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Dances with Wolves
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Long story short.....
Going on a third date this Friday. First two dates were planned by him, first sushi and then italian. Fantastic dates. But I'm planning the third. While I'd like to incorporate dinner into the mix, I'm looking for something creative to do afterwards (i.e. not just hang out at a bar, or go dancing at a club) and I'm looking for suggestions and ideas.
His interests and mine are extensive, so throw whatever ideas you have at me please.
I live in NJ, close to NY (not close enough to do Philly).
I have a shoot at noon the next day so I don't want to be out ridiculously late.
PM me, or drop a line here. Thanks- much appreciated.
-D-
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UnoMundo
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Olympia, Washington, US
No underwear gets the message across without question!
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The Art of CIP
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Long Beach, California, US
UnoMundo Photography wrote:
No underwear gets the message across without question! Yeah - date #3 usually means you're a keeper... So it's showtime...
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ericphotonyc
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Brooklyn, New York, US
Nothing says I had a good time on the first two dates better than ménage à trois.
Odds are you will get a fourth date as well.
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UnoMundo
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Olympia, Washington, US
ask him to spring for 'Tavern on the Green' and a night at the Waldorf,
if the price gives him a seizure, drop the cheap bastard, and date a photographer!
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The Art of CIP
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Long Beach, California, US
UnoMundo Photography wrote:
ask him to spring for 'Tavern on the Green' and a night at the Waldorf,
if the price gives him a seizure, drop the cheap bastard, and date a photographer! And the first LOL of the day is awarded!!! Man that was a good one! This is classic...
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Dances with Wolves
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UnoMundo Photography wrote:
No underwear gets the message across without question! Background information on me...
Good girl.
All kidding aside, I'm looking for some creative ideas that don't involves sex etc. I don't give it up on the third date. Thanks for assuming I do though.
-D-
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Jose Luis
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Dallas, Texas, US
Daniela V wrote:
Background information on me...
Good girl.
All kidding aside, I'm looking for some creative ideas that don't involves sex etc. I don't give it up on the third date. Thanks for assuming I do though.
-D- D, seriously- most guys who respect themselves are gonna give you the advice that by date 3- you should plan something that gives you the opportunity to end in intimacy if you so choose (your house, a hotel, a weekend getaway, etc).
Good girl has nothing to do with it. Adult men date for sex. Yes, we like relationships, your company, your ideas, fun, etc. But ultimately- biology governs why men seek women.
Lot of good men follow the 3 date rule.
Think about it if you really like the guy.
-Jose
PS: Tom Leykis (radio personality) preaches it as gospel.
PPS: If you write off men who understand themselves enough to know what their needs are- you may end up with a very young or naive man who truly doesnt understand or respect himself enough to stay in a lasting relationship with you- even if he thinks he is ready.
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UnoMundo
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Olympia, Washington, US
Jose is applying the Cuban rule. I feed you I, f.. you.
D. go dancing and dont eat much!
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Boho Hobo
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Santa Barbara, California, US
nothing says love better than bowling....
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Jose Luis
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Dallas, Texas, US
UnoMundo Photography wrote:
Jose is applying the Cuban rule. I feed you I, f.. you.
D. go dancing and dont eat much! No dude- there is nothing to do with that. Please dont characterize me as saying women are prostitutes. Im just advising her from a MANs perspective.
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Art Of Imaging
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Brooklyn, New York, US
Coney Island Astroland Park  ESPN Zone- that air hockey game is lots of fun and would make you both go crazy hehehe
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Marcia Dionne
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Frisco, Texas, US
This is why I have sex on the first date, to see if I even want to go on a second.
I am soooooooo kidding.
I do wish I could help you out w/ ideas but I really suck at planning dates. I usually leave it up to the guy.
Good Luck!
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The Art of CIP
Posts: 1074
Long Beach, California, US
Daniela V wrote:
Background information on me...
Good girl.
All kidding aside, I'm looking for some creative ideas that don't involves sex etc. I don't give it up on the third date. Thanks for assuming I do though.
-D- Devil's advocate here: If he's cool with this rule - he has it on tap from someone else...
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Jose Luis
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Dallas, Texas, US
Marcia Dionne wrote:
This is why I have sex on the first date, to see if I even want to go on a second. LOL Marcia- you rock!
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William Coleman
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New York, New York, US
Daniela V wrote:
Background information on me...
Good girl.
All kidding aside, I'm looking for some creative ideas that don't involves sex etc. I don't give it up on the third date. Thanks for assuming I do though.
-D- OK, you want creative ideas that don't involve sex.
I'm drawing a blank here.
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Marcia Dionne
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Frisco, Texas, US
The Art of CIP wrote:
Devil's advocate here: If he's cool with this rule - he has it on tap from someone else... Call me naive, but all guys can't possibly be like that. Maybe they are. Hell, I don't know.
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UnoMundo
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Olympia, Washington, US
Jose- JoseOnline wrote:
No dude- there is nothing to do with that. Please dont characterize me as saying women are prostitutes. Im just advising her from a MANs perspective. humor! una broma!
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Art Of Imaging
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Brooklyn, New York, US
oh and if you are a butt person, go ice skating cause then you may fall on your bumm and then later on at night you can play rub the bumm 
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The Art of CIP
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Long Beach, California, US
Marcia Dionne wrote:
Call me naive, but all guys can't possibly be like that. Maybe they are. Hell, I don't know. Okay - Naive....
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Marcia Dionne
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Jose- JoseOnline wrote:
LOL Marcia- you rock! Dude! Thanks for cutting out the part about me kidding. Now word is gonna get out that I'm a whore! Thanks alot, I just cleaned up my reputation! LMAO
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SolKat Photography
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Jacksonville, Florida, US
go to kids r us and grab twister. its a fun game and easy way  haha
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udor
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The Art of CIP wrote:
And the first LOL of the day is awarded!!! Man that was a good one! This is classic... I concur!
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Dances with Wolves
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SHAWNEE ON DELAWARE, Pennsylvania, US
Jose- JoseOnline wrote:
D, seriously- most guys who respect themselves are gonna give you the advice that by date 3- you should plan something that gives you the opportunity to end in intimacy if you so choose (your house, a hotel, a weekend getaway, etc).
Good girl has nothing to do with it. Adult men date for sex. Yes, we like relationships, your company, your ideas, fun, etc. But ultimately- biology governs why men seek women.
Lot of good men follow the 3 date rule.
Think about it if you really like the guy.
-Jose
PS: Tom Leykis (radio personality) preaches it as gospel.
PPS: If you write off men who understand themselves enough to know what their needs are- you may end up with a very young or naive man who truly doesnt understand or respect himself enough to stay in a lasting relationship with you- even if he thinks he is ready. Ok, well I posted this thread looking for good ideas of where to go besides the typical stuff. I didn't realize that I would get nothing back besides having sex etc.
Personally, I don't have to think about it. Sex is not an option for me on a third date, and if he doesn't like that, it's not my loss at all. I don't sleep with people I'm not in love with, that is how I respect ME. If a girl wants to sleep with a guy on the 1st, 2nd, whatever date, that's fine- more power to her- and I won't sit there and judge- but I know that for me, it's not going to happen because I "like the guy". It'll happen when I LOVE the guy.
But the thing is...that's not what this thread is supposed to be about- so basically- I'm asking that if people can't throw out some suggestions of where to go and what to do besides dinner, movie, bar, club etc. then to not respond at all..least of all trying to make this into a "just have sex" thread. I don't think I'm asking too much.
-D-
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Marcia Dionne
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Frisco, Texas, US
KM von Seidl wrote:
nothing says love better than bowling.... I sooo thought that said blowing. That would, however, lock in a 4th date. LMFAO
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Dances with Wolves
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Marcia Dionne wrote:
Call me naive, but all guys can't possibly be like that. Maybe they are. Hell, I don't know. He's not my boyfriend. If he's sleeping with someone else, then OK.
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Marcia Dionne
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In all serious, as stated previously, ice skating is a really good idea. Or go to a grown-up arcade, like around here we have Dave and Busters. You could even go see a play.
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The Art of CIP
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Jose- JoseOnline wrote:
PS: Tom Leykis (radio personality) preaches it as gospel. You know what's crazy - I've never once heard this man's show - but alomos everyone I know compares me to him... I'm almost scared to listen to what this guy has to say...
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Dances with Wolves
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F-ing Nuts Benny wrote:
Coney Island Astroland Park ESPN Zone- that air hockey game is lots of fun and would make you both go crazy hehehe ESPN zone!!! That is a G-R-E-A-T suggestion! Thank you!!
-D-
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visionmedia
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Is this a daytime date or at night?
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Marcia Dionne
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Daniela V wrote:
He's not my boyfriend. If he's sleeping with someone else, then OK. Well, if someone is dating multiple people, they shouldn't have sex w/ any of them or just date the one they are having sex with. That's so unfair to the other people and at what point would he stop having sex with the other person and start having sex with you. That would just be weird. No way would I be cool if a guy I were dating were having relations with someone else. That's just rude.
True, it is only gonna be your third date. But what if it's your 10th and he says, oh yeah, by the way, I'm having sex with this other girl I'm dating.
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C R Photography
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Pleasanton, California, US
Take him to an indoor rock climbing place, then his favorite sports bar, then to a strip club. However if male ingenuity serves me well, if he's not gett'n it by date 3, regardless of whose flipping the bill, he's pick'n up a hooker on the way home and losing your digits 
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TEAM
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Oxnard, California, US
Marcia Dionne wrote:
Well, if someone is dating multiple people, they shouldn't have sex w/ any of them or just date the one they are having sex with. That's so unfair to the other people and at what point would he stop having sex with the other person and start having sex with you. That would just be weird. No way would I be cool if a guy I were dating were having relations with someone else. That's just rude.
True, it is only gonna be your third date. But what if it's your 10th and he says, oh yeah, by the way, I'm having sex with this other girl I'm dating. ... good point.
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The Art of CIP
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Long Beach, California, US
Okay Daniella - if I were in this guy's shoes... It would be nice to be invited into the lady's home... You've already established he respects your "no sex yet" rule... But as I guy I can say this guy probably works hard and he deals with the stress that comes along with it... I'm not saying sleep with him - but rather give him an escape from himself and his daily life. Be the provider if leisure and relaxation and your stock will go through the roof... Planning stuff is simply more stress... Going to a lady's house that you care about and being treated like a king is sheer heaven... Come on - you're a grown woman - you should know this...
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Marcia Dionne
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TEAM_FUZE wrote:
... good point. thanks Cedric!
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Art Of Imaging
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Daniela V wrote:
ESPN zone!!! That is a G-R-E-A-T suggestion! Thank you!!
-D- thank you, so now that I have a good idea for a third date, how do I get the first 2 ? 
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The Art of CIP
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F-ing Nuts Benny wrote:
thank you, so now that I have a good idea for a third date, how do I get the first 2 ? I suggest Myspace.com.... HA!!!
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Dances with Wolves
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The Art of CIP wrote:
Okay Daniella - if I were in this guy's shoes... It would be nice to be invited into the lady's home... You've already established he respects your "no sex yet" rule... But as I guy I can say this guy probably works hard and he deals with the stress that comes along with it... I'm not saying sleep with him - but rather give him an escape from himself and his daily life. Be the provider if leisure and relaxation and your stock will go through the roof... Planning stuff is simply more stress... Going to a lady's house that you care about and being treated like a king is sheer heaven... Come on - you're a grown woman - you should know this... What part of I'm looking for date ideas is not making sense here?
With all due respect- if you don't have any "date" ideas such as the ones that others are posting, and can't get your head past anything besides sex/sexual acts, then you're talking to the wrong person. I don't need to be told about a man's desires etc- I'm fully aware of them- newsflash- not just men have sexual desires. That doesn't mean I'm ready to act on them. So basically, unless you're going to tell me something useful, your posts are pointless and only serve to entertain others that are find you humorous etc.
-D-
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TEAM
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Oxnard, California, US
I think it would be cool to really plan the day around an event like a play or sports event or even museum/gallery. Keep it simple and intimate. The sports event would be borderline intense depending on who's playing but it would be kind of fun.
My two cents.
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visionmedia wrote:
Is this a daytime date or at night? Friday night- probably around 8.
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ESPN Zone- that air hockey game is lots of fun and would make you both go crazy hehehe 
