Belle 98 wrote:
Thoughts?

You most definitely do not look Your published age and are simply gorgeous.

don't change a thing...

Kelli wrote:
People bother me a lot too and only one person has ever got my ethnicity right. I've heard some pretty odd guesses that are NOWHERE in my ancestry.

If you want to change your hair colour, do it for u and if you don't want to then don't.

Sorry u have to put up with stupid or annoying questions, but that's being human, it's either that or hibernate.

Thanks for understanding where I'm coming from.  Any suggestions on what kind of red I should try?

MoRina wrote:
Coloring your hair will most likely increase the issue you are having.  People will just add "is that your real hair color?" to their interrogation.

LOL, I didn't think about that.  You're right that might happen.

Just because they ask, it doesn't mean you are obligated to answer.

Yeah, refusing to answer doesn't work that well.  I could see someone insisting that I answer them or asking me if I was deaf.

I was at a bar one night with a group of friends, and someone that was a friend of a friend came up and started asking me where I was from.  I tried to ignore him but it didn't work.

He left for a minute, then came back five minutes later and started asking me again where I was from.  My friend finally had to tell him to leave me alone.

Belle 98 wrote:

MoRina wrote:
Coloring your hair will most likely increase the issue you are having.  People will just add "is that your real hair color?" to their interrogation.

LOL, I didn't think about that.  You're right that might happen.


Yeah, refusing to answer doesn't work that well.  I could see someone insisting that I answer them or asking me if I was deaf.

I was at a bar one night with a group of friends, and someone that was a friend of a friend came up and started asking me where I was from.  I tried to ignore him but it didn't work.

He left for a minute, then came back five minutes later and started asking me again where I was from.  My friend finally had to tell him to leave me alone.

You can always laugh off the question with a silly answer... tell them it's a secret family recipe.  I'm an immigrant, and sometimes I just don't feel like telling people where my parents were from and where I was born and how I ended up here.  It isn't really something I feel obligated to discuss with a casual acquaintance or stranger.

Vector One Photography wrote:
And changing your hair color will change exactly what ? It doesn't change your skin color and doesn't change your bone structure.  And depending on the color will just make you look even more different and raise more questions. 

You are what you are, why change because of others ?  Next time they ask, just tell them you're from Mars.

P.S.  A saying that I forgot all about until just now. "Never explain yourself. Your friends don't need it and your enemies couldn't care less."

I understand exactly what you and others are saying.  On the one hand, I agree with you, why should I change because of others?

But on the other hand it still doesn't help matters when I get hassled. 

But you're right, dying my hair won't change my skin color or bone structure.  In a moment of frustration I thought about getting a nose job to make it look more "white".  I know, I know, I'm not doing it, but it did cross my mind for a hot second. 

I was thinking red or red/blond because I think the dark brown hair makes me look more Indian or Hispanic.  Mixed people tend to have red or blond tones in their hair, so that's why I was thinking of going more towards those colors.

Belle 98 wrote:

I understand exactly what you and others are saying.  On the one hand, I agree with you, why should I change because of others?

But on the other hand it still doesn't help matters when I get hassled. 

But you're right, dying my hair won't change my skin color or bone structure.  In a moment of frustration I thought about getting a nose job to make it look more "white".  I know, I know, I'm not doing it, but it did cross my mind for a hot second. 

I was thinking red or red/blond because I think the dark brown hair makes me look more Indian or Hispanic.  Mixed people tend to have red or blond tones in their hair, so that's why I was thinking of going more towards those colors.

Why not a lighter brown with reddish undertones?

Danielle Reid wrote:
Why not a lighter brown with reddish undertones?

I like that, heck, I was just looking up Ciera, she has blond hair, and I think we have about the same skin tone.  The dark blond looks really good on her, heck, I may try it anyway, even if I still get questions, just to try something different.

I also was going to buy a couple of cheap wigs, just to see how I look with red hair before I dye my hair.  That way I can see how I look first before committing.  A lighter brown with red undertones may work.  Thanks!