Jules NYC wrote:
This thread is not a poker game if anyone's calling out hands.

I was in the running with your list. 
But that counted me out.

*being silly*

BlueMoonPics wrote:

I was in the running with your list. 
But that counted me out.

*being silly*

Good, good

I never really had a list but I'm pretty honest what makes me happy.

Model Sarah wrote:
What's wrong with having high standards? As long as they aren't unrealistic, I don't see how that is a bad thing. I am perfectly okay with being alone vs just settling with someone who I don't see myself growing with and loving. I love and own myself enough to know what I want.

All of this

Jules NYC wrote:

Good, good

I never really had a list but I'm pretty honest what makes me happy.

Maybe *accurate* standards are the key - knowing oneself.

Damianne wrote:

Well if someone isn't interesting enough to spend your time with and have great sex, they might think your standards are too high and then complain about how high your standards are and how you're probably going to end up alone because you didn't just accept the first thing that came along, regardless of whether you wanted it.

When I said I don't understand standards I meant it.
You are using "standards" but it reads as if you mean "preferences" which can't be defined as "high" or "low" - as you can't really make a value judgement based on preferences. You can, but there would be one for each person.

For example: the woman needs to be rich - might be a high standard to some and for others is, by itself ridiculously low. What about pretty? Smart? Educated? Good in bed, great cook, well dressed, funny, fit, has to enjoy disco music and be a dog person, etc etc

I don't think there's universal high/low standards.

Finally...Why would I think twice about what someone I just rejected thinks about the way I make my desicions? If he/she can't take rejection he/she is probably insecure and I find insecure people boring. (Not interesting) - preferences

BlueMoonPics wrote:
I was doing OK until this.  I'm out.

Just for the record (since I'm speaking for myself here and in a public forum)...phones or money don't mean much to me.



The only thing I won't stand for is a guy looking for a SugarMama.
I've dated a few guys that didn't know what hard work was about.

In Balance Photography wrote:

Maybe *accurate* standards are the key - knowing oneself.

Yes indeed.

I know myself very well and know exactly what I like.

Jules NYC wrote:

Yes indeed.

I know myself very well and know exactly what I like.

Me too.

DivaEroticus wrote:

Me too.

Jules NYC wrote:

Need a picture


I like Northern Italians too
and surfers

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Not to seem racist or anything (as some Italians consider themselves of a different race), but does it seem to anyone else that Italians that represent themselves as Italians as a selling point for themselves more often than not are simply the worst Italian Steriotypes imaginable? lol.

Russian Katarina wrote:

No, that is Marcello Mastroianni and Anita Ekberg in the famous Trevi fountain scene of Fellini's "La dolce vita". The definitive Italian film if there ever was one.



I suppose there is a resemblance.

It would be fun to do a shoot like that in the Trevi fountain.

I know a photographer that takes old scenes (largely from old advertising billboards) and reproduces them with new models.

Model Sarah wrote:
What's wrong with having high standards? As long as they aren't unrealistic, I don't see how that is a bad thing. I am perfectly okay with being alone vs just settling with someone who I don't see myself growing with and loving. I love and own myself enough to know what I want.

I think most people would define, "high standards" as being unrealistic or unreasonable. Hence why they are high standards rather than normal.

Jules NYC wrote:

Yes indeed.

I know myself very well and know exactly what I like.

Well if you already know yourself so fully that you can very nearly perceive your own perception than you probably have nothing more to live for. lol.

Mad Hatter Imagery wrote:

I think most people would define, "high standards" as being unrealistic or unreasonable. Hence why they are high standards rather than normal.

This is completely speculative since I am married...BUT...

If someone who had high standards refused to date me, I would say that they are unrealistic and unreasonable.
If someone who had high standards agreed to date me, their standards are of course realistic and reasonable (and still appropriately "high").

Mad Hatter Imagery wrote:

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Not to seem racist or anything (as some Italians consider themselves of a different race), but does it seem to anyone else that Italians that represent themselves as Italians as a selling point for themselves more often than not are simply the worst Italian Steriotypes imaginable? lol.

Yeah, some do.
I don't.

Mad Hatter Imagery wrote:

Well if you already know yourself so fully that you can very nearly perceive your own perception than you probably have nothing more to live for. lol.

This makes no sense.

In Balance Photography wrote:
This is completely speculative since I am married...BUT...

If someone who had high standards refused to date me, I would say that they are unrealistic and unreasonable.
If someone who had high standards agreed to date me, their standards are of course realistic and reasonable (and still appropriately "high").

I think that depends on the confidence level of that person.
I don't know, I never wanted anyone that didn't want me.
Why would anyone want that?

Funny, number and caste systems are all somewhat silly.
People connect or they don't.
It's not a reflection of who's better or worse, it's how to people gel together.

Rejection is nature's way of eliminating an incompatible relationship.
People may take rejection so personally but two people can be spectacular as individuals, just not together.

How many people women or men mentally compare who had what when they are 'rejected'.
Who cares really if that person is not for you!

In Balance Photography wrote:

This is completely speculative since I am married...BUT...

If someone who had high standards refused to date me, I would say that they are unrealistic and unreasonable.
If someone who had high standards agreed to date me, their standards are of course realistic and reasonable (and still appropriately "high").

Love it!!

Jules NYC wrote:

This makes no sense.

If you already know your every reaction to the world around you with no further need for different scenerios than life would have to have lost its meaning.

Jules NYC wrote:

I think that depends on the confidence level of that person.
I don't know, I never wanted anyone that didn't want me.
Why would anyone want that?

Funny, number and caste systems are all somewhat silly.
People connect or they don't.
It's not a reflection of who's better or worse, it's how to people gel together.

Rejection is nature's way of eliminating an incompatible relationship.
People may take rejection so personally but two people can be spectacular as individuals, just not together.

How many people women or men mentally compare who had what when they are 'rejected'.
Who cares really if that person is not for you!

There are people who I felt were below me who rejected me eventually while going on date with them, which was fine by me. However if there is someone that I feel I connect with, but they disagree about the connection, does that mean I should stop persuing them because they don't see what I see? This is my whole point about standards. I'd like to think that if someone shows a strong enough amount of attention and caring that a person's standards and rules can be bent and were perhaps not very good rules to begin with.

Mad Hatter Imagery wrote:
If you already know your every reaction to the world around you with no further need for different scenerios than life would have to have lost its meaning.

You created a meaning/interpretation that does not exist with me.

Mad Hatter Imagery wrote:

There are people who I felt were below me who rejected me eventually while going on date with them, which was fine by me. However if there is someone that I feel I connect with, but they disagree about the connection, does that mean I should stop persuing them because they don't see what I see? This is my whole point about standards. I'd like to think that if someone shows a strong enough amount of attention and caring that a person's standards and rules can be bent and were perhaps not very good rules to begin with.

No one is above or below anyone.
Perhaps not well-suited.

Jules NYC wrote:
All I know is that I better plan on visiting Italy.
Italians are so verile, strong and out of control sexy.
All qualities I appreciate:)

Plus, it appears that most have excellent taste in art, etc.
Libido always pleasantly healthy.

And the spaghetti is awesome there too

Chris Rifkin wrote:
And the spaghetti is awesome there too

I bet!
My family on my father's side are from Milan.
My Grandmother made everything from scratch.
Amazing.

She came over by boat to America.
I miss her.

All of them including my Dad, 100%.

Chris Rifkin wrote:
My first was 100%,had the grandmother who could barely speak English and all...
Family owned 2 Italian restaraunts on Long Island..
that is where this 90% Russian(or 75% or however much Russian I have in me)learned how to make better mar8nara,3 different ways..than is served in most of the places I end up in...

That is so awesome.
My Grandmother used to sing opera while she was cooking and all of the neighborhood people would like to sit and listen by the window.

She was a very humble, dutiful women that never argued with anyone.

I had no idea you were Russian yourself.
One of my very good friends is Russian.

He is one of the sweetest people I know.
Crazy smart too.

I want some marinara now


I never tasted ravioli or meatballs the way my Grandmother made them.
*in any restaurant*

I don't eat the meat anymore but I'd make an exception if I could be 12 again at her dinner table