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25yr old girl wants me to take her virginity
No. Just no. I remember my first time. I know it doesn't always happen this way but I am still with him, we've been married almost 18 years. For the love of god don't do that "favor" for her. I know so many people who wish their first time was different. Don't be that person that does someone a favor because they want it out of the way. If she really wanted it out of the way she would've done it a long time ago. Sep 19 12 07:26 pm Link  Sep 19 12 07:26 pm Link Sawin? Is that you? Sep 19 12 07:28 pm Link T wrote:
Sep 19 12 07:28 pm Link Walk away or be prepared to pay (and you **will** pay dearly). Is this you Robert??? Sep 19 12 07:30 pm Link  Sep 19 12 07:30 pm Link T wrote: yeah I know Prince but he don't get it...whatcha gonna do? Sep 19 12 07:31 pm Link dp Sep 19 12 07:31 pm Link macshot20 photography wrote: Haha no.. i would start carrying pepper spray& be more cautious about everything(dt thats possible..) but living with a constant fear of being raped just isnt worth it. Sep 19 12 07:31 pm Link macshot20 photography wrote: If you were a real friend you'd understand her dilemma and trust and you'd make her comfortable and do the deed! Sep 19 12 07:32 pm Link Chuckarelei wrote: Hahaha that's a definently a no in all forms, and I'm sorry that you've never experienced such a pleasure. Maybe get one of those lifedolls or a sheep. Lmfao Sep 19 12 07:33 pm Link Chuckarelei wrote: Take it where?? Sep 19 12 07:35 pm Link macshot20 photography wrote: No, I wouldn't. She was a lovely girl, but no... Sep 19 12 07:37 pm Link  On a long list of bad ideas, this is up there with "Hey, lets clone dinosaurs" Sep 19 12 07:56 pm Link Umm don't. I mean if she's mature enough she'll just think of it as another thing to sign off her bucket list and you two will still be "Ok" friends but then what if she becomes clingy and your "ok" friendship goes from "Ok" to 'um , that wasn't a good idea. Wear protection . Sep 19 12 09:07 pm Link Eleanor R wrote: +1 Sep 19 12 09:09 pm Link macshot20 photography wrote: Hahahahahaha Sep 19 12 09:11 pm Link I would say no, don't do it. I can remember the first woman I had sex with. I can remember her name, her measurements, how much she weighed, the address of the house we did it in.....all those things. But if I was to bump into her in the shopping mall, I don't even think she would have a clue who I am. Just saying, she will remember you for the rest of her life. Is that important to you? Sep 19 12 09:13 pm Link Dumb question, dumb answer NVMD... Sep 19 12 09:14 pm Link  Sep 19 12 09:18 pm Link I get virgins asking me all the time. Sep 19 12 09:19 pm Link AdelaideJohn1967 wrote: Not everyone is as disconnected or disassociated. Sep 19 12 09:20 pm Link macshot20 photography wrote: Are you speaking English, your spelling is appalling! I meen isntt tat how 10 yr oldz rite on facey? Sep 19 12 10:52 pm Link no Sep 20 12 12:23 am Link macshot20 photography wrote: I'm sorry but... wost case scenario: she has sex with you for the first time. 2 days later, she gets raped. do you really think she'll go "oh, I was raped, but I wasn't a virgin anymore so that's okay". I mean, seriously? Rape will always be bad! Sep 20 12 12:27 am Link macshot20 photography wrote: *sigh* Sep 20 12 12:49 am Link Peach Jones wrote: I want to take a guys virginity and be remembered like that Sep 20 12 12:51 am Link macshot20 photography wrote: Simply decide according to your conscience. Sep 20 12 01:03 am Link the first time usually sucks anyways for a girl.. So do you want to keep the friendship intact? Especially since you don't like her that way.. Then don't do it... or if you want to be known as the guy friend who I lost my virginity to and the sex was horrible and uncomfortable? Then do it lol Sep 20 12 01:09 am Link DANACOLE wrote: She's in her 20s I'd hope she knows this by now.. But then again.. Sep 20 12 01:19 am Link Sita Mae wrote: +1 Sep 20 12 02:08 am Link macshot20 photography wrote: Take her out for cake. refer to the cake as "sex". Sep 20 12 02:40 am Link SKPhoto wrote: I beg your pardon. Sep 20 12 03:04 am Link AdelaideJohn1967 wrote: It will never be just an act to me. Sex is a very important and spiritual thing for me. It is based in my religious upbringing. The way I view sex is that it is the fruition of trust, love, honor and respect for one another. I would never just casually let sex be sex. My first time was incredibly emotional, tender, sweet, and connecting between me and that person. That person is the only one who will have that first experience with me. It's a very big thing to me. Sep 20 12 03:44 am Link A girl I once dated had lost her v to a rapist, and couldn't talk about it years later. I agree it appears to be a much worse experience than just being raped, mostly because our culture places such a big importance on this one time event. That said, if she is a v and you don't have feelings for her there is a 99.9% chance she will hate you for life afterwards, even if you are absolutely clear on that up front. Personally, I think there is an 80% chance that she is not really a v and she just wants to bang you. In that case, you are much less at risk of negative fall out. Sep 20 12 05:02 am Link There are few reasons to turn down nookie that's offered, and you haven't mentioned any. So, do her. Sep 20 12 05:13 am Link MMR Digital wrote: You have to have kept the receipt and take it back within 28 days. Sep 20 12 05:14 am Link  Sep 20 12 05:15 am Link While I don't think it's a great idea.... I don't think it's as bad of an idea as everyone is making it out to be. After all, this girl isn't 16, or even 18... she's 25. She should be mature enough by now to understand and handle this situation for what it is. Let's look at it this way. You said she had been attacked before, I'm sure she has (had) a hard time dealing with that and it has likely shaken her trust in men. Her wanting to do this with you, a trusted friend, may be a way of her gaining some of that back. If she were to get wined and dined by some a-hole that was just looking for a one-night-stand and then never heard from again that could destroy any faith she still has left in men at all. I don't know where her head is regarding all of that, but it's a possibility. Everyone here is saying "losing your virginity is not that big of a deal." Well it's easy to say that when you've already done it. Obviously it's a big deal to her, and for someone who's already 25 it can be embarrassing for her. Would it really be better for her to wait till she "falls in love" with someone before she loses it? Sure there's a remote chance that she'll find THE guy and they live happily ever after. But there's a greater chance of her NOT finding the right guy and still choosing to stay with him because he was the one she lost her virginity to. Likewise, yes there's a chance she may cling to you and want to expect more. But then you said you're not "that guy" which makes me wonder if maybe you're the one afraid of getting attached? She seems willing to go into this situation not expecting anything from you on the "long term" and if she's serious and honest about that you'll need to be honest with yourself as well. Is that something you can handle? I'm not saying you should do it, but the two of you need to be honest with each other on this matter, and honest with yourselves. It really all depends on your friendship, is this something that the BOTH of you can handle? None of us here can answer that for you. Good luck, either way. Sep 20 12 06:06 am Link send her to me. i'm used to disappointing women sexually.  Sep 20 12 09:34 am Link |
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