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Yeah I definitely will Mar 10 08 12:49 pm Link bump- because I want this on the first page Mar 11 08 10:32 am Link Amen to that Mar 11 08 10:33 am Link word up. Mar 11 08 10:40 am Link bump Apr 08 08 04:34 pm Link Well put! I must say... this is the first time I've agreed with something you've said, and I'm sure it wont be the last. Cheers Apr 08 08 04:39 pm Link I wish this thread would be made Sticky. Apr 08 08 05:29 pm Link Bumping. May 07 08 10:53 am Link yay for a good post  May 07 08 11:45 am Link My mom had a fit when she learned my then wife and I were nudists. We didn't want to tell her, but we did an interview for a local newspaper, and it got on the AP wires and republished all over. We told her because we didn't want her to find out by reading the paper. When it comes to modeling and film nudity, I tell her nothing. A google of my name does reveal some information. But I don't work to please my family, I work to please me. And nothing wrong with nudity. May 07 08 11:47 am Link Tiffany x wrote: Sounds like they are more busy attacking you than supporting you. As others said, that's not love; that's manipulation. May 07 08 11:55 am Link bump May 07 08 12:19 pm Link Well said! May 07 08 12:33 pm Link Daniela Victoria wrote: Dude. I am totally stealing this to write into the divorce papers. It's a hell of a lot better than "irreconcilable differences." May 07 08 12:36 pm Link I agree with the OP completely. Your friends and family are supposed to be there to support you and your work. May 07 08 12:37 pm Link The Original Sin wrote: I think it could be part of extreme cruetly schedule a. May 07 08 04:42 pm Link PREACH! May 07 08 09:16 pm Link *sigh* Hello , I'm one of the 'weak' girls. My fiance is very insecure and can't handle me a lot of the time. Used to be very bad when I first met him. He kept suggesting I wear mens clothing so that I had no form. I can pretty much only wear t-shirts. No hint of cleavage. I can never wear a bikini. I can't wear shorts too often because he doesn't feel comfortable with me showing any skin whatsoever. And he has a problem with heels. It really breaks my heart because I don't feel like I can be my own person. And no matter how much he says he's getting used to it, it just doesn't seem like enough. The fact that I even want to model kills him. He thinks it's just a way for girls to show off and get attention. I just can't convince him otherwise. Not every girl has a chance to be a good model, you know? And I feel that I have a good shot, and I'd at least like to try. It's not easy to just say 'you disappoint me', especially to someone you're very emotionally attached to. I almost broke up with him a month or so ago over this and it killed me. It's ridiculous because it's the only argument we ever have. It feels really hopeless, but I care for him so much I have to compromise. Don't really have a choice. *sigh* May 07 08 09:59 pm Link Kittonz wrote: I hate to...no I don't. May 07 08 10:00 pm Link Kittonz wrote: You honestly let your boyfriend tell you what you are and aren't allowed to wear? May 07 08 11:16 pm Link I had to say that to my parent regarding their judgement of how I raised my kids. They were so closed minded. It's like they thought their way was the only way known to mankind and yet, I am the only child that has had a successful family. None of my brothers or sisters have ever become anything since they moved out. So, I questioned my parents ability to raise children successfully. One out of 10 isn't bad, right? Yeah right. So, I don't take their advice anymore. May 08 08 02:12 am Link Kittonz wrote: Yes you do. May 08 08 06:50 am Link Kittonz wrote: Uh...what? May 08 08 08:56 am Link Kittonz wrote: Not to turn this into a Dr. Phil episode but how are you happy in this relationship? Sounds to me as if he is taking away the things that make you who you are one by one. If a man truly loves you he will love you for who you are, not who he wants you to be. May 10 08 09:50 am Link Kittonz wrote: ps- it's not just about modeling. If you stop modeling, it'll be something else. May 10 08 09:55 am Link While i have to say i love nudes and i shoot nudes myself i can not agree with you. I understand your point but doing something outside the norm part of this way is to bear the concequences, thats is normal. What you do is pushing it on others, simple as that. It is pretty normal that part of the society is treating you this way, you have to leave with that. Now here on MM you are with other models and photographers, we of course know what artistic nudes or erotic shots are but girl, outside half the normal people will after looking at some nude pics say aww that girl makes porn and your parents and family have to deal with it. Now of course its not super fair as basically you dont do something bad at least not from your point of view but it technically works like taking drugs, you take em but your family is the one who is suffering. Dont put your fault on others, instead grow a thick skin and live with it. Its your boobs on the pics after all so understand that even if you are cool with it other people might not be cool if others look at their GFs or doughters boobs or their BFs and Sons penises. cheers Daniela Victoria wrote: May 10 08 01:38 pm Link what i forgot to say is that going a certain way in your life you need to understand that respect comes with hard work and not naturally. When i told my parents i not gonna study madicine but instead will be a Game Designer and CG artists they were shocked and most of my friends looked down on me and thought i was a dreamer but with hard work comes success and with soccess somes respect. You need to understand the others and show then that you can do it as you are the one who is outside the norm and not they. you might see things different once you have your own kids. May 10 08 01:50 pm Link Kittonz wrote: That gun in your back must get uncomfortable sometimes. May 10 08 03:02 pm Link Ashley Readings wrote: Ha! I wonder what Dr. Drew would say about her case. :-) May 10 08 03:04 pm Link What I think is really funny is that really religious people think that modeling nude or watching porn or anything like that is a sin...but then why is it that God first intended everyone to be nude together such as Adam and Eve...they were nude but then Eve ate the evil apple and such and then it was like a sin to be nude or a punishment or what ever...I'm not religious but I just think it's really funny because we were all intended to be nude together in the begining so who really cares...? May 10 08 03:09 pm Link Even wisdom gets lost in translation. Playing the blame game revolves! Be humble and blessed and avoid dramma May 10 08 03:12 pm Link I come to MM because people here are the ones who understand me and my creative expression... my office doesn't care, and my family doesn't even have an idea what I do- when I say I'm shooting today, it's always like "are you getting paid?!?" And to me it's not always about the money- I get paid on plenty of shoots... just not anything I would care to post. May 10 08 03:13 pm Link FARLEY MAGADIA wrote: I hear that!! May 10 08 03:16 pm Link TONY S TURNER wrote: Duuude, didn't know you had it like that! If anyone, I thought she would understand. (being married to a llama) May 10 08 03:26 pm Link Well said OP. Not too long ago I took a hiatus from modeling because my boyfriend who was my escort for all my shoots suddenly decided my implied nude shoots were "making him uncomfortable". Funny thing is, he was the one who encouraged me to just go ahead and shoot implied. I remember asking him if it bothered him and he would say "not at all, I think it's hot". Anywho, after about 3 implied shoots, he went to him best friend and told him I was taking "nude" photos and his friend's response was "Drop that hoe"....wow talk about major backstabbing from the one person I trusted most and almost married. His awesome best friend then went to my boyfriends family and told them I was modeling and his family decided that I am a person with no self-respect. My bf's sister even asked my bf to see my MM and when she saw it she said it was so disgusting she didn't ever want to eat. I'm sure many other things were said but it is absolutely pathetic how closed minded people can be. Just remember that for every person that hates you there are many more who do really care for you. May 10 08 03:37 pm Link Rachel Jay wrote: Damn it, scanned down one and saw my reply. May 10 08 03:40 pm Link Trevor Snyder wrote: Sometimes its the best place to be. May 10 08 03:43 pm Link Daniela Victoria wrote: Im in. May 10 08 03:46 pm Link You know, it's a lonely world when you stop caring about what other people think. But that's the life of an artist isn't it? It's completely understandable for a partner to become upset with nudes (especially ones that show up Online) as it exploits the exclusivity of a sexual relationship and makes it look like you can be "bought" to be thrown into a potentially sexual experience - and that you like it - and that you don't care who the "experience" is with as long as you get the attention for it - which is a fantastic way to make your partner feel insignificant (like their attention and praise from you isn't enough). LoL, wow, that was ME a year ago! I'd LOVE to include something to the original post. What's good for the Goose is good for the Gander My partner jumped into nudes this time last year and it messed me up sooooo good! Why should I "be" with her when I can just drop a few hundred bucks for a few hours and get what I really want? (with pics to look back and remember the experience too!). What a difference growing some balls, buying an EOS 5D and hiring a few models myself makes! For all the guys that are "hurt" or who feel "betrayed" by your sweety looking like she's getting nasty for some stranger's camera. . . go buy your own and join the game! It's fun, it's a HUGE ego boost to see young models do whatever you tell them for money, and when you finally wake-up from the AMAZING adrenaline rush you get from posting a stranger naked online you'll see for yourself that. . . . IT'S JUST A NAKED BODY and you've got nothing at the end of a shoot more than any other joe-blow who jumps online and downloads a bunch of FREE nude pics. . . well except the rights to the pics to make some incredible money! And that's what it comes down to in the end. Those not involved in the industry don't realize what goes on between shutter-clicks and poses. BORING Or how plain and un-sexy the attitude actually is when you're not really having a sexual experience with the person right in front of you  The cash keeps flowing, you keep shooting, and eventually you just don't care about what it is you're doing - or who it's with for that matter - just that it pays your fat mortgage and 5 star vacations Better yet, question the people who "hate" nude pics and ask them how they enjoyed their last trip to the stripclub? Ok, for those who were NEVER involved in anything sexual like that, I can see that hurting. Those people want sex and everything about it to be worth something to them (understandably as there's very little in this world actually worth something more than money) and for them. . . sorry, but you should keep going to church to find that perfect life partner. The rest of us have realized that in the end, people just aren't worth anything. That's why we happily send our citizens to get killed in other countries for war while we hire each other to get naked and shoot nudes Isn't THAT something to die for huh? Rock on girl! We need more GIRLS convincing models to strip for our cameras! We'll just look like a bunch of creeps without you! May 10 08 04:08 pm Link Evelyn Zi wrote: sucks the way it happened to you, not a nice thing for sure. May 10 08 04:29 pm Link |
