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he showed up at my house!
a little while ago-i was having a photographer sending me threats via email-that he was gona charge me with slander/defamation of character. he sent me an extremely rude message-so i found his number and called and left a message right after reading it. i said that i would show people the message to warn them about him-and he responded with threatening a lawsuit. anyway-after recieving rude message after rude message-and hanging up on him and unplugging the answering machine so he couldn't contact me. i filtered his messages-and informed him that any future attempts at contacting me would result in a restraining order against him. well-earlier today-the idiot shows up at my house! i was sick in bed-so i didn't answer the door. about 20mins ago-i checked and found an envelope-no address-opened-in between my front doors. he even wrote a letter with the disc. i don't know about you guys-but it looks like he's totally violated my wishes. i think i do need to file that restraining order if he's gona do things like this. i also took a look at the pictures and half of them were blurry and out of focus-and he claims to be a professional? he's papperazzi. goes around to night clubs and takes pix of the people. why do i have to deal with these psychotic losers all the time? Feb 16 06 02:07 pm Link Sounds like your typical GWC psycho situation. I would go ahead with the restraining order if you know his current address/phone number to give the cops. Definitely file a complaint about him...if you feel that this guy is invading your space, and/or threatening you in any way, then you should report him. Feb 16 06 02:28 pm Link Two things here: 1) Defamation: He sent the e-mails to you so you are one party to that communication - just like being one half of a telephone conversation. You can do practically what you want with them or the information in them - show them to people - send them to people - even publish them. There is an absolute [nearly] defence in defamation and that is "TRUTH." As long as you don't alter anything in the text, and let the e-mails speak for themselves, the "truth" of it is of his own making. 2) Harassment: As he does have your address and telephone number; and as he actually has called you and now shown up at your house after you have told him not to - it's TRO time. Studio36 Feb 16 06 02:28 pm Link EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEK Feb 16 06 02:30 pm Link Total stalkarazzi. Stick it to this *sshole. Feb 16 06 02:33 pm Link So what did you do to him so he acted this way? Always two sides to a story... Feb 16 06 02:34 pm Link How freaky!! Sorry to hear about it! Feb 16 06 02:35 pm Link Sorry that this happened to you. Try to get a PO Box and not give out your home address. I've had too many issues with people showing up at my door step...or waiting for me to get home! Also be careful when you fill out releases and applications, don't put anything down that you wouldn't want a guy digging through the trash to find - or a sweaty palmed intern to get ahold of. If you get caught in a public place, just pretend they have the wrong person "Sorry I think you have the wrong person" or "That's really flattering but no I'm just a boring accountant" or "No Habla Ingles" or "Let go of me you freak! HELP HELP" funny but then not Feb 16 06 02:35 pm Link Yikes, that's scary stuff!!! May I ask what initiated all of this? What was the reason for his sending the threatening message in the first place? Feb 16 06 02:37 pm Link pamela mars wrote: Did you not review his work before you agreed to shoot with him? Feb 16 06 02:38 pm Link Yep go get the order and when or if he bothers you again you will have all you need to have him arrested but hopefully just the order will make him back down and you will never hear from him again. Feb 16 06 02:38 pm Link That's crazy...I mean he's crazy!!!!!!!! Feb 16 06 02:38 pm Link So Iâm guessing since you were slandering his name he was trying to get the CD to you. Perhaps he wants nothing more than for you to leave him alone too. Feb 16 06 02:41 pm Link I don't know, it feels like it's only half a story, then you still got the photographer's side.. What happened to even get to that point in the first place Feb 16 06 02:42 pm Link JM Dean wrote: Valid point. Feb 16 06 02:43 pm Link Pamela Hard to tell from your initial posting what led to this situation, and perhaps that is not any of our business. It does sound like the situation has reached a point where something needs to be done. I suggest taking all the documentation that you have and talking to the police. At this stage the thing you really want to accomplish is to have a complete break from this person so that you can get on with your life without fear of this guy. Good luck. Feb 16 06 02:43 pm Link JM Dean wrote: i asked him for the disc from a shoot we did-he said i had them already-but i didn't. Feb 16 06 02:43 pm Link studio36uk wrote: thank you. Feb 16 06 02:44 pm Link JM Dean wrote: he wasn't trying to get it to me. Feb 16 06 02:47 pm Link Thats what give photgraphers a bad name, please don't let one rotten apple spoil the rest. Take this issue to the authorities. Do not delay. Feb 16 06 02:47 pm Link Of course the question would be, what went wrong in the business relationship or photo shoot agreement to make him retaliate like that? It isn't too often that people just pick a person to go crazy on. And for as much information that he has on you, do you have JUST AS MUCH information on him to even file a restraining order, if not anything further? Feb 16 06 02:47 pm Link As I said before, Model Mayhem is a site for Hot girls and the guys who stalk them.  Feb 16 06 02:48 pm Link pamela mars wrote: Was he professional @ the first shoot? what makes it not professional for not having a mua on the shoot? Feb 16 06 02:48 pm Link Envy wrote: he works for a rather popular site and my friend knew him. Feb 16 06 02:48 pm Link want to know what i see? two people fighting fire with fire threatening each other with will do this or that or this. I think both behaviors are childish and unprofessional someone looking for a law suit or some sort of love hate relationship I think we have all had butted heads with certain individuals and believe me i have had my share or sent competitor puppets looking to fabricate drama and push buttons in e mail but could never think or behave in a sincere professional manner Bottom line fabricated drama airing out dirty laundry in forums Feb 16 06 02:49 pm Link DCartist wrote: i questioned his professionalism for the reasons i cannot state publicly. Feb 16 06 02:50 pm Link Ron B Blake wrote: trust me-this story is not fabricated Feb 16 06 02:51 pm Link Itâs hard to form an opinion without the whole story from both sides. Welcome to Mayhem court. Feb 16 06 02:53 pm Link JM Dean wrote: i'm itching to just come out and tell everyone the complete details of everything incl the fact that he's a ____ ____. Feb 16 06 02:55 pm Link pamela mars wrote: But hold it in cause it would just be your side of the story Feb 16 06 02:58 pm Link pamela mars wrote: WOW, you still have an answering machine??? J/k--That guy does sound pretty creepy. I would suggest taking out a restraining order just to show that you mean business. Plus, if he violates the restraining order, you'll have a solid legal foundation for taking further action against him (i.e., calling the police!). Feb 16 06 03:00 pm Link Ron B Blake wrote: co sign x __________________ Feb 16 06 03:15 pm Link Eric S. wrote: You know, Eric, since you posted your pic...a lot of girls may be stalking YOU as well... Feb 16 06 03:19 pm Link or posting on forums in MM court room attorney advice call the police or a lawyer is whats in order if the title of your forum carries truth ""he showed up at my house!"" Feb 16 06 03:20 pm Link JM Dean wrote: Greetings, Feb 16 06 03:39 pm Link Wait a couple of days to see if things cool off. If he's no longer bothering you, then just forget about it and move on. Life's too short to mess with arseholes. ***If you feel your life is in danger, then ignore the above and call the cops! Feb 16 06 03:40 pm Link I would go ahead with the restraining order if you know his current address/phone number to give the cops. Definitely file a complaint about him...if you feel that this guy is invading your space, and/or threatening you in any way, then you should report him. Exactly. I had problems with a stalker "photographer" that went on for about a year and a half. I got the police involved three times, but there was ultimately nothing they could do because he hadn't broken any laws (yet); these days, stalking laws in Washington are a lot more strict to handle online stuff, too. It took me publically posting all of the details of the last several months (and believe me, at first he tried to threaten me with libel/defamation of character, too) to get him to FINALLY leave me alone. Feb 16 06 03:50 pm Link Well, the way I see it...you got lucky this time. Next time, the photographer might not just leave the package. It does sound to me like he probably doesn't want any more trouble at this point. However, at the outset of any threatening emails, I would not have called him at all. I would have researched his information and handed everything over to the police. Hindsight is always 20/20, and of course all your friends know better, but you really need to be careful out there. Feb 16 06 03:54 pm Link Ron B Blake wrote: fabricated drama like your accusations against ME for sexual harrassment??? Feb 16 06 04:00 pm Link pamela mars wrote: Should have hired me. I am psycho free! And I do not stalk models as I'm too lazy to put in the required effort. Feb 16 06 04:04 pm Link |
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