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I would treat them like any other professional client. Nothing more - nothing less. and make sure the better half os there at the shoot with you both Jun 14 08 03:23 pm Link Sophistocles wrote: LOL! Jun 14 08 03:26 pm Link Patrick Shipstad wrote: I agree 100% Jun 14 08 03:29 pm Link I had shot nudes of my close friend's wife. He insisted on it because he trusted me. Jun 14 08 03:30 pm Link Outlaw Imagery wrote: There's only a few things you should be concerned: Jun 14 08 03:35 pm Link Just make sure both of them are comfortable with the erotic shots, otherwise, try to tame it down. I've remained good friends with several couples I've photographed, some more than once. Jun 14 08 03:37 pm Link As a lot of other posters have already said, they really trust you, which is absolutely fine. If you feel like doing it keeping it professional, perfect, go ahead and do it. My .02 : Trust them as they trust you: 1) Give them the originals of your work and if possible shoot in film and hand them the negatives or the slides. 2) Never, EVER, unless THEY bring it up, talk about it. And even if they bring it up, no matter what, keep it very low profile. This is what I have done the two times it happened to me. Forst time a shot film, second time i deleted all the shots from my PC in front of them, once finished PP and all. Just my toughts, mind you. Jun 14 08 03:56 pm Link He trusts you. His wife trusts you. Do it. Jun 14 08 03:59 pm Link Why is he asking? She can ask herself. Jun 14 08 04:00 pm Link I agree with those that say it is a compliment. They are friends and they trust you will not only do a good job but they trust you to be open enough to the experience to share it with you. I'd do it. Jun 14 08 04:01 pm Link Similar situation. I turned it down because wifey seemed a little too eager to get naked for me. They later divorced due to her infidelity... Jun 14 08 04:02 pm Link It seems to me that there must be a little history here. They must know that you do this kind of work and maybe talked with you about it. I would just confirm before the shoot that she wants this to take place as well. That he isn't pushing her to do this just for himself. If he isn't the jealous type of any sort and you talk to both of them(and they seem cool about it) I would go ahead. I think I would get together with them before the shoot just to talk about it and be sure your on the same page. Are these pics just for them or will they sign a release so you can use them as samples of your work. If you wanted to. Tim Jun 14 08 04:12 pm Link Been there, done that, and got the t-shirts. Recommend you make up a NON - model release for the wife.... I wrote up a three paragraph memo for signature that says, who, what, when, where, why and how about the photos and the negative (if any). I found this puts everything into a professional context and everyone knows what is to be expected. Good luck and never turn down an opportunity to create art... there is a difference between art and a snapshot. After the photo session and you deliver the pictures / CD / negatives etc.. don't mention the experience unless they bring it up. Jun 14 08 04:13 pm Link Sophistocles wrote: That's what I was thinking... Sounds like they dont want to flat out say it but erotic nudes vs just saying nudes... Jun 14 08 04:18 pm Link Outlaw Imagery wrote: Be professional about it and there will be no weirdness. Just treat her like you would any other client. Jun 14 08 04:24 pm Link Strangely enough, I've had more women tell me that they wish they'd shot with me before they knew me. Now that we know each other, they think they'd feel weird getting naked in front of someone they know (having someone that they socialize with see *all* of them). But they'd do it for a stranger. I kinda understand that... I guess... but then again I'm still bothered by it a bit... Even though I shouldn't be - it's totally their choice. I know, I'm weird... Jun 14 08 04:25 pm Link Outlaw Imagery wrote: Yeah - like some others have said - just be professional. Shoot her like you'd shoot a model you didn't know and it should be fine. Jun 14 08 04:27 pm Link they might - more-so want to have it done - and trust that the photos will not end up in the wrong places Jun 14 08 04:29 pm Link Jeff Fiore wrote: That is the situation with my coworker and his wife. They had been wanting to have it done for a while, but never did because they didn't know a photographer they could trust for something like that. Jun 14 08 04:30 pm Link If you want to keep that friend/professional separation, charge them your normal day or half-day rate. Oh, and don't take any inflatable sheep to the shoot. That would just be wrong. Jun 14 08 04:32 pm Link Just do it! I don't get where the weirdness would come from. If you see an old g/f that you've slept with, is that awkward? Is it awkward if you ran into your doctor in town, who has seen you naked? Jun 14 08 04:41 pm Link Ed Stevenson wrote: Exactly. If you can't be objective, what does it say about you when you shoot other models nude? Are you just a gwc?? Jun 14 08 04:44 pm Link I think I can beat that, photographer friend wanted me to pose nude with his wife in duo nude shots. She wanted to do it also. Seemed too weird for me so I passed. Jun 14 08 04:49 pm Link I see nothing wrong with that. I've done it several times and it has not affected the friendships I had at all. Just keep it professional. Don't dwell on or "memorize" anything you see or learn during the session. Jun 14 08 04:54 pm Link I had this offer three times. I was only unsure the first time, because that time and the two that followed turned out some wonderful images and in a way deepend our friendships. Give it a shot and keep it professional. You'll drop into photgrapher mode and they'll see and understand that completely. Jun 14 08 04:54 pm Link jkudzu wrote: You can pose nude with my ex wife anytime.........please Jun 14 08 04:54 pm Link i say don't do it. not worth the possible long term issues. I never want my friends to see my wife in the nude. She's "my" wife. When someone walks in on your woman naked it stick with you LOL. If i had to i'd prefer a stranger. this way there will never be any thoughts later. its a weird request to me from a friend. while he sits there. now spread your right leg just a little more hummmmmmmmmmm. I had a friend do something similar and his friend flip out on his be afraid very afraid and move aaawwaaayyyyyy from the misses follow your gut Jun 14 08 04:57 pm Link This is a no brainer. You are on MM to network with other photogs, muas, etc. You refer them to you fav photog on this one. You never want to compromise yourself for the art. Ome wrong move or gesture on either part and you relationship is over. Friendship is worth more than a nude pic anyday! Jun 14 08 05:00 pm Link You should really turn it down and have me do it. Jun 14 08 05:00 pm Link jkudzu wrote: dont drink much do ya? it takes three to two-step, ya know. Jun 14 08 05:02 pm Link Joe Koz - GWC wrote: My sentiments exactly!!! Jun 14 08 05:04 pm Link Sit down and talk to both of them together about it over coffee. Make sure you discuss what they mean by "erotic" so that is clear. Then, go with your instinct based on how good your friendship is and what they really want. Jun 14 08 06:19 pm Link Fotomoon wrote: Did she have any boyfriends before you? If so, you realize that she has had someone else's cock inside her right? How does that stick with you? What if you are with her one day when you run into one of those old boyfriends? How do you feel then? Jun 14 08 07:39 pm Link Bernie Browder wrote: Lol she doesn't have a say in it, he's hiding in the wardrobe . Jun 14 08 07:53 pm Link Lumigraphics wrote: I do kinda see what he means though. Even if the OP acts completely professional it could be that his friend will be come paranoid afterwards and turn nothings into something, like eye contact for too long or a completely unrelated remark. His friend may think he is referencing the shoot when he isn't etc. Jun 14 08 08:05 pm Link Outlaw Imagery wrote: I don't see anything wrong with doing it, but weigh the risk of saying yes and saying no. If you do it, it's the kind of thing that one of them could regret later and cuase problems within your friendship. Saying no could maybe leave them felling a little offended, but if you explain that you don't want to risk the friendship, then I'm sure they'll understand. No is the safer answer. Jun 14 08 08:35 pm Link Ruben Grolet wrote: LOL hmmm do you have a pic of her? Jun 14 08 11:16 pm Link Sugar Ray wrote: Ok I think it was really a matter of finding the "right" model/wife to pose with! Is your husband a photographer??? ;-) Jun 14 08 11:20 pm Link I myself have been in this situation more than once not only with friends but relatives as well.I take it as a compliment. They already know several things that puts them at ease before we ever start. and no nothing has ever been wierd afterwords. Number 1 I am always professional no matter who it is. number 2 they know that they can trust that I will never post or display their images any where no matter what. In this type of shoot one has to choose wisely and trust who they have do the shoot. Fred Jun 14 08 11:28 pm Link I say go for it as long as you're comfortable and feel you can pull it off. You don't want the images to suffer because of your awkwardness, so if you don't feel right doing it then refer them to someone else. Otherwise I say go for it. They obviously came to you, meaning they're fine with it and trust you to do it. They may be more offended if you turn it down, showing that you can't trust yourself to do such a thing. I can pretty much see both sides of it so it all comes down to how you feel about it and making the decision yourself! Jun 14 08 11:31 pm Link |