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nude models - ever been found out?
Did anyone in your family ever find your nude photos online? Did any of your classmates or workmates find them? Did anyone in your church find them? Did any of your friends find them? How did you react? How did it make you feel? Feb 08 12 11:40 pm Link When I first started modeling I wasnt speaking to my mother. My little brother found the pictures through a friend and immediately showed Mom. At first she didn't believe it was me till she noticed a tattoo...curses! Instantly she sent the link to my Dad, who was in the Navy at the time. Instead of the horror she was hoping he'd feel, he was proud as hell, and showed his friends, "Look at how beautiful my baby girl is!" He was obviously concerned I wasn't being taken advantage of, and that I was truly enjoying posing. Once I reassured him, he was just really proud and supportive. Take that, Ma! Feb 09 12 06:06 am Link I am pretty much the poster child for "they will find out somehow." A couple months after I started my mom (who was working at the same business I was), called me into her office and told me my boss had found my photos. My mom has always come across as really conservative (and I still think she mostly is), but instead of her freaking out on me she just told me I might want to put them somewhere he could find them because we both knew he was a perv. He had not asked her to do this, of course, and she didn't tell him that she told me he knew. Okay, now this came as a shock that he found them at first. But then we pieced together how he found me (most of which he told my mom) and it just made the whole thing seem ridiculous. I had MySpace at the time and was using the name Dekilah on there. However, I had the profile set where you couldn't search for me. What he had done was searched for girls in the area fitting a certain description and I had popped up via that route (thanks Myspace  ). I still didn't have any links or anything to my modeling there. So then he googled the name and found my ModelMayhem which wasn't set to make 18+ viewable only to members at the time. But the best part was just a little while later when he talked to me about it himself because I had hidden the photos before he got a chance to save them to his hard drive (which he told my mom). Remember how I said Mom didn't tell him she told me he found them? Well, he calls me into his office and tells me he found my photos. I pretend to be surprised. He tells me it's okay. I (still feigning worry and shock) ask him how in the world he found them when I'd been so very careful. He then proceeds to tell me that one of the students at the martial arts school where I worked was a photographer and he showed him. So of course naturally I question who it was (knowing full well it was no student). He tells me that's not important. I tell him that it kind of is to me and that it's horrible unethical for a photographer to do such a thing to another person in the industry and that I needed to know who it was so I would never work with that person. He then switches gears and says he never said it was a student and that he knows all sorts of people in the industry. Fashion, nudes, and porn. He then tries to talk to some "industry jargon" to convince me. I continue to insist that whoever this person was that told on me has violated all sorts of codes and ethics. In the end, he ended up tangled in his own web of lies and nothing he said matched up. Later on he tried getting me to give him nude photos so he could help me best design a workout for my body type. Basically, the whole thing just ended up being something my mom and I joked around about. Aside from that delightful situation, I think one of my little brothers found my photos somehow, probably googling again, and then told the other two siblings. The only immediate family member that I don't believe knows is my dad. And I'd rather keep it that way. I'm not afraid of how he'll react, but my dad is older and I'd rather not stress him out over something I know he won't approve of. My friends are all people I made through modeling and the like so they all know, especially up here in Detroit I'm definitely known for being a nude model (in a good way). I'd already graduated college before I started modeling so that's not relevant for me. And I don't regularly attend church. Feb 09 12 08:56 am Link Yeah, everyone finds them when I tell them about it. I specifically tell my dad every place there are nude photos of me so he can avoid them, or at the very least if he sees them they will be on purpose and not on accident. Feb 09 12 09:22 am Link I don't do nudes, but i had something happen with my implieds once. I worked at a food place, and there was a good i worked with that got on my last nerve. He was a horrible worker, he tended to "zone" out a lot, and he was a bit creepy. Then one day i was talking to another co-worker about my modeling (not the implied stuff), and this kid jumps in and says, oh she has a lot of stuff on her portfolio. we were going to work together but never did. i just looked at him in shock and asked wtf he was talking about. stupid me, i never recognized his last name, which was part of his photographer's alias. and we WERE gonna work together at some point, except another model told me that he was creepy and unprofessional. i'm still uncomfortable at the idea that this kid has seen some of my photos, which go beyond implied topless now. but at least i know longer have to work with or even talk to him  Feb 09 12 11:13 am Link Not online, but my parents found a CD with photos from a nude shoot. Yeah, they were not happy, but I was living with them and I guess back then, it made sense. Now that I moved out, I honestly don't care much anymore if they find nude photos of me. Feb 09 12 11:22 am Link If I wouldn't feel comfortable about shooting nudes, then I simply wouldn't shoot - nudes. Feb 09 12 11:32 am Link 
Model Posts: 1796 Amundsen-Scott - permanent station of the US, Unclaimed Sector, Antarctica One time my Dad found a couple of nude paintings of me when he was out for First Friday or something. Good thing he already knew that I was a nude model. Feb 09 12 01:40 pm Link Photography InFocus wrote: Yes to all, except the part of finding them online. They just found out about what I do. Feb 09 12 02:12 pm Link No. I've done nude model work since 2005, including during times when I worked more "professional" jobs. I've shot with, and modeled for, probably hundreds of people. I really can't even estimate how many nude photos of me are out there on the internet. They only people who've ever known, or found out, were people I told. Feb 10 12 07:09 am Link My parents both know about them, as do my siblings and my extended family. I don't hide it from them. My dad doesn't like it, but he is extremely supportive regardless. He found out because it got brought up in court. [Long story short, his ex wife is psycho and was trying to get full custody of my little brother. Her lawyer dug up my nude images and dubbed me a "porn star." Judge threw it out because I was over 18 and in CA at the time. Fuck yeah, Texas.] Hell, my dad now has one of my prints hanging up in the house. My mom hates it. She calls me a whore, a slut, a disgrace. Meh. Not one single fuck is given. My cousins [most of them are around my age] could care less. I was always running around naked anyway. My grandmother... I've started threads about that shit. No need to rehash it again. She's none too pleased. Other than that, my friends are really supportive and love seeing my new stuff. It's awesome. Feb 10 12 01:58 pm Link I found a female that works in the same department as me doing nude modeling on MM.... Feb 10 12 02:02 pm Link My parents both know - I showed Dad a couple of implieds, but they'd both seen me modeling body art numerous times anyway. My boyfriend knows - hates it, but respects my decision. Most of my friends know, we joke about it from time to time. The only person who has ever found my photo's online, is actually a male nude model on here - he happened to be a receptionist at my old job. We laughed and it was sweet. I enjoy modeling nude and I don't intend to stop anytime soon. Feb 11 12 11:12 pm Link Photography InFocus wrote: Yeah, my friends and my husband's family are my number one fans! Feb 12 12 08:31 pm Link Yes, only this year actually! I decided to take up modelling and signed myself up to a few online modelling sites including this one. Initially i said i was not keen to shoot nude as i was worried about what my parents would think. I arranged a couple of shoots and when the photographer arrived he asked me if i would change my mind. I was also told that the shoot was art nude and not exactly seen as anything pornographic. I thought well it can't hurt and wanted to give it a go. After the shoot i saved a few of the pictures that we took some revealing onto my computer. In total i shot two shoots that both included art nude and implied nude photos. A couple of months later i moved in with my boyfriend as i was having problems getting on with everyone at home. One night i got a call from my cousin who said that my parents had been talking about how they had seen nude pictures of me on the internet. I completed freaked out and felt like my privacy had been totally violated. I couldn't believe that whilst i was out of the house my family members were logging onto my computer and looking at these pictures of me. Let alone discussing what they saw between themselves. It was the most embarrassing thing ever and still cannot live it down to this day. I don't know what to do with the pictures as i quite enjoy them myself as do the photographers who took them and other viewers who have commented on the pictures online. My parents and siblings however use the pictures as something to always get back at me. I wish they could appreciate how i did not mean for this to be something slutty or vulgar but part of the job i wanted to pursue. I am hoping one day when my siblings get older they will understand and my parents will just learn to live with the choices that i make in my life. In terms of shooting nude again i am still unsure of. I know that in order to become successful in modelling it is an advantage to shoot nudes. But would find it difficult to go through the same thing again. Oct 07 12 04:15 pm Link I had a couple friends from high school find my photos, basically because a photographer had been careless and posted under my real name and not my fake name. Some brought it up spitefully, but I think it was more jealousy than anything else. Someone else told my parents that they had found photos of me (supposedly because they were concerned I was in porn or something), which caused my parents to be concerned for my safety until I explained that I really enjoy what I do, I'm very careful, etc. Now they don't comment on it negatively. They actually told someone who brought it up to mind their own business. Obviously I would have preferred all that stuff to stay private, just for simplicity, but I'm not ashamed of what I do. I figured people would find out eventually. Oct 07 12 04:25 pm Link Not yet;) Oct 07 12 05:02 pm Link Photography InFocus wrote: Maybe. My immediate family has always known. My mother dropped me off at my first nude shoot. I've had my dad drop me off a few times as well. I assume my brother knows as well. Did any of your classmates or workmates find them? I'm sure many of my classmates know, just by the way gossip works. Did anyone in your church find them? Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster. Did any of your friends find them? Some of my friends know because I told them. Others by accident. How did you react? How did it make you feel? Indifferent I guess. I've never been in a position where I feel like I've been "found out". When I feel that I ought to tell someone or want to tell someone about my modeling I do. When people find out from other means and try to confront me about it, I basically have no fucks to give. Wahoo, I model sometimes in my spare time. The world keeps spinning. Oct 07 12 05:06 pm Link It's not a secret. Nothing to find out. Oct 07 12 05:08 pm Link Damianne wrote: gee thanks, just what every dad wants to hear 20 places not to look for your nude daughter. Is he doing a lot of searched for nude girls his daughters age? Oct 07 12 05:54 pm Link Yes! Probably 2.5 years ago give or take I was still using MySpace and I was using the name Dekilah as my name on there too, but I had my profile set as unsearchable by my real name (important detail). My boss at the afterschool/summer camp/martial arts school I worked at was apparently searching for girls on MySpace and found my profile. I mentioned that I modeled, but no links to MM or anything. From what he told my mom (who also worked for him and did not know about the nudes at the time), he googled the name Dekilah and found my MM with my nude photos visible. One day my mom pulled me aside and told me he had found it. My mom is awesome because she told me how he did it and told me I should probably hide the photos, but she never freaked out on me. Because of this I only felt nervous/panicky as she first told me mostly because I did not know how she would react. But once it became another bit of humor about the perv/our boss, I was just relieved. So it was a pretty smooth thing for me. I hid my 18+ photos from the public. At which point my boss went back to my mom and complained because he had not had time to save the photos yet. My mom has since then gone from mildly supportive/I am an adult and making my own choices, to actually asking to see my photos and seems to really appreciate them and what I do. I think all three of my siblings (all younger) know. I have a cousin that knows. All my friends know, but mainly because they are all artists or photographers or models, etc. My boyfriend is a photographer who works with nude models as well. My dad and the remainder of my extended family do not know to my knowledge. Oct 07 12 06:55 pm Link Photography InFocus wrote: I don't do nudes, but If I did, the only way classmates, workmates, etc. could find them is if they go snooping or if they go looking for them... Oct 07 12 06:58 pm Link My sisters have seen my nude work, because I have showed them my print portfolios. The older one likes the more artistic poses but the younger one says all nudity is sinful and doesn't want to know about it. My girl friends know as well, and have been very supportive. I'm trying to convince two of them who are the same age to model nude with me just for fun to show how we all look at 60. One did some nude modeling a long time ago so there is a possibility. The only person from work who knows is a woman who I posed nude for about 15 years ago when she was starting out in photography. What is interesting is that several times over the past 10 years or so people have recognized me while shopping in stores. There have been nude photos and artwork like drawings and paintings that I posed for displayed in galleries around the Detroit area. It seems like every time at least one person comes up to me in a store and asks if I am a model. They tell me that they recognize me from a picture or artwork they saw. What is even more interesting is that every one of them has been a woman around my own age. Oct 08 12 05:58 am Link I'm not sure nude photographer or modeling is something that should ever have the opportunity of being "found out". I think the people that matter to you should openly know about it and using the term "found out" makes it's sound wrong and taboo. It's not something to be ashamed of. However I understand that it some professions it wouldn't be received very well. So in those cases I'd say just don't put yourself in that position and don't shoot nudes. When you hide things and they get discovered, it ends up looking like a scandal or a "now we got dirt on this person" situation. If everyone knows up front no one cares. Oct 08 12 06:07 am Link immateria wrote: +1 Oct 08 12 06:36 am Link Whay would I keep my career a secret? If youre ashamed of being a bank teller, then dont be a bank teller. Try being a chiropractor or something else. This is the career Ive chosen and I dont apologize to anyone. Oct 08 12 06:43 am Link Eclectic wrote: Pretty much. My art model blog posts to my Facebook page. Everyone knows. Oct 08 12 06:56 am Link Anzhelika Yakimenko wrote: Exactly. Oct 08 12 06:57 am Link My parents found out. That was stressful and painful and is a long story to tell. I told my boyfriend's parents myself, they're fine with it ad think it's cool. Most of my friend know because I told them, as I really see no reason not to - if they can't handle it, I'd rather not have them as a friend. The funniest story I have about being found online by someone would have to be the time I got on Tumblr and found a very apologetic message from my ex, explaining that he didn't know any other way to contact me. Oct 08 12 11:47 am Link DP Oct 08 12 11:48 am Link Yay! TP or something! *rolls eyes* Oct 08 12 11:48 am Link I am extremely discrete when it comes to this. Those that know, only do so because I told them myself. I keep that number consciously very low, most of them have never seen a single image, let a lone a nude. My parents and family have no clue (other than I have a few good portraits that my boyfriend-photographer made), my class-mates do not know and only very few close friends know. I do a google check-up on myself every week, keep my facebook clean, etc. So far not a single problem has shown up, and I modeled for a good 5 years. Oct 08 12 11:59 am Link I've already had the worst exposure occur so who cares! As an 18yr old my Dad found my hidden sexy shots that I'd been sending my boyfriend over MSN... The poor bugger was just trying to change the desktop background and they popped up in the selection  My Mum told me and said she thought they were rather good and I looked smashing but all the same, best not to repeat such things as my Dad had nearly had a heart attack and died of shame. He only broached it once and said he was "very worried about what it all means". lol! As for my professional nudes, the best part is that I could quite easily be "found out". I rather foolishly shared links to two of them in critique threads here and when I discovered that it made them top image results on google for my modelling name. I removed my original posts but both times they had been quoted. A polite message to the mods asking if they could just edit my links out of the other members post was met with "you should have thought of that first" and no action Lovely eh!? Oct 08 12 02:15 pm Link Eleanor R wrote: If your mom calls you a "porn star" (per your video interview), I guess that makes me a "pornographer". Which is kinda effing cool! Oct 08 12 03:50 pm Link Photography InFocus wrote: I shoot with my Manthing regularly, and our roommates don't mind the occasional model over. Oct 08 12 04:24 pm Link Amelia Talon wrote: Your local paper did a story on you being in Playboy and didn't even know your real name? And you're from that town? Wow, quite the fact-checking and research department they have there lol. Oct 08 12 04:29 pm Link Dekilah wrote:
Oct 08 12 10:52 pm Link Anzhelika Yakimenko wrote: not everyone has the option of living their lives the way they want to, openly, without risking being shunned by conservative family, neighbors etc., being fired by a religious boss or being raped or murdered by someone. Oct 08 12 11:24 pm Link On facebook I was tagged in an implied photo, so all my sisters saw and ratted me out. They did not see my nudes, but they know...I have no regrets and I'm proud of my work, but I still feel crummy just the fact that my family knows..They don't see nudes the way we do; as beautiful and artistic. It is taboo to them. I guess we can't really have it all!  Oct 09 12 12:04 am Link Trying to get my Mother to see my work .. she's busy re - decorating the whole house though  Oct 09 12 02:34 am Link |
