D M M  wrote:

Yeah, well, you would never date a musician, Shandra!

Apparently I didn't.

More on that story at 8:00.

MelissaLynnette LaDiva wrote:
If he fit my requirements for a man, then yes. If not, then no. Like any other man I might meet.

And those requirements are?

Shandra Stark wrote:

Apparently I didn't.

More on that story at 8:00.

I'm calling you before bed, okay?

/hijack.

D M M  wrote:



I'm calling you before bed, okay?

/hijack.

Okay!

D M M  wrote:
Chyeahhh. Go models!

No, in all seriousness, profession of either party has no bearings on a healthy relationship. And, because I'm a student way before I'm a model (and, shit, I'm way better at academic life anyway), I could care less if my boyfriend is a photographer, or an astronaut. Granted, I do appriciate art, so, it's nice to be with someone who inspires me to foster my own creativity.

When are you coming to visit? I mean, for photos...

StephenE wrote:
I dont date models I am actively shooting, so I would have to be dating them first (which is the norm) or at least after a 6 month wait after initial shoot. 

that said I have swapped out a model on a commercial shoot that was more date potential so as to not date one I was currently booking 

I did book her for a larger shoot later on to make up for the lost job. 

I am nice that way, even though we did not date that long, she bored me quickly 


-- Stephen Eastwood --
http://www.PhotographersPortfolio.com

HAHAHA!!!

K E S L E R wrote:
I would ask this in the photography forum...

I think you DID ask this on the photography forum.

To answer the OP's question of "should"? No.

But people do lots of things they shouldn't and are just fine. Some are incredibly happy. Others fail miserably. That's life, it's not fair and what one person does won't necessarily work out the same for anyone else.

I used to be a massage therapist (camera = just looking, massage = looking AND touching) and I didn't date any of my clients then either.

When I'm behind the camera all I'm thinking about is the creation of something captured forever (minus the lifetime expectancy of digital media).

The first time I was told "you're the least threatening man I've ever met" I smiled.

Then I wondered for a second... then I smiled again and said thanks!

My wife modeled years before we met. It was at her encouragement that I became a photographer.

There's no jealousy. I shoot. I show her my pictures. We cuddle & stuff. Good times. But that's us.

MF productions wrote:
Anyone ever watch the film Star 80? Kinda puts some things in perspective as to why models and photogs shouldn't date.

Dorothy Stratten's boyfriend (later husband)/manager wasn't a photographer.  He CONNED a photographer to get her pics to send to Playboy.

HottShotz wrote:
As a photographer... I would date any female I'm interested in. If I'm interested in you and you're interested in me, lets go for it. No rules, no restrictions... ANY woman I'm interested in. I see alot of "conditions" coming from the models in here. Deprive yourselves of an individual because of his job all you want. I'm living my life... HEEEEYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY :p

You only live once. Stop with all the rules

www.myspace.com/hottshotzphotography

Like the way you think!!!!

HottShotz wrote:
As a photographer... I would date any female I'm interested in. If I'm interested in you and you're interested in me, lets go for it. No rules, no restrictions... ANY woman I'm interested in. I see alot of "conditions" coming from the models in here. Deprive yourselves of an individual because of his job all you want. I'm living my life... HEEEEYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY :p

You only live once. Stop with all the rules

Sidenote: I would never commit to a model or marry her. Just have a good time with her. Advances are thrown her way far more than an average girl, and the oppoortunities and temptations are far greater. No boyfriend/fiance/husband should have to deal with that. **Speaking from the "winning" end of the stick**

www.myspace.com/hottshotzphotography

So the second part just negated the first part? Just because someone, regardless of gender, gets advances thrown her way more than the average person, regardless of profession, doesn't mean you shouldn't date them because of it. Just because you don't want to deal with it, doesn't mean its difficult and impossible to. The only time an SO should worry is if their partner is responding to the advances!

Sidenote: I wouldn't date any of my photographers because for me, it is a very different type of relationship that those I pursue romantically.

K E S L E R wrote:
Personally I don't think the model/ photographer relationship will work out because there would be at some point jealousy, whether the photographer shoots beautiful women more than his girlfriend, or his girlfriend shoots with better photographers than her BF.

People with issues like that have a hard time maintaining relationships, no matter the hobby/profession.

B Debauchery wrote:

So the second part just negated the first part? Just because someone, regardless of gender, gets advances thrown her way more than the average person, regardless of profession, doesn't mean you shouldn't date them because of it. Just because you don't want to deal with it, doesn't mean its difficult and impossible to. The only time an SO should worry is if their partner is responding to the advances!

Sidenote: I wouldn't date any of my photographers because for me, it is a very different type of relationship that those I pursue romantically.

For super cereal. With that kind of negative and insulting attitude I am surprised he can find models to date.

HottShotz wrote:
Sidenote: I would never commit to a model or marry her. Just have a good time with her. Advances are thrown her way far more than an average girl, and the oppoortunities and temptations are far greater. No boyfriend/fiance/husband should have to deal with that. Doesn't matter how great your relationship is or how much you trust her, etc. **Speaking from the "winning" end of the stick**

www.myspace.com/hottshotzphotography

ok so the sidenote I don't agree with.

SLE Photography wrote:

For super cereal. With that kind of negative and insulting attitude I am surprised he can find models to date.

Some girls like it There are kinks for that!

SLE Photography wrote:
BTW, I pointed my girlfriend to this thread, she'll probably reply later.  We just celebrated our first anniversary.  In 20 years of this I'd never gone out with a model but she pursued me.  She's a traveling nude/bondage model, and I shoot a lot of both of those subjects.  We've never had issues with jealousy or control and don't see any reason for them.

Hi honey.

Yes, I would and have happily see a photographer for social and personal purposes outside of the working relationship.

One advantage of dating a photographer to think of- if you ever decide to whip out a camera and take freaky fotos during the sheet-rumpling-- they would be SO much more flattering when they hit the tabloids five years later (after your big break as the world's first 5'2 supermodel).

*evil*

SLE Photography wrote:
BTW, I pointed my girlfriend to this thread, she'll probably reply later.  We just celebrated our first anniversary.  In 20 years of this I'd never gone out with a model but she pursued me.  She's a traveling nude/bondage model, and I shoot a lot of both of those subjects.  We've never had issues with jealousy or control and don't see any reason for them.

Hi honey.

Yes, I would and have happily see a photographer for social and personal purposes outside of the working relationship.

One advantage of dating a photographer to think of- if you ever decide to whip out a camera and take freaky fotos during the sheet-rumpling-- they would be SO much more flattering when they hit the tabloids five years later (after your big break as the world's first 5'2 supermodel).

*evil*

K E S L E R wrote:

If your the photographer shooting hotter models than your GF, I can guarantee you that the jealousy will not be on your part

That sort of thing can be avoided based on how beautiful you make her feel. Reassurance in a situation like that wouldn't hurt.

MF productions wrote:
Anyone ever watch the film Star 80? Kinda puts some things in perspective as to why models and photogs shouldn't date.

Irving Penn and Lisa Fongrives turned out well.

The Fragile Touch wrote:

That sort of thing can be avoided based on how beautiful you make her feel. Reassurance in a situation like that wouldn't hurt.

Doesn't matter how good you make her feel, if she's jealous, shes jealous.  Theres a good reason why I'm single... now.  Hey ladies

Sexiest Carly wrote:
Wellll..... I dated (past tense) a photographer. And am dating (present tense) another.

One was jealous and insecure.
One is not.

Anyone is capable of being one thing or another.

I love the Milkman ( https://www.modelmayhem.com/milkmanstudio  )because of his creative mind and artistic ability to appreciate the aesthetic around him- something I obsess with. So he understands how I see the world and vice verse which is obviously important if we are to survive together.

I don't love him BEACAUSE he's a photographer. In fact I've just recently LET him shoot me- i didn't want to be his model under his microscope....It just wasn't necessary.

But on a whole i do find photographers adorable and charming. . . Or I should say- neurotic and obsessed and easily entertained.....Did i mention that I'm a photographer....

https://www.modelmayhem.com/CarlyErinPhoto

He didn't make me a photographer. He didn't inspire me to BE a photographer. It's just neat how it worked like that. And he is my teacher and my student and I'm a better person for knowing him.

Photographer is just another identity that gets lost between the sheets......

Since your both photographers you can take pictures of each others messes
to prove that you aren't the one who did it... tee hee hee!!!

Bob Cervelli wrote:
Models dating photographers gives a whole new defination for TFP

That'd be TFS ;-)...

Janice Marie Foote wrote:

That'd be TFS ;-)...

I'm waiting to come across someone who declines TFP but available for TFS

Kita St Cyr wrote:
The only reason I see for jealousy would be extreme insecurity.

Bingo.

The profession of the person doesn't matter. Someone that is insecure, is insecure, is insecure.

Ruling out dating someone because they are your photographer is a silly rule.

Sexiest Carly wrote:
Wellll..... I dated (past tense) a photographer. And am dating (present tense) another.

One was jealous and insecure.
One is not.

Anyone is capable of being one thing or another.

I love the Milkman ( https://www.modelmayhem.com/milkmanstudio  )because of his creative mind and artistic ability to appreciate the aesthetic around him- something I obsess with. So he understands how I see the world and vice verse which is obviously important if we are to survive together.

I don't love him BEACAUSE he's a photographer. In fact I've just recently LET him shoot me- i didn't want to be his model under his microscope....It just wasn't necessary.

But on a whole i do find photographers adorable and charming. . . Or I should say- neurotic and obsessed and easily entertained.....Did i mention that I'm a photographer....

https://www.modelmayhem.com/CarlyErinPhoto

He didn't make me a photographer. He didn't inspire me to BE a photographer. It's just neat how it worked like that. And he is my teacher and my student and I'm a better person for knowing him.

Photographer is just another identity that gets lost between the sheets......

hehehe she is so cute ,, it works when it works no matter what you both do for a living .

K E S L E R wrote:
I would ask this in the photography forum but I already know that 99% of the vote for single photographer would be "YES." 

Personally I don't think the model/ photographer relationship will work out because there would be at some point jealousy, whether the photographer shoots beautiful women more than his girlfriend, or his girlfriend shoots with better photographers than her BF.

Discuss...

Depends if he makes her feel special and pays as much / more attention and charm
as to the girls in his shoots

As to other photographers - that issue will come up if he is looking at other work anyway
I hope i would chose someone who is inspired by art not just threatened by it

ps
I HAVE had one in past who might get out of bed too fast
and then be back 'at work' ie looking at models with red hair, and talking about how hot they were and 'I wonder if she would shoot with me'
That was pretty disappointing

Savannah Traynum wrote:

ok so the sidenote I don't agree with.

It's true

B Debauchery wrote:

So the second part just negated the first part? Just because someone, regardless of gender, gets advances thrown her way more than the average person, regardless of profession, doesn't mean you shouldn't date them because of it. Just because you don't want to deal with it, doesn't mean its difficult and impossible to. The only time an SO should worry is if their partner is responding to the advances!

Sidenote: I wouldn't date any of my photographers because for me, it is a very different type of relationship that those I pursue romantically.

Who tells there boyfriend about the instances where they've had advances thrown their way? Seriously. Any man knows that beautiful women get hit on every SINGLE day. It's worst when your woman's job is to actually be close to naked if not naked in front of men. Because lets face it... most male photographers (majority of the market) require clothes come off at shoots. Being secure is fine... But knowing that that's what your woman is leaving you to do wouldn't put me at ease. I'd stick with the girl next door.