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Should a model bring a boy friend to a shoot
Afriend wants me to ask you photographers and models this question. Is it professional for a model to bring his or hers, girl/boy friend on a photo shoot? Aug 05 05 06:35 pm Link to answer that.. If americas top model show called you to be a candidate .. would you bring your boyfriend as well? if so then you should re-consider careers lol Aug 05 05 06:37 pm Link No. Aug 05 05 06:37 pm Link I don't see how a boyfriend or girlfriend is any different than any other person. Aug 05 05 06:37 pm Link Well, this debate has raged for ever. But, I honestly have to say, I've had 2 instances of a boyfriend attending a shoot, and one husband, and it worked out great. You just have to make sure the model is mature enough to know whether her boyfriend can handle what she does. But, others have horror stories. Aug 05 05 06:39 pm Link I like it when the BF comes. I get to push the model even harder. If she has to show a little ass, the BF usually will suck it up and take it because he doesnt want to be the Hater.... Aug 05 05 06:39 pm Link As I am getting back into the swing of things with shooting models I have had to ponder this over several time. I have decided to ask the models if they want to be escorted to either bring a girlfreind or a brother. I think BFs can be far more protective than the above and more distraction than anything else. At least with the girlfreind you may be able to get them to help you with adjusting clothes and hair if you dont have a MUA on staff.The brother you can put to work holding reflectors and he will feel as though he has contributed somthing to his SISis carrer. I would actully prefer they bring a GF especially if they have some potential they could be another shoot for ya. Aug 05 05 06:43 pm Link Posted by f-alan: Actually the first shoot I had I took my bf at the time so I would feel more comfortable. It was great. He stood off to the side, eyes wide, just staring at me. It was so cute. It made it really fun and he ended up getting pictures taken of him too, cause he's pretty damn hot and very unique. All in all a great experience. Aug 05 05 06:46 pm Link No. Husbands or female companions only. Models are usually very nervous with a boyfriend on the set. Aug 05 05 06:50 pm Link nope, you shouldn't. Aug 05 05 06:51 pm Link depends on the relationship i guess the bf/gf have. But yo be safe, i would say no. They can get distracting.i know if i were to ever bring a bf to a shoot,i wouldnt preform my best and id be worried about the poses b/c your bf is watching you, so its kinda nerve wrecking not to do ne thing too provacative. To be on the safe side, id say no they shouldnt come along. A gf is always a best choice Aug 05 05 06:53 pm Link As a model, I do not bring my husband with me. He's a great guy and supports what I do. I don't follow him to work, he doesn't follow me to work. If I don't trust the photographer, I won't schedule to work with them. Now, as a photographer, I have had girls bring BFs and Husbands and kids. Since I don't shoot nude or anywhere close, there's never been a problem. I actually had a BF contact me because his GF wanted some nudes done and he didn't want a male photo guy to take them. I didn't do them and I don't know who did. Aug 05 05 07:01 pm Link Posted by Bruce Muir: Agree No. Aug 05 05 07:03 pm Link i think it really depends...if you have already talked to the photographer about it then it should be okay or if he is also modeling with you, then yes. But sometimes it is hard for a boy/girl friend to be neutral on poses and clothing so i wouldn't bring the boyfriend with you. Aug 05 05 07:04 pm Link NOPE. Aug 05 05 07:05 pm Link I find that boyfriends tend to be insecure, and either end up being whiny and distracting the model, or trying to show off and becoming patronising or vaguely threatening, thus distracting the photographer. Husbands are usually cool to have around, though. Aug 05 05 07:07 pm Link hell no lol. i would never it would be wierd Aug 05 05 07:07 pm Link Absolutely Positively...ummm...no... Husbands are ok...girl friends...siblings...even mothers. With a boyfriend around...it usually ends up being a short shoot! Aug 05 05 07:08 pm Link depends on why you're bringing him/her with you... for most girls, a chaperone is, in some cases, called for, especially if you do not know the photographer and isn't comfortable with him/her yet... but for guys, why bother bringing your girlfriend, unless she's HOT, hah hah, geeezzz, i just sounded like i'm a pig, jus kidding.... but i would say YES as a chaperone, but NO to "just bec my bf/gf wants to be there with me!"... Aug 05 05 07:10 pm Link bringing a BF is the biggest career killer... Aug 05 05 07:14 pm Link Absolutely...I need someone to carry my stuff and go for coffee/water/pizza. Slave labor is hard to find these days. Aug 05 05 07:16 pm Link Posted by Melvin Moten Jr: Now thats a proper answer Aug 05 05 07:23 pm Link Greetings, I have thought about this subject many times and the way the question is presented on here is a categorical NO! IMHO it's not unprofessional for the model to want a person to come to a shoot with them in fact if it makes her more comfortable then the shoot will be even better, it is however very unprofessional for a photographer to give an opening speech that include the rule of the model not bringing a person with them, Allow me to explain my views on this, The sad fact is too many men get into photography to meet and hopefully score with women, GWC.....see ever a term for it, All the female models I know have horror stories. It's fact not fiction that these kind of men exist and use photography in this way So for the person who is a true photography/artist with no ulterior motives & wants to break free of that stigma they have to first accept this is true and understand there are scary things out there, when a model meets a photography for the first few times, if he is not established as a reputable photography with credentials, he must be very open to the model bringing Mom, dad, boyfriend girlfriend, as to help build himself a good reputation in the industry. It should not matter at all to a good professional photography who is there at the shoot, lets face it big shoots could have 100's of people there. I hear the rebuttal that boyfriends/husbands screw up the shoot, well then don't do a second shoot with her, If the photography starts right off on the song and dance that a person there will cause this or cause that and mess up the shoot he just placed an uneasy thought in this models mind, "Why isn't so & so welcome to come with me? What's this guy really up to"? My point is I don't believe it is good for the Photography to make the rules about only shooting girls alone, especially when he isn't established with different ways to check on him being a total professional in his field. Word to photography's out there if the girl/model wants to bring someone say "Okay" because when you start on why you don't like it, you will look and sound like you have other motives. SS. Aug 06 05 12:49 am Link I think it depends from boyfriend to boyfriend and girlfriend to girlfriend. My boyfriend comes on most of my shoots with me. He is also my mua and helps the photographer carry things. He knows how to stay out of the way and shuts up and realizes that this is a business and he's just there to make sure no funny business happens. I've heard some horror stories from photographers about models bringing their significant other with them but i think it really depends on how it is handled. I also try not to make it obvious that he's my boyfriend while on a shoot just so that it stays business but that could just be how i work. Aug 06 05 12:54 am Link wow! an escort thread, uncharted territory here at MM  Aug 06 05 12:54 am Link NO, defintiley not a good idea. I would want to appear available especially in this industry and bringing your boyfriend/girlfriend is just not professional....but thats my opinion.  Aug 06 05 12:55 am Link Posted by Mary: Aug 06 05 12:56 am Link Here's this topic discusted in our 'Models FAQ' page on our website: Q. Can I bring my 3 boyfriends, my 4 brothers, my mom and dad, my neighbors and a few of my pets with me? A. Not recommended! If you are a model under the age of 18, you must bring one of your parents, or an older female model with you, to act as a guardian. Your parent or guardian must sign a release for you, indicating their permission for you to attend the event. From our past experience, obnoxious, jealous and overprotective boyfriends, brothers and parents have posed nothing but problems for photographers, as well as other models. Most beginning and advanced models have a problem posing for photograpehers in front of their boyfriends and relatives anyway. We do not recommend the presense of agents and personal managers, unless the model is underage. Aug 06 05 01:01 am Link Oh I got it. Lets just turn the session into a 15 minute test. Do quick grabs (not of the model, but shots) Head, full length, and 3/4 and end it in 15 minutes. If they get this treatment enought times, they will see how unproductive it can be an maybe grow up, and treat it like a real job that it should be. Aug 06 05 06:24 pm Link Keep the Husband/boy friend/girl friend/lover etc. etc.......at home Bring a professional assistant.... Aug 06 05 06:32 pm Link "BRING ALONG MODELS" Here is the problem....if we allow husbands, boy friends, significant others, girl friends, aunts, uncles, children and pets, it should be stated ahead of time by the model. If I had to choose tho I would rate them from top to bottom with pets as my first choice. Yeah pets would be my first choice. 2nd choice would be minor children in the 1 month to 11 month range. I know. I know. The shoot will have to stop for awhile while the diaper is changed and the child is breast fed but what the heck. I am only paying $100/hr. 3rd place goes to either aunts or uncles. Still haven't made made up my mind about which I rather have of the two buttt I am leaning slightly towards the aunt. Reason for that is I shoot nudes and I would probably feel more comfortable with the female and just maybe she brought some snacks for me as females were born to cook where as I am not worth much in the kitchen. As for boyfiend and husbands, that doesn't work for me at all unless they split the tab in 1/2. That is the true test of a "Bring along model"! Does her husband think she is worth his 1/2 of $100/ hr. to start???? Will he pony up his 1/2??? Or maybe he doesn't think protecting her from the photographer is worth it all of a sudden??? Hey, it's only $50/hr. lol lol lol Aug 06 05 06:34 pm Link I think it depends on the relationship, my bf is fine with me modeling nude. He actually gets turned on by it, plus the best advice given to me by my first photographer was to pretend i was modeling for him. It worked so far and makes it so much better with him there, plus he gives ideas of what a guy would want to see me posing in Aug 06 05 10:43 pm Link My PREFERANCE is that a model bring a FEMALE as her assistant. I find a female can be much more beneficial to my model in assisting with wardrobe, makeup, etc., than any B/F or husband. The key is to let the model know in advance your policies on the person she is allowed to bring. I have it nicely worded, but in my information doc that I send to them once we have agreed upon a session and in my model relase form they sign at the begiining of the session, it does state that the model is responsible for the person that comes with them. That person needs to understand that they are limited in their participation, and if they interfere or disrupt the photo session, I can choose to end it, and the model gets nothing from the session (in a TFP session = no images.) Aug 06 05 10:53 pm Link Posted by Mary: But it must come up every 2 weeks to remind the newbies! Aug 06 05 10:56 pm Link Eric's right. Definitely bring your boyfriend. Single models should get boyfriends before they get comp cards. You know. For protection. Aug 06 05 11:01 pm Link I say it depends on the person. Since I travel out of state most of the time my BF will come along. We are more like friends then bf/gf, so everything goes well. He repects my career, I respect his. He is an import turner. A professional, he works around models at shows and what not. So, he knows more about modeling I think then the normal Joe. He supports my work. He can also point out a GWC faster then anyone I know. But he has had his cars photographed by photographers, and had them modeled by well models. Also, for every shoot he attends with me. I have to attend a car show for him. So, I guess he wouldn't want to ruin what we have. But from my experence he does great on the shoot. He minds his own business. But don't get talking to him about the import sene, you might get stuck in a convo on cars. He also works as my assitant most of the time. He will help pick out outfits, and sometimes help me dress. I can't afford to pay someone to be my assitant so he is the best I can get. Aug 06 05 11:37 pm Link No, but if the model insist what can you do, other than cancel the shoot. Aug 06 05 11:39 pm Link Better the boyfriend than the husband. Miguel Aug 06 05 11:42 pm Link Posted by Leila: I agree! My boyfriend isnt some psycho ass dude thats going to interrupt the shoot or get in the way or want to kick the photog's ass if touched me to tie me up or move me or something. I bring him along because he is my best friend and MY SAFETY comes first. And I trust him completely not like some of my other friends. So really, if the photographer has a problem with my boyfriend being there then I will NOT do the shoot no matter what. Aug 06 05 11:45 pm Link I guess I'm neutral on this question. In the end, if it makes for better pictures, I'm ok with it. By that I mean, if it relaxes the model so she can do her job better, how can you say no? But if she's looking over at every pose for approval or her companion interrupts and breaks momentum, then one of us will have to ask her companion to 'guard' her from a greater distance or the next room. And besides, if the companion offers to help out by lugging and guarding equipment, it could be a win-win. Aug 07 05 10:11 am Link |
