Koryn wrote:
The one I met on Tuesday was pretty cool, but there wasn't really much physical "chemistry." Okay, there was absolutely none.

Someday, when my GF leaves me, I want to go on an awkward friend-date with you.
You have all these cool adventures, makes a guy wanna be part of the collateral damage.

We could totally get drinks and stare at eachother across the table, and I could think "wow this girl is way more granola in person than she seems from her MM posts."
and you can be like "well, hes super nicer in person, but I don't share any of the same interests. I wonder if he's gay?"

At least we could reminisce about being teenagers at the end of the 90's and then talk gossip about other MM members to kill time.

Then we could not even hold hands, but at least you got a free meal and some drinks.

What more could a girl want?!?

Paolo Diavolo wrote:
At least we could reminisce about being teenagers at the end of the 90's and then talk gossip about other MM members to kill time.

Hell, yes!!

Paolo Diavolo wrote:
Then we could not even hold hands, but at least you got a free meal and some drinks.

Well, we could hold hands if you wanted, but I prefer to link arms and skip down the street.

Paolo Diavolo wrote:
What more could a girl want?!?

To link arms, and skip down the street.

Koryn wrote:
To link arms, and skip down the street.

I would link arms and skip so hard with you.

Paolo Diavolo wrote:

Someday, when my GF leaves me, I want to go on an awkward friend-date with you.
You have all these cool adventures, makes a guy wanna be part of the collateral damage.

We could totally get drinks and stare at eachother across the table, and I could think "wow this girl is way more granola in person than she seems from her MM posts."
and you can be like "well, hes super nicer in person, but I don't share any of the same interests. I wonder if he's gay?"

At least we could reminisce about being teenagers at the end of the 90's and then talk gossip about other MM members to kill time.

Then we could not even hold hands, but at least you got a free meal and some drinks.

What more could a girl want?!?

*nominates for "top 10 posts in MM history"*  ^^^

Paolo Diavolo wrote:

I would link arms and skip so hard with you.

Can we also emulate the Ministry of Funny Walks?

Linked arms, of course.

Koryn wrote:
Can we also emulate the Ministry of Funny Walks?

Linked arms, of course.

oh?!? I dunno if I'm ready for that already.
usually, I wait until at least the 3rd date.
Not trying to get a bad rep as being 'easy'.

Just in case we can't resist our urges, I'l bring my bowler hat.
I'd rather have it and not need it, than need it and not have it.

Paolo Diavolo wrote:

oh?!? I dunno if I'm ready for that already.
usually, I wait until at least the 3rd date.
Not trying to get a bad rep as being 'easy'.

Just in case we can't resist our urges, I'l bring my bowler hat.
I'd rather have it and not need it, than need it and not have it.

You are correct in that Funny Walks are much more intimate than just linked arms skipping. Some people need a higher level of emotional trust and bonds to enter into that level of friend-dates. I totally understand if you aren't going to be ready for awhile.

Koryn wrote:

You are correct in that Funny Walks are much more intimate than just linked arms skipping. Some people need a higher level of emotional trust and bonds to enter into that level of friend-dates. I totally understand if you aren't going to be ready for awhile.

I wish more women would understand men like you do.

DivaEroticus wrote:
:sigh:

At least you get bad dates.  I don't get ANY dates, other than my FWB, and all he is is a FWB. 

If it wasn't for the interwebz, I wouldn't have any at all.

I don't just meet people out in the "real world," like I used to when I was younger. I have to go through the interwebz.

I'm very good at writing kitschy profiles. I don't even really post pictures on them, just a picture of my face, and write some really funny shit about something dumb, and my inbox blows up.

Koryn wrote:

If it wasn't for the interwebz, I wouldn't have any at all.

I don't just meet people out in the "real world," like I used to when I was younger. I have to go through the interwebz.

I'm very good at writing kitschy profiles. I don't even really post pictures on them, just a picture of my face, and write some really funny shit about something dumb, and my inbox blows up.

Koryn wrote:
If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.

Only one way to find out. When's the second date? 

Lumatic wrote:
Only one way to find out. When's the second date? 

Soon, I hope.

Apparently, he's already told his parents about me.

That's like... okay... not what I was expecting, but cool...

Maybe.

Koryn wrote:
Soon, I hope.

Apparently, he's already told his parents about me.

That's like... okay... not what I was expecting, but cool...

Maybe.

Whoa.

Yeah, that's a bit... quick.

Then again, maybe he just thought you were that awesome, maybe?

Lumatic wrote:

Whoa.

Yeah, that's a bit... quick.

Then again, maybe he just thought you were that awesome, maybe?

Let's hope this is the case.

Koryn wrote:

Let's hope this is the case.

Yeah, I'm brightsiding it.

Koryn wrote:

Soon, I hope.

Apparently, he's already told his parents about me.

That's like... okay... not what I was expecting, but cool...

Maybe.

*quietly faxes cancellation note to skywriter pilot - and sidles away innocently*

Koryn wrote:
I just expect everyone to be a complete nutcase.

...especially considering two of my friends have sent me text messages within the past 48 hours, saying they want to kill themselves.

I've learned to ignore it by now.

WHAT.

Do they do that sort of thing a lot?

Lumatic wrote:
WHAT.

Do they do that sort of thing a lot?

I'm not sure.

I decided a few months ago that I needed to make a concerted effort to get out of the house, make more friends, and meet some people.

I made a few new friends.

Apparently, two of them are suicidal.

I tried to tell you guys people in Boston were either (A) totally fucking crazy, or (B) heroin addicts, and no one would believe me.

It's something in the gene pool.

Koryn wrote:

I'm not sure.

I decided a few months ago that I needed to make a concerted effort to get out of the house, make more friends, and meet some people.

I made a few new friends.

Apparently, two of them are suicidal.

I tried to tell you guys people in Boston were either (A) totally fucking crazy, or (B) heroin addicts, and no one would believe me.

It's something in the gene pool.

So they're still a few tea leaves short of a cup, eh?

Lumatic wrote:
So they're still a few tea leaves short of a cup, eh?

At least the text messaging suicidal people, yes.

I think this sort of stuff is why I stayed an extreme loner for so long.

I just ... don't...understand...people...

Koryn wrote:

At least the text messaging suicidal people, yes.

I think this sort of stuff is why I stayed an extreme loner for so long.

I just ... don't...understand...people...

We can be like they are...

Oh wait, wrong thread. 

Solas wrote:
Just use mm like the rest of the site, free and you likely already have mutual lifestyle interests

Thats the thing with dating..finding someone who is interested is one thing but making it last I find the secret is finding someone who gets your lifestyle really well. Or lives it themselves

Only ever heard one success story from any of these profile sites
Heard many many more success stories from MM. Or similar sites which are based on interest rather than "singles finding someone" which screams "run" all on its own

I use this, and other internet networking resources, to MAKE A LIVING.

There was a time when I mixed work and pleasure. That time is long gone.

Koryn wrote:

I'm not sure.

I decided a few months ago that I needed to make a concerted effort to get out of the house, make more friends, and meet some people.

I made a few new friends.

Apparently, two of them are suicidal.

I tried to tell you guys people in Boston were either (A) totally fucking crazy, or (B) heroin addicts, and no one would believe me.

It's something in the gene pool.

I believed you. :shrug: guess I'm no one.

Solas wrote:
Just use mm like the rest of the site, free and you likely already have mutual lifestyle interests

Thats the thing with dating..finding someone who is interested is one thing but making it last I find the secret is finding someone who gets your lifestyle really well. Or lives it themselves

Only ever heard one success story from any of these profile sites
Heard many many more success stories from MM. Or similar sites which are based on interest rather than "singles finding someone" which screams "run" all on its own

Are you suggesting MM is a dating site?

DivaEroticus wrote:

Are you suggesting MM is a dating site?

Ssssshhhhhhh. Don't say that.

MesmerEyes Photography wrote:

I believed you. :shrug: guess I'm no one.

You are someone. I like you a lot. I like all you guys. I wish we could use the magic of teh interwebz to teleport to each other, so we could actually hang out, like normal friends do.

Koryn wrote:
I met another one - a high school science teacher my own age.

I normally love science dudes, but this one wasn't nearly as interesting to talk to as they often are, and his hairline was seriously receding.

At 31, that's probably a bad sign.

Also, he would say things about his students like, "You know, these kids nowadays!"

Nope, I don't know. Kids are kids. We were also really bad, immoral, reckless and oversexed as teens. And so were our parents, their parents, our parents' parents' parents'. I wanted to be like, "Get off mah lawwwwwn!!" but I didn't.

The one from Saturday (who told me he'd already told his mom about me) has texted me the past two nights, just to say "good night." I'm not sure if that's genuine sweetness, or just a game to get in my pants faster.

I have to admit, it's ridiculously charming.

Most people aren't that smart so he's probably being genuine. Though that would freak me out a little. Too soon stuff is always a small red flag to me.

Model Sarah wrote:


...and by the 4th one, I met Zach (sales). 3 1/2 years later we're still together.
...

The fact he is a salesman has anything/something to do with snagging and keeping you ?

Koryn wrote:
....

The one from Saturday (who told me he'd already told his mom about me) has texted me the past two nights, just to say "good night." I'm not sure if that's genuine sweetness, or just a game to get in my pants faster.

I have to admit, it's ridiculously charming.

3...2...1... and BAM, he is in your pants.

Model Sarah wrote:
Too soon stuff is always a small red flag to me.

In most other situations, I would agree strongly.

And with the one I met Friday night (the creepy one), it definitely was. He got defensive that I was talking to other random people at the social event we went to, was oddly possessive even though we didn't really know each other at all, and was all touchy-feely, and was saying, "But, I want to be with you," even though all I could say was, "I just met you two hours ago."

That shit was weird ^^^. Noooo. NOOOOOOO.

I have a feeling that the charming one is just one of those super enthusiastic people, who is very exuberant, and lacks the sort of social filters for appearing reserved, that most of us have learned how to put up so as not to be "uncool" around people we meet, and like a lot.

Especially people who grew up in the 90s. I think we have a tendency to be kind of deadpan, nonchalant, and unimpressible people, with a more indifferent way of communicating with each other. That seemed to be the cultural milieu when we were developing social skills, and showing a lot of enthusiasm for anything or anyone was a total social disgrace. Some 90s people never developed those non-skills.