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Aug 15 13 09:16 pm Link blue rabbits wrote: If things have gone well, I love a hug, and I tend to think things are less awkward if the model / female initiates. So, I leave it to them, unless we have worked together before and I know she's comfortable with it. Aug 15 13 09:20 pm Link Brianne Leary wrote: You want to be "warned" about a hug? Aug 15 13 09:27 pm Link NicoleNudes wrote: Kinda sterile. Not genuinely friendly. I'd respond to that with, neither, I send an invoice. Aug 15 13 09:32 pm Link One time I was doing some nude pinups with a model, and when I said "Okay, I think we're done", she ran over and gave me a big hug while she was still naked. It took me by surprise, and I think acted a little freaked out. Next time I'll be ready for it. Other models have hugged me (with their clothes still on), but usually after we've worked together a couple of times. I don't initiate it, but I certainly like it. As somebody said, it indicates that they're comfortable with me. Aug 15 13 09:37 pm Link In my experience, women can hug without warning if they want to. Men, that is running a greater risk of offending someone or invading their personal space. Personally, I am pro-hugging, so long as the person has bathed/showered recently, and even better if it isn't a dude. Blue Rabbits, you could hug me any day  Aug 15 13 09:45 pm Link I'm in the "Pro-hug" camp - Aug 15 13 09:56 pm Link When the feeling is right, go for it. I have had after shoot hugs from several models and it was always the ones who were the most connected and had the most fun on the shoot. I like it because it shows the me that the model appreciates the work that I have done, and will be doing, on her pictures. No nude hugs (yet). Aug 15 13 10:05 pm Link Aingeal Rose wrote: +1, and it's *always* that! Aug 15 13 10:42 pm Link I don't mind hugs, but I let the model make the first move. I normally offer a handshake, but some do like to hug, especially after a successful shoot. Aug 15 13 11:54 pm Link Jorge Kreimer wrote: Yay hugs! Aug 16 13 12:03 am Link I go with the flow... One can generally tell what the persons space dynamics are after a couple of hours of sharing time making art. Aug 16 13 12:04 am Link There are not enough hugs offered in this world, but when they are offered I welcome them. Just love a hug. Guess it depends on one's background. Displays of affection and/or appreciation were always the norm in my family, and still are. Even my thirty-five year old son still gives his father a hug and kiss on the cheek hello and good-bye. With models, I just seem to know at the end of a shoot if a hug is welcomed and appreciated. Sometimes there is absolutely no doubt - sometimes it is not welcome. Body language I suppose. If in doubt, leave it out. Aug 16 13 12:23 am Link I usually say hello with a handshake and end with a hug.. unless he offers the awkward handshake... rejected! Aug 16 13 12:52 am Link In general, im not a hugging person, so i dont hug everyone, only my closes friends or relationships. So when it comes to photographers or industry people i rather just shake their hands. If they go to hug me, i just say, sorry i dont hug lol... No one gets offended by it. I rarely hug my family, just the way i was brought up. Aug 16 13 09:28 am Link Personally, I don't offer hugs (I was brought up in a family where a public display of affection was just not done), but I don't turn them away if they're offered. Aug 16 13 10:02 am Link I usually hug everyone at the end of a shoot (and find that most others initiate the same thing). But I suss it out based on body language. If someone seems super formal, I might just offer a hand shake instead. Aug 16 13 10:31 am Link I've had models try to hug me at the end. But I've found that backing up quickly when someone approaches is good deterrent; most people figure it out. Some, instead, try again by sneaking up behind you. That's a little creepy. Aug 16 13 10:43 am Link I'm a "huggy" person with my friends. It's just how we are. I still didn't hug models at first. The first time a model hugged me I was completely shocked; it just seemingly came out of nowhere. That model is a friend these days though. There's another model I've shot with 9 (hopefully soon 10) times in the last several months though, who I've also studied with at the coffee shop and we hug good-bye pretty regularly because of the friendship and the comfort level that has developed over that time. The first time I shot with her though I just offered a handshake. So... I definitely don't mind a hug, but it's usually the model that does it first and it's almost always a sign that she enjoyed the shoot and feels comfortable with me. Aug 16 13 11:48 am Link blue rabbits wrote: I happened to me once, and I liked it! I'm a pretty large bearded man, and I try really hard not intimidate, creep out, or scare off models. At the end of one of my shoots the model jumped up and gave me a big hug. It was nice to know that at least one them I don't have to wonder about, lol! Aug 16 13 11:55 am Link chasingKelly wrote: Huh? If someone offers you a handshake at the end, you reject it? Aug 16 13 12:21 pm Link I am a hugger, but when with a stranger I tend to leave it up to that person. Or this... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ZvarRe-XVQ  Aug 16 13 12:28 pm Link In my Burmese (basically Chinese) culture, it is consider "improper" to hug a stranger. In the western society, you normally learn to take social cues from people. Suppose the OP and I met in a social setting for a photoshoot. I would *always* extend my hand to shake. The OP will understand from my cue that "I don't like to be hugged." Let's turn around and restart the scene. Withing 2-arms-length, the OP extended both her arms out to gesture for a hug. Even thought I don't like hugging, I am not going to be rude and extend my hand for a shake, I'll more than likely extend my arms to reciprocate her hug. Basically, at the end of the session, if you feel like you need to show appreciation towards the photographer for executing a great shoot, ask. Say something like, "I had a wonderful session. Thank you for your time. Is it OK if I hug you?" More than likely, the photographer will accept and say, "Yes, Thank you." Unless he's being a douche or socially awkward, he'll say, "No" to the hug. Aug 16 13 12:30 pm Link I always offer a handshake but I am fine if the model wants to hug me. Hugs are free and make you feel good. Aug 16 13 01:03 pm Link K I C K H A M wrote: Yay! Hugs from Kelli! Aug 16 13 04:09 pm Link Always ask before hugging! You never want to disrespect anyone or make them feel uncomfortable. Always respect boundaries however, if the hugging is an organic response after the shoot, just go with it! Aug 16 13 04:16 pm Link A hug a day is healthy studies have showed... Go ahead, try it. You'll see how better your day becomes after a hug. Aug 16 13 04:16 pm Link blue rabbits wrote: Sometimes I preface it with a non-known person's status... as I am going in with the handshake that, 'I'm a hugger" and if they seem comfy that I move the hand and proceed with the hug. Lovely Day Media wrote: I completely agree with this Farenell Photography wrote: I come from a very touchy and face kiss friendly (and lip) family. I usually only kiss known friends and family on the lips, a smooch, not anything creepy...otherwise its cheeks. Camerosity wrote: Phew. Ronald Nyein Zaw Tan wrote: Your clear and welcomed straight arm for handshake removes any doubt of your comfort and is readily understood and respected. Aug 16 13 04:37 pm Link blue rabbits wrote: There's nothing wrong with that! Life's too short for politically correct bullshit. I always appreciate a hug. Aug 16 13 04:45 pm Link Michael Sergio Barnes wrote: No no, I mean, I feel rejected 'cause I originally was going to give a hug. Aug 16 13 11:39 pm Link FlirtynFun Photography wrote: No we don't. We punch in the baws. Aug 16 13 11:45 pm Link Big A-Larger Than Life wrote: I'd hug you, but my face would land in your bewbs... Aug 16 13 11:52 pm Link Jorge Kreimer wrote: This Aug 16 13 11:57 pm Link There are a couple of people that I have hugged but it's because we get along very well as friends. Most I just hand shake at the end of a shoot. Aug 17 13 01:09 am Link Like a lot of guys, I'll turn to shake hands and get bowled over by a hug. It's a transient business, people meet often for one day only, so sometimes people's emotions or excitement is high. I never bat an eyelid or make someone feel uncomfortable... after all, that's my job right? Hugs are often preceded by the "you're my favourite photographer, I've never felt this comfortable with a tog before" speech. I know then to take a deep breath, because the hug will be a rib-breaker... Aug 17 13 01:30 am Link I'll admit I'm a hugger. Shake hands at first meeting. Hugs forever after. Life is short! Hug people. Aug 17 13 02:54 am Link Unable to show profile #3082384 Aug 17 13 03:04 am Link I am not a big fan of hugging. I am a loner. I am a solitary person. I want space. To socialize is not something I look forward to. For me, hugging is okay with close family members, close friends. But i don't make first move. If they are signaling intention to hug then I step forward. For others, I set my body language to avoid hug. Handshake would be sufficient. a cheek kissing? no way... hell no. So for huggers out there, when you greet people like me out there, you should be able to read our gestures. In a group meeting, when others start hugging, I feel really awkward. I don't want to reject huggers, but I am really uncomfortable. Aug 17 13 04:25 am Link hugs are totally natural in Oz or the UK. female models are usually outgoing & friendly so I've never had an issue. we're all friends on a shoot & it's a nice way to begin & end a shoot. hugs are spontaneous, never forced. don't overthink it. Sep 01 13 09:13 am Link -N-o-t-h-i-n-g- wrote: I've had models hug me, even when nude. Sep 01 13 04:07 pm Link |
