I'm on okcupid and i havent met a lot of guys because they either flake or just disappear ..
anyone else on okcupid?
how are your experiences??
p.s. okcupid put out a study that black women get the least amount of replies from white men (which are the preferred mating choice by women overall on the site) and black men.
I'm on okcupid and i havent met a lot of guys because they either flake or just disappear ..
anyone else on okcupid?
how are your experiences??
p.s. okcupid put out a study that black women get the least amount of replies from white men (which are the preferred mating choice by women overall on the site) and black men.
:-(
but the study is old. like 2009 i believe
I saw that study, I dicked around on okcupid for two weeks. Had some funny conversations but the no reply thing did not accurately reflect my real life encounters with an equally random set of people, so it was annoying
The study, and general coldness that it reinforced, was discouraging.
I signed up because I heard these once-ostracized dating sites were becoming casual hangouts like other social networks.
And because my friend found a way to "beat the system" and told me how but it was netting him chicks far outside his ideal.
Dating sites are an excersise in how far one is willing to lower their standards for the most part IMO..though there is the rare exception where a near perfect match leads to the desired results(long term relationship,marriage,ect).
Not to mention quite a few of the profiles are quite misleading(especially photos,ect,nothing like talking to someone you think is 29 and cute but is 41 and 90 lbs or more heavier because she has the same pics up that she had up in 2001)
I'd rather have friends hook me up IMO as I have had horror stories from dating sites
hot dog, it only took me 15 minutes to figure out how to log in. lol. didn't know what email I used, or the username, or the password. But yes, it seems like I do have an account...
Now, ravendrive, how was it that your friend beat the system?
double negative wrote: hot dog, it only took me 15 minutes to figure out how to log in. lol. didn't know what email I used, or the username, or the password. But yes, it seems like I do have an account...
Now, ravendrive, how was it that your friend beat the system?
I'm on okcupid and i havent met a lot of guys because they either flake or just disappear ..
anyone else on okcupid?
how are your experiences??
p.s. okcupid put out a study that black women get the least amount of replies from white men (which are the preferred mating choice by women overall on the site) and black men.
Damon Banner
Posts: 83,589
Hayward, California, US
yeah, I'm on it. Had a few first dates. no seconds.
Ms Eryka wrote: p.s. okcupid put out a study that black women get the least amount of replies from white men (which are the preferred mating choice by women overall on the site) and black men.
A black woman in my area had that on her profile as a way to prompt discussion. I emailed her about it (plus she was cute). She didn't respond. I hardly ever get black women to respond to me. White women love me.
Damon Banner wrote: yeah, I'm on it. Had a few first dates. no seconds.
A black woman in my area had that on her profile as a way to prompt discussion. I emailed her about it (plus she was cute). She didn't respond. I hardly ever get black women to respond to me. White women love me.
there was a thread on here a while back about a website showcasing the most horrific okcupid profiles. that convinced me to sign up. so far it's only lead to me being used for sex.
Laura UnBound
Posts: 24,699
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Within a week of me signing up I had a date. She never picked a day for a second date and I never reminded her, I guess maybe I should have checked in or something but in my world if you went out with someone and actually want a second date, you don't forget YOU told them "yes I'd like to do it again, and soon"...-shrug-
I might have another date or two when I get back in the country, depending on how long their attention spans last.
I don't just chat with people for weeks before meeting them, I go straight for "let's continue this conversation over drinks" and they're either gonna meet me or they won't. Someone who won't meet up with me wasnt someone who was EVER going to get out from behind the computer screen so it's just time I didn't waste, and that's fine by me.
Laura UnBound wrote: Within a week of me signing up I had a date. She never picked a day for a second date and I never reminded her, I guess maybe I should have checked in or something but in my world if you went out with someone and actually want a second date, you don't forget YOU told them "yes I'd like to do it again, and soon"...-shrug-
I might have another date or two when I get back in the country, depending on how long their attention spans last.
I don't just chat with people for weeks before meeting them, I go straight for "let's continue this conversation over drinks" and they're either gonna meet me or they won't. Someone who won't meet up with me wasnt someone who was EVER going to get out from behind the computer screen so it's just time I didn't waste, and that's fine by me.
I did manage to find one acceptable dude, my ex, through OKC. I increased my search parameters to 100 miles (no way on earth I was going to find someone in my old hometown that I didn't go to middle or high school with), and just randomly started a conversation with him. He looked like Ewan McGregor, so why not? We broke up because he was sort of boring. He's a good guy. I don't know if he still has an OKC profile.
Aside from the ex, there were a lot of TERRIBLE people who would message me. Mostly guys that were like "YOU LIKE WATCHMEN? DID YOU KNOW IT WAS A COMIC FIRST?" I... It's not like I listed legit comic book titles in my profile under favorite books or anything. I had a lot of comic book pissing matches on my OKC account. One even said something to the effect of, "YOU'RE NOT A COMIC BOOK FAN. PRETTY GIRLS AREN'T COMIC BOOK FANS. You HAVE to be a ringer created by OKCupid because comic book fangirls are never single." Sigh.
My friends have had less than stellar experiences. Two of my close friends both got blindsided with the dreaded Penis Pics after an evening on OKC. What makes anyone think that's acceptable upon first message!?
smh.. i get random old white guys asking me my bra size
Little Ginger Lamb wrote: I did manage to find one acceptable dude, my ex, through OKC. I increased my search parameters to 100 miles (no way on earth I was going to find someone in my old hometown that I didn't go to middle or high school with), and just randomly started a conversation with him. He looked like Ewan McGregor, so why not? We broke up because he was sort of boring. He's a good guy. I don't know if he still has an OKC profile.
Aside from the ex, there were a lot of TERRIBLE people who would message me. Mostly guys that were like "YOU LIKE WATCHMEN? DID YOU KNOW IT WAS A COMIC FIRST?" I... It's not like I listed legit comic book titles in my profile under favorite books or anything. I had a lot of comic book pissing matches on my OKC account. One even said something to the effect of, "YOU'RE NOT A COMIC BOOK FAN. PRETTY GIRLS AREN'T COMIC BOOK FANS. You HAVE to be a ringer created by OKCupid because comic book fangirls are never single." Sigh.
My friends have had less than stellar experiences. Two of my close friends both got blindsided with the dreaded Penis Pics after an evening on OKC. What makes anyone think that's acceptable upon first message!?
Laura UnBound
Posts: 24,699
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Ms Eryka wrote: smh.. i get random old white guys asking me my bra size
Surprisingly, while I get a lot of male visitors, none of them have contacted me besides one "I know you're going to ignore me just wanted to say you're pretty, have a good day" and two who contacted me as couples
Though my profile specifically says I'm not interested in dudes. I expected them to ignore that far more often.
If I could get photographers to not message me for stupid shit my profile clearly states not to message me about as often as I can get single dudes to not message me for dates....I'd be set.
I have very little, if anything, in common with the few ladies that contacted me.
I haven't contacted very many women, but of the few that I did send a message to (and I'm not talkin' physically attractive model types... I'm talkin' some of these girls would be lucky to be contacted by anybody), only two or three responded.
The two or three that I actually met were nutjobs. I've never asked any of them for a second date.
I did meet a wonderful Thai woman on another website that's actually coming to Las Vegas next month and staying throughout the summer. She's pretty successful and hasn't hit me up for any money (most of the foreign women from certain countries contact American or European men to either get a green card, money, or both).
SayCheeZ! wrote: I have very little, if anything, in common with the few ladies that contacted me.
I haven't contacted very man women, but of the few that I did send a message to (and I'm not talkin' physically attractive model types... I'm talkin' some of these girls would be lucky to be contacted by anybody), only two or three responded.
The two or three that I actually met were nutjobs. I've never asked any of them for a second date.
I did meet a wonderful Thai woman on another website that's actually coming to Las Vegas next month and staying throughout the summer. She's pretty successful and hasn't hit me up for any money (most of the foreign women from certain countries contact American or European men to either get a green card, money, or both).
I was guilty. I met my adorable husband on of all places... Plenty of Fish, the cesspool of dating sites. Neither of us were looking for a relationship, just friends.
Fu@k, who doesn't want to date you? I am just sayin'
Lots of folks have no desire to date me . I've had a lot of issues with people I date complaining about how much I work, and that I give them way too much space.
Ambitious type A personalities are not tolerable for everyone.
adorable! yeah i had plenty of fish for like 2 days. lol
Envy wrote: I was guilty. I met my adorable husband on of all places... Plenty of Fish, the cesspool of dating sites. Neither of us were looking for a relationship, just friends.
Ms Eryka wrote: adorable! yeah i had plenty of fish for like 2 days. lol
POF is massively hit and miss, mostly guys/girls looking for a bootie call. I made some platonic buddies, but never expected to find anyone worth dating. I found just meeting as friends without expectations didn't put any pressure on either of us.
Lots of folks have no desire to date me . I've had a lot of issues with people I date complaining about how much I work, and that I give them way too much space.
Ambitious type A personalities are not tolerable for everyone.
Haha.... soooo it is not the others; it is YOU with a high bar.
May be you haven't bumped into the ones whom you are willing to become a princess. I am sure the day will come. Keep flirting.
not my particular friend's
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