-France, France

Why doesn't MM have a little follow up or survey for when people want to leave?

Many places do, that way they can improve their positioning with current and future members.

For me, I'd like to know if when I started years ago on MM if it was as frequent as today?

It harms all of us, to have people come and go so fast, and if it is because the inundation of porn type requests that is something that has to be reviewed.

Sep 21 12 08:10 am Link

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Jerry Nemeth

Posts: 33355

Dearborn, Michigan, US

Neil Snape wrote:
Why doesn't MM have a little follow up or survey for when people want to leave?

Many places do, that way they can improve their positioning with current and future members.

For me, I'd like to know if when I started years ago on MM if it was as frequent as today?

It harms all of us, to have people come and go so fast, and if it is because the inundation of porn type requests that is something that has to be reviewed.

Good idea!

Sep 21 12 08:54 am Link

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ontherocks

Posts: 23575

Salem, Oregon, US

blizzard does this for their world of warcraft game. when you stop paying on your monthly description they ask why.

if good models are leaving because they get inundated with porn offers then i think that's something mayhem should be concerned about.

Neil Snape wrote:
Why doesn't MM have a little follow up or survey for when people want to leave?

Sep 21 12 09:01 am Link

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MatureModelMM

Posts: 2843

Detroit, Michigan, US

Sounds good to me as well, but why wait until they leave?

Maybe a survey could be sent to llamas a week or a month after they register just to ask if they are getting these kinds of offers, and letting them know they can report anything inappropriate.

Sep 21 12 09:02 am Link

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Amber Tench

Posts: 356

Calgary, Alberta, Canada

I must be doing something wrong here then, because I never get offers for adult/porn/erotic/webcam/etc/etc work of any kind. hmm
(Other than art nudes, which... I shoot, so that is kind of expected)

Sep 21 12 09:10 am Link

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ontherocks

Posts: 23575

Salem, Oregon, US

if it makes you feel any better i'd definitely cast you to be in my porn movie! if i made porn movies which i don't.

i wonder why some girls get so many requests and you don't? maybe it's something about their age/profile that makes them seem like easy targets. or their location.

Amber Tench wrote:
I must be doing something wrong here then, because I never get offers for adult/porn/erotic/webcam/etc/etc work of any kind. hmm
(Other than art nudes, which... I shoot, so that is kind of expected)

Sep 21 12 09:19 am Link

Model

Amber Tench

Posts: 356

Calgary, Alberta, Canada

twoharts wrote:
if it makes you feel any better i'd definitely cast you to be in my porn movie! if i made porn movies which i don't.

i wonder why some girls get so many requests and you don't? maybe it's something about their age/profile that makes them seem like easy targets. or their location.

Yay, porn! smile

I'm thinking new models are the easiest to target, because they are so flattered by getting offers of work, they are probably far easier to coerce them into accepting it.
Luckily for me, I was underage when I first signed up here, so... I guess I got lucky in avoiding all that smile

Sep 21 12 09:23 am Link

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Studio La Donna

Posts: 423

San Francisco, California, US

_Rei_ wrote:
I get offered two kinds of work here. The kind I'm interested in doing, and the kind I'm not. When I signed up to MM, I didn't expect that every offer that came my way would interest me and that I'd have to spend at least some of my time here saying "No" politely.

I do get offers of work that goes beyond the limits of what I'm willing to shoot. They're usually no more or less polite than anyone else messaging me here. A long time ago I learnt to use a template of sorts to save time - something like, "Dear X, Thank you for your interest but I'm not currently shooting that genre of work blah blah blah." I've never had anyone get nasty in response to this (yet).

I've not found MM to be any worse for this kind of thing than any other modelling portfolio site. Learning how to turn down work you don't want is a part of freelancing - the people that get freaked out by this and pull their profiles quickly probably aren't cut out for it.

+1

Sep 21 12 09:34 am Link

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Ed Woodson Photography

Posts: 2644

Savannah, Georgia, US

I've worked with several models who, at the time of the shoot, had no MM profile/page.

Just about everyone of them have been bombarded with offers to shoot nudes, porno, adult content.  Even though.....   they have no nudes in the port and state spefically in their profiles that they are not interested.

Some of the photographers who send them the messages won't take no for an answer up to the point of beeing creepy.

I do, however, warn them that it will happen.

One 16 y/o model in the area, who just put her page up, has been getting those offers as well.  I told her mother to block and CAM them.

Sep 21 12 09:43 am Link

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SWANKfab

Posts: 79

Newark, New Jersey, US

There are always folks who are going to prey on newbies. 

When I joined MM, I didn't receive an inappropriate offer for a photo shoot.  I did receive several emails from local models asking me if I'd like to pay them for art nudes.  The models were typically mediocre and charging some ridiculous rate.  I took a few of them up on the offer and others I didn't.  In hindsight, I wasted a lot of time and money.

Part of the problem might be inappropriate offers but I think largely, most of these girls aren't serious in the least and/ or get easily distracted by other things in life.

Sep 21 12 09:53 am Link

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ontherocks

Posts: 23575

Salem, Oregon, US

i worked with a new model recently who went so far as to receive one of the nigerian scam checks! i guess they're just so excited about getting started they put aside their BS detector.

Amber Tench wrote:
I'm thinking new models are the easiest to target, because they are so flattered by getting offers of work, they are probably far easier to coerce them into accepting it.

Sep 21 12 09:54 am Link

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Image K

Posts: 23400

Las Vegas, Nevada, US

Park Avenue Pin-ups wrote:
The question is how big a problem is this?  Read the last sentence of the OP.

Read my previous posts.

Since no one knows definitively why people leave, assuming why someone is leaving is assuming facts not in evidence.

A very small percentage of members participate in the Forums. This thread will provide very little (if any) evidence regarding "how big a problem this is".

Sep 21 12 01:20 pm Link

Photographer

Image K

Posts: 23400

Las Vegas, Nevada, US

Kelleth wrote:
I've definitely gotten weird offers on this site but never enough to scare me away!

I would think that most models that are serious about modeling react that way.

It's unfortunate that newbies (or anyone else, for that matter) get "inappropriate offers", but they do actually serve a purpose: They weed out the pretenders.

Sep 21 12 01:24 pm Link

Photographer

1873 Images

Posts: 383

Binghamton, New York, US

Image K wrote:

Read my previous posts.

Since no one knows definitively why people leave, assuming why someone is leaving is assuming facts not in evidence.

A very small percentage of members participate in the Forums. This thread will provide very little (if any) evidence regarding "how big a problem this is".

You should read the OP, the question posed isn't why people leave it's how big a problem are inappropriate offers.

Sep 21 12 08:09 pm Link

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AJ_In_Atlanta

Posts: 13053

Atlanta, Georgia, US

Shaz111 wrote:
I'm sure every single model on MM gets offers for porn etc when they sign up, just don't understand why you would pull your profile over it, just say no/yes or don't respond and move on...

Well there are several who do, they may not say so on MM but they do.  Another reason why some folks ignore the nudity flag on profiles.  I know I have seen a few playboy models here with no nudes selected in their profile and others have commented about it.  I recall in a thread someone mentioned several names of models who also shoot porn under a different name.  The thread was locked and removed obviously but it was growing fast at the time...

Sep 21 12 08:17 pm Link

Model

James Sayson

Posts: 6

Belleville, New Jersey, US

Laura UnBound wrote:
I think profiles are pulled because many dont really it through before posting, it doesnt cost anything to post a profile and might look like a bit of fun until you realize its actually going to mean that you have to work on it to get jobs.
When I first signed up, for at least 6 months, the majority of my inbox was as follows

-Porn
-thinly veiled porn
-offers for something else that turned into porn as the conversation went on
-people with no portfolio/references
-people really freaking far away
-legit but stupid offers
-legit good offers that i actually took


I was 17.

A LOT of newbies are young. A lot of newbies havent tried doing any sort of business online before. Being bombarded with unappealing offers would naturally lead a newbie to believe "well if thats all Im going to get, whats the point?" and pull their profile.

One of the first places I went when I signed up was into the forums. I saw other people complaining of those types of messages, and I saw that there were a lot of other people (models and photographers) who were on their side and proof that once you weed through the bullshit you could actually maybe get somewhere. So I stayed around and ignored the offers I didnt want, CAMed the ones I could, and eventually made it to round two and set up some good shoots that helped build my portfolio.  The website has a huge membership, only a very small percentage even see the forums much less participate in them. Theres no banner that pops up over your inbox when youre a newbie that says "HANG IN THERE, IT GETS BETTER! ITS NOT ALL POV "artistic" PORN!".

C Nox wrote:
This.
Just don't let it get to you, CAM the spammers, and hang in there. You'll be okay, and will give you a real insight on how to weed out the creepers.

Thanks. Newbie here and I've read this entire thread.  Great information here on an interesting topic.

Sep 21 12 08:22 pm Link

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Howick Image Studio

Posts: 906

Panama City Beach, Florida, US

twoharts wrote:
blizzard does this for their world of warcraft game. when you stop paying on your monthly description they ask why.

if good models are leaving because they get inundated with porn offers then i think that's something mayhem should be concerned about.


From the feedback I have received, only a small percentage actually "leave" (as in close their account).  Many more just abandon their account so they remain classed as active members even though they have no intention of ever logging in again.  Given that MM seems to consider anyone logging in even once within the past five years to be an "active account", I'm not sure they view any of this as a problem.

For legitimate photographers, though, it is a very real problem.  Several models have told me they were sufficiently inundated with "inappropriate offers" at the outset that they simply became suspicious of any approach from any photographer.

Sep 21 12 08:34 pm Link

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Highwaymen Studios

Posts: 1

Dandridge, Tennessee, US

The problem may not be MM.  It could be a new model decides to create a profile indicating he/she will shoot nude and her husband/boyfriend, father, or boss catches wind of it and demands the profile be shut down or her coworkers, classmates, or brother's pervy friends find it and pester her so much she closes it to shut them up.  I've noticed a few people start a profile and then shut it down almost as quick...but I never assumed it was MM.  I just didn't know their life story.

Sep 21 12 08:57 pm Link

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Isis22

Posts: 3557

Muncie, Indiana, US

D-Light wrote:
I think there's many new 'models' here who just want to be able to say that they are models. Having a profile on MM or a similar site allows them to tell their friends that they're part time models and maybe even impress a few guys.

When they start getting mails about work they panic and pull their profile. Most of them never intended posing or even discussing a shoot.

I was on another site and about 50% of model profiles had no pics and no personal details, it's not like that here at least.

+1

I get inappropriate offers fairly regularly. They want things clearly against the rules(yes, I report them) or they want to do things I would not be willing to do like open leg shots. I guess my profile is not clear enough or they just don't care. I don't take it personal.

Sep 22 12 04:13 pm Link

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Image K

Posts: 23400

Las Vegas, Nevada, US

1873 Images wrote:
You should read the OP, the question posed isn't why people leave it's how big a problem are inappropriate offers.

How would this thread answer that question, and what would constitute "a problem"?

Sep 23 12 03:15 am Link

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Image K

Posts: 23400

Las Vegas, Nevada, US

Highwaymen Studios wrote:
The problem may not be MM.  It could be a new model decides to create a profile indicating he/she will shoot nude and her husband/boyfriend, father, or boss catches wind of it and demands the profile be shut down or her coworkers, classmates, or brother's pervy friends find it and pester her so much she closes it to shut them up.  I've noticed a few people start a profile and then shut it down almost as quick...but I never assumed it was MM.  I just didn't know their life story.

I agree with you...but the OP suspects differently.

Sep 23 12 03:18 am Link

Photographer

1873 Images

Posts: 383

Binghamton, New York, US

Isis22 wrote:
I get inappropriate offers fairly regularly. They want things clearly against the rules(yes, I report them) or they want to do things I would not be willing to do like open leg shots. I guess my profile is not clear enough or they just don't care. I don't take it personal.

This is an answers to the question, it is a faily regular occurence for you.  Thanks

Sep 23 12 05:57 am Link

Model

Kelly Kooper

Posts: 1240

Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

It's MUCH worse when you first start modelling, I used to get dodgy offers all the time.

Interestingly, once I started nude modelling, I got much less.

And they get much less frequent the more experience you get.

Sep 23 12 05:59 am Link

Photographer

1873 Images

Posts: 383

Binghamton, New York, US

Image K wrote:
How would this thread answer that question, and what would constitute "a problem"?

If a number of models state it is a regular-ongoing occurence. 

I get that this isn't a scientific poll with a representative sample, and one could not conclude what percentage of the subset of models that participate in the forums have experienced this.   However, it does provide some insight into the issue and answers my curiosity.

Sep 23 12 06:00 am Link

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Coyote Creations NW

Posts: 132

Vancouver, Washington, US

I generally refrain from getting involved with these threads, but this may be worth considering.  Predators at any level develop a good sense of profiling their prey.  Typical GWC is looking for insecurity, lack of experience, shyness, the "need to please" profile statements, etc.  each has a little different thing they hunt for.  Take a look at your portfolio and profile.  I could probably make a pretty good guess at which ones attract inappropriate offers.  As your experience grows, the self confidence shows in your portfolio.  Lions go after the young and weak, not the prime condition herd members.  Grow strong quick.

Oct 04 12 08:48 pm Link

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Tony KnightHawk Studios

Posts: 1900

Fort Myers Beach, Florida, US

I get inappropriate offers all the time. I am in a strip club when this happens. Why are these strippers approaching me? Just because I walk into a strip club right away they all think I am there to look at naked ladies. I am there for the happy hour buffet. Maybe I should consider the environment I am swimming in and prepare myself to deal with any sharks that are in the water.
(if you don't get the point I am making you may want to consider you are not ready to swim)

Oct 04 12 09:08 pm Link