Jodie, I've been booking more and more commercial "corporate" video work a.k.a. "film" for which the majority of talent are indeed middle aged males...  The compelling issue is anti-shine and not portraying "youth" per say...  That said my go to for anti-shine has become MAC's Oil Control Lotion and URBAN DECAY's  DE-Sick... both work extremely well for sets using hot lights.

For Male talent airbrush has been my long standing choice... they seems to like the mechanical nature of the device   Also some guys just aren't receptive the touchy/feely nature of traditional application methodologies...  HOWEVER if a client has surface irregularities then a heavy cream such as RCMA is definitely my choice in as it's spackling ability is germane to smoothing for video capture.  Airbrush's fine mist doesn't fill surface irregularities nearly as effectively, albeit a heavy concealer used prior to application is an option.

As with any application, matte powder is your friend for an ultra-smooth look... however the illumination used on set more likely contributes a greater effect on the outcome... if possible I suggest (very tactfully) that the key source(s) be diffused... most hot lights kits have diffusion socks the easily fit over the light and greatly soften its aggregate effect on the talents skin texture...

Important note: when working with male talent, it's wise to avoid any scented product the tolerance level of gentlemen to the aforementioned has been very low in my experience here...

hope this helps...