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to date or not to date a younger woman
Ok so I have been noticing this young lady flirting with me so I asked my cousin about her, they work together. Low and behold she does like me, this girl is cute as hell. My perfect woman in almost every way, both in looks and her sweet easy going personality. She is tallish for a woman about 5'6" or 7" big brown eyes slim but kinda curvy. One big problem she is really young, I am 41 and she is early 20's another problem I am not so sure I am ready to commit to anyone and I think this girl is plus since she is so damn perfect I am afraid I might to. Now in my younger days I would have no problem taking what I wanted and leaving but with age we gain some sort of morals and I just don't want to needlessly hurt anyone. I already feel pretty bad for some of my younger days mistakes. Anyone been down this road, advice ? Mar 03 06 09:42 am Link my observations... im 45... 95% of the single women my age (36-50) are clingy, insecure, ..and just plain nuts..if they aren't..they're married or in a relationship...... women 26-35.. i am invisable to 95% of this demographic..they are still looking for the best deal..best looking, richest guy they can find..and they will find him, or drop into my single 36-50 year old group... women 18-25.. they just love..for loves sake..they are the easiest to be around..they want nothing, but to enjoy...its really refreshing...now while i am not "looking" for a relationship..if i am out to dinner or just hanging with someone..its probably in this demographic... so it makes sense to me... Mar 03 06 09:51 am Link Many young women are attracted to older men since they usually have learned manners . . . Mar 03 06 09:55 am Link i have have to agree with doug. im 35 and my girlfriend is 20. weve been together about a year and a half now. Mar 03 06 10:00 am Link Im 25, and all I can say is. Youre not getting married, nor do you have to use her and dump her. Who says SHE is ready to commit? Date her, check it out. Like her? Keep her. If not, move on. Usually I find women in their early 20s are still a little lost (just out of school or still figuring life out), much like a lot of men. Although, there are a few nice exceptions to the rule Mar 03 06 10:02 am Link She's an adult...you're an adult. If you have enough interests in common to sustain a relationship, go for it! Society, her parents, your kids, etc., may give you a hard time...but who cares. Love is love and if given a chance, you should go for it. If it doesn't work... "Remember...it is better to have loved and lost...than never to have loved at all..." I don't know who said it first...but that was a quote given to me by a teacher when I was younger... "We didn't have a 'thing' going on...but now that I am older...I wonder if she had a thing for me... lol"  - Denoy P.S. I find it hard to relate to anyone under 25 on a "personal" level as they seem a bit "young" to me...but if you are comfortable and share enough interests...I say enjoy! Life is short. Enjoy whatever happiness is offered to you. Even if it doesn't last. Some people never get that chance. Mar 03 06 10:03 am Link Terry Breedlove wrote: i actually think thats just natural..but thats my views Mar 03 06 10:04 am Link Doug Swinskey wrote: I agree. I have also observed that women in their late 20s and up tend to be more rigid in a sense. My way or the highway. They've been gotten burned or scorned and do not / will not 'bend' to help move things along in a relationship. Granted this isn't always the case but most of my experiences have been like this. Mar 03 06 10:05 am Link After reading Doug's post, it makes me nervous about finding a mate at the right time in life! Im already meeting girls talking about wanting babies now! or soon! I mean thats good and all, but that seems so far off for someone like me married to my career. Have you guys been married before? Mar 03 06 10:06 am Link Doug Swinskey wrote: Not sure I agree with this demographic but its all a matter of opinion and point of reference. The only thing I would reallly change here is Mar 03 06 10:06 am Link 1) Older peole are rational ... can talk things out young people are NOT! young people are NOT! young people are NOT! young people are NOT! young people are NOT! young people are NOT! young people are NOT! young people are NOT! young people are NOT! young people are NOT! be prepared for the tantrums - the irrational behavior but the sex is the bomb! young women are enthusiastic! but the talking and the jealousy will drive you crazy. Listen to the wise voice of experience! ah to hell with that, the sex is the bomb! vitamins! Mar 03 06 10:13 am Link UnoMundo Photography wrote: Well put! Mar 03 06 10:16 am Link If it what you wanna go for, go for it. And if she isnt what you expected you always reserve the right to break up. I like to test waters, and if I feel I am drowning I simply grab a life jacket to the next potential x- gf. Mar 03 06 10:16 am Link UnoMundo Photography wrote: Not necessarily true...there are old people who are as immature and dumb and irrational as a 20 year old... Mar 03 06 10:19 am Link Well, I'm someone who has had great experiences dating older men. Alot of what you said about women my age is true -- we are generally not rushing into a committment, and still want to have fun and enjoy our youth and get new experiences. And I dunno what's going on with guys in my age group, I mean, most of the time its like the freaking peanut gallery. But consider this -- if you really have feelings for this girl, you need to think very carefully about what you need/want from her, and what she needs/wants from you. Younger women love to have fun and excitement, and dating an older man can be a very new experience, but at some point you start to wonder -- "am I really just part of some old dude's midlife crisis?" And in the long run she is going to want to be with someone who she can grow with, not someone who has been there done that. Good luck with this decision! Mar 03 06 10:21 am Link UnoMundo Photography wrote: HEYYYYY!!! Mar 03 06 10:26 am Link Bottom line.... If you're attracted to her and vice-versa.... Go for it. Mar 03 06 10:28 am Link Janesse wrote: Damn it you nailed what I was trying to say. Mar 03 06 10:29 am Link elisaveta â wrote: a natural resource, that unfortunatley we will never run short of.... Mar 03 06 10:33 am Link UnoMundo Photography wrote: HAHA!! ...I'll second that statement. (...although we're just friends now) 11 year age difference. Mar 03 06 10:34 am Link I say go for it! Sounds like she's interested and you're interested, so why not find out if it'll work? Do you want to sit around and think about her later in your life and wish that you'd had the balls to ask her out? Or do you want to think about how much fun you had and how glad you are that you know how it all turned out? This is cheesy, but age is just a number. If people mesh and love each other, it does not matter how many years there are in between them. Mar 03 06 10:38 am Link Terry Breedlove wrote: Well, Terry, here's my take on it: Mar 03 06 10:41 am Link In the case of this young woman, can you relate to her on any kind of deep level? Are you "Hot" for her mind and personality as well as her body? Is she also for you? You might have a chance if this is true for both of you. A deep Loving Friendship, (Read Erich Fromm: http://www.infed.org/thinkers/fromm.htm), is the only way to have a lasting love in any event. Good Luck! Mar 03 06 10:41 am Link My brother's experience:- "My wife left me for a younger man. He left her for a younger woman." Make of that what you will. Mar 03 06 10:43 am Link elisaveta â wrote: That's just bullsh#!t... Mar 03 06 10:44 am Link for my reply.. I say older women are best for me.. but if you older and the girl is still kinda young.. I mean old like 35 and up.. and her younger.. like 5yrs younger.. it dont take much to please her ya know?.. unless she's one of those demanding types.. then you'll have to find a weakness and break her in.. but that's my 2 cents.. OLDER WOMEN! Mar 03 06 10:48 am Link UdoR wrote: You know it's not... Mar 03 06 10:49 am Link elisaveta â wrote: Yeah... Mar 03 06 10:51 am Link Anthony Weaver Jr wrote: even though Im not 35 yet..... WTF? 35 isn't old. Mar 03 06 10:56 am Link Doug Swinskey wrote: I can see the reason for your observations on this, but not totally true. In all age demographics you can have women that are insecure....immature or even materialistic. I think a lot of it depends on what the girl/woman has went through in life and the lessons that they have learned along the way. Make sense?? I can honestly say I have seen some quite mature 18-25 year olds....then.....I have also seen some really immature 18-25 and even up to 45 years of age. Mar 03 06 10:56 am Link FabioTovar wrote: If 35 is old, what is 65 then ...~ dead??? ... Mar 03 06 11:00 am Link elisaveta â wrote:
Mar 03 06 11:03 am Link UdoR wrote: LOL... Mar 03 06 11:04 am Link McKenzie wrote: You and your husband are close in age. Six years is not a lot of difference. Mar 03 06 11:05 am Link If you have to think about it, and you "see" the age difference, Then you probably shouldn't do it. You need to see her as an equal, not as a near child. Other wise you will wind up lecturing her like you would a daughter. And who wants that in a relationship. Mar 03 06 11:09 am Link Age is just a number. A relationship between two adults must be measured in terms of compatibility - intellectually, physically, spiritually. I am 18 dating someone 41 and age is not an issue. Mar 03 06 11:14 am Link For the most part, women that are over 32 and single usually have baggage and distrust men. They may not be saying it, or will even take offense to that statement.... but it's basically true. The typical female in the demographics mentioned above have usually been through a divorce, and think that all men are like the abusive, cheating, farting, slob that they married. (In most cases, they're probably right!). Younger females haven't been 'scarred' by abusive or bad relationships, so they don't put up any 'fronts' or 'false pretenses'. They are 'themselves' and they want you to be yourself as well! Younger women tend to like certain men because he's handsome, funny, cute, or fun! Older women tend to go after certain men for totally different reasons... mainly financial (he's wealthy, he's a doctor, his house is paid for!). If a man doesn't have those qualifications, they go on to the next. Usually, those women don't have anything 'special' to offer in such a relationship, so a professional male really wouldn't want anything to do with 'em, but "Players" usually can detect these women, and will manipulate them, pretending to be something that he isn't in order to get laid! That situation doesn't work out, the 'scorned woman' finds out how she's been used, deepening her belief that all men are bastards... then goes out to find the next "Mr. Perfect" only to be caught in the same endless cycle. ------- All of my friends that got married at a young age (while in their early 20's or younger) are now still happily married... over two decades! My friends that got married in their late 20's - 30's usually have more marital problems, and noticably higher divorce rate. My friends that got married in their 40's or 50's often actually admit that they're getting married because their partner is 'better than nothing'. Those marriages are the rockiest that I've ever seen (with constant bickering and fighting which probably will end in another divorce)! My best relationship was with a female that was 16 years younger than myself (I was 38). I was closer to her parents age than her age, yet almost EVERYONE (her parents, my family, her friends) were extrmely supportive. It was my own friends that condemend me for 'robbing the cradle'. Those are the same friends that are now confiding in me that they shouldn't have gotten married to their current spouse. Being a single guy at my age really is a bummer, but I'd rather be single than to be considered "better than nothing". If your partner doesn't sincerely believe that you're "better than EVERYTHING"... you shouldn't get married! Mar 03 06 11:18 am Link You're thinking to much. Let whatever happens, happen. Mar 03 06 11:19 am Link Lately, when I meet a young, attractive 20-something year old female, the first thing that pops into my head is "darn, I'm too old for her". Then I have to also remind myself "darn, she's too old for me!" ; ) Mar 03 06 11:25 am Link I've always tended to date older women. Drives my wife crazy  Scott aka Bodyartist Mar 03 06 11:27 am Link |
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