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Eastfist wrote: Crude enough, and also largely inaccurate. The market for old or vintage erotica as a consumable is infinitesimal in comparison to the market for current or modern material. By factors of thousands or 10's of thousands to 1 the "new generation" prefers erotic material featuring other members of the "new generation" for their erotic entertainment, not their parents, grandparents or more ancient ancestors. Feb 20 13 01:05 pm Link U have to be careful ;-) Feb 20 13 01:09 pm Link Decay of Memory wrote: I'm talking about the overall picture. Every generation of "nudes" sets the standard for the new generation, whether they know it or not. Feb 20 13 01:12 pm Link This thread truely fasicinating. I am thinking once i am 18 i'll think about doing nudes and this thread is helpful  Feb 20 13 01:33 pm Link If I pose for a picture, I assume that everybody could potentially see it online: my mom, my dad, my little brother, my boss, the bartender, the old lady next door... everybody. I might prefer them not to see my pictures, but if I wouldn't really comfortable I wouldn't have posed that way at all Feb 20 13 01:39 pm Link Greeneyed Goddess wrote: Potential employers would be the main concern in my eyes. Feb 20 13 01:54 pm Link Greeneyed Goddess wrote: I don't care if my friends see my nudes... They all know I do nudes and they are never surprised by them. If they have something to say about them it is a nice critique that allows me to work on my poses, etc. Feb 20 13 02:32 pm Link Greeneyed Goddess wrote: It is always a good idea to sort out your feelings and consequences before you shoot, not after. Feb 20 13 02:43 pm Link So, what you actually meant when you wrote: Eastfist wrote: was: Eastfist wrote: I'm feeling rather dense considering I missed the point and commented on the part where you were writing about a new generation digging up 50 year old erotica to "spank" to. I just didn't get it at all. See, I thought you were posting in the modelling forum, in a thread about family and friends seeing nude images, a crude generalization about nude images being "spank" material and that models ought to understand that being appreciated in this way is what made it "worth it". Feb 20 13 04:09 pm Link DougBPhoto wrote: My fav answer so far. Thank you so much for sharing this! Feb 21 13 08:10 am Link Carioca wrote: True. Mine are all pretty much figured out though. I just wanted to hear what others have to say. Feb 21 13 08:12 am Link Laura BrokenDoll wrote: I've been a nude model for long enough to say, with a great deal of certainty, that odds are stacked against anyone you know ever seeing anything you've done. Feb 21 13 07:03 pm Link DougBPhoto wrote: QFT Feb 21 13 10:41 pm Link My family has seen my nude photography. They like it!...They don't have anything negative to say. If they did, they know I would do it anyway!...haha Feb 21 13 10:49 pm Link twoharts wrote: in my experience, judgemental people "on your side" really aren't. Feb 21 13 11:06 pm Link Greeneyed Goddess wrote: Feb 21 13 11:13 pm Link My mom has seen my wife nude (she saw me editing her photos before we were dating) - she's also seen most of my art nude work, and likes it (even though her conservative side is kinda... meeehhhhhhh.... My step mom thinks its all porn, though. Feb 21 13 11:25 pm Link My family has no problem with nudes since they were all raised in artistic homes. They're a little uncomfortable since it's my naked butt they look at ... but they don't have an issue with it. But, I tend to do the more artsy and steer clear of glamour nudes. Feb 21 13 11:34 pm Link Greeneyed Goddess wrote: Hi, Feb 23 13 09:21 pm Link I see it sort of this way -- there's nothing wrong, or embarrassing, with making out/making love with a significant other. Should you be ashamed of it? No. Would you want your parents to see it? Generally speaking, absolutely not. I feel no embarrassment or discomfort with nudity, but I still wouldn't want my parents to see it. If they did (and they have) it wouldn't be the end of the world, but it's just weird, because of the context of those people in your life. It's like your pastor watching you drink a beer, or watching a sex scene with your grandparents. Nothing wrong with those things, it's just awkward in context. With the easy availability of everything on the internet, it's almost a guarantee that eventually somebody will see something that wasn't necessarily meant for their eyes, and it's something we each have to either choose to accept -- or pick a different genre of modeling. Feb 23 13 09:35 pm Link I have very mixed feelings about it. When I started performing and I started to model more often I created a whole other face book account and made sure to block my younger brothers. My then 10 year old brother had joined face book (yes, he lied about his age) and I felt that he didn't need to be seeing his sister in or not in certain things. I am in no way ashamed of what I do. I don't think there is one filthy thing about my body that I would consider dirty or shameful to be kept away. I don't walk around naked because I understand it makes other people uncomfortable and I know a few years ago I thought - I won't do nudes, I'm just having fun etc etc. I am afraid of my family or family friends seeing nude photos of me even though my Mum has come and watched me perform. The scariest thing would be for my grandparents and their little scottish friends or her sisters etc finding out... Gossip clan. They regularly get together to have 'tea' and discuss and compare their children and achievements... I don't really think what they would think about it would hurt me but I just don't want that stress in my life. If I can avoid unnecessary drama - I will. Sometimes it also makes me think that it halves or quarters the fish in the sea for me as sometimes no matter what they say - you know they are not so cool with you being naked on the internet. That's ok though. deleted most of my rant. it was f.ing huge - I got carried away Feb 23 13 09:40 pm Link Eastfist wrote: I actually disagree with this, because when we are stripped down and have no clothing to identify us as belonging to any specific group, or to use to "assign" ourselves identity, we become more anonymous. Narcissism is about being caught up in one's own self and identity, adoring yourself as a SELF. Feb 24 13 06:59 am Link DougBPhoto wrote: Yes. Feb 24 13 02:45 pm Link I don't have time to read the whole thread but you have already taken proper precaution by using a stage name. They won't be associated with your real name Feb 24 13 06:36 pm Link I certainly wouldn't mind, I'm happy with my work and my body Feb 24 13 06:42 pm Link I like doing nude work, never been quite been able to put my finger on why. My friends have all seen it since I did some work for a friend to use for his portfolio and so whenever one of our mutual friends checks out his website they see me naked. Just make sure it is tasteful and if your comfortable with your body then all is good! Feb 25 13 07:09 pm Link perhaps. but their money spends the same. of course money often comes with strings attached. but sometimes you need some and robbing a bank isn't really a good option. i refer people to the end of the movie Arthur. mr. wizard wrote: Feb 25 13 07:20 pm Link Greeneyed Goddess wrote: Only a few friends have seen my nude online portfolio, my family doesn't see it and the purpose of an alias is to make sure that potential employers don't see it either even my clothed work. People outside of the industry have so many misconceptions about it. Feb 26 13 12:50 pm Link BarryH wrote: This is beautiful! Feb 26 13 02:38 pm Link I’d say only shoot what you’re comfortable with anyone else knowing about. My friends, family, and coworkers are aware of my nude work. Are you sure that the people in your life would not be accepting of what you choose to do, at least to the degree that it is any of their business? Mar 22 13 07:49 am Link I can understand in some fields of work or some communities, people knowing might be weird or problematic. And I understand that some people prefer to keep it completely separate. When it came to strangers, to avoid awkward conversation I had said "I work in the arts", and I simply never talked to my parents about it until my brother told them, not knowing they didn't know already (he knew from social media, and later meeting a few people). Otherwise, I'm an open book about most things, and found my own life easier being fairly open about that too. It actually occasionally found me work, through people knowing someone or another. I didn't find most people to be creepy about it, and I didn't find that most people were offended by it (although my dad did want to make sure he wasn't likely to accidentally see anything). The only time I ever had an issue was a friend of a friend who wanted to shoot me and it wasn't mutual, and he couldn't understand why I didn't want to TFP with him. Mar 22 13 01:50 pm Link I don't worry about potential employers. I am mainly a mom and a part-time Ebay seller so it's a moot point. Only close friends know I llama nude. That is why they are "close" friends. I find that llamaing nude separates the wheat from the chaff when it comes to dating men. The ones that are supportive are keepers. 2 aunts and my father have seen cropped photos on Facebook. My aunts assumed I wore a strapless bra in the photos but my father came right out and asked me if I was topless. I said yes and he said I thought so and I will let my sisters think what they do;) I think it's funny that it never even occurred to him that I was bottomless too! I started out doing artistic nudes and that is mainly what I still do. I am more comfortable posing nude. I am proud that I still have the body I have at my age. Mar 22 13 02:55 pm Link SPV Photo wrote: This...I don't see anything wrong with people who do porn. It's their choice Mar 22 13 03:56 pm Link yeah it's not like they're doing something illegal like smoking pot (in all but two states). lol. the world is so funny in how it judges things. Danielle Kitten wrote: Mar 22 13 04:13 pm Link SPV Photo wrote: I don't shoot porn, but I agree totally. :-) Mar 22 13 04:18 pm Link DougBPhoto wrote: Brilliant Quote.... Mar 22 13 04:29 pm Link I'm fine with it. Sometimes people ask me how I can deal with everyone knowing what I look like naked, and I just explain that not only am I fully aware they'd already thought about it and figured it out, but I know what everyone else looks like naked. Just because you can go home and see pictures doesn't mean that we get to drop the professional pretense that we're all unaware that each of us is a sexual being, either. *shrug* A couple of friends and my father prefer to avoid nude photos of me, which in my friends cases means I just never send them anything, and in my father's case means I let him know explicitly where nude photos are most likely to be, as he gets linked to my work as his friends find stuff and will be able to recognize links or know not to, for example, go from a safe link in my portfolio and just browse if he wants to avoid it. Mar 22 13 05:01 pm Link Once the decision is made to do nudes, that decision involves having them appear in shows, on the internet, and who knows where else. It's really no big deal to me, part of the model business, hobby, lifestyle, whatever approach you take. i am completely comfortable with anyone seeing nude photos, drawings, paintings, etc of me. I don't know that it "defines" me, whatever that means; but it sure part of who I am. Mar 23 13 12:46 pm Link I regret being a model because it caused my family distress. People say "do what you want, it's your body!" but I feel that can be selfish. At the end of the day, it's a difficult balance. If your family can't deal with your religious choices or sexual orientation, that's one thing, but is posing nude really such a fundamental piece of who you are? My modeling is in the past, for the most part. It's not exclusively because of my family's disapproval or worry, but I do like knowing that they feel better about my choices. Mar 23 13 01:16 pm Link Keep in mind, if it hasn't already been mentioned, that an 'alias' may not always keep your nudes dissociated from you. Improvements in facial recognition will make it technically possible for search engines to serve up all photos of you regardless of whether they were originally associated with a pseudonym, or with your real name. Mar 23 13 01:35 pm Link |
