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No, it's YOU disappointing ME
Nude modeling. Glamour modeling. Art modeling. Showing any skin whatsoever.... Countless threads on "my family/boyfriend/husband/girlfriend doesn't approve and it hurts...what do I do?" Has anyone ever thought to say to that person or those people that it's THEM disappointing YOU and not the other way around? Why is it that people in our lives feel that it's simply perfect for them to tell us how we should conduct our modeling (i.e. nudes and not doing nudes) and it's not OK for us to be upset with them? Why do THEY get to be upset with US but we don't get to be upset and disappointed at how close minded they are? Folks- if there is a person in your life, or people that say they can't handle your modeling (Esp. for you nude models out there) then express to them that you are hurt by that and move on. )Put it on them. Don't sit there and say "how do I handle this because my so-and-so doesn't approve", but instead say to that so-and-so that YOU don't approve of THEIR negativity toward modeling nude or just modeling in general. I'm disappointed in those that are close to models and don't support them. I think it's bullshit. I think it's the models that should be upset and not their family or friends or significant others. I'm just tired of these threads. You don't approve of my modeling? I don't approve of you. It's YOU disappointing ME. Try that next time someone gives you crap. That doesn't work? Walk away. /rant. Dec 27 07 12:08 pm Link :stands up and applauds: VERY well-said! I agree 100%! Dec 27 07 12:09 pm Link Daniela Victoria wrote: Exactly. *Claps* Dec 27 07 12:10 pm Link Awesome!!! I totally agree. Dec 27 07 12:11 pm Link Daniela, You disappoint me that you won't fly to Colorado on your dime and show some skin  Not today.... It's snowing Dec 27 07 12:11 pm Link Well said! I support this 100%. Dec 27 07 12:12 pm Link I'm buying you a sash and a crown. I wish more people had this kind of self-assuredness. Too many members on here (and everywhere, really) allow their family, friends, significant others, etc. to become crutches due to their insecurities, and need everyone's approval. Hell with that. Dec 27 07 12:12 pm Link Daniela Victoria wrote: Sadly, you will always be in the minority thinking this way. Dec 27 07 12:13 pm Link  Dec 27 07 12:13 pm Link *stands on chair and claps* Dec 27 07 12:14 pm Link swhnyc wrote: I so need a new tiara. Dec 27 07 12:15 pm Link Trevor Snyder wrote: That shouldn't be the case. Dec 27 07 12:15 pm Link I am a Caribbean only daughter surrounded by brothers and male first cousins. My parents are fine with my commercial work of course, but my glamour work and nudes.... they don't support. and believe me, I understand. Dec 27 07 12:16 pm Link Hmm...yes he is! Thanks! Dec 27 07 12:16 pm Link Damn skippy! Dec 27 07 12:16 pm Link Been there. My ex-wife once said to me, "you're lucky that I am so nice and let you shoot nudes." WTF!?!?! 'let' me??? It's not about moral issues... it's not about 'what will the family think?'... it's not about it being a 'sin'... It is about power and how the spouse/sig other feels that they need to have power and control over you. After you let them know that they can have that kind of control, they will see what other areas of your life that they don't like and make you give that up, too. "It's ____ or me - you have to choose" is a form of emotional abuse. Period. Dec 27 07 12:16 pm Link Hear Hear! Three cheers for Daniela! Dec 27 07 12:17 pm Link Sorry, but anything you do that someone else wouldn't is just plain wrong! This is America, you can't just go around having an opinion that differs from others and not expect to chastized for it. Besides, what you do is easy. All you do is take your clothes off, smile and look pretty. There is no hard work or talent involved and if God had meant for you to be naked, you would have been born that way. Dec 27 07 12:18 pm Link I definitely agree too! I ran into this crap with my grandmother and part of my family. The other half (like my dad and mom.....are totally cool with it.....or at least they tell me that). I still have to deal with it often.....but no sweat....I have been telling them that I will do what makes me happy for years. Why live life and not be happy? I support myself and my own decisions....without needing approval from others. At least I will be smiling on my deathbed.  Dec 27 07 12:18 pm Link The_N_Word wrote: I'm so glad I disowned my family on Christmas. Dec 27 07 12:19 pm Link Get her a throne! applauds!!!!! Long live people with fresh views on an age old issue...Where is Biana? Dec 27 07 12:19 pm Link New Dawn Photography wrote: I suddenly got The Life of Brian stuck in my head... Dec 27 07 12:23 pm Link Damn.... why couldn't she take part in the presidential debates. Dec 27 07 12:23 pm Link Daniela Victoria wrote: In some cases, families are who they are. I doubt my grandfather or any of my daddy's family would be anywhere near as accepting of naked Melissa as my mother is. But....in my grandfather's case, I would understand and just not mention it if he were still alive. Dec 27 07 12:23 pm Link Creativity Farm wrote: Dec 27 07 12:24 pm Link Trevor Snyder wrote: Daniela Victoria wrote: Sadly these same people who claim to be in the majority end up mad at themselves in the long run for buying into others beliefs about THEIR behavior.. Dec 27 07 12:24 pm Link Rob Domaschuk wrote: Ha ha ha ha ha! Dec 27 07 12:25 pm Link Daniela Victoria wrote: I don't wanna fuck them Dec 27 07 12:27 pm Link New Dawn Photography wrote: Were you being sarcastic here? Dec 27 07 12:27 pm Link I don't know.I quit modeling 2 years ago because I coludn't take it.People were telling me I am whore all the time:-(I like my pics but I don't like if somebody who knows me can see them... Dec 27 07 12:27 pm Link Way too smart for that! Creativity Farm wrote: Dec 27 07 12:28 pm Link UIPHOTOS wrote: Those women are idiots. Dec 27 07 12:28 pm Link Daniela Victoria wrote: TFTiara Dec 27 07 12:28 pm Link Tiffany x wrote: Isn't the definition of a whore someone that sleeps around? Dec 27 07 12:29 pm Link Rachel Jay wrote:
Dec 27 07 12:33 pm Link Daniela Victoria wrote: All I do is going to school and taking care of my baby.But they are still looking for pictures on internet then they find me and tell me I am whore:-(. Dec 27 07 12:33 pm Link Tiffany x wrote: Tell them they are ugly and move on. Dec 27 07 12:35 pm Link Daniela Victoria wrote: ...or ask them what they're doing spending all of their time looking at nudes on the web... Dec 27 07 12:37 pm Link Daniela Victoria wrote: I prefer to say "Your head is big and you are fat". Dec 27 07 12:37 pm Link New Dawn Photography wrote: Good point. Dec 27 07 12:38 pm Link |
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