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Comparing Modeling to Being a Stripper/Prostitute
This of course is directed to the models on the site but as always I know the photographers will be the main ones commenting. I did not want to ask any upsetting questions in their forum. I am a little confused why some, maybe many models are offended when someone compares modeling to being a stripper or a prostitute. Now I know why someone with my beliefs and sensibilities would be offended but often times it is models whose work many people would consider to be pornographic in nature or at the very least NC-17 so I am a little confused by why they are offended by the comparison so I thought I would ask those models that are offended by the comparison. Just to give you my prospective. Many models I know are greatly offended when someone just assumes they will pose nude if the price is right. They are offended if anyone asked them to pose nude, implied or otherwise. It is not something they wish to do. They view it as degrading and beneath them and is very disrespectful. Now I have seen on this site many times people that do shoot nudes get offended when people express this POV. So is it basically the same thing with the stakes raised or lowered depending on your opinion of such things. Aug 21 14 11:32 am Link Is this a serious question? If so, should you ask it in Model Colloquy? Aug 21 14 11:43 am Link There is no one single answer to this. You could have a person who is fine with stripping and prostitution be offended simply because they know the comparison is coming from someone who DOES have a problem with it, so the intent behind the comparison is offensive. There are other reasons as well. Aug 21 14 11:47 am Link As someone who has worked as A) A nude model (2005- ) B) A stripper (2009-2012) C) Shot erotic/fetish video content (2009-2011) I will just say that they are all VERY different jobs. Dancing/stripping is not like modeling nude for arts and glamour work. Modeling nude is not like shooting more raunchy video content. Neither of these things are like dancing. They require very different skill sets, behaviors, sales tactics, marketing, and personality. People can be good at all of them, and do a combination of them as I did, but you have to be able to flip-flop back and forth between different ways of selling different things, different ways of acting and presenting yourself. It's like comparing apples and oranges. They are not the same. I don't think it's offensive to compare my nude arts work to porn, but having shot work (in the past) that many people do consider actual porn, it's not really an accurate comparison. Aug 21 14 11:48 am Link They're offended at being compared to prostitution and stripping because in those professions, you're always selling the idea of sex, and sometimes selling the actual sex. If for no other reason, I dont want to be considered a prostitute because I dont want to show up to a gig where, unbeknownst to me, the photographer intends to try to have sex with me/believes I owe him sex. Thats at BEST an incredibly uncomfortable position to wind up in, at worst a dangerous one. Stripping is a little more grey-area. As a stripper my intention when interacting with my client is to make him want to fuck me so much he gives me money to take my clothes off and shake my genitals in his face. The convenient catch is that he doesnt get to touch me, and Im in a club where if he DOES touch me I can have him thrown out and he doesnt get his money back and really, he can't complain or try to smear my career because everyone knows the RULES are that you give up your money and still dont get to touch the dancers, so he's the idiot whining for nothing. Thats not my goal as a model. Even if Im shooting solo-porn, I do NOT want my photographer to want to fuck me, acting like the guy at the strip club. I want a business-only professional and respectful relationship with them. I want my fans to want to fuck me so they buy the photos or whatever, the photographer is the middle-man. If the photographer is shooting for his own personal collection, thats fine, but I still want him to behave on-set as if its not and what we have is strictly business. I dont even need to know he's shooting for himself and not some third party, I dont need the visual of him jerking off to me when I leave. And then of course theres the art vs porn part of it. What you call porn I might call art and with that photo Im not trying to make ANYONE want to fuck me to give me money, Im just trying to express myself through an artistic means and make something that I think is beautiful and powerful. When you're not actually trying to sell sex/the idea of sex, yes you might get offended when someone says that you are. People usually get offended whenever a stranger tries to TELL YOU WHAT YOU WERE DOING, as if you dont know yourself better than they do, or that you're lying. Strippers sell drunk people the idea that if you just pay enough, they'll like you and you'll get to have sex with them. People making erotic art aren't always trying to sell you the idea that you'll get to have sex with them, they're just trying to express sexuality in general. Aug 21 14 11:49 am Link IBTL!!!!! Aug 21 14 11:52 am Link I am a little confused as to why you are confused that models would be upset by being compared to prostitutes Aug 21 14 11:53 am Link that's nothing. photographers are both prostitutes AND pornographers as well. think about it, isn't it nice to be both at once? ah, the old mayhem is back. Aug 21 14 11:54 am Link LeonardG Photography wrote: aren't we all prostitutes in a sense? Aug 21 14 11:59 am Link I would just say: Who cares what another person does with his/her life, and why ? -Don Aug 21 14 12:00 pm Link sweetcheekscouture wrote: well, we are actually multi-talented. Aug 21 14 12:02 pm Link sweetcheekscouture wrote: Yeah.. this. Aug 21 14 12:03 pm Link It's most likely offensive because it's supposed to be offensive. It's like calling a heterosexual who isn't a homophobe a fucking faggot. They aren't going to pat you on the back and cheerfully point out you are mistaken, they know you are trying to insult them even though they don't think there is anything wrong with being gay. When people make these comparisons they are usually suggesting there is something wrong with being a stripper/prostitute, and by comparing modelling to those jobs is likewise insulting modelling. They are also usually wrong in their comparisons. Which if stupid enough can be offensive to everyone else's brains. Aug 21 14 12:03 pm Link FWIW: Anyone who gets paid money for a job can be considered a prostitute. Aug 21 14 12:04 pm Link The Grand Artist wrote: Because stripping and prostitution are both considered "sex work", and modeling isn't? And because society (particularly in the USA, but Western society in general; I can't speak to Eastern or other societies) casts "sex work" in a very negative light? Aug 21 14 12:04 pm Link Also, similar to what Laura has said, the frequency with which photographers around here try to compare and "blur the lines" between modelling and stripping/prostitution is something that can be concerning to a model as to what situations that could lead to. Aug 21 14 12:06 pm Link JadeDRed, Laura Unbound, and Ken Warren thank you for the answers Aug 21 14 12:19 pm Link Modeling is an easy target for these kind of comparisons by someone with an agenda, due to the inherent similarities. However, the distinction lies in the vast differences. However on MM and similar sites, there are both models and photographers blurring the lines to such a degree, that it could be at times difficult to distinguish. Aug 21 14 12:26 pm Link The Grand Artist wrote: Perhaps because they are not Strippers, or Prostitutes. Aug 21 14 12:26 pm Link You're welcome. You asked what seemed like a serious question, and in a moment of weakness several MM residents gave you honest, serious answers. I suppose in MM terms, that means the sky is falling? Aug 21 14 12:33 pm Link LeonardG Photography wrote: Wait? I'm just a guy with camera. Aug 21 14 12:39 pm Link Looknsee Photography wrote: You're really minimizing the experiences of sex workers when you compare non-sex workers to them, and doing them a huge disservice. Please dont. The kid working at mcdonalds, the paper pusher in their cubicle in some business park, the bus driver, the major corporation CEO - has no fucking idea what its like to be a prostitute, unless they are ALSO a prostitute. Aug 21 14 12:44 pm Link OP, you are either a troll or you are very misguided. I'm leaning towards the former... Aug 21 14 12:51 pm Link Since when does being an exotic dancer make one a prostitute, or being a model for that matter?? Aug 21 14 01:04 pm Link The Grand Artist wrote: Well, because the three are distinctly different jobs. People who lack that understanding like to lump them all together. Or even if they don't misunderstand, they might have some sort of a moral agenda. Aug 21 14 01:17 pm Link Kent Art Photography wrote: I am casting my vote for him being a Troll! Aug 21 14 01:24 pm Link Ken Warren Photography wrote: It probably does Aug 21 14 01:26 pm Link Hell, even strippers and prostitutes have very different jobs if you're not doing extras. Aug 21 14 01:37 pm Link The Grand Artist wrote: Life must be VERY confusing for you if this is the case. Aug 21 14 01:45 pm Link Looknsee Photography wrote: Not in the sense of the word, really. It's when you do something for money that runs against your basic nature...that is when you prostitute yourself. Aug 21 14 02:11 pm Link Some insight into OP's thread.... 1. He has let his belief system be known in other recent threads, and he believes nudity is wrong. Anyone that participates in any nude-related activity is in the same boat together. 2. On a recent thread about high modeling rates...where OP participated...a model expressed her discust that it only took one post for models to be compared to hookers. Now then...models weren't compared to hookers...the rate systems were compared to one another. For instance, when a new model with no port or experience says she wants $400/hr to model nude...when the average I pay is 75 to 100...I think of that as an escort rate...or even a porn rate. Aug 21 14 02:22 pm Link Kent Art Photography wrote: History would suggest the first, but some of the second is always possible Aug 21 14 02:24 pm Link David Stone Imaging wrote: I do not believe I have ever said that nudity was wrong. I have stated several times that it is not an interest of mine and that it seems to be the only thing most people that comment in the forums are interested. Aug 21 14 02:37 pm Link Looknsee Photography wrote: Laura UnBound wrote: We'll have to agree to disagree. It's not meant as a disservice -- it's meant to indicate that as long as your skill, education, body, whatever is available for hire, that's no different, regardless of whether you are a fireman, a dish washer, a sex worker, a model, a photographer, a CEO, a "paper pusher" (which sounds like a derogatory term), etc. For those of us who have a Boss (who can dictate what we do & when we do it & how we do it), we are all selling ourselves. I see no difference. Aug 21 14 02:42 pm Link Looknsee Photography wrote: David Stone Imaging wrote: Sex is not against most people's basic nature. Indeed, I'm pretty sure that each of us is a byproduct of sex. Aug 21 14 02:45 pm Link Looknsee Photography wrote: You dont see a difference in the way all of those jobs except prostitution are acceptable forms of employment in like…the whole entire world. You dont see the way prostitutes are discriminated against, criminalized, assaulted, murdered, marginalized, looked down on, stereotyped, etc etc etc and those other jobs aren't? Aug 21 14 02:49 pm Link David Stone Imaging wrote: Thats operating under the incorrect assumption that sex workers hate their line of work and only do it because they have no other choice. Aug 21 14 02:51 pm Link The Grand Artist wrote: Aug 21 14 02:54 pm Link Looknsee Photography wrote: If you trade your camera for my car, which of us is a prostitute? Aug 21 14 03:05 pm Link Laura UnBound wrote: "Acceptable"? Some people find Republicans, Democrats, gays, blacks, the rich, the poor, Muslims, post office workers, lawyers, etc. etc. etc. "unacceptable". Some people shoot unarmed black teenagers. And let's not forget that prostitution is illegal in most jurisdictions. Human being need little motivation to discriminate against a group in which they do not belong. My point -- life is rough all over. Laura UnBound wrote: Warning: I do not respond well to sarcasm. I used to be a fireman -- that, too, was dangerous. Laura UnBound wrote: Now, be fair -- I didn't say that at all. Your analogy has nothing to do with my point or what I intended to say. Prostitution is a dangerous occupation, I agree. But if you sell your skill, passion, talent, body for money, under certain circumstances, you can be considered a prostitute. The dictionary has a definition: a person who willingly uses his or her talent or ability in a base and unworthy way, usually for money. That's a definition that can be applied to non-sex workers, too -- for example, an MMA fighter. Aug 21 14 05:31 pm Link |