Mike Mancuso wrote:
Constantly going out to dinner can be expensive.

If either of you have your own place I reccomend cooking dinner together. For under $20 you can cook an Italian dinner and have a nice bottle of red wine. You can really have fun doing this and make it a great meal. Afterwards snuggle up together to a movie. 

And just because its an in-house date will not imply having sex.

C H E A P !  you are a REAL photgrapher. Models must fall for that 'home cooked meal' speech!

I have them help me carry equipment and 'share' the experience!

Mike Mancuso wrote:
And just because its an in-house date will not imply having sex.

Get me anywhere close to her bedroom and I go into automatic mode. The brain is running at full speed making all sorts of plans to get closer.

Christopher Bush wrote:

no! 

do not EVER ask a guy to take a pottery lesson!  very important.

What's wrong with a pottery lesson?  Lots of men make pottery.  Besides, it's not like I'm asking him to devote his life to crocheting or something... it's just something fun, messy, and challenging to do together.

My first date with my boyfriend was a fight club.  He knocked me across the floor on my ass (literally... concrete floor!) with a roundhouse to the belly... then I knew it was love.

This tactic only works if you are both boxers/martial artists to begin with.  Not recommended for the average first date.

UnoMundo Photography wrote:

C H E A P !  you are a REAL photgrapher. Models must fall for that 'home cooked meal' speech!

I have them help me carry equipment and 'share' the experience!

LOL....  Far from a real photographer!!!!

Oh and believe me I am the furthest thing from cheap, I just spent $160 Saturday night on dinner and my date sucked, yet have had dates where I spent less than $20 and they have been awesome. 

And what is this third date sex rule????

Amanda Schlicher wrote:
My first date with my boyfriend was a fight club.  He knocked me across the floor on my ass (literally... concrete floor!) with a roundhouse to the belly... then I knew it was love.

This tactic only works if you are both boxers/martial artists to begin with.  Not recommended for the average first date.

Holy crap, that's hot.

This is why I still want to date Xena.



Oh ... Um, yeah, wait, Gabrielle can come too.

Eric Muss-Barnes wrote:
Holy crap, that's hot.

This is why I still want to date Xena.



Oh ... Um, yeah, wait, Gabrielle can come too.

We recently went to another fight club... he told me he wanted me to give him a black eye, but I couldn't stomach it.  Smashed him pretty hard in the temple several times though, and a pretty good one on the nose.  My knuckles hurt for a week...  I loves me some visceral romantic bonding.   I also vote for something adrenaline inducing.

Ashleigh Williams wrote:
...this is a good way to keep him around (without having to give up the goodies ).

I think this form of thinking is drilled in to heads by mothers and it needs to stop.  It gives appearance that the "goodies" is not a two-way street.  That mentality clearly shows one is participaing with the notion they are giving something more than receiving something...

Daniela V wrote:
Long story short.....

Going on a third date this Friday. First two dates were planned by him, first sushi and then italian. Fantastic dates. But I'm planning the third. While I'd like to incorporate dinner into the mix, I'm looking for something creative to do afterwards (i.e. not just hang out at a bar, or go dancing at a club) and I'm looking for suggestions and ideas.

His interests and mine are extensive, so throw whatever ideas you have at me please.

I live in NJ, close to NY (not close enough to do Philly).

I have a shoot at noon the next day so I don't want to be out ridiculously late.

PM me, or drop a line here. Thanks- much appreciated.

-D-

Don't plan...find a part of town that you may not be familiar with (safe location of course) and see what you find (i.e new place to eat, have cocktails, just enjoy your time together).  plus it's a good way to gage how comfortable you are with them...if you have to plan everything out, what will be your response when the unexpected happens...and you might find something you both will enjoy and remember.

Ashleigh Williams wrote:
...Also, miniature golf is always fun...

Don't go golfing!
There's something subliminal about getting some putts in a hole.

UnoMundo Photography wrote:
PEOPLE the date has ALREADY happened!

more advice is moot!

yeah, but it's interesting reading

RayAndrews wrote:

yeah, but it's interesting reading

yes it is! 
but those of us with no sex lives of our own  want to know if Daniela did the NASTY!

UnoMundo Photography wrote:

yes it is! 
but those of us with no sex lives of our own  want to know if Daniela did the NASTY!

Here, here to that!

Jose- JoseOnline wrote:

D, seriously- most guys who respect themselves are gonna give you the advice that by date 3- you should plan something that gives you the opportunity to end in intimacy if you so choose (your house, a hotel, a weekend getaway, etc).

Good girl has nothing to do with it.  Adult men date for sex.  Yes, we like relationships, your company, your ideas, fun, etc.  But ultimately- biology governs why men seek women.

Lot of good men follow the 3 date rule.

Think about it if you really like the guy.

-Jose

PS: Tom Leykis (radio personality) preaches it as gospel.

PPS:  If you write off men who understand themselves enough to know what their needs are- you may end up with a very young or naive man who truly doesnt understand or respect himself enough to stay in a lasting relationship with you- even if he thinks he is ready.

Jose, you must be kidding... O.o, I have never known any respectable man that has an ounce of respect for the woman he's with that would want sex by only the 3rd date.  If that is the only thing on the man's mind, he is not relationship worthy yet.