Sarah Slaykitty wrote:

Darling you dident see this thread sooner because it was written 3 years ago! Someone finds it to be a super great idea to pull a thread from 3 years ago back to page one, and everyone is just eating it up because they dident notice the date of the OP.
I'm not saying this isent a valid point, but come on 3 years....3 freaking years! Stop pulling old posts from 3 years ago, and just start a new one if you feel the info is just that important.

Actually, it's only 2 years.

But it wouldn't keep being resurrected if it people weren't still relating to it.

If it is still a valid point, as you yourself state, why not keep referencing it?

Daniela Victoria wrote:
Try that next time someone gives you crap. That doesn't work? Walk away.

/rant.

What if you need them more than they need you? Or you need modeling?

Sarah Slaykitty wrote:

Darling you dident see this thread sooner because it was written 3 years ago! Someone finds it to be a super great idea to pull a thread from 3 years ago back to page one, and everyone is just eating it up because they dident notice the date of the OP.
I'm not saying this isent a valid point, but come on 3 years....3 freaking years! Stop pulling old posts from 3 years ago, and just start a new one if you feel the info is just that important.

Daniela should be commended for starting it, and I plan on referencing it every time the subject is brought up.

AndrewV wrote:
What if you need them more than they need you? Or you need modeling?

Then it's probably time to re-evaluate your life & decisions that've placed those who'd belittle & control you for their own selfish reasons in positions of power over you.

AndrewV wrote:

What if you need them more than they need you? Or you need modeling?

Then it's time to stop being so "needy".

Image K wrote:

Then it's time to stop being so "needy".

Seriously.

Why do you need someone that flat out rejects you?

Are we 12 years old here?

Lori Anne Mayor wrote:
Does anyone ever think that that person may not be a self-centered asshole that wants to dissapoint you, but someone who wants to keep you safe because they love you... ::shrugs::

Safety isn't the issue here. It's the controlling boyfriends. They could be supportive, but they're not.

Lori Anne Mayor wrote:
Does anyone ever think that that person may not be a self-centered asshole that wants to dissapoint you, but someone who wants to keep you safe because they love you... ::shrugs::

no, of course not

Trevor Snyder wrote:
Sadly, you will always be in the minority thinking this way.

I'd rather be happy and stand up for myself and what I believe in than be in the majority. Example: Ron Paul.

Lori Anne Mayor wrote:
Does anyone ever think that that person may not be a self-centered asshole that wants to dissapoint you, but someone who wants to keep you safe because they love you... ::shrugs::

Safe??? What does that have to do with anything?

I find the people who are most controlling no nothing about the industry. All they think is that the photographer is a rapist who is going to kill you. And they don't want to hear otherwise.

Wolfy4u wrote:
Daniela, I have a feeling that you're in a relationship that has communication, respect and a great chance of lasting a long time. Most partners of the insecure people probably won't even remember their names five years from now.

Yes sir.

Fabulous husband who walks around with my business cards and Playboys for anyone who wants to see them.

I know I'm lucky. I wish everyone was....rather, I wish everyone would stop settling for someone who doesn't accept them. That goes for family members and friends.

Miss_May_ wrote:
It just doesn't work that way in a relationship, unless you want to exacerbate a conflict.

Works in mine. I'm not alone in this either.

If you think it doesn't work, you haven't tried it.

Daniela Victoria wrote:
I found it hysterical that none of them knew about Playboy- and yet all my friends here and everywhere knew about it immediately.

It says something when you'll share that with your friends and not your family. Really does.

At least they aren't hypocrites that subscribe to Playboy while berating you for shooting nudes.

Tiffany x wrote:
All I do is going to school and taking care of my baby.But they are still looking for pictures on internet then they find me and tell me I am whore:-(.

Were they looking for pictures of you and found nudes or were they looking for nudes and happened across you?

Daniela Victoria wrote:
It's baaaaack!

You wrote the best thread ever.

Snake Biscuits wrote:
You wrote the best thread ever.

Great threads are worth bringing back!

Snake Biscuits wrote:

You wrote the best thread ever.

Thank you

JEBKA Photography wrote:
Daniela,

You disappoint me that you won't fly to Colorado on your dime and show some skin

Not today....  It's snowing 

I did a implied shoot in the show!! We would run back to the car every like 5 minutes to warm up though hehe

but to OP, I totally agree

New Dawn Photography wrote:
Sorry, but anything you do that someone else wouldn't is just plain wrong! This is America, you can't just go around having an opinion that differs from others and not expect to chastized for it. Besides, what you do is easy. All you do is take your clothes off, smile and look pretty. There is no hard work or talent involved and if God had meant for you to be naked, you would have been born that way.

I am not going through the 5 million pages as I totally agree with the OP.

My question, is how many people actually got your neat 'tongue in cheek' response?

Daniela Victoria wrote:
Nude modeling.
Glamour modeling.
Art modeling.
Showing any skin whatsoever....


I'm just tired of these threads.

You don't approve of my modeling? I don't approve of you.
It's YOU disappointing ME.

Try that next time someone gives you crap. That doesn't work? Walk away.

/rant.

+10. Pretty much yeah

Kaida Minako wrote:
Safety isn't the issue here. It's the controlling boyfriends. They could be supportive, but they're not.

I've certainly had my share of frustrations with models and their "controlling boyfriends."  But disapproval can also come from very well meaning parents.

And, as far as the "needy" part; what if the model is an 18 year old high school senior, should she completely not listen to her parents' opinions?

Miss_May_ wrote:
It just doesn't work that way in a relationship, unless you want to exacerbate a conflict.

There could be a time in your life when your partner does something you genuinely disapprove of, and for good reason. Maybe he tortures kittens. If you told him you didn't approve and he said "well you are disappointing me" then you would just think "this guy doesn't listen to my feelings, he's just a jerk." It wouldn't do anything to decide if he should continue torturing kittens, or to get either one of you okay with the other's mentality.

Maybe that's an extreme and distracting example, but in someone people's minds nude modeling might be on the same level as stripping or associated only with posing in playboy. I don't think it's off for men to not want other men to see their girlfriend's naked. That doesn't mean it's right. A lot of times all someone needs to be okay with your decision is a little bit of reassurance that things aren't going to change between you or that nude modeling is really different from whatever they imagine it to be like.

No if you try that whole conversation and (maybe) compromise thing, and they still won't listen then you might want to throw around the "you disappoint me" thing.

I really don't think that nude modelling is comparable to torturing kittens, although I understand that pussies are the common element.

Lori Anne Mayor wrote:
Does anyone ever think that that person may not be a self-centered asshole that wants to dissapoint you, but someone who wants to keep you safe because they love you... ::shrugs::

I don't think so- and here's why:

1. most controling people couch controling tendancies in their "concern" for the person they want to control. It's also very sexist- we can't possibly work out for ourselves what is and is not in our best interests and gage situations to determine our safety.
2. agency models and pro shoots- someone knows where you are and mua, assistant etc present.
3. If a scumy bastard is trying to get you along to rape and murder you- cloths won't protect you- if they'll assault you, chances are they'll strip you as well- we're all naked under our clothes.
4. IF you're concerned about safety- offer to chaperone and then DON'T GET IN THE WAY- hang in the next room within ear shot but not looking over shoulders.
5. not all people who shoot nudes are guys, or all models female. I'm 5'7" and a girl-  am I danger to this guy?:



or to most female models who are usually taller and fitter than me? (not that I would try something anyway- way unprofessional)

JEBKA Photography wrote:

Good point.

I'm a new model and I have never look at it from that point of view, it gives me something to THINK about!!