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This is something completely ridiculous that's been bugging me . Is it acceptable to hug someone goodbye after a shoot ? have to say i had never really thought about it before and i tend to hug everyone but i am starting to think ,some people may find it inappropriate I have to say so far no-one has ever said don't hug me neither appeared to be offended by it but .. complete invasion of personal space ? Aug 15 13 01:58 am Link Oh what a shame that I left Manc, I would have liked to hug you  It's ok as long as people don't miss understand it (which happens a few times and awkward moments occur). Just like on the continent we kiss hello and good bye, however when I tried that in the UK... a few slaps later... I learnt. anyway go ahead if it feels comfortable I am sure you can use your judgement when it is ok. Aug 15 13 02:06 am Link At the end of a shoot, I shook hands with the makeup artist and was about to do the same for the model. But, she instead gave me a hug. Unexpected, but it was very nice. For me, it conveyed that she was completely comfortable working with me. It also was a stronger form of a simple "thank you", so I knew that she really enjoyed working together. The only time I would feel very awkward is if it's a nude shoot and the model would hug me before getting dressed. Aug 15 13 02:15 am Link I am not big on hugs. Maybe you can just ask if a hug is alright before you hug them? Pay attention to their body language as well. Aug 15 13 02:16 am Link Isis22 wrote: Yea i thought about this ^ but it seems a bit awkward being all Aug 15 13 02:24 am Link I want a hug too hahaha Aug 15 13 02:24 am Link Most models tend to hug at the end of a shoot or when saying goodbye - it's fine and I don't think you'll find many photographers who would object  Unexpected hugs from naked models can come as a bit of a surprise, but even that happens more often than you might think! Just my $0.02 Ciao Stefano www.stefanobrunesci.com Aug 15 13 02:27 am Link Some Models give Hugs some dont it dont really phase me either way nothing wrong with someone showing some hug affection for all the hard work you put in trying to get some nice photos. More Love Less Hate !! Aug 15 13 02:27 am Link Naked model hugs are the best hugs. My shoots usually end with a shout of NAKED HUG! And a model flying in my direction. It's never bothered me. Then again, I don't have a huge personal space bubble or pretentious air, I'm sure some people do. Aug 15 13 03:02 am Link Some models hug me after a shoot. Some shake hands. Some do neither. One kissed me on the cheek. One took me to dinner. None of those is inappropriate, as far as I'm concerned. I don't know whether those who hug are more appreciative or are just huggers. Either way, I don't consider it inappropriate or an invasion of personal space. Aug 15 13 03:54 am Link ha ha ha i think nude models forget they arn dressed, when you work nude, you are dressed for the shoot, hair, make-up, mentality - Nude is not Naked! i'm not a hugger, i am a huggy affectionate person in a relationship and my Hubby is a cuddly one, but i don't come from a kiss or hug hello and goodbye family, i don't think we hug and kiss at all - soo hugging strangers even after a shoot is odd, but some photographers, go in for the hug and so it is more awkward to make a deal of it so i just hug the huggy ones and not the others. i don't initiate hugs tho, i don't take nude leaps into strange arms, it can be misread and i don't like drama like that/ it is a matter of gauging the situation Aug 15 13 04:17 am Link First, be yourself...if you want to hug someone...do it. If they don't like hugging or don't want to be hugged, they can tell you. The one word of caution, if you're in a situation where it's a husband and wife, hug the wife first. By the way...PLEASE come shoot in Texas! We'd love to work with you...and yes, we hug here too! Aug 15 13 04:30 am Link By all means hug...as a photographer that means so much to me... It is better than money Aug 15 13 04:40 am Link Hugs are ok, tongues are a step too far. Aug 15 13 04:41 am Link I give everyone a kiss on the cheek when meeting and saying goodbye; friends, family, acquaintances,... so I don't shut this habit off on shoots. Depending on the perceived intent, a hug wouldn't throw me off. If the contact during the shoot has remained very cool/distant I would probably find it a bit weird though. Anyway I guess it's a cultural thing as well up to a certain point? Aug 15 13 04:46 am Link I'm not a hugger (except with my boyfriend). I rarey hug my own friends and family. Same with kissing. But I'll answer the kiss or hug if it is offered to me, so I just wait and try to look for the subtle signals that the photographer may want to end the shoot with a hug or a kiss on the cheek. Always a very stressful moment :p Aug 15 13 04:50 am Link Ken Pegg wrote: erm LOL !! Aug 15 13 04:56 am Link It's only ok if there is nudity involved. Otherwise it's a waste of time! Aug 15 13 05:00 am Link I have hugged 2 models. I don't have a problem with models who want to hug me, but if they don't initiate it, I won't, either. Some people are funny about photographers wanting to touch them at all. Others think of it as strictly 100% business, 0% personal. Most people don't hug their doctors, accountants, refrigerator repair people or lawyers. It's reasonable to not hug a photographer but it's not unreasonable if you want to hug them. I don't think most guys turn down hugs from pretty women much. Just be careful. Don't give anyone the idea that you are playing with their emotions. Aug 15 13 05:06 am Link blue rabbits wrote: I grew up in a big-time Italian household. We gave or got hugged (along with a kiss) by just about eveyone, even its in public & you're only seeing them for 10 minutes. Aug 15 13 05:11 am Link urgh... If I don't know you as a personal friend, don't touch me and that includes goodbye hugs! I'm not into touchy feely people and random hugs! Aug 15 13 05:21 am Link Farenell Photography wrote: Same here. So I find it completely acceptable to hug after a shoot. Sometimes even when I first arrive on a shoot. It's sort of just habit for me. The only time I don't is if I have a cold or the photographer has a cold, or if the shoot called for me to get dirty. Then a simple hand shake will do. But generally, I have had or given hugs after all my shoots. Aug 15 13 05:22 am Link I love it when a model gives me a hug good bye after the shoot.. To me it means she is happy and I know the shoot went well. I am like the OP I like to hug too. L2 Aug 15 13 05:27 am Link blue rabbits wrote: I haven't read the whole thread (I'm mobile). I would say that most of the time it is ok. If you have a question about it and itms weird to ask just hold out your arms as an invite to hug you. If they are uncomfortable hugging you then they will let you know if not then they will most likely hug you. Aug 15 13 05:36 am Link Handshake? I usually swat their hand out of the way and go right in and shake their cha-chas. I'm joking, I've never done such a thing. Risen Phoenix Photo wrote: I'll take money. Aug 15 13 05:46 am Link Just Danielle wrote: I think i will assume this of everyone unless they seem particularly Aug 15 13 06:00 am Link blue rabbits wrote: I do it all the time. No complaints and no awkwardness so far. Aug 15 13 06:09 am Link blue rabbits wrote: Acceptable? ME! ME! ME NEXT! PLEEEAZZE Hug me! Aug 15 13 06:13 am Link ASYLUM - Photo wrote: So you take your clothes off before they hug you? Aug 15 13 06:15 am Link blue rabbits wrote: I'd say just wait for the greeting or farewell and if you feel compelled to hug just ask if it's okay. Aug 15 13 06:18 am Link I don't think hugging is inappropriate, but it's not something I would initiate. Unfortunately physical contact has been ruled out of many of our interactions, erring on the safe side of things. That said, I'd rather have a sincere handshake than a fake hug. Aug 15 13 06:28 am Link On several occasions I have hugged photographers or artists that I have had long term assignments with and knew well. One time I was shooting nudes with two women photographers who I had never met before and they were learning nude photography. We shot for several hours and afterward I hugged both of them while I was still naked. It felt right at the time, and didn't bother me or either of them at all. When I pose with other female models, we always hug each other afterward as well. Aug 15 13 06:34 am Link I may be a bit sexist, but I like to leave the decision to hug or not, up to the female. I never initiate a goodbye hug, but often a model does. If the shoot has ended with nudity, the hug usually involves nudity..... (her's not mine). It's a pleasant way to end the session but not essential. I'm not comfortable with contact during a shoot though. Maybe we should start a thread on the various styles of model hugs. That could get interesting, lol. I've been the recipient of every style from totally fake all the way to a model running up nude, and jumping into my arms to hug (at a group shoot, and she'd had a lot to drink). Aug 15 13 06:42 am Link I like it. I never initiate; I don't want to come across as the creepy old guy. But a fair number of models have hugged me, and I enjoy it and hug back. And yes, naked hugs are the best. Aug 15 13 06:46 am Link For a model to hug = great. For the photog to initiate the hug... some models like; some don't. So, give a quick hug and enjoy your day. Aug 15 13 06:46 am Link Hugs are funny with me, if the shoot went well and I really connected with the model, joking a lot, being silly, hugs seem appropriate, but if it is more a business type attitude during the shoot I feel awkward hugging in those situations. philip painter wrote: +1, Sadly this is the state of the world today. Maybe because I'm older and most of the models are half my age, or maybe because of all the awareness of personal space issues I tend to hold off doing any sort of behavior that could be misconstrued as being inappropriate. Aug 15 13 06:47 am Link I'm fine with hugs, especially if it's someone I've worked with a couple of times, or feel like I know pretty well. It's actually sort of natural for me to hug as a way to show thanks or appreciation. my family is very non-touching, and I didn't grow up with cuddly people, but a lot of my friends in college were from families and cultures where hugging was a normal greeting. I got used to it at that time, and have subsequently been comfortable with it. I don't really care to be kissed on the cheek though. That's a little too much, unless it's a family member, or close female friend. Aug 15 13 07:03 am Link I'm quite precious about my personal space, but if I like someone and am in the right mood (sometimes I won't even hug my boyfriend), then yes, hugs are great. Generally I think, just be aware and perceptive to people's body language Aug 15 13 07:03 am Link Clearly most people are fine with an innocent hug. Most let the model initiate it and that seems to work well. Leading with a handshake is normal and professional. In my experience, the shoot starts with a handshake and ends with a hug. Unless the model is a guy. Then rarely is it a hug. I only have a couple of male friends who hug. Aug 15 13 07:05 am Link blue rabbits wrote: Depends, are you clothed? lol...but seriously... Aug 15 13 07:07 am Link |
