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A-M-P wrote: Where did I say bad? Aug 19 14 04:16 pm Link What I left out in my previous post was this. When your with someone, the right someone you know, or at least you have an idea that you know that this is the one. I think that idea or intuition comes pretty early on but its only still a seedling, with the barest thought of becoming something more, something bigger, greater. At this point it is all still so new and fresh, amazing and wonderful. The seed sprouts, its fragile, needs attention and constant care. But over time that little sapling develops, it grows, roots dig deep, the base fills out and the branches reach skyward. Its the embodiment of the care that was put into it, for some that time from seed to stature isn't long, for others it may take longer. But its the growth that's important, if your with the right one they will invest as much time, energy, and love into that growth. Living together, not living together, intimacy, who does what or who doesn't these aren't the all to end all they are a vehicle, a way for people to come together to grow what they've sown. Each day spent together, spent spending time in your garden, tending to your relationship is the key, that's whats important, having the right person by your side doing the same thing. Aug 19 14 04:18 pm Link I said Laura UnBound wrote: and then I said The breakup, the dividing your shit, the living together while broken up because you dont have an immediate lead on where to go/living in a hotel room and moving all your stuff into storage and paying for that shit/moving back home to your family, the trying to find your own place and rebuild a "home" for yourself…that shits tough. Unless you OWN the home and everything in it, and the other party moved in with nothing, and you have nothing to worry about and no emotions whatsoever, I dont know anyone who takes breaking up and moving out that lightly. Divorce being the end of a marriage and breaking up being the end of just a relationship. Aug 19 14 04:58 pm Link Laura UnBound wrote: Breaking up in Canada is a whole different thing again. If you've been together for two years or more you can unilaterally declare common law marriage rights and then things can become really really nasty. Aug 19 14 05:02 pm Link Virtual Studio wrote: Think you ought get your facts straight. Aug 19 14 05:10 pm Link to me the big problem is if people behave differently while dating vs. being in a committed relationship. it's almost a bait&switch even if not intentional. i think people should stop overdoing it during dating and instead work on creating realistic expectations of how things would be in a long-term relationship (more married with children than the bachelor) regardless of whether they are married or not. a relationship is a marathon, not a sprint. living together can have strings especially if you start getting stuff jointly like cars, houses, kids, pets, friends. that test drive can be costly even if you don't have to pay alimony. i'd like to see a chart of the guys who've paid the most per orgasm. let's say Tiger managed to have 100 with his wife. then that's one million dollars per gasm (vs. say a handful of $60 friction dances at the strip club). yikes. Jules NYC wrote: Aug 19 14 05:11 pm Link Cherrystone wrote: No, you need to really study the article carefully. It can indeed get ugly and expensive fast....... Aug 19 14 05:27 pm Link Laura UnBound wrote: And therein lays your fatal mistake. A lawyer's wet dream. Aug 19 14 05:31 pm Link Lohkee wrote: Yeah - co-worker got taken to court by her lesbian live in lover claiming "common law" and lost her house. Aug 19 14 05:36 pm Link Virtual Studio wrote: I believe it. Married or not, once things start getting commingled, life (separation) can get extremely complicated and horribly expensive very fast. Aug 19 14 05:46 pm Link After 4 pages of reading posts I'm still not quite sure what the question is. Do what you want and let others do what they want. I don't care what the article says because we are all so damn different anyway. Just make sure who you end up with someone who believes what you believe in ways you think are important. I've lived with 4 men and married and divorced 1. Take from that what you will but I have decades of experience of living with men. More than I care to admit LOL. Aug 19 14 06:08 pm Link Lohkee wrote: No, I did. Perhaps you ought study what he said. He claimed 2 yrs. in "Canada". It's sorted out by province and they all have differences, Quebec does not recognize them at all on most levels. Aug 19 14 09:31 pm Link Isis22 wrote: Jules is real fond of threads pertaining to men and/or relationships. Aug 19 14 09:32 pm Link  Aug 19 14 10:17 pm Link Chris Rifkin wrote: LMAO Aug 19 14 10:20 pm Link Cherrystone wrote: I am. Aug 19 14 10:24 pm Link Cherrystone wrote: Yeah - critical errors. Aug 20 14 04:30 am Link Haha! The article is way off when I compare it to my relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years going on 7 in a few months. We're not married yet, but living together. We don't want children and we are planning on getting married once we're financially stable and our careers are in full force. We have a lot of goals in life that we would like to meet before marriage. We've watched friends meet each other after us, get married, live together and then divorce. Our relationship is the longest lasting one out of all their marriages. We just moved in together about a year ago and let me just say, it has been incredible. Our relationship is even stronger than before. I think if two people love each other they'll make it work. As I mentioned before, many of my friends who followed that rule of marriage then living together are now divorced. It didn't save their marriage. But people will have their opinions and I respect them. I just know that rule doesn't apply to my relationship. Aug 20 14 10:33 am Link Jules NYC wrote: Breaking bad.....is that "something crawled up your ass & died" type of flatulence, such as Peter probably emits regularly? Aug 20 14 11:17 am Link Cherrystone wrote: No. Aug 20 14 11:26 am Link Jules NYC wrote: I don't fart. Aug 20 14 11:39 am Link I wouldn't live with someone I wasn't married to if there was a possibility of getting married later. I'm not opposed to having a female roommate but she'd only be a roommate. There would be no romance and we might not even be friends depending on the situation. Aug 20 14 11:53 am Link Cherrystone wrote: You will when you die! Aug 20 14 11:55 am Link Jules NYC wrote: Nope, I'll be ashes before that ever works out. Aug 20 14 02:05 pm Link |
