Forums > Model Colloquy > A tale of two messages...

Model

Damianne

Posts: 15978

Austin, Texas, US

Two people contacted me this week with trade offers, and I thought I would share, as it says a lot about how I choose shoots and I think about how others do too. Other models may agree/disagree.

Message 1: came from a relatively successful commercial photographer, has some pretty good work he's produced, does a lot of local advertisement work and some big name band photography.
Message 2: came from a student photographer just looking to build a portfolio, doesn't have a lot to show for it.

Message 1 conversation (long conversation so I'll bullet point):
- MM portfolio has no photos in it (I had to confirm externally who he is)
- He asked if I've ever done nudes (obviously did not look at my portfolio)
- Asked me to do "somewhat erotic" work and refused to clarify.
- When I declined, wanted to do simple studio nudes, as he wants to "break into" doing them.
- When I explained that I would need a more involved, team shoot to have it be worthwhile to trade for me, but I had rates if he wasn't interested in doing all of that work, went on a long rant about how he doesn't pay models, they pay him.
- Wants to meet up without a shoot set or even agreed to.
- General lack of communication.
- Continued to put simple studio nude offers out there, like high key, single light hard shadows, projection images, and bodypainting, after I explained what I do and do not need for my portfolio.

In the end, this conversation was more "work for free" and not "trade with me".

Message 2:
"Hey we haven't officially met but we have worked with quite a few of the same ppl

I'm learning photography now
and would love it if in early may you would like to be one of 12 girls to model earrings an hair acc. For a custom accessory designer out of B.C. I know  -and I'll take the photos of course
Think......
Head shots and beauty mixed together to sell the pieces you will be modeling
( and your payment will be 1 of the pieces you shoot in)

Let me know if your interested"

- Subsequent conversation lead to a how long the shoot will be (a couple of hours).

Now, neither is really more likely to get me useable images than the other, but the second message had the elements of a trade request. Here's what I'm doing, here's why, here's how long it will take, here's what I can offer you.
The first was "do what I want, you should want to".


I accepted the second shoot, I'm totally ok with spending a couple of hours of my time for an interesting accessory that I otherwise would have just been lounging about.
I requested that the first person look for someone else, because I am really being offered nothing.
If I were just going by experience or even photography, I would accept the first shoot request, but that's really not what I wanted to do.


I just.. I just thought it was a good example of the difference in a trade request vs. a "work for free" request, and how to get a model to accept your offer to shoot.
Explain what you're doing and what the model is getting, all of that.

Apr 19 12 06:21 pm Link

Model

Paige Morgan

Posts: 4060

New York, New York, US

Respectful will always get you further than entitled. I would've chosen the photographer behind door number 2 as well.

Apr 19 12 06:26 pm Link

Photographer

Brian Fischer

Posts: 612

San Luis Obispo, California, US

Respect +1

Apr 19 12 06:32 pm Link

Model

T A Y L O R

Posts: 2990

Seattle, Washington, US

For me the big thing isn't so much communication (which is totally, totally key) it's humility.

One local guy PM'd me about working together and I said sure. He asked to talk on the phone and I said sure. I hadn't taken a hard look at his portfolio, but he spent the entire phone conversation talking about how fan-fucking-tastic he was. So I got off the phone and looked at his blog that he linked to. I was horrified at some of the images. Not because they were offensively bad, but for someone who talked himself up SO MUCH, these images were a very low quality of work.

Had he been nice and humble, I would have shot with him. Instead I called off the shoot. Not worth it to get a bunch of images back that were subpar only to read a lengthy email about how amazing they were.

He messaged me the other day on another portfolio and asked to work together again. This was our conversation:

Subject: you are just too amazing
 

HIM
04/17/12 8:14 AM   
for words
 

T A Y L O R
04/17/12 1:41 PM (Message read)   
Haha, well thank you!
 

HIM
04/17/12 2:51 PM   
would you like to make some art together?
 

T A Y L O R
04/17/12 2:54 PM (Message read)   
If you're interested in doing a one hour shoot for my 365 or hiring me for any projects you have going on, sure!

Just let me know.

Thanks!
Taylor
 

HIM
04/17/12 3:22 PM   
the 365 thing may be a little annoying.
i am not sure maybe if you wanna work outside those parameters.
lemme know.
not much for concepts and rules.
 

T A Y L O R
04/17/12 4:01 PM (Message read)   
Annoying? I'm not sure I follow.

As far as other projects, as I stated in my last message, if you're interested in hiring me for a project we can discuss that.
 

HIM
04/17/12 4:45 PM   
good luck to you.


Seriously bro? Congrats, we're literally never working together now.

Apr 19 12 06:39 pm Link

Model

Damianne

Posts: 15978

Austin, Texas, US

T A Y L O R  wrote:
Stuff

I'm in Austin in a month, alcohols?

Apr 19 12 06:48 pm Link

Photographer

Faulty Focus

Posts: 696

Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada

Damianne, this is a very interesting post, to see the comparison of the two approaches and how you handled it.  Thanks

Taylor,  that photographer was arrogant and a fool.  I was not sure what "365" was, but read your profile and clued in. Great idea and would be interesting to be a part of it.

Apr 19 12 06:49 pm Link

Model

Damianne

Posts: 15978

Austin, Texas, US

Paige Morgan wrote:
Respectful will always get you further than entitled. I would've chosen the photographer behind door number 2 as well.

I'll totally put up with entitled.
It's really that entitled usually comes along with a complete lack of attempt to work with the model on what they need.

Apr 19 12 06:51 pm Link

Model

T A Y L O R

Posts: 2990

Seattle, Washington, US

Damianne wrote:

I'm in Austin in a month, alcohols?

I've pretty much needed to gush about Will with you for 2 years. It's a date, and I'm buying! (Remind me to wear really tall heels, you amazon's leave us Hobbit's feeling inadequate.)

Apr 19 12 06:53 pm Link

Photographer

Ashley Holloway

Posts: 585

Lutz, Florida, US

good for photographer #2!  Not only did he offer you something that you would be able to use in return, he also came across as a nice guy.

Acting entitled and sounding bossy and narrow-minded never comes across as pretty or helpful!

Apr 19 12 06:55 pm Link

Model

T A Y L O R

Posts: 2990

Seattle, Washington, US

Faulty Focus wrote:
Taylor,  that photographer was arrogant and a fool.  I was not sure what "365" was, but read your profile and clued in. Great idea and would be interesting to be a part of it.

Thanks!

I'm excited about it. smile

Apr 19 12 06:55 pm Link

Model

Damianne

Posts: 15978

Austin, Texas, US

T A Y L O R  wrote:

I've pretty much needed to gush about Will with you for 2 years. It's a date, and I'm buying! (Remind me to wear really tall heels, you amazon's leave us Hobbit's feeling inadequate.)

I love Will, he's my very first multi-shoot photographer, and like the third person I ever worked with.

Done!

*stops jacking own thread*

Apr 19 12 07:01 pm Link

Photographer

Charger Photography

Posts: 1731

San Antonio, Texas, US

Damianne wrote:

I'm in Austin in a month, alcohols?

When ??? Not for drinks... but for a shoot !!!

smile

Apr 19 12 07:05 pm Link

Model

Michaelnomore

Posts: 860

Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, US

*clears throat*
"We haven't officially met but I'm a sudent of many arts, and would love it if sometime you would like to help me with some long term projects.  The pay is low, and the work is hard, but I'm...I'm uhm...Yeah, I got nothing here, help me out.  Let me know if you're interested"  wink

Apr 19 12 07:11 pm Link

Photographer

Mickle Design Werks

Posts: 5967

Washington, District of Columbia, US

I don't understand the sense of entitlement that some have when it comes to shooting.

If you want to work with someone, be respectful and present enough details so that they can make an informed judgment if the offer is worthwhile.

EDIT:
Didn't want to thread jack but this post is a tangent to this thread.

Apr 20 12 10:12 am Link

Photographer

ontherocks

Posts: 23575

Salem, Oregon, US

maybe the world is changing and nice guys don't always finish last. didn't see that coming. lol.

Apr 20 12 10:27 am Link

Photographer

4 R D

Posts: 1141

Mexico City, Distrito Federal, Mexico

T A Y L O R  wrote:
HIM
04/17/12 2:51 PM   
would you like to make some art together?

lulz

Apr 20 12 10:32 am Link

Model

Miss AY

Posts: 8166

Bulqizë, Bulqizë, Albania

Really, really good post. This is something that I've struggled to explain or quantify but this is a good demonstration of how the method of approach for setting up a shoot can really dictate whether I say yes or no.

Apr 20 12 10:46 am Link

Makeup Artist

boy does makeup

Posts: 227

Atlanta, Georgia, US

hartcons wrote:
maybe the world is changing and nice guys don't always finish last. didn't see that coming. lol.

+1 not anymore... and chivalry isn't dead, if you find the right princess.

Always been the nice guy, and although im not completely winning right now. I'm def ahead of the game. My wife taught me the value of humility, and not being afraid to go out on a limb and ask nicely.

I have a beautiful wife, extraordinarily talented (model/photographer/mother) two wonderful boys, we aren't wealthy, but we are living within our means, I am a semi-successful hiphop artist, model, photographer, and recently MUA. - My days are spent trying to realize the dreams of myself, and those around me. (+/- 80% of my offline social network are MM members)

although, being Mr. Nice guy hasn't always been rainbows and unicorns... I've had my heart broken, cheated on multiple times in highschool because I was celibate. I've been screwed over by so called 'friends' for money, girls, fame (literally: fame) more recently: I was screwed over by my lying ass boss, and lost my job... and the worst part is: its my fellow employees, and more importanly: Customers that will ultimately suffer.

- ultimate though: I wouldn't change anything. Nice guys don't always finish first, but we ALWAYS place in the top #3. :p

----
anyways... ive been long winded, and slightly off topic.

thanks for posting the breakdown on your shooting choices. Its helpful not just as a model/photographer scenario, but also as a social commentary.

Apr 20 12 10:50 am Link

Model

Rachael Bueckert

Posts: 1122

Red Deer, Alberta, Canada

Michael Scot wrote:
*clears throat*
"We haven't officially met but I'm a sudent of many arts, and would love it if sometime you would like to help me with some long term projects.  The pay is low, and the work is hard, but I'm...I'm uhm...Yeah, I got nothing here, help me out.  Let me know if you're interested"  wink

Haha. I'd give that message (if I got it) points for humor and ask about the details. What a photographer lacks in experience or budget can be made up for in chemistry, and that's called 'growing together' ; )

Apr 20 12 11:02 am Link

Photographer

pullins photography

Posts: 5884

Troy, Michigan, US

Damianne wrote:
Two people contacted me this week with trade offers, and I thought I would share, as it says a lot about how I choose shoots and I think about how others do too. Other models may agree/disagree.

Message 1: came from a relatively successful commercial photographer, has some pretty good work he's produced, does a lot of local advertisement work and some big name band photography.
Message 2: came from a student photographer just looking to build a portfolio, doesn't have a lot to show for it.

Message 1 conversation (long conversation so I'll bullet point):
- MM portfolio has no photos in it (I had to confirm externally who he is)
- He asked if I've ever done nudes (obviously did not look at my portfolio)
- Asked me to do "somewhat erotic" work and refused to clarify.
- When I declined, wanted to do simple studio nudes, as he wants to "break into" doing them.
- When I explained that I would need a more involved, team shoot to have it be worthwhile to trade for me, but I had rates if he wasn't interested in doing all of that work, went on a long rant about how he doesn't pay models, they pay him.
- Wants to meet up without a shoot set or even agreed to.
- General lack of communication.
- Continued to put simple studio nude offers out there, like high key, single light hard shadows, projection images, and bodypainting, after I explained what I do and do not need for my portfolio.

In the end, this conversation was more "work for free" and not "trade with me".

Message 2:
"Hey we haven't officially met but we have worked with quite a few of the same ppl

I'm learning photography now
and would love it if in early may you would like to be one of 12 girls to model earrings an hair acc. For a custom accessory designer out of B.C. I know  -and I'll take the photos of course
Think......
Head shots and beauty mixed together to sell the pieces you will be modeling
( and your payment will be 1 of the pieces you shoot in)

Let me know if your interested"

- Subsequent conversation lead to a how long the shoot will be (a couple of hours).

Now, neither is really more likely to get me useable images than the other, but the second message had the elements of a trade request. Here's what I'm doing, here's why, here's how long it will take, here's what I can offer you.
The first was "do what I want, you should want to".


I accepted the second shoot, I'm totally ok with spending a couple of hours of my time for an interesting accessory that I otherwise would have just been lounging about.
I requested that the first person look for someone else, because I am really being offered nothing.
If I were just going by experience or even photography, I would accept the first shoot request, but that's really not what I wanted to do.


I just.. I just thought it was a good example of the difference in a trade request vs. a "work for free" request, and how to get a model to accept your offer to shoot.
Explain what you're doing and what the model is getting, all of that.

You're getting a piece of jewelry, so I would hardly call that a 'free" or trade shoot. But your point is well taken, that a rational discussion is paramount to a yes or no.

Apr 20 12 11:22 am Link

Model

L Shima

Posts: 53

Detroit, Michigan, US

It is interesting to see a photographer who says they are "bad ass" or even actually have a well rounded website to prove it.
BUT
once it gets down to a simple conversation that most models request to know before agreeing to the entire "trade" shoot. The photographer goes hay wire and freaks.. It seems like just because we are questioning the shoot, they automatically assume we are questioning their ability as a photographer...
In my opinion once photographers put a wall up.. I then start to question..
I DON'T GIVE A RATS ASS IF YOUR THE RULER OF ALL PHOTOGRAPHERS.. IF we cant have a civil conversation about the shoot then you're not worth my time.. point blank.

What is interesting even more is to see young, fresh photographers actually care and is willing to hear a models opinions or questions. I just actually did a shoot with a model turned photographer. She was just starting out and i was her first professional model. Under certain circumstances i will do trade. When i first saw her portfolio..it was still in the "amateur" category.
I still ended up shooting with her, not because i felt the need to help a newcomer. Not the need to add more images to my portfolio, but how she approached me in the message. She even had a mua/hairstylist available for the day.
After the photo shoot. I would deff. work with her again. big_smile

Apr 20 12 12:02 pm Link

Model

Damianne

Posts: 15978

Austin, Texas, US

pullins photography wrote:

You're getting a piece of jewelry, so I would hardly call that a 'free" or trade shoot. But your point is well taken, that a rational discussion is paramount to a yes or no.

The first message was a "work for free" discussion, as compensating me in photos seemed to not even be a blip on this photographer's radar.
The second on is trade for jewelry, so a trade shoot.

Apr 20 12 12:40 pm Link

Photographer

Daeda1us

Posts: 1067

Little Rock, Arkansas, US

Damianne,
Cant imagine someone as rude as the first guy.  Sigh, not quite true.  I know people like that.  Cant imagine *I* would ever be that rude.  My parents raised me better, imo.

Appreciate you posting this, because of the content of the second photographer.  Lets me clearly understand what is a desirable contact.

Thanks!

Apr 20 12 06:33 pm Link

Photographer

Daeda1us

Posts: 1067

Little Rock, Arkansas, US

T A Y L O R  wrote:

Thanks!

I'm excited about it. smile

Have not heard of this version of the 365.
After reading your casting call and looking at your portfolio, oh hell yeah!  LOL!  big_smile
Too bad you live so far away!
(Then again, it is only an 8 hour drive, each way.  I have driven a lot further, for less reason! )

Apr 20 12 06:41 pm Link

Photographer

CraigVoisin Photography

Posts: 129

Whitesboro, Texas, US

Damianne
  Thank you for posting this  , i get passed over so many times in favor of someone who is well known in my area . Often times these ladies get nothing out of it other than to say " 'X' shot photos of me ! "  with not a single Hi Res photo to show for it , only a shared photo they got from the photographers facebook page .
Models like yourself makes the thought of keeping grinding away at it worthwhile .

Apr 20 12 06:49 pm Link

Photographer

Farenell Photography

Posts: 18832

Albany, New York, US

Damianne wrote:
I just.. I just thought it was a good example of the difference in a trade request vs. a "work for free" request, and how to get a model to accept your offer to shoot.
Explain what you're doing and what the model is getting, all of that.

Thank you!

Its people like you who are willing to take a chance on an up & coming "nobody" (like I once was) & where in the grand scheme of things the situation is more of a benefit to me than to you, that helped me get to where I am now.

Apr 20 12 07:17 pm Link

Photographer

James Tang

Posts: 53

Fontana, California, US

Thanks for posting this!  However, I'm now wondering if all my previous trade shoots happened because of my personality or is it because of my work. hahahahah

Apr 21 12 12:56 am Link