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How do models choose friends?
Today I got a friend request from a newbie model who has been here all of 1 day. I am his 11th friend. I wonder why he picked me out of the blue. I am not some high power pro photographer. My question is how do you all decide who to network with? Apr 06 14 03:01 pm Link Stanley L Moore wrote: Hi, Apr 06 14 03:06 pm Link Stanley L Moore wrote: Well, if he's a newbie, maybe that's why. Certainly he wouldn't expect to work with a "high power pro" right away, right? Apr 06 14 03:12 pm Link I'm terrible at networking. It literally doesn't even occur to me to network. Hence, I rarely send friend requests. When I do, it's often because that person was really nice to me, stuff like that. Not because we would ever work together, just simply because they were nice to me or someone else. I have to force myself to contact photographers whose work I admire. The blame for this falls on extreme shyness and introversion. If I contact one per week, I feel like I've exhausted that part of myself for a little while. I never send random friend requests. That is so foreign to me. I have it in BIG letters on my profile that I don't want to receive random friend requests, but of course I still receive them all the time. Apr 06 14 03:20 pm Link Maybe they like your work.. Apr 06 14 03:20 pm Link I don't do random friend requests, either sending or receiving, and my total list is less than 50 people after having been here 2 years. All of the people on my friends list are either models or photographers I know in real life, have worked with, want to work with, or admire their work and want to follow as they update it. I don't see any point in having 2000 friends just at random. Apr 06 14 03:24 pm Link When I first started on MM I 'friended' everyone I would ever consider working with within a 50 mile radius. I then culled those friends down to people who I really AM going to work with in the future. He probably wants to shoot with you. If you'd consider TF with him, why not reach out? Apr 06 14 03:29 pm Link Blanket coverage.. they browse everyone in their area n friend everyone! Like fishing... an answer or a thanks n bingo we got one!.. reel em in! Now the pic comments, tags n pms start! people collect friends n swap comments like bottle caps.. stupid facebook mentality! Block n delete if you dont want it. Apr 06 14 03:41 pm Link Images by MR wrote: Perhaps but he contacted 1 day after he gets approved. He is a fitness model and that's what I photograph mostly. I sometimes get random requests from female models with whom I will never work. It is as if they never looked at my port. Apr 06 14 03:53 pm Link I only accept friend requests from people that I would work with, people that I've had conversations with, and sometimes people whose posts I enjoy. Usually, more of the first one because I want to be able to navigate my friends list for people that I would really like to shoot with. Apr 06 14 05:55 pm Link I usually pick a friend because I've worked with them or anticipate working with them. Apr 06 14 06:56 pm Link I don't think I've ever friend requested someone on here.  Apr 06 14 06:59 pm Link I pretty much add anyone to see how they'll react. Bonus points if they make a forum thread about it. I see it as a way to open a dialogue. "This person looks interesting" Apr 06 14 07:23 pm Link I've been on MM since it first went online in April, 2005. I have 212 friends. I reject friend requests all the time and rarely make them myself. This is how I address the issue on my profile. "Please note: With very rare exception, I will add to my friends list ONLY those models with whom I've worked or wish to work and ONLY those photographers and others whose work I greatly admire and/or with whom I feel artistic/business networking might be beneficial." Apr 06 14 07:41 pm Link This isn't FB where it makes sense to suss out 'friends'.... MM has 'Friends' and 'Favorites'. 'Friends' is loosy-goosy and I accept/offer without too much fuss...if I like a bio or book, I might make a friend request. I always accept requests. I assume the person at least looked at my page. 'Favorites' is where people should be 'picky' ie definite work contacts etc. Having the distinction is nice. In browse, you can search 'friends', 'favorites' or whatever mix you like...very handy feature. Apr 06 14 07:56 pm Link Herb Way wrote: These are people I put in 'Favorites'...perfect description. Apr 06 14 07:57 pm Link I friend people on here, because MM doesn't have a "poke"  Apr 06 14 08:34 pm Link Eh I send friend requests as a "remember this person" to myself since new profiles don't have favorites, or if I run out of messages and want to connect with the person later. I don't take it as an offense if people send me friend requests, it is a networking site after all. Apr 06 14 08:53 pm Link a raw muse wrote: x2. I try to stick to friending models and MUAs/stylists/designers (either sending requests or approving requests sent to me) who are in my general area. I don't see the need to friend models I'll never work with. Apr 06 14 09:49 pm Link He is a fitness model and you photograph them. This was anything but a random friend request. He may be new but he found you;) Apr 07 14 07:52 am Link I'm going to take a wild shot here and say they probably found you on Google or browse as,a photographer that may be interested in shooting fitness or bodybuilding maybe, if it's not immediate area. Alternatives could be you have shot or worked with someone they know? Apr 07 14 10:57 am Link I accept every friend request sent to me. I don't have the patience to sort through them all. Apr 07 14 11:00 am Link I was wondering about this, or more so whether models are proactive in connecting with photographers or wait to be contacted. If I "friend" a model chances are i think it might be cool to work with them at some point. Apr 07 14 11:36 am Link Mark Reeder Photography wrote: Models get hundreds of friend requests. If you want to actually work with someone, send him or her a friendly message. You'll probably have send out 40 emails to different people, I'm order to get one good shoot set up, but it's worth it. Apr 07 14 12:39 pm Link Koryn wrote: I totally get that and that's exactly what I've been doing. So far so good, I don't have any complaints yet with my experience on mm, other than wanting more time to shoot more. Apr 07 14 01:41 pm Link Images by MR wrote: ^^ this, or they could be trying to up their numbers to look cool on MM. lol Who knows. Maybe send whomever it is a note and say thanks for the FR, and ask how they found you? They might legitimately want to shoot with you. You don't know unless you ask the individual. good luck Apr 07 14 01:55 pm Link Isis22 wrote: But in one day? I just wonder at the efficiency of it all. Now I understand how networking works. Most model's friends are mainly photographers and most photographer's friends are models. When a model makes a friend request I look at their port then at their friends who as I said are usually photographers. If there is a photographer I am unfamiliar with I check out his port and his friends (mostly models). I find suitable models to befriend that way, from other photographers who do my type of work. Apr 07 14 02:43 pm Link Cervezax wrote: pretty much this, i only send out and accept requests based on who i would shoot with, that said if i don't like what they have in their port or aren't likely to work with them based on geography im not likely to accept or send a request.... Apr 07 14 02:54 pm Link Koryn wrote: I never thought of that. I get only one or two requests per month. Not hundreds like some models. Apr 07 14 04:20 pm Link First I check out the port. If I like what I see (which is often the case  ) I move on to checking the location. If they are not likely to stop by, or if I am not flying over there in July, maybe there is no point. I also always read the profile for more info and entertainment values (I apprectaie a good writer. I do). If all of these appeal to me, heck yea I'll add them! (or, if I find them bombard them with tags and messages and FR's)Apr 07 14 11:33 pm Link It cost nothing to get your page all over the place. Who knows who might see it? So why not. Visibility makes you more marketable and it is part of the process of building your network. Networking in the dark doesn't do you much good at all. Apr 07 14 11:43 pm Link Well I took the obvious step and asked the mmodel how he found me. It turns out he got a friend request from someone else and saw a tag I had left on that guy's page. I guess it pays to use tags and pic comments to network. Apr 08 14 08:15 am Link I throw darts at people. If the darts stick and the person doesn't kill me, that's gonna be a friend. Apr 08 14 02:54 pm Link Stanley L Moore wrote: I get about two per month, often from people who live in some far off country... Apr 09 14 02:59 pm Link Marin Photography NYC wrote: This! This is supposed to be fun as well as profitable for some. What does it hurt to accept a FR from someone who appreciates your work or look enough to let you know by sending one. As stated, this is a network and it's one more page that someone might see. It's free, doesn't take much time and like favorites it can be used as a reference if needed. Apr 09 14 03:25 pm Link At first I accepted everyone who sent me a request. Now I am much more picky and only accept those who actually message me, and those who I have worked with. Apr 09 14 04:55 pm Link I accept all requests from people in NZ. When I get requests from randoms who haven't sent me so much as a message or tag I check their port to see what we have in common and if there is nothing I decline. I think MM has a lot of friend collectors. I personally like to add people whose work I admire and also people from the forums that I enjoy seeing posts from. Apr 09 14 08:03 pm Link I pick by area (hongkong) and if I like the port, that's it. I would not waste any time to think about why someone adds me?! Either they just collect friends or they really like your port/profile. Or they seek your attention for a possible shooting / collaboration. Apr 10 14 12:28 am Link I really don't see the purpose in having friends on this site, please can someone explain? Apr 10 14 08:10 am Link Kyzn wrote: Let's see... Apr 10 14 08:17 am Link |
