Good Egg Productions wrote:
I've had nude photos taken of me.

You haven't seen them.  Nor have my parents. 

Perhaps tell people that you can assume that it is a RISK that everyone they knew or will know MAY see them one day.  Not an absolute.

And really.... when are we going to get over ourselves about nudity.  You run WAY more of a risk of exposure by someone hacking into your phone and grabbing those sexting photos in there than posing for artistic nudes with a competent and respectful photographer. 

^^ That's my opinion.

I agree....and it comes down to simply NOT posing for things you would be ashamed of.

Poses wrote:
If you're going to pose nude and have those images displayed on the internet, assume that every single person you've ever met as well as every single person you will meet will see them.

We frequently see girls here asking about posing nude- they wonder if they should, even if someone in their life doesn't want them to (usually, it's a boyfriend).  MM usually tells her to dump that guy and get someone who supports her.  And they're right- in the vast majority of these stories, the boyfriend is also showing signs of jealousy and control that are indicative of other, deeper problems.

What people don't usually mention is the fallout that posing nude can have.

Some people do go without being "found out," and some people have supportive family, friends, and partners.  I'm in the latter category, thankfully.

When I first posed nude nearly five years ago, I was 20, in art school, and thought that I was okay with everyone in my life knowing about it.  I've since modeled for well over one hundred photographers and artists; images of me have been displayed everywhere from art galleries to fetish websites.  I made a pretty decent amount of money for an art school drop out.

However...my career goals changed, and I found myself living in fear of being found out while I attended trade school.  I worried about sexual harassment, or worse, if someone found my pictures.

Today I worry about my parents' and sister's colleagues finding them , and hope that this wouldn't hurt their careers (not to mention my little brother and his friends).  I worry that potential people in my life will be held back by me.  I don't want kids...but what if I did?

I continue to model every now and then because the cat is out of the bag, and has been for a long time.  You can't go back.

And, you know, five years ago, I probably would have read this and thought that I was okay with those risks...but if I had to do it all over again, I would have never modeled.

You can do things like pick a stage name, etc., but at the end of the day...assume that everyone- your boss, your co-workers, your parents, your kids, your teachers and classmates- is going to see you naked on the internet.

Good luck, everyone!

So, you worry that your nude photos will hurt others in your family, yet you say you still model and you obviously still have them posted here.  I don't understand.

MO Rina wrote:

So, you worry that your nude photos will hurt others in your family, yet you say you still model and you obviously still have them posted here.  I don't understand.

Hypocrisy??  On MY internets?  Unpossible!!

Good Egg Productions wrote:

Hypocrisy??  On MY internets?  Unpossible!!

No, I'm not trying to say that.  I really just don't understand why she would continue to have a profile here if she was that concerned.  No ridicule on my end at all.

Poses wrote:
If you're going to pose nude and have those images displayed on the internet, assume that every single person you've ever met as well as every single person you will meet will see them.

We frequently see girls here asking about posing nude- they wonder if they should, even if someone in their life doesn't want them to (usually, it's a boyfriend).  MM usually tells her to dump that guy and get someone who supports her.  And they're right- in the vast majority of these stories, the boyfriend is also showing signs of jealousy and control that are indicative of other, deeper problems.

What people don't usually mention is the fallout that posing nude can have.

Some people do go without being "found out," and some people have supportive family, friends, and partners.  I'm in the latter category, thankfully.

When I first posed nude nearly five years ago, I was 20, in art school, and thought that I was okay with everyone in my life knowing about it.  I've since modeled for well over one hundred photographers and artists; images of me have been displayed everywhere from art galleries to fetish websites.  I made a pretty decent amount of money for an art school drop out.

However...my career goals changed, and I found myself living in fear of being found out while I attended trade school.  I worried about sexual harassment, or worse, if someone found my pictures.

Today I worry about my parents' and sister's colleagues finding them , and hope that this wouldn't hurt their careers (not to mention my little brother and his friends).  I worry that potential people in my life will be held back by me.  I don't want kids...but what if I did?

I continue to model every now and then because the cat is out of the bag, and has been for a long time.  You can't go back.

And, you know, five years ago, I probably would have read this and thought that I was okay with those risks...but if I had to do it all over again, I would have never modeled.

You can do things like pick a stage name, etc., but at the end of the day...assume that everyone- your boss, your co-workers, your parents, your kids, your teachers and classmates- is going to see you naked on the internet.

Good luck, everyone!

This is one of the best posts on this site full of drivel.  I understand and thank you for posting it.

RWhite Photography wrote:
Why do we live our lives for other people!!!! Will we ever evolve as a species?? God I hate conservative crap!!

Let's be best friends. And annoy and concern people with our nakedness!

Snake Biscuits wrote:

Let's be best friends. And annoy and concern people with our nakedness!

Consider us friends! I'm amazed at all the talk about nudity. I propose for one day everyone in the world (young, old, fat, skinny) discard your clothes. Guess what, the world won't end although it might just enjoy a moment of tranquility!

Poses wrote:
I continue to model every now and then because the cat is out of the bag, and has been for a long time.  You can't go back.

MO Rina wrote:
So, you worry that your nude photos will hurt others in your family, yet you say you still model and you obviously still have them posted here.  I don't understand.

Cliff from NJ wrote:
and now that you started this thread, there's an even bigger chance your photo's will be found.

If this thread instead of the 10+ borderline porn sites there are images of me on and the hundreds of images in photographer portfolios are what causes me to be discovered by some people, well, at least they'll read my words before seeing my boobs.

RWhite Photography wrote:
Consider us friends! I'm amazed at all the talk about nudity. I propose for one day everyone in the world (young, old, fat, skinny) discard your clothes. Guess what, the world won't end although it might just enjoy a moment of tranquility!

Great idea.  You start.

Take a nude image of yourself that clearly shows your face and send it to everyone in your address book.  Then post it on 22 websites.  Make prints of it and bring them to work and pass them out.  Give them to your kids school teachers.

Have a blast!

...... Or maybe not.....

RWhite Photography wrote:
Why do we live our lives for other people!!!! Will we ever evolve as a species?? God I hate conservative crap!!

I'm borderline socialist in many of my political views.

I don't think worrying about my family is conservative, just human.

Good Egg Productions wrote:
I've had nude photos taken of me.

You haven't seen them.  Nor have my parents. 

Perhaps tell people that you can assume that it is a RISK that everyone they knew or will know MAY see them one day.  Not an absolute.

And really.... when are we going to get over ourselves about nudity.  You run WAY more of a risk of exposure by someone hacking into your phone and grabbing those sexting photos in there than posing for artistic nudes with a competent and respectful photographer. 

^^ That's my opinion.

If you assume that everyone will see them, you fully understand the risk that everyone may see them. 

If you tell yourself that everyone may see them, you probably think there's something you can do to assure that they will not see them. If you do that, you're setting yourself up for embarrassment.

Digitoxin wrote:

Great idea.  You start.

Take a nude image of yourself that clearly shows your face and send it to everyone in your address book.  Then post it on 22 websites.  Make prints of it and bring them to work and pass them out.  Give them to your kids school teachers.

Have a blast!

...... Or maybe not.....

I would. I'm not ashamed. Besides, I send out email announcements when I have new work up [including nudes] that goes out to everyone whos email address I have [even if they only emailed me once]. This includes my old teachers from HS.

Digitoxin wrote:
Great idea.  You start.

Take a nude image of yourself that clearly shows your face and send it to everyone in your address book.  Then post it on 22 websites.  Make prints of it and bring them to work and pass them out.  Give them to your kids school teachers.

Have a blast!

...... Or maybe not.....

Snake Biscuits wrote:
I would. I'm not ashamed. Besides, I send out email announcements when I have new work up [including nudes] that goes out to everyone whos email address I have [even if they only emailed me once]. This includes my old teachers from HS.

And, I have no problem with anyone who HAS posed nude AND has those images on the net doing whatever they wish.

I do have an issue with some folks who shout to the hills about how nude modeling is fine and society norms are all stupid and people should all get nekkid and bosses are dumb and blah, blah, blah IF that same person has never bothered to get nekkid for an image and also have that image on the web for ALL to see.

Simply put:  walk a mile in Poses shoes before you suggest that her points are off base.  You have walked that mile and I respect your opinion.

Miss Anthrope 1007 wrote:
I truly understand the heart of her post in that one should think hard and long
about posing nude and their future, and if it can be affected by it.  Don't just jump
in out of desperacy for the cold hard cash, 'cause those who do are the ones
who regret it the most in the end...

This. ^

It goes along the lines of 'for love or money'

If you do it because you love it... and you're getting paid... awesome.

If only for the cash??? Well.. when has anyone... anywhere... been happy when they did something just for the monies and no other motivation??

I'm lucky... my family, friends, even my in-laws know what I do... and they fully support me. I have some nude images floating around... I know this.

I have a family member who is working to get himself in the position of political office... He has been the only one who has brought it up to me... and it wasn't in a disapproving way... more acknowledging that it may cause problems for him in the future... but more worried that it may cause me problems... he's very conservative, and sweet, I loves hims.

I had my little monkey's teacher mention that they saw a provocative image of me... I smiled looked him in the eye and responded "That's fine. However I highly think your free time fun has no place in this discussion, nor any discussion we may have in the future." He shut the hell up and did his job and treated me w/ nothing but respect from then on.

If you're going to do it... do it for the love of creating art. One shouldn't get into such things if they cannot handle the musings of fools.

Digitoxin wrote:

Digitoxin wrote:
Great idea.  You start.

Take a nude image of yourself that clearly shows your face and send it to everyone in your address book.  Then post it on 22 websites.  Make prints of it and bring them to work and pass them out.  Give them to your kids school teachers.

Have a blast!

...... Or maybe not.....

And, I have no problem with anyone who HAS posed nude AND has those images on the net doing whatever they wish.

I do have an issue with some folks who shout to the hills about how nude modeling is fine and society norms are all stupid and people should all get nekkid and bosses are dumb and blah, blah, blah IF that same person has never bothered to get nekkid for an image and also have that image on the web for ALL to see.

Simply put:  walk a mile in Poses shoes before you suggest that her points are off base.  You have walked that mile and I respect your opinion.

I appreciate that, and I respect yours as well. I also agree that society norms are stupid, and naked is awesome

Snake Biscuits wrote:
I just assume everyone has seen me naked.
In fact, one of my ex boyfriends random FB friends [who he says he's met once, and who has never met me, nor has me added] told me the other day he saw one of my bondage nudes.

I just assume people are going to see me naked. I'm okay with it.

As far as the future, I'm still okay with it. I love my body, and I am so proud of my work. If I do some how have an intense change of heart and decided to have kids [which I've decided completely against and I know isn't going to change], I won't be ashamed of my work.

I don't worry about how my work will effect my family. I know that sounds messed up, but I don't. My nudity isn't going to stop my parets from getting work. My nudity isn't going to stop my sisters/brothers from going to college. It isn't going to effect ANYONE but me.

My family [for the most part] hates it, and some of them no longer speak to me. Fuck 'em. We must not have been that close anyway.

That's why I love you, SB.

Fur Elise wrote:
I had my little monkey's teacher mention that they saw a provocative image of me... I smiled looked him in the eye and responded "That's fine. However I highly think your free time fun has no place in this discussion, nor any discussion we may have in the future." He shut the hell up and did his job and treated me w/ nothing but respect from then on.

Brilliant. And brave. And true.

Squirrels On Film wrote:

That's why I love you, SB.

For my smart-ass attitude, and my nakedness!

matt-h2 wrote:
The chance, and perhaps the consequences, of that happening depends on many factors. You've been pretty publicly out there, even under the cover of a pseudonym. In your Candy days, you had a blog, and some cool videos, as well as the close to porn you mention. To me, that increases the likelihood of discovery.

It amazes me how much the old blog/persona sticks in people's minds, years later!  Several events in my life about two/two and a half years ago altered the way I saw things to the point where I no longer felt comfortable blogging.  I've considered collecting the extensive archive of entries and trying to publish them in a book, but it's pretty much only a thought in the back of my mind, and will probably continue to remain that way.  And it's also one sure-fire way to out myself to more people.

AJScalzitti wrote:
I really only know of teachers (or should teachers union) that would be concerned what you do outside of work.  When I had a period mid career as management for a few fortune 500 organizations I had drug tests, not nudity tests.  If you were good at your job then you were good at your job, nothing more and nothing less.

I understand the OP opinions, but people really need to take a stand when an employer crosses a line and concerns themselves with your personal life.  We would all be up in arms if a top company said I can't hire you because you are Jewish but somehow they can say I can't hire you because I have seen you naked.  Maybe an outrageous example on my part, but the two are not all that different; out of bounds to employers and have no place in the USA.

This, a million times over.

Good Egg Productions wrote:
I've had nude photos taken of me.

You haven't seen them.  Nor have my parents. 

Perhaps tell people that you can assume that it is a RISK that everyone they knew or will know MAY see them one day.  Not an absolute.

And really.... when are we going to get over ourselves about nudity.  You run WAY more of a risk of exposure by someone hacking into your phone and grabbing those sexting photos in there than posing for artistic nudes with a competent and respectful photographer. 

^^ That's my opinion.

And mine.  Well said.

Lorayne York wrote:
My Career doesn't know about the modeling, any modeling I do because it draws unwanted attention and questions.

an attractive girl thinking work guys don't google their name in images is ill informed. I've done it, I know plenty of people that do it. Why? because it works. Even found out a girl I worked with did straight up porn cause someone outed her name on a forum.
Just for the record.