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MsB

Posts: 2603

New York, New York, US

This is a question to hair stylists or anyone else who knows... I have relaxed very dark brown, almost black hair; I want to high-light or dye sections of my hair but I'm scared it will break off. Six years ago I put this Salon Selectives mousse hair lightener thing in my hair, and over the course of 3 months my hair became a medium-dark brown. Then a couple of years after that I put some DIY high-lights in. So between the curling iron & sponge rollers I was using at the time, my hair started breaking off. Now 4 years later I haven't dyed/ high-lighted my hair & I barely use a curling iron or rollers, and my hair is really long now. So does anybody know of a safer brand of home/DIY high-lighting or dying kits- that is good for black/relaxed hair?

May 04 07 12:54 am Link

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Kimberly Pletz

Posts: 950

Los Angeles, California, US

MsB wrote:
This is a question to hair stylists or anyone else who knows... I have relaxed very dark brown, almost black hair; I want to high-light or dye sections of my hair but I'm scared it will break off. Six years ago I put this Salon Selectives mousse hair lightener thing in my hair, and over the course of 3 months my hair became a medium-dark brown. Then a couple of years after that I put some DIY high-lights in. So between the curling iron & sponge rollers I was using at the time, my hair started breaking off. Now 4 years later I haven't dyed/ high-lighted my hair & I barely use a curling iron or rollers, and my hair is really long now. So does anybody know of a safer brand of home/DIY high-lighting or dying kits- that is good for black/relaxed hair?

You are best off going to a professional... & a good one at that.. You don't mess with your mane girl...

May 04 07 02:01 am Link

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rick lesser

Posts: 1116

Fort Lauderdale, Florida, US

Brave aren't you!  Do me a favor.  I know I'm just a guy with a profile on this site but here's the deal.  You can do it yourself and come to me/other's to fix it.  Or just come to me/other's in the industry who are in the know.  I can't believe you don't have any hair dresser friends who can color your hair?  Your in New York right? Email me here and I will give you the number of a great friend of mine.  She rocks when it comes to hair.  If you want to color short hair yourself, OK.  But if it's past your shoulders, do not do it yourself!  You'll spend more time and money having it it corrected.  Good luck R-

May 04 07 01:17 pm Link

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MsB

Posts: 2603

New York, New York, US

I know... I shouldn't really do it myself.... but I want to put the high-lights where I exactly want them to go. I have a hair dresser (that I visit 3 times a year) that I like, but I only trust her to relax my hair. I'm just scared someone is going to over do it, and they'll be like, "It's ok, your hair's not gonna fall out". Then a month later it starts breaking off! I'll probably buy a home kit and do a few strands and see what happens smile

May 04 07 01:54 pm Link

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Vanessa Melgar MUA

Posts: 173

Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, US

If you're DETERMINED to do it yourself (though I have to agree, it's not really advisable) then go to a beauty supply store, NOT the grocery store.  Buy some bleach, buy low volume developer (like 10, no more than 20), do thin sections in foils, check them frequently so you can take them out the minute it gets light enough.  DO NOT heat the hair. 
What look are you going for?  Blonde??? I wouldn't go more than like...a medium brown, otherwise they can start to look harsh and cheap, especially DIY (plus the hair will be more damaged and look pretty nasty).  Your hair will most likely lighten to a rather orangey shade.  That's just how it goes.  Pick out a toner, maybe a 6N.  It's hard to say without really knowing your hair, or seeing how it looks after lightening.

Again, I wouldn't -really- recommend this, since the other people have been right in saying you may end up spending alot fixing it, or it could become quite damaged.  BUT since you seem pretty intent on trying for yourself annnnyways....best of luck.  I'd rather give you a little advice, rather than seeing a thread of you going "OH GOD WHAT HAVE I DONE".  That would make me sad.
Throw in a good thick leave-in conditioner afterwards and try to resist heat styling for a week or so.  Also, keep in mind that those pieces will be more fragile, so turn down the heat on your tools before putting them to your hair.


Good luck.

May 04 07 08:44 pm Link

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Monica hair-mua

Posts: 923

Long Beach, California, US

I don't recommend you do it yourself. First since you only visit the salon 3 times a year, YOU cant determine if your hair is even healthy enough to put it through that. Partially because you don't know what to look for. You were saying that you want to do them yourself because you know where you want them, well my advice to you is. Find a color specialist in your area and have a counsiltation and make sure you let them know you already have a chemical in your hair.

May 05 07 01:45 am Link

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David W Davis

Posts: 1

New York, New York, US

Hi there.

My name is KHAN. Here is a link to my website: http://richardsteinhair.com
I've been  a professional stylist/colorist for some time.
Let me first compliment your wisdom for not trying to chemically enhance your hair by yourself. Your type of hair is the most delicate-it is like silk when maintained properly-of all hairtypes and it requires special care.

1) First, do your research. Ask friends, shop the web for salons, look at the reviews from non-biased websites and resources like citysearch.com and this one. After researching, pick up to 10 salons and call them. If the receptionist isn't friendly, chances are the rest of the salon follows suit.

2) Second, schedule a consultation with three to five of your top 10 picks.
This should costs anywhere from half to the service to $0.00. Time is money.
Your hair is an investment in yourself. Only you can determine your self-worth.

3)  After discussing your hair history, your hair goals, and lifestyle, you should have an idea of whether you feel comfortable with the cosmetologist. If you don't feel comfortable during the consultation, trust your instincts, and don't hire that person. In our industry you are your own business card. Good luck on your search!

May 08 07 01:36 am Link

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Jessica Lynn Hill

Posts: 28

Somers, Connecticut, US

wow... you want to lighten relaxed hair at home?!  If you are determined to do it yourself good luck but you will probably end up the same way you did before... with your hair breaking off.  There are reason Hairstylists are licenced and required to take a state board exam.  You are dealing with serious chemicals.  If you hair wasn't relaxed that would be one thing... you need to find a professional to help you.  Or else you'll be looking to one to fix you later.

May 09 07 09:07 am Link

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LisaJohnson

Posts: 10525

Nashville, Tennessee, US

This is fair warning to you, Jessica.  Double processing hair at home is not only foolish, but you risk losing your hair by breakage and ultimately it cracking off OVER TIME.  DONT DO THIS.

Jessica Lynn Hill wrote:
wow... you want to lighten relaxed hair at home?!  If you are determined to do it yourself good luck but you will probably end up the same way you did before... with your hair breaking off.  There are reason Hairstylists are licenced and required to take a state board exam.  You are dealing with serious chemicals.  If you hair wasn't relaxed that would be one thing... you need to find a professional to help you.  Or else you'll be looking to one to fix you later.

May 09 07 09:11 am Link

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Tara Donancricchia

Posts: 363

Chicago, Illinois, US

MsB wrote:
This is a question to hair stylists or anyone else who knows... I have relaxed very dark brown, almost black hair; I want to high-light or dye sections of my hair but I'm scared it will break off. Six years ago I put this Salon Selectives mousse hair lightener thing in my hair, and over the course of 3 months my hair became a medium-dark brown. Then a couple of years after that I put some DIY high-lights in. So between the curling iron & sponge rollers I was using at the time, my hair started breaking off. Now 4 years later I haven't dyed/ high-lighted my hair & I barely use a curling iron or rollers, and my hair is really long now. So does anybody know of a safer brand of home/DIY high-lighting or dying kits- that is good for black/relaxed hair?

(I am also MM#5134 Retired Stylist/MUA) Your best bet is to write down what you have done chemically or otherwise to your hair, take it to a professional stylist and let them H/L your hair. You might find a stylist that uses "Blazing Highlighting System by Scruples" which is pretty safe for ethnic relaxed hair. I swear by it!! You canNOT buy it over-the-counter though. You have to be SO CAREFUL with relaxers, metallic dyes and over-the-counter crap that you don't need a prof license to buy. That stuff should not be on the market. Too much can go wrong if you don't know what you are doing. Personally - I wouldn't touch it. Have a few "Pro Hair" extensions put in instead of H/L your hair! Then you can have many changes without further damage. Good luck & best wishes, love!! Model T

May 09 07 09:17 am Link

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Monica hair-mua

Posts: 923

Long Beach, California, US

Just Model T wrote:

(I am also MM#5134 Retired Stylist/MUA) Your best bet is to write down what you have done chemically or otherwise to your hair, take it to a professional stylist and let them H/L your hair. You might find a stylist that uses "Blazing Highlighting System by Scruples" which is pretty safe for ethnic relaxed hair. I swear by it!! You canNOT buy it over-the-counter though. You have to be SO CAREFUL with relaxers, metallic dyes and over-the-counter crap that you don't need a prof license to buy. That stuff should not be on the market. Too much can go wrong if you don't know what you are doing. Personally - I wouldn't touch it. Have a few "Pro Hair" extensions put in instead of H/L your hair! Then you can have many changes without further damage. Good luck & best wishes, love!! Model T

HAD NEVER HEARD OF THE SCRUPLES HIGHLIGHTING SYSTEM....THANKS FOR THAT INFO big_smile

May 09 07 10:44 am Link