My future wife and I fucked like rabbits before the ceremony. We did not have a lot of money, and sex is great pleasure that cost us nothing.
I have been with hundreds of women since getting a divorce. Being in the swinging scene, the numbers add up.
We called it sport fucking, and it was great.
I see no point in getting married again. I have some very close and intimate relationships, and sex is a huge part of them.
My current girl is amazing. Don't get me wrong; it is not just about sex! She loves Monty Python, jazz, and the food I make. Next up is a gallery tour. But the sex is amazing!
Did not wait until marriage and I have zero regrets about that. I had a lot of great times with people I cared about and it was all a learning experience that made me the person my wife fell in love with.
I feel the same about her. I was by no means the first person she was intimate with before we met and everything she experienced up to that point made her the woman I care for today.
I had multiple partners, and lived with several women prior to getting married. I think anyone who gets married without knowing if there is sexual compatibility in the relationship is out of their minds. Also, as a teen and young adult, I wasn't aware of anyone I knew, Christian or otherwise, who did not have sex before marriage.
Tropic Light wrote: I had multiple partners, and lived with several women prior to getting married. I think anyone who gets married without knowing if there is sexual compatibility in the relationship is out of their minds. Also, as a teen and young adult, I wasn't aware of anyone I knew, Christian or otherwise, who did not have sex before marriage.
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How many waited until marriage to have sex? Are you glade you waited what were the pros and cons of waiting?
Those who didn't wait are you happy with your choice do you ever regret not waiting? What were the pros and cons of not waiting?
I don't ever think I'd wait until marriage. I don't want to get married first of all. And if I did decide to do it, I wouldn't want to wait to find out if we are sexually compatible.
I would HATE HATE HATE to put a rang on it then find out she doesn't suck dick (among other things). I'd be mad as hell.
Joking aside (i'm not really joking), that is the biggest con to waiting. You don't know how compatible you are in bed until you get IN the bed.
I am not talking about that I am simply saying they can learn and experiment in sex together. If they are both willing to do that and communicate about what they both like and what they are comfortable with it's not a big deal. People act like unless you ride the train before marriage it will turn out horrible and that is not always the case.
No I just actually know people who waited and don't hate each other or have miserable marriages or boring sex lives. I am simply saying that is a false stereotype.
I can't be the only one who knows people who waited and are happy.
There are people in sexless marriages who are happy.
No I just actually know people who waited and don't hate each other or have miserable marriages or boring sex lives. I am simply saying that is a false stereotype.
I can't be the only one who knows people who waited and are happy.
I don't think anyone is saying that it isn't possible to be happy or to have a non-miserable marriage if you wait.
It is simply that most people want to test drive a car before they buy it.
No I just actually know people who waited and don't hate each other or have miserable marriages or boring sex lives. I am simply saying that is a false stereotype.
I can't be the only one who knows people who waited and are happy.
Are you in the habit of having conversations with other couples about their sex lives? Or do they freely offer up the information to you?
That's great you know people who waited and are happy. Good for them. That is not how I made the choice to play out my life. It wouldn't have worked for me. I had sex before marriage...lots of it. It was fun and I don't feel bad about it. Clearly that is the case for others as well.
I am not talking about that I am simply saying they can learn and experiment in sex together. If they are both willing to do that and communicate about what they both like and what they are comfortable with it's not a big deal. People act like unless you ride the train before marriage it will turn out horrible and that is not always the case.
That's the issue. Are they both willing. One girl I met in college was drop-dead gorgeous, awesome body, etc, etc, but when we started getting it on, she was boring as hell. She was willing, but there was no excitement or sense of adventure. I can't imagine making a lifetime commitment, and then finding out you are with a partner who has no passion.
What seriously it's called verbal conversation. There is nothing wrong with talking about sex or asking what one another likes or doesn't before getting married. People act like they don't know how to communicate anymore. Open your mouth and ask questions it is no different than asking them about their past. If you are going to marry someone you should feel comfortable enough to ask questions about sex beforehand.
So unless they are going into a second marriage any discussions about what they enjoy would be purely hypothetical because they wouldn't have had sex. Only sinners would be able to have a reality based dialogue.
Damon Banner
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Lisa Andresen wrote: What seriously it's called verbal conversation. There is nothing wrong with talking about sex or asking what one another likes or doesn't before getting married. People act like they don't know how to communicate anymore. Open your mouth and ask questions it is no different than asking them about their past. If you are going to marry someone you should feel comfortable enough to ask questions about sex beforehand.
It's not a con it's called if you didn't open your mouth and ask or have any type of conversations about it it's your own fault.
Talking about what you like doesn't make you sexually compatible. It means you can talk about the things you like.
You can tell me you like spicy food. Your idea of what spicy is may differ from mine. In order to get a proper gauge of how spicy you like your food, we need to... eat.
If you are going to marry someone you should feel comfortable enough to ask questions about sex beforehand.
I already indicated I have no desire to get married, so no... doesn't work.
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Andialu wrote:
So unless they are going into a second marriage any discussions about what they enjoy would be purely hypothetical because they wouldn't have had sex. Only sinners would be able to have a reality based dialogue.
Damon Banner
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Paramour Productions wrote: I don't know a single person who waited until marriage. I do know a few who waited until they were in college, but that was the minority.
I do know some. I used to be religious, so I know/knew religious people. Some of my cousins, in fact. They all seem happy, so who am I to say it's wrong... it worked....for them.
Lisa Andresen wrote: How many waited until marriage to have sex? Are you glade you waited what were the pros and cons of waiting?
I waited for my first marriage.
Pros: ummm....... none.
Cons: No sex (it's really fun,) no idea of our sexual compatibility, frustration, inability to share that with the person you love for however long, among others.
Lisa Andresen wrote: What seriously it's called verbal conversation. There is nothing wrong with talking about sex or asking what one another likes or doesn't before getting married. People act like they don't know how to communicate anymore. Open your mouth and ask questions it is no different than asking them about their past. If you are going to marry someone you should feel comfortable enough to ask questions about sex beforehand.
It's not a con it's called if you didn't open your mouth and ask or have any type of conversations about it it's your own fault.
Honey, do you like anal?
I don't know, I have never done it, we are waiting until marriage
Okay.
Married
Man I really love anal, like the best ever
I don't - at all - never again
Lisa Andresen wrote: I can't be the only one who knows people who waited and are happy.
Weren't you quite the party girl a few years back? High school girl crashing college frat parties and all that? You're saying you didn't get your cherry popped until you got married?
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