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Chuck Purnell
Posts: 322
Wilmington, Delaware, US


NO this did NOT happen to me but I was just curious if you were approached by your EX to photograph him/her with the new person in their life, would you do it?
Mar 25 13 08:36 pm  Link  Quote 
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Giacomo Cirrincioni
Posts: 20,951
New York, New York, US


Unless it was a very recent breakup, absolutely (and even then, I very well might).
Mar 25 13 08:38 pm  Link  Quote 
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Joey B Photography
Posts: 232
Syracuse, New York, US


As long as it was a long time ago... my recent ex's are psychopaths.
Mar 25 13 08:42 pm  Link  Quote 
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-The Dave-
Posts: 8,593
Las Vegas, Nevada, US


Normal rates would apply. smile
Mar 25 13 08:42 pm  Link  Quote 
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Images by MR
Posts: 7,500
Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada


I'd be happy to shoot anyone of my 3 ex-wifes smile
Mar 25 13 08:45 pm  Link  Quote 
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Karl JW Johnston
Posts: 9,400
Toronto, Ontario, Canada


-The Dave- wrote:
Normal maximum rates would apply. smile

fixed.

big_smile

Mar 25 13 08:46 pm  Link  Quote 
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Bravo Magic Images
Posts: 765
Temple City, California, US


Sure why not. It makes you the better person. After all you have your life why not in the process get her cash from shooting your EX and I don't mean with a Gun.
Mar 25 13 08:47 pm  Link  Quote 
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Abbitt Photography
Posts: 11,371
Oakland Acres, Iowa, US


I would and have.
Mar 25 13 08:48 pm  Link  Quote 
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richardsphotographybc
Posts: 415
Langley, British Columbia, Canada


I'll let you know very soon. smile
Mar 25 13 08:50 pm  Link  Quote 
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Bob Helm Photography
Posts: 18,113
Cherry Hill, New Jersey, US


Images by MR wrote:
I'd be happy to shoot anyone of my 3 ex-wifes smile

We are talking about with a camera...right?

Mar 25 13 08:50 pm  Link  Quote 
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Images by MR
Posts: 7,500
Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada


Images by MR wrote:
I'd be happy to shoot anyone of my 3 ex-wifes smile
RennsportPhotography wrote:
We are talking about with a camera...right?

Oh my bad misread the OP..  In that case I wouldn't be interested in photographing any of my ex-wifes smile

Mar 25 13 08:56 pm  Link  Quote 
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ontherocks
Posts: 22,217
Salem, Oregon, US


no thanks. i prefer to avoid ex'es completely. you're either with me or you're against me.
Mar 25 13 11:04 pm  Link  Quote 
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fullmetalphotographer
Posts: 2,696
Fresno, California, US


If there is enough dead presidents, no problemo.
Mar 25 13 11:05 pm  Link  Quote 
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Right Poes
Posts: 840
Colorado Springs, Colorado, US


On behalf of my daughter, yes gladly. Life has been way better to me than her after she split. My daughter wound up living her middle and high school years with us. I would and I would be good at it. My ex was a lovely woman, the years have taken their due for the both of us, we deserve no less. I would try to give her back some of the youth I helped dispense with the images. She would have that coming.
Mar 26 13 01:18 am  Link  Quote 
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Christy Yarbrough
Posts: 42
Huntsville, Alabama, US


Images by MR wrote:
I'd be happy to shoot anyone of my 3 ex-wifes smile
RennsportPhotography wrote:
We are talking about with a camera...right?

Oh my bad misread the OP..  In that case I wouldn't be interested in photographing any of my ex-wifes smile


riflmao I love it and know how you feel.
Mar 26 13 01:25 am  Link  Quote 
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Matt Forma
Posts: 373
Denver, Colorado, US


If they'll pay you yeah why not...
Mar 26 13 01:29 am  Link  Quote 
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Dan Brady
Posts: 605
Perth, Western Australia, Australia


Chuck Purnell wrote:
NO this did NOT happen to me but I was just curious if you were approached by your EX to photograph him/her with the new person in their life, would you do it?

Is it paid work? then sure. We're all professionals here

Mar 26 13 01:37 am  Link  Quote 
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D-Light
Posts: 551
Newcastle, Limerick, Ireland


An ex-girlfriend, yes and I have done in the past.

My ex-wife, no. I wouldn't trust her, everything she does has some underhand scheme attached and I'm sure she'll use it against me at some point, in some way. That's how she operates. If my children asked me to shoot her, I would but very reluctantly.
Mar 26 13 05:23 am  Link  Quote 
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Marin Photography NYC
Posts: 6,848
New York, New York, US


Probably not!...I like to leave the past behind me.
Mar 26 13 05:34 am  Link  Quote 
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bobbydolan
Posts: 167
Boston, Massachusetts, US


Money is Money my friend... and not to come off greedy or heartless but oh yes is still photograph it. I'll lower my standards for that but not to shoot weddings/senior portraits
Mar 26 13 05:36 am  Link  Quote 
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Neil Templar
Posts: 387
Glastonbury, England, United Kingdom


It would depend on which Ex !
Mar 26 13 05:39 am  Link  Quote 
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MedievalIce
Posts: 206
Ithaca, New York, US


Depends on the ex.  I'd happily shoot some, but others not so much.
Mar 26 13 05:46 am  Link  Quote 
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RKD Photographic
Posts: 3,263
Iserlohn, North Rhine-Westphalia, Germany


-The Dave- wrote:
Normal rates would apply. smile

That's it.
'Money' and its liberal disbursement into my dusty coffers takes care of all the other baggage...

Mar 26 13 05:52 am  Link  Quote 
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Studio 12
Posts: 183
Spartanburg, South Carolina, US


-The Dave- wrote:
Normal rates would apply. smile

Absolutely

Mar 26 13 05:54 am  Link  Quote 
Photographer
Imageography
Posts: 6,768
Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, Canada


Definitely would shoot the ex, but then, take photos after smile
Mar 26 13 06:03 am  Link  Quote 
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Chuck Purnell
Posts: 322
Wilmington, Delaware, US


Interesting comments! LOL!
Mar 26 13 10:37 am  Link  Quote 
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ForeverFotos
Posts: 6,620
Indianapolis, Indiana, US


I might agree to shoot my ex, but only if I retained all rights to photoshop the images as I saw fit. A little special effects work never hurt anyone, right? BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Mar 26 13 10:45 am  Link  Quote 
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MainePaintah
Posts: 1,691
Saco, Maine, US


I would love to shoot my ex and her husband, and it would be TFP, mainly because I never got the chance to shake his hand and thank him from saving me from a life of hell!  smile
Mar 26 13 10:47 am  Link  Quote 
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Farenell Photography
Posts: 17,870
Albany, New York, US


Chuck Purnell wrote:
NO this did NOT happen to me but I was just curious if you were approached by your EX to photograph him/her with the new person in their life, would you do it?

Would depend entirely on how the break up went AND if I'd gotten over them.

Mar 26 13 10:49 am  Link  Quote 
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Will Snizek Photography
Posts: 1,387
Beckley, West Virginia, US


Depends on the ex lol.  I have ex girlfriends that I'd be willing to do something like that for.  I don't harbor any animosity towards the vast majority of my exes. If you were talking about my ex wife, I wouldn't do any favors for her much less do photography for her.
Mar 26 13 10:55 am  Link  Quote 
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Don Garrett
Posts: 4,263
Escondido, California, US


My ex wife and I have a very good relationship, she has married twice since I was married to her. I would be happy to shoot her with her new husband, (he seems like a very nice guy).
-Don
Mar 26 13 11:04 am  Link  Quote 
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Backstreet Photography
Posts: 136
Salem, Oregon, US


In a heartbeat ~ i had a gorgeous EX, and being able to see her happy with her 'new life' would make me happy as well.  We started out as friends, no reason we can't be friends just because we weren't a successful couple ~ m'
Mar 26 13 11:04 am  Link  Quote 
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Fotographia Fantastique
Posts: 17,324
Lebanon, New Hampshire, US


Sure.
Cash up front, though.
Mar 26 13 11:06 am  Link  Quote 
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Zack Zoll
Posts: 2,274
Glens Falls, New York, US


Have, and would again.  For free.  Hell, I would pay THEM if it got me the photos I wanted.  Let me tell you a story.

Several years ago, I was living with a girl.  We were (I thought) pretty serious ... talked about marriage, someone in her family made reference to me as a father a few times, etc.  We never got engaged, but the tone of our conversations was that it was going to happen eventually, when we were ready.

Then one of her friends split up with his fiancee, and she started staying over at his house.  Clearly you all know where this is going.  She and I split up more-or-less immediately after that, and now she's married to him.  I'm long over it now, but I was pretty messed up about it for a while.

Cut to a year ago.  I'm in school for photography, and I misunderstand one of my professors.  She says that I shouldn't avoid photographing people that make me uncomfortable.  I hear, 'You should photograph people that make you uncomfortable.'  So I go home, and the first thing I do is email the ex, and ask if I can photograph her and her husband.

I took her photo, and it's in the 'Birds of a Lesser Paradise' section of my portfolio.  It doesn't matter which one she is, but I can tell you that it isn't the one you would think it is.  Unless you're Mr. Farenell, then you may know wink

I've asked her many, many times about photographing her husband, but I still haven't had any luck.  I suspect that he thinks I'll make him look like an asshole.  I wouldn't be willing to compromise the overall project just to try to get back at somebody, but honestly, I'd think the same thing if I were in his shoes.

If not for that misheard advice, I never would have gotten started on the project.  And it's on the back burner right now, but it's a project that I really feel strongly and passionately about, and which I am excited to get back to.

So yeah, I'd photograph an ex every time.  I've actually written almost all of my exes and asked if I could photograph them, in addition to a couple girls I had a crush on in high school.
Mar 26 13 12:33 pm  Link  Quote 
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A-M-P
Posts: 18,010
Orlando, Florida, US


I would think there are plenty of photographers out there why do they want me to do it. Since I like to avoid drama I would pass
Mar 26 13 12:38 pm  Link  Quote 
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Good Egg Productions
Posts: 15,138
Orlando, Florida, US


I've shot a few of my exs.  But I doubt I'd shoot them WITH their new guy, as the OP asked.
Mar 26 13 12:42 pm  Link  Quote 
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AJScalzitti
Posts: 12,302
Atlanta, Georgia, US


Lord no they all have to be my age by now...
Mar 26 13 12:42 pm  Link  Quote 
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Reggie Dennis
Posts: 88
Charlotte, North Carolina, US


An ex asked me to photograph her wedding!!! I couldn't imagine getting married to my fiancé and the photographer had slept with her!! They split, don't know why.
Mar 26 13 06:42 pm  Link  Quote 
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Leighthenubian
Posts: 2,749
Toronto, Ontario, Canada


Did it on three occasions and all were a bad idea. Apparently sex with them was such a privilege that they were allowed to discount my rates and recommend me to others at their "friend" prices. The last one thought it was cute to reduce my fee with the addition of a gift card for Holt Renfrew...as if. I don't think anything in that store costs less than $50. The answer is a firm no from then forward.
Mar 26 13 08:55 pm  Link  Quote 
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Miroslava Svoboda
Posts: 555
Seattle, Washington, US


AJScalzitti wrote:
Lord no they all have to be my age by now...

big_smile Photoshop is your friend AJ tongue

Mar 26 13 09:07 pm  Link  Quote 
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