Big A-Larger Than Life wrote:
I don't resent it.  If it weren't for my dad being a motherfucker 31 years ago, I would not be standing here today and the world would be less kewwwwwww.

You mean that your mother is also your grandma???

Big A-Larger Than Life wrote:
I don't resent it.  If it weren't for my dad being a motherfucker 31 years ago, I would not be standing here today and the world would be less kewwwwwww. 

My dad can be a bossy butthole, but he's my dad.  He's given me everything I've ever needed, and most everything I've ever wanted.  And more than that, he showed me the world, SO much of the world, and has given me a life that many never have, a view of the world that many never see. 

And for his good and bad, half of me is him. 

OP, you may not always LIKE your dad every day, but you should always love him.  Every day.  Every moment.  Sometimes my dad annoys me or we don't agree on something, but at the end of the day, I'd eat a truck or a bullet for him if it came down to it.

   More reason to celebrate every single day!   

The one day a year crap is what I think is distasteful.

Christopher Hartman wrote:

Surround yourself by people who do care.  And those that don't...discard them.  I know it's easier said than done.  And easier to dispense advice than to take it.  I'd save myself a lot of heartache myself if I'd listen to what I tell others to do.

im getting better at that, dropped a few "friends" this year.. but i cant do anything about my mom.. i really should not talk to my dad i know. oh well:/

Jules NYC wrote:
A father has a great responsibility to his daughter (s).

I will preface what I'll say with the obvious, as an adult you are responsible for you. Thing is, as the major 'man' in a woman's life, alive or dead -

The quality of your relationship is a great mirror to your romantic relationships. If there is dissonance, abandonment, etc., then on an unconscious level (no, not subconscious) you are seeking out the same type of relationship.

Dad spends no time with you?
You most likely will be attracted to unavailable men.

Same goes for temperament, etc.

There are psych studies that the relationship you have the most problems with (mother, father, brother sister, etc.) is exactly what you project to seek as it is what is 'comfortable'.

I wished my family was more supportive but oh well.

Presley, I don't think your boyfriend is a healthy relationship for you, but right on if he makes you happy.

You don't appear to be happy when you speak of him.

Jules you know how i feel, i think that too sometimes. The thing is though, he does care, but only when its convenient for him. Doesn't go out of his way for me the way i do him. But he knows that, and he wants to do better. And i'm not exactly the perfect partner either.

Last night he did end up coming over, brought me limon chips and root beer, and slept over. today we went to eat and hes saying again. hes great at the making up for things, i just wish he didn't have anything to make up for.

Patrick Walberg wrote:
   More reason to celebrate every single day!   

The one day a year crap is what I think is distasteful.

it is, that's just what i mean. if you have a great dad, great. let him know. you shouldn't need one day to appreciate someone, a day that makes a lot of people who don't have that someone feel pretty dumpy.

fluffycakes wrote:
&tv? &the rest of the planet? It's kind of hard to avoid all the happy Father's Day shit. And when you never had one, when you're mom isn't there, when you don't have a single person to do anything with... It really fucking sucks.

So far I've sulked, got up and walked to the gas station to feed myself, chips and M&Ms, healthy meal for the day. And am now doing summer homework. I was supposed to see my dad Thursday. Got a card and everything. Didnt expect him to come. But when he turns his phone off and completely ignores me it still hurts just a little.

And ik. My fault for even acknowledging him.

I wonder if they have Mothers day and Fathers Day in other countries?   The United States must be the most commercialized nation in the World!  I doubt that the rest of the planet is as awful about over saturation of commercial messages saying "Buy this, buy that!"  "Spend money one this!!!"

I'm a very romantic person, and I am close to my family and friends.  I don't need all the bullshit that is promoted!  I am disgusted by the number of commercials on television or radio, and the advertising that is now impossible to avoid on the Internet.   I used to have a running tab at the florist, I bought flowers for my girlfriend and mom so often.   I wrote poems or stories in beautifully decorated blank cards and gave these cards for no special occasion but that I felt like it.

I understand why some people get depressed around holidays.  I've worked as a volunteer on the suicide hotline.  It is a fact that depression hits harder during the holidays!  It wasn't always this way!   If anyone goes back far enough in time, I'm sure that this gross commercialization of beloved holidays was not nearly as disgusting.   It's enough to make me want to projectile vomit on the advertisers!

After nearly dying from congestive heart failure twice, being injured in car accidents three times, falling off a roof breaking my neck, and then breaking my leg last year ... I am thrilled just to be alive!  To be able to walk!  Every single day is special to me!  I don't need commercials telling me to buy shit to be happy, I am happy without any material shit!  I've been able to say what I wanted to my dad before he passed.  I let my family and friends know I love them through actions and words.

fluffycakes wrote:

it is, that's just what i mean. if you have a great dad, great. let him know. you shouldn't need one day to appreciate someone, a day that makes a lot of people who don't have that someone feel pretty dumpy.

My husband's father was pretty much inexistant for a big part of his life. Oddly enough, he didn't go on a whining rampage about not having a dad. Instead, he dedicated that day to the men who filled in as a father to him.

When you get older, you'll understand.