Photons 2 Pixels Images wrote:

That's rough. I had one of those episodes recently, though probably not as bad as yours.

I'm pullin' for you though. You are a wonderful person and deserve to be happy. I wish I could do more.

Thanks hon, you listen to me. That is plenty

Tanya Weaver wrote:
Just wanted to pop in and say thanks to Shiggily for this thread.

Too many people have been lost to depression. I know many people who have it, and I am always at a lack of words and feel helpless. I am gonna steal this for when I don't know the right things to say, so I can at least point people in the right direction.

It's not easy knowing what to say. It's uncomfortable for the person trying to cheer up someone who is depressed. That's natural. Some tips:

Don't offer pity, offer an ear, a shoulder, or some chocolate. Seriously, chocolate has been known to improve moods and just the gesture will give you some positive emotional attachment to the person.

Be yourself. Don't try too hard. Don't push. Let the other person lead the conversation...or silence....as the case may be.

Human touch can be a powerful thing. It helps form a bond. Just don't infringe on personal space and don't force it. A light touch on the shoulder, for instance, is very reassuring. Studies show that a kind touch from a stranger can have more positive impact than a touch from a friend/relative. I think what this means is the touch should be done in a positive, caring manner and not a familiar, expected manner.

I just rambled these suggestions off the top of my head. I hope others might have more insight to offer to help people who might be feeling down.

J Henry wrote:
Thursday morning bump. 

I'm okay, and the photos turned out well.  But I can just point out what a pain in the assets anxiety can be the first time working with a model?  I'm going to need a Vibration Reduction lens just to counter-act the shaking in my hands.  Sigh. 

Anyone know good tips for keeping anxiety/self esteem from affecting a project?

Meditation and deep-breathing exercises.

Glad the photos turned out well. And I know what you mean. I'm a rather shy person and I get really anxious when working with anyone for the first time.

Natasha240 wrote:

Thanks hon, you listen to me. That is plenty

Keep smiling. Let the world wonder what you're up to!

Tanya Weaver wrote:
Just wanted to pop in and say thanks to Shiggily for this thread.

Too many people have been lost to depression. I know many people who have it, and I am always at a lack of words and feel helpless. I am gonna steal this for when I don't know the right things to say, so I can at least point people in the right direction.

say aren't you that lady who convinced me to seek out professional help?
*huggs*

LeDeux Art wrote:
there are people that do there best to hurt others, those are the ones that really hurt inside and i dare say that it is those nasty ways that are behind the unhappiness.kill them with kindness is always a good aproach, understanding depression and why people do the things they do is an art form in itself

I'll second all of that.  A positive environment affects everyone positively.  Even the jerks. 

LeDeux Art wrote:
there are people that do there best to hurt others, those are the ones that really hurt inside and i dare say that it is those nasty ways that are behind the unhappiness.kill them with kindness is always a good aproach, understanding depression and why people do the things they do is an art form in itself

Great advice. I like to consider myself as a student of humanity. I don't just want to know about someone, I want to understand WHY they are the way they are. Paying attention is the key. Not everyone fits into a "textbook category".

Positive energies are contagious. The "Golden Rule" applies.

Andy Durazo wrote:
This need to stay front and center.


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bumppitty  bump bump bump

Kayelless wrote:

Kayelless wrote:
Good morning

Good evening.

Kayelless wrote:
I'm making progress.  It's not an overnight process.  Some days the lows are way low and some days the highs are not exactly sky scrapers.
But things are good.  I've been working hard at trying to do the things that help me instead of hurt me.

How are you doing?

Right now I'm not thinking of how I'm doing. Just hoping your lows don't go so low and your highs steady out at a comfortable, healthy level.

When one of us does better, we all do better. You are moving in the right direction with the right attitude. Things will improve with time and effort.

Photons 2 Pixels Images wrote:

Right now I'm not thinking of how I'm doing. Just hoping your lows don't go so low and your highs steady out at a comfortable, healthy level.

When one of us does better, we all do better. You are moving in the right direction with the right attitude. Things will improve with time and effort.

I'm in good shape.  I was blessed to have the opportunity to take time off from work and work on getting my head together.  Others aren't so blessed.

We gotta remember there's a lot of people out there struggling.  This thread is to let them know we're here for them.

Photons 2 Pixels Images wrote:
Friendly morning "Holiday Season" bump...

The Holiday season is depressing for me
Commercialism has made it come too early

Michael R  Kihn Studios wrote:

The Holiday season is depressing for me
Commercialism has made it come too early

I used to have the same objections.  Well, actually, I still do.  But it's less depressing now.  My wife's family still keeps an actual, genuine holiday spirit through all the external BS.  I guess the trick is finding what the holidays mean to you, and doing whatever you can to honor that.  The commercialism is too big to block out all the disingenuous attitudes.  But we can still prioritize the honest emotions above all the rest, at least for ourselves.

Kayelless wrote:
I'm making progress.  It's not an overnight process.  Some days the lows are way low and some days the highs are not exactly sky scrapers.
But things are good.  I've been working hard at trying to do the things that help me instead of hurt me.

How are you doing?

Hey man!  You can always pick up that phone.  I talked with you on the phone last night before I had to get back to taking care of those around me.  The phone is a wonderful invention.  Remember that motto "Reach out and touch somebody!" used by the phone company ... was it Mama Bell back then?  I think on the West Coast we called it Pacific Bell back then. 

Well here is a wonderful song; 
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=g-7qCG2_aaA

Forgot about this one! By Diana Ross. Made me smile!  It's going to be a better day!

Kayelless wrote:

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Moudy Fayed wrote:
I got so depressed lately because of stuff, so I have been taking half of the 10mg anti-depressant, Cipralex, as my doctor told me to do for the first six days. Then I have switch to the full pill, but I am getting all these weird side effects! For some reason, during the night I get extremely anxious and agitated, and sometimes I feel like I am on the verge of a panic attack.

It has also taken away all my sex drive.

Is there anyone else here taking anti-depressants? I would like to know whether or not i'm the only one getting these weird side effects?

My doctor put me on anti-depressants once. We tried a variety of meds but none seemed to help with the actual depression. The only thing they did for me was took away my appetite so I couldn't eat and kept me awake so I couldn't sleep more than 3 or 4 hours a day. I walked around in a fog most of the time. We came to the conclusion that my depression didn't have a chemical aspect to it. It was "all in my head" so to speak but was very real nonetheless. I was advised to try various alternative methods like the one Natasha 240 mentioned in an earlier post in this thread.

Meditation has worked wonders for me. Yoga also helps balance the body in many ways. Breathing exercises. I could go on, but I think you get the point.

I hope everyone has a wonderful day. Hugs and smiles to everyone.

J Henry wrote:
I haven't been on anti-depressants, but a lot of my friends have.  Isn't there usually a long period at the beginning before they really start working?  Like it takes the body a while to adjust (or something)?  Seems like most my friends got worse at the beginning before they got better.

Yes. There is a time period where the chemicals have to build up and level off before you can judge their effectiveness and determine any side effects. It's usually a month to 3 months depending on the meds and levels.

Kayelless wrote:
crashed

Paul Bryson Photography wrote:

Natasha240 wrote:
So I'm not doin so good ......will it EVER get better? Glad to see some are feelin good though.

It seems lately that everything makes me so SAD. I went out to the store with my gf today, and just being in a pet store, seeing the animals made me nearly cry. I dont know why. I'm just so sensitive lately, I'm tired of being so sad all the time. Anyway, I'm just rambling on here, sigh.

so what are you doing about it?
feeling that way isn't wrong, but just suffering with it....... not good.