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Miss Kenyatta
Posts: 219
Columbus, Ohio, US
damn your parents said all that? sheesh. dont feel bad. my family would say all that and 1000 TIMES WORSE if they knew the kind of modeling I do and plan to do. I think nudes are GORGEOUS and i will officially be holding the title of nude model before this year is over. I've done implied nudes but not full nudes as of YET. I keep what i do a secret (for now) because i dont need them breathing down my back. but eventually, my family will find out. and they're just going to have to be mad. i love what i do and wouldnt change it for the world, family approval or not. I need noone's approval. I think if that's what you want to do then full speed ahead. The thread that daniela posted and what everyone else is saying is RIGHT ON. you only live once so live life doing what makes YOU happy. and if people dont approve? OH WELL!!!! they're just going to have to suck it up. Hooray for nudes! lmfao and love your work 
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Miss Kenyatta
Posts: 219
Columbus, Ohio, US
4C 41 42 wrote:
This one?
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Oh, we need to hook your parents up with my in-laws. They'd love each other! They could have a judging party!
If my in-laws knew I shoot nudes, I'm sure they would be sitting on my wife to leave me. They should see the pics I've taken of her though. 
(I know, I'm not helping.) lmfao!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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D E L I C I A E
Posts: 394
Gallatin, Tennessee, US
WELL.
That didn't go so well.
By the end of the conversation, I simply looked at my mother and said "Yes or no. Do you think I'm the kind of girl that will grow up to do porn?"
And she said "I honestly don't know anymore."
I told her that was all I needed to hear and left.
...soooo. Anyone need a new roommate?
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L57
Posts: 10908
Victoria, British Columbia, Canada
D E L I C I A E wrote:
WELL.
That didn't go so well.
By the end of the conversation, I simply looked at my mother and said "Yes or no. Do you think I'm the kind of girl that will grow up to do porn?"
And she said "I honestly don't know anymore."
I told her that was all I needed to hear and left.
...soooo. Anyone need a new roommate? that's the best thing you could have done.
Your family is a great thing to have, but if they're not there to support you in YOUR life then you certainly don't need them dragging you down.
Nude art is certainly not the end all and be all vileness and sin.
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Nikki Bee 1
Posts: 321
Houston, Texas, US
I need a roomie for when I move to NYC. Are you down?
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P E Perceptions
Posts: 394
Tulsa, Oklahoma, US
D E L I C I A E wrote:
WELL.
That didn't go so well.
By the end of the conversation, I simply looked at my mother and said "Yes or no. Do you think I'm the kind of girl that will grow up to do porn?"
And she said "I honestly don't know anymore."
I told her that was all I needed to hear and left.
...soooo. Anyone need a new roommate? Things will settle down with them. As I said before my parents are Pastors in Oklahoma so I know exactly how judgmental people can be.
Kudos to the photographer for saying he is willing to bury the shoot. That leaves the decision up to you as to whether or not it disappears like it never happened. Everyone has an opinion as to whether or not you should stand you ground but none of that matters except for what you feel is right.
Phill
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Jay Farrell
Posts: 13408
Nashville, Tennessee, US
D E L I C I A E wrote:
WELL.
That didn't go so well.
By the end of the conversation, I simply looked at my mother and said "Yes or no. Do you think I'm the kind of girl that will grow up to do porn?"
And she said "I honestly don't know anymore."
I told her that was all I needed to hear and left.
...soooo. Anyone need a new roommate? That's horrible  I just wouldn't discuss it with them anymore, and they'll have to get over it......if they hold it against you, that's on them, not you. I really hope they agree to disagree and realize nothing is worth coming between blood or friendship. Those who have never been in or around the arts often don't understand and are overly defensive and judgmental about it. Hence malignant ignorance when it comes to any borderline controversial issues. I really hope for your sake that they will either support you or simply turn a blind eye to your modeling to avoid drama.
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Miss Kenyatta
Posts: 219
Columbus, Ohio, US
D E L I C I A E wrote:
WELL.
That didn't go so well.
By the end of the conversation, I simply looked at my mother and said "Yes or no. Do you think I'm the kind of girl that will grow up to do porn?"
And she said "I honestly don't know anymore."
I told her that was all I needed to hear and left.
...soooo. Anyone need a new roommate? move on. eventually they'll get over it. if not, too bad. it's your life and I say dont worry about anyone else's thoughts or opinions. yours are the only one's that matter right? best of luck!
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D E L I C I A E
Posts: 394
Gallatin, Tennessee, US
Uuugh. She's slamming every door in the house right now and muttering under her breath.
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P E Perceptions
Posts: 394
Tulsa, Oklahoma, US
D E L I C I A E wrote:
Uuugh. She's slamming every door in the house right now and muttering under her breath. Real Christ-Like ... haha sorry I couldn't resist
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Leggy Mountbatten
Posts: 12562
Kansas City, Missouri, US
D E L I C I A E wrote:
Uuugh. She's slamming every door in the house right now and muttering under her breath. Well that's proper maternal behavior, isn't it?
I'm sorry you have to deal with this.
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D E L I C I A E
Posts: 394
Gallatin, Tennessee, US
P E Perceptions wrote:
Real Christ-Like ... haha sorry I couldn't resist Nothing I haven't thought before. =P
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Chris Hollo
Posts: 26
Nashville, Tennessee, US
I showed my wife after you left today and she loved the work. The way I look at it is if I am ashamed to show my wife then I just don't shoot it in the first place.
You are great, the work is great (IMHO) and the situation totally sucks.
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Jay Farrell
Posts: 13408
Nashville, Tennessee, US
Miss Kenyatta wrote:
move on. eventually they'll get over it. if not, too bad. it's your life and I say dont worry about anyone else's thoughts or opinions. yours are the only one's that matter right? best of luck! I agree, but it can't be quite that black and white either......you don't want someone pushing their ultra conservative beliefs on you, nor can we do that to them in the same fashion......otherwise they'll never even want to understand our world. Sometimes being passive and turning the other cheek is a more effective way to make someone get over themselves when they realize they were being heavy handed If she stays calm and lets them know she still loves them, even if they don't want to support her venture, that will more than likely get them thinking they've been shallow in their judgments
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Jay Farrell
Posts: 13408
Nashville, Tennessee, US
D E L I C I A E wrote:
Uuugh. She's slamming every door in the house right now and muttering under her breath. Not what Jesus would do 
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D E L I C I A E
Posts: 394
Gallatin, Tennessee, US
Chris Hollo wrote:
I showed my wife after you left today and she loved the work. The way I look at it is if I am ashamed to show my wife then I just don't shoot it in the first place.
You are great, the work is great (IMHO) and the situation totally sucks. I've figured it like this: they're mad at me, but not because I did something wrong. They're mad because they don't agree with my decisions.
Anyways, apparently tasteful nudes = selling my body to the porn industry and having sex with strangers on camera.
Who knew?
I look forward to proving them wrong, anyhow.
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KLS images
Posts: 54
New York, New York, US
If your family hates your nudes tell them not to look at them
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Leggy Mountbatten
Posts: 12562
Kansas City, Missouri, US
D E L I C I A E wrote:
Anyways, apparently tasteful nudes = selling my body to the porn industry and having sex with strangers on camera.
Who knew? I must have missed that memo. I knew I was doing something wrong.
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P E Perceptions
Posts: 394
Tulsa, Oklahoma, US
D E L I C I A E wrote:
I've figured it like this: they're mad at me, but not because I did something wrong. They're mad because they don't agree with my decisions.
Anyways, apparently tasteful nudes = selling my body to the porn industry and having sex with strangers on camera.
Who knew?
I look forward to proving them wrong, anyhow. I missed that memo as well ... If i knew my life would have been alot more interesting haha
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ava von hart
Posts: 752
San Diego, California, US
D E L I C I A E wrote:
Basically, I was in tears. Its pretty shitty when your PARENTS tell you that you're a whore.
That is what being honest gets you, folks. My mom told me I was a whore because I said the "f" word...
but the sad thing is, I'm pretty sure she would support me doing nudes...
ironically,
though it would seem otherwise.
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Marcia Wood
Posts: 1770
New York, New York, US
Some parents won't ever understand.No matter how you try to convince them.If your choice is to keep doing nudes you may want to consider moving out.
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LaViolette
Posts: 9865
Hollywood, Florida, US
Delicate I'm sorry to hear about this. I actually went thru the same thing a few weeks ago w/ my parents (I live with them). They found out I'm a nude model & went thru the roof. My dad said some very hurtful things to me about it - he called me a slut & said I was trash. Things have calmed down a bit, & although my mom isn't crazy about it, she's been surprisingly understanding. I've actually talked to her about some of the stuff I've done with nude modeling. She has her concerns but is at least willing to agree to disagree. My dad & I haven't hardly talked. I'm hoping to move out in the next month or so. If you want to talk, just pm me. Stay strong girl & keep making beautful art
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Zytkiewicz
Posts: 288
Madison, Wisconsin, US
D E L I C I A E wrote:
6. No one will want to marry you. ( ;(! ) I do not want to marry a woman UNLESS she shoots nudes.
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Stephoto Photography
Posts: 20158
Amherst, Massachusetts, US
Uee the nudes if you like them. Your parents will have to get used to it- they have NO right to treat you like this at all! I think maybe they just are in shock and they will calm down soon
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Fotogene
Posts: 562
Chicago Heights, Illinois, US
Ask your parents if they ever looked up while in the Vatican. Michael Angelo set the standard for religious art and much of it is nude. Historically, all the way back in history the nude female form is absolute art.
Decades from now you will have the ingredients to show your grandchildren what a hot grandmother they have!
Many will never understand the attraction of entertainment or art. Some see it as bad, some just see it as competition. You are adult by age and have the capacity to do what is right. Ask them if their parents approved of everything they did and if they did some of it anyway! We are all young once and we enjoy the opportunities or we wish we did when it is over. Go for it!
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Jessika Dorian
Posts: 912
Riverside, California, US
D E L I C I A E wrote:
WELL.
That didn't go so well.
By the end of the conversation, I simply looked at my mother and said "Yes or no. Do you think I'm the kind of girl that will grow up to do porn?"
And she said "I honestly don't know anymore."
I told her that was all I needed to hear and left.
...soooo. Anyone need a new roommate? I need to move out because of my modeling (parents are trying to put me on medication because they think i'm crazy because i get naked...wtf)
but unfortunately, you're halfway around the country.
Lemme know if you move to socal 
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Jessika Dorian
Posts: 912
Riverside, California, US
Zytkiewicz wrote:
I do not want to marry a woman UNLESS she shoots nudes. ftw!
+1
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Primeval Edge
Posts: 120
Newcastle, New South Wales, Australia
D E L I C I A E wrote:
Uuugh. She's slamming every door in the house right now and muttering under her breath. So mum, guess now isn't a good time to tell you I'm
See mum There are worse things in the world than Art Nudes.
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Another Italian Guy
Posts: 3281
Bath, England, United Kingdom
D E L I C I A E wrote:
she said "I honestly don't know anymore." Give her some space and a little time.
It's probably just as traumatic for them to have learned about your nude modelling as it was for you to hear all the judgemental crap they threw at you as a result.
Time is a great healer. Drop the subject entirely for a few weeks (if they will let you) and just go about being a "normal" 19 year daughter for a while. Eventually they will realise that the sky hasn't fallen, no thunderbolts have been released and you are the same daughter they have always loved and cherished.
When you bring the subject up again, just be matter of fact about it and offer to show your mom the pics if she wants to see them.
Edit: if they keep getting on your case about it you could gently point out that an alternative option would be for you to move out, at which point they will have no idea what you're doing or who with, whereas at least if you're living at home and willing to show your mom the pics from every shoot they will know you're safe and not coming to any (other than in their opinion moral) harm. I think most caring parents would prefer that you stayed at home where they could at least feel you were safe even if they disagreed with some of your choices.
Ciao
Stefano
www.stefanobrunesci.com
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my_other_profile
Posts: 666
Ankeny, Iowa, US
Shon D.- Femme wrote:
Ok, THAT is scary. I mean, not "the" Church, or "the people at Church".
Just Church. Like, wtf? Red vs Blue.
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SILVERPAZ
Posts: 55
Manteca, California, US
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D E L I C I A E
Posts: 394
Gallatin, Tennessee, US
my_other_profile wrote:
Red vs Blue. LOL.
Anyways, just got out of an...hour long conference with both of them.
Long story short: They want me to promise never to do it again and not to let the ones I have done get posted.
Ironically, we HAVE been to the Vatican. And ironically, they loved it, but when I brought up nude art in the conversation they said that they hated the nude paintings.
I started coughing hysterically. I'm allergic to bullshit, y'know.
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Stephoto Photography
Posts: 20158
Amherst, Massachusetts, US
D E L I C I A E wrote:
LOL.
Anyways, just got out of an...hour long conference with both of them.
Long story short: They want me to promise never to do it again and not to let the ones I have done get posted.
Ironically, we HAVE been to the Vatican. And ironically, they loved it, but when I brought up nude art in the conversation they said that they hated the nude paintings.
I started coughing hysterically. I'm allergic to bullshit, y'know. Put them up. They shouldn't tell you what to do with your life (sorry, but this is still over the line for them, IMO). You're a big girl and can make you own modeling decisions.
Either that, start another profile for nudes, don't show it to them, and continue on your merry way
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Another Italian Guy
Posts: 3281
Bath, England, United Kingdom
D E L I C I A E wrote:
They want me to promise never to do it again and not to let the ones I have done get posted. They have no right to do that.
Your compromise proposal should be that you will promise not to do anything you would be ashamed to show your mom - eg. "porn" (however you define that) - and that you will only post them under a stage name so that their friends won't find them if they google your name. The stupid thing is, they are probably more worried about what their religious friends might say to them than they are about the danger to your immortal soul right now 
Ciao
Stefano
www.stefanobrunesci.com
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L57
Posts: 10908
Victoria, British Columbia, Canada
D E L I C I A E wrote:
LOL.
Anyways, just got out of an...hour long conference with both of them.
Long story short: They want me to promise never to do it again and not to let the ones I have done get posted.
Ironically, we HAVE been to the Vatican. And ironically, they loved it, but when I brought up nude art in the conversation they said that they hated the nude paintings.
I started coughing hysterically. I'm allergic to bullshit, y'know. I personally don't think you should let them get away with that.
If you let them walk over you know, then they'll think what they did was not only right, but completely ok.
That couldn't be more from the truth.
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Richard Tallent
Posts: 7136
Beaumont, Texas, US
La Kajira wrote:
Sounds like your parents are hardcore Christians. Just hardcore repression and ignorance.
Unfortunately, there is a high degree of correlation.
I get compliments from people at my church who see my work, but my dad has been less than supportive. A parent's opinion is not really a good statistical sample of how other people in your life will react. (My family is from Knoxville--believe me, I understand. )
Tip 1:
You can never fight fear with logic. No amount of arguing is going to dissuade them. Agree to disagree, and if they start making mandates, you'll have to decide whether which you prefer more: adulthood or free rent.
Edit: looks like the mandate has arrived. It's a power play--money trumps freedom. You get to decide which is more important for you at the moment.
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Richard Tallent
Posts: 7136
Beaumont, Texas, US
Stefano Brunesci Raw wrote:
They have no right to do that. She has no right to expect them to provide a roof over her head, food, car, or whatever else they've extended to her as an adult.
Sometimes the trade of being treated like a child for a few more years is worth it, in order to make it through the remainder of your education. Sometimes it's not.
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Koryn
Posts: 39496
Boston, Massachusetts, US
Well, you certainly won't be funding a presidential campaign on a nude model's salary, so .... yeah, we've just invalidated that point.
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Stereoblind
Posts: 663
Vancouver, Washington, US
D E L I C I A E wrote:
Anyways, apparently tasteful nudes = selling my body to the porn industry and having sex with strangers on camera.
Who knew?
I look forward to proving them wrong, anyhow. Not that this will help anything but it makes me grin.
Try printing all the images you can find from the Sistine Chapel that shows nudes (18+) and hanging them all around your room.
You know, as a protest that makes a point.
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