my_other_profile wrote:
But Joey, Bibles!

Men are the head of the MM household, and I'm putting mah foot down.

KonstantKarma wrote:

Men are the head of the MM household, and I'm putting mah foot down.

You're right; I can't believe I didn't realize this.  You are clearly the superior gender and it is your responsibility to protect me from the dangers of the internet.  I submit to your superior Y chromosome by making sandwiches.

optimistic negatives wrote:
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Men are the lead of the household? Bullshit.

I'm married. My husband sees me as his equal, and so do I. We make decisions together.

This is what my husband wrote about my modeling:

It never ceases to amaze me how whenever I mention that my wife is a burlesque performer/pinup model, people actually ask me, "You really let her do that?" The key words here being, "LET HER." I don't "let her" do anything. She is an amazing, beautiful, talented and INDEPENDENT woman who can do whatever the hell she wants to do because we're in the bloody 21st century. Why on earth would she ever need to ASK me permission to do something she loves to do.

AmieS wrote:
Yes, we have been together 4 years and have talked about this quite a bit. He has jelousy issues which ive known about, but seems everytime i mention a shoot or even trying to do one he gets up in arms and huffy over it. Im confident if he went with me and saw what it was all about he would calm down. Its just very frustrating. I dont ask him to NOT do something he really wants to do... i know his parents raised him that modeling is trashy and filth and that its almost the same as a stripper.. idk.. hes no where near what they are but im wondering if that is the underlying issue to his response. Ill find out when we talk tonight

Thanks guys

AmieS wrote:
Well.. here is the update... We sat.. talked... argued a little.. talked some more.. and I have a confirmed shoot and a week later got offered a interview for a hair show He still is not thrilled but when i said fine stop being a firefighter.. he said ok.. and posted his gear for sale! after much discussion he agreed with me i can do this. He is worried I will waste gas driving to all these shoots and never get paid. Then we are out $$ for gas etc. But once i explained more on how it works.. he seems fine. As far as him going w me he is curious... but said if he cant go he understands ....

I think you said that he is a fireman/EMT?  Well God bless him!  If he hasn't already, he is going to see things on his job that he'd not wish for you to have to see.  I saw a child get hit by a car and die right in front of me ... it was the most helpless feeling on earth!  You don't need him to attend your photo shoots.  It's a whole different World from what he faces at work. 

I'm sorry that his upbringing was not very positive towards models ... and perhaps photography in general?  It is a vastly mistaken concept to compare models to strippers.  There is nothing wrong with stripping either in my opinion. 

However I think that the jealousy issue is something that he needs to work on.  If he clings too tightly to anything, he will get his heart broken.  Some people lose everything they own in fires, and lose loved ones too.  I think very highly of Fire/EMT as my only nephew is one! 

Don't blame him for his own feelings, but also you should not take the blame either.  Continue to work on communication as a couple, and also I hope that he is open to counseling for himself, because someday he may need it ... and it wont have to do with marriage either.   I've been a volunteer suicide prevention and crisis intervention counselor.  Shortly after 9/11 were some of the toughest calls I ever took.

P I X I E wrote:
Men are the lead of the household? Bullshit.

I'm married. My husband sees me as his equal, and so do I. We make decisions together.

This is what my husband wrote about my modeling:

i think your sarcasm filter is set waaaaay too high. you totally missed that one

AVD AlphaDuctions wrote:
i think your sarcasm filter is set waaaaay too high. you totally missed that one

Okay?

By the way, I was *not* responding or reacting to a post on this page. Too lazy to quote. Whatever.

To make it easier on you, I have edited my post. I know that the gal above me was not serious and I wasn't even responding to that.

my_other_profile wrote:

You're right; I can't believe I didn't realize this.  You are clearly the superior gender and it is your responsibility to protect me from the dangers of the internet.  I submit to your superior Y chromosome by making sandwiches.

What kind of sandwiches...?

Danielle Reid wrote:
I'm submissive to my fiancé. He just breaks down when I say "yes sir". All his manliness leaves the room at that point. I don't cook or clean though so I'm not THAT submissive.

I cook all the time because if I don't, my husband would set the house on fire. Last time he cooked rice, there was smoke everywhere, and the pan was ruined.

Plus I'm an awesome cook. I don't mind it at all.

AmieS wrote:
So what do you do when you have been modeling for years, and your just got married and the guy wants to go with you to shoots, know how much your paid.. and if you get travel etc.. you understand as the model but they guy is totally clueless and because of that he says no you cant do it.... what then?

Should probably have figured all that out Prior and not really had to post out here!

P I X I E wrote:

I cook all the time because if I don't, my husband would set the house on fire. Last time he cooked rice, there was smoke everywhere, and the pan was ruined.

Plus I'm an awesome cook. I don't mind it at all.

Hey, even America's NOW organization knows men suck at domestic chores!

KonstantKarma wrote:



Hey, even America's NOW organization knows men suck at domestic chores!

Amazing.